First off, let me begin by saying, I know it isn't a "horror", however I have been losing sleep over it. The reason why is because I just keep thinking and thinking about it. I'm not going to mention anything about normalcy , because that is not the point. Before I get into my own personal conditions, I'll discuss my worries.
Without pain, I can pull back my foreskin about a third of the way down. But, another problem presents itself. The head itself. When I touch it, it stings. I'm worried about stretching, because of the pain. Is this normal? It's always stung ever since I could remember. I'm worried about health as well. Is what is associated with phimosis true?- The health risks. Or is that another way to persuade you to get circumcised? My last worry is intercourse itself. From what I see, a condom helps. No matter what, my first time would be with a condom anyway, but I'm still worried. I'm scared that I won't enjoy sex. That it will hurt, and make me avoid it. Any help here?
I DO NOT want to get circumcised. I'd rather deal with this problem on my own- but will that hurt [Stretching (I'm reffering to touching the glands)]? Also, I would like to avoid any creams if posible. I don't want to bring this up with my parents. Which leads me to another question, is it genetic? What's the likelihood that my father is/went through the same issue? If it's high, then I may consider bringing it up with him.
I'd also like to point out this. I've done research, and according to most sources, in history, (way way back) phimosis was common. It was the norm. If it's that far back, then I would assume men would be having sex every chance they got, so how in the world would it be painful? I could be wrong, and my sources may be faulty.
Anyways, that's not the point. What do I do next? Do frenulumbreve and phimosis go hand and hand? Again, I'm scared to touch my head, so I'm not confident on the issue. If you need ANY more information, please request it.
Hardly an intact boy hasn't encountered pain upon initial retraction. That's just he way it is. The glans has been protected for many years and just hasn't had time to adapt to being uncovered. Time will take care of this. Imagine how terrible it must be for baby boys who have to endure constant contact after being circumcised. It would also be that way for you if you were to submit to it
The good news is that stretching doesn't really involve the glans. You'll be touching the inner and outer surfaces of your foreskin.
Yes, a tight foreskin and a tight frenulum ordinarily go hand in hand. They are part of the same structure. I don't know if it's genetic or not, but I'd vote for that probability. I think it's more closely related to how your family approached the subject. If no one brought it up, there's your root cause. Kids don't always figure these thing out and often adopt unusual methods of masturbation in their igrnoance. Don't fret because it isn't your fault. It is what it is, so now we deal with it. Fair enough?
There are no health risks in not beging able to retract. That's product of prudent societies which teach that sex is dirty. It's really their minds that are tainted. Whatever collects under your foreskin is of no danger. However, some of it can get stinky if left there, so most guys chose to remove it by washing. Washing should be done with clear water and absolutely no soap in any form.
I recommend that you indeed use a condom, leaving your foreskin forward. You should do just fine.
It's up to you if you wish to speak with your father. Some are quite understanding, but be forewarned tht many a boy has been sent off to the operting theater to be circumcised after such a revelation. If you're a minor, your feelings on the matter have no weight.