need advice and help

need advice and help

Joined: April 9th, 2004, 7:23 pm

April 9th, 2004, 7:23 pm #1

I recently posted this message on a "secular" forum.

About 10 months ago, I walked away from a band that I had been a part of for over seven years. After enduring multiple incarnations, we finaly found "our voice," recorded a full-length CD, and started to play live.

I love to play live. It's the thing I'm best at probably. I can write a little, play alright, but I am my best when I'm in front of people. The singer in the band is, well, my musical counterpart in this life. I've never been more creative and have never pushed myself self as a guitar player more than in bands with him.

The problem is I could not morally justify playing in bars anymore. I've played them before (sad to say I've been to a few), but I left that life behind a long time ago. So, after much inner turmoil and after a lot of discussion with the guys in the band (some of the best friends I've ever had, BTW), I walked away.

Since then, the band (the holleycarbines) has moved on to bigger and better things and I am stoked for them. I hope it goes well. No hard feelings or regrets.

I've played with some people near where I live at a couple of festivals, but they are really amatuer about it all and I can't play music that no one takes seriously (the few songs we cover make me sleepy/bored/sick at the same time).

I really need this outlet in my life because my job is way hectic and stressful and music has always been there for me. Lately, I've lost some of the "touch" I had in my playing, not because of lack of practice, but lack of heart.

What should I do?

HERE'S THE RESPONE I GOT:

Make concessions.

I don't get the morality part either. You don't have to partake or act like them.

Or to be more to the point: Going to the zoo doesn't make you one of the animals.

SO, HERE'S HOW I RESPONDED:

This is what I mean by "moral issue."

1 Corinthians 8:9
"Be careful, however, that the exercise of your freedom does not become a stumbling block to the weak."

1 Peter 4:1-4
"Therefore, since Christ suffered in his body, arm yourselves also with the same attitude, because he who has suffered in his body is done with sin. As a result, he does not live the rest of his earthly life for evil human desires, but rather for the will of God. For you have spent enough time in the past doing what pagans choose to do--living in debauchery, lust, drunkenness, orgies, carousing and detestable idolatry. They think it strange that you do not plunge with them into the same flood of dissipation, and they heap abuse on you."

2 John 1:7-9

"Many deceivers, who do not acknowledge Jesus Christ as coming in the flesh, have gone out into the world. Any such person is the deceiver and the antichrist. Watch out that you do not lose what you have worked for, but that you may be rewarded fully. Anyone who runs ahead and does not continue in the teaching of Christ does not have God; whoever continues in the teaching has both the Father and the Son."


NOW I'VE COME HERE SEEKING ANSWERS, HELP, UNDERSTANDING...

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sonny charles
sonny charles

April 13th, 2004, 2:46 pm #2

You may want to go to http://ibelieve.com for assistance. This forum may not serve you best in your personal walk with the Lord.

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April 25th, 2004, 2:24 am #3

I recently posted this message on a "secular" forum.

About 10 months ago, I walked away from a band that I had been a part of for over seven years. After enduring multiple incarnations, we finaly found "our voice," recorded a full-length CD, and started to play live.

I love to play live. It's the thing I'm best at probably. I can write a little, play alright, but I am my best when I'm in front of people. The singer in the band is, well, my musical counterpart in this life. I've never been more creative and have never pushed myself self as a guitar player more than in bands with him.

The problem is I could not morally justify playing in bars anymore. I've played them before (sad to say I've been to a few), but I left that life behind a long time ago. So, after much inner turmoil and after a lot of discussion with the guys in the band (some of the best friends I've ever had, BTW), I walked away.

Since then, the band (the holleycarbines) has moved on to bigger and better things and I am stoked for them. I hope it goes well. No hard feelings or regrets.

I've played with some people near where I live at a couple of festivals, but they are really amatuer about it all and I can't play music that no one takes seriously (the few songs we cover make me sleepy/bored/sick at the same time).

I really need this outlet in my life because my job is way hectic and stressful and music has always been there for me. Lately, I've lost some of the "touch" I had in my playing, not because of lack of practice, but lack of heart.

What should I do?

HERE'S THE RESPONE I GOT:

Make concessions.

I don't get the morality part either. You don't have to partake or act like them.

Or to be more to the point: Going to the zoo doesn't make you one of the animals.

SO, HERE'S HOW I RESPONDED:

This is what I mean by "moral issue."

1 Corinthians 8:9
"Be careful, however, that the exercise of your freedom does not become a stumbling block to the weak."

1 Peter 4:1-4
"Therefore, since Christ suffered in his body, arm yourselves also with the same attitude, because he who has suffered in his body is done with sin. As a result, he does not live the rest of his earthly life for evil human desires, but rather for the will of God. For you have spent enough time in the past doing what pagans choose to do--living in debauchery, lust, drunkenness, orgies, carousing and detestable idolatry. They think it strange that you do not plunge with them into the same flood of dissipation, and they heap abuse on you."

2 John 1:7-9

"Many deceivers, who do not acknowledge Jesus Christ as coming in the flesh, have gone out into the world. Any such person is the deceiver and the antichrist. Watch out that you do not lose what you have worked for, but that you may be rewarded fully. Anyone who runs ahead and does not continue in the teaching of Christ does not have God; whoever continues in the teaching has both the Father and the Son."


NOW I'VE COME HERE SEEKING ANSWERS, HELP, UNDERSTANDING...
Solointroy,

You are definitely on the right track and your moral compass serves you well.

Some other passages that may relate to your dilemma:

"Your glorying [is] not good. Know ye not that a
little leaven leaveneth the whole lump? Purge
out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a
new lump, as ye are unleavened. For even Christ
our passover is sacrificed for us:" 1 Cr 5:6-7

"Abstain from all appearance of evil." 1 Th 5:22

The only advice I can give you, Solointroy, is to pray. Pray for guidance. Pray for peace of mind. Pray that your playing will once again give you satisfaction in your life. Pray for the opportunity to use your talents to further the Kingdom.

Prayerfully Onward,

Kevin

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