When to tell my employer I'm pg?

When to tell my employer I'm pg?

Joined: May 15th, 2009, 12:50 am

July 14th, 2012, 12:31 pm #1

I'm about 16 weeks along with twins and haven't yet told my boss I'm expecting.

The last person she hired into her team (internal transfer from another department) was already expecting when she joined the team. I started my job the first week of April and exactly one week later I took a "work from home day" and had my embryo transfer. So I am almost in the same situation as the last person who joined the group!

My boss and I went on a week-long business trip to London two weeks ago and I didn't want to inform her prior to that trip because I didn't want my health to be a topic of concern. I could imagine her continually asking me if I'm tired or feeling ok, etc.
Complicating matters: I was on vacation this week that just ended and my boss is taking a vacation this coming week. So I am planning to inform her once she's back.

I don't think I'm particularly "late" or "overdue" in telling my employer but my mom, who is a worrywart, can't stop asking me when I'm going to tell. She seems to think that as soon as you pass the 12 week mark you are supposed to tell.
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Joined: September 13th, 2009, 11:17 pm

July 14th, 2012, 1:06 pm #2

I'm now 18 weeks and my baby bump has become fairly obvious over the last couple of weeks. I don't think there are any hard and fast rules. If your pregnancy is not interfering with your work, then it is your choice when you choose to tell.
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Joined: September 13th, 2009, 11:17 pm

July 14th, 2012, 1:06 pm #3

I'm about 16 weeks along with twins and haven't yet told my boss I'm expecting.

The last person she hired into her team (internal transfer from another department) was already expecting when she joined the team. I started my job the first week of April and exactly one week later I took a "work from home day" and had my embryo transfer. So I am almost in the same situation as the last person who joined the group!

My boss and I went on a week-long business trip to London two weeks ago and I didn't want to inform her prior to that trip because I didn't want my health to be a topic of concern. I could imagine her continually asking me if I'm tired or feeling ok, etc.
Complicating matters: I was on vacation this week that just ended and my boss is taking a vacation this coming week. So I am planning to inform her once she's back.

I don't think I'm particularly "late" or "overdue" in telling my employer but my mom, who is a worrywart, can't stop asking me when I'm going to tell. She seems to think that as soon as you pass the 12 week mark you are supposed to tell.
Sorry....double post
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Joined: September 26th, 2008, 9:06 pm

July 14th, 2012, 1:11 pm #4

I'm about 16 weeks along with twins and haven't yet told my boss I'm expecting.

The last person she hired into her team (internal transfer from another department) was already expecting when she joined the team. I started my job the first week of April and exactly one week later I took a "work from home day" and had my embryo transfer. So I am almost in the same situation as the last person who joined the group!

My boss and I went on a week-long business trip to London two weeks ago and I didn't want to inform her prior to that trip because I didn't want my health to be a topic of concern. I could imagine her continually asking me if I'm tired or feeling ok, etc.
Complicating matters: I was on vacation this week that just ended and my boss is taking a vacation this coming week. So I am planning to inform her once she's back.

I don't think I'm particularly "late" or "overdue" in telling my employer but my mom, who is a worrywart, can't stop asking me when I'm going to tell. She seems to think that as soon as you pass the 12 week mark you are supposed to tell.
I'm only 2 weeks ahead of you and it's been pretty obvious for weeks, and I only have one baby in there. And friend of mine is 21 weeks with twins and everyone keeps asking if she's due yet.
I do think it's time. As soon as your boss gets back, I'd suggest telling her. Especially with a twin pregnancy, you might need to take off work earlier, so you may not go 20 more weeks.
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Joined: May 15th, 2009, 12:50 am

July 14th, 2012, 3:06 pm #5

I just texted a photo of myself in a one-piece swimsuit on the beach to my sister two days ago and she says I just look like I've gained weight! Lol

I can't button my size 8 pants any longer. I've been wearing some size 10 shorts while on vacation and some stretchy size 8 maternity jeans and yoga pants too. At the office I've been wearing dresses that can accommodate my expanded belly more often than suits or separates. I haven't really transitioned fully to maternity clothing yet.
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July 14th, 2012, 3:30 pm #6

I'm about 16 weeks along with twins and haven't yet told my boss I'm expecting.

The last person she hired into her team (internal transfer from another department) was already expecting when she joined the team. I started my job the first week of April and exactly one week later I took a "work from home day" and had my embryo transfer. So I am almost in the same situation as the last person who joined the group!

My boss and I went on a week-long business trip to London two weeks ago and I didn't want to inform her prior to that trip because I didn't want my health to be a topic of concern. I could imagine her continually asking me if I'm tired or feeling ok, etc.
Complicating matters: I was on vacation this week that just ended and my boss is taking a vacation this coming week. So I am planning to inform her once she's back.

I don't think I'm particularly "late" or "overdue" in telling my employer but my mom, who is a worrywart, can't stop asking me when I'm going to tell. She seems to think that as soon as you pass the 12 week mark you are supposed to tell.
Because of all the complications I had early on which required me to be on bed rest, I felt obligated to tell my immediate boss at about 8 weeks... Normally, I would NEVER tell anyone that early, but the situation sort of required it. And, she's my friend, which made it easier.

Fast forward to now, and I think if the situation had been different, I still wouldn't have told work at this point. I'm 18 weeks and just now started "showing", but I'm pretty sure people who don't know me still have no idea. If I'm wearing a tight tank top or something, you can sort of tell, but otherwise, you'd never know.

There's not a rule. My dad, who's an HR person, has told me there's no hurry. If they need to find a replacement for you while you're out on maternity, it's probably better to tell sooner rather than later (especially since you have twins and are more likely to deliver early), but otherwise, don't worry about it. Tell your boss when she gets back, but don't feel like you've waited too long.
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July 14th, 2012, 5:35 pm #7

I'm about 16 weeks along with twins and haven't yet told my boss I'm expecting.

The last person she hired into her team (internal transfer from another department) was already expecting when she joined the team. I started my job the first week of April and exactly one week later I took a "work from home day" and had my embryo transfer. So I am almost in the same situation as the last person who joined the group!

My boss and I went on a week-long business trip to London two weeks ago and I didn't want to inform her prior to that trip because I didn't want my health to be a topic of concern. I could imagine her continually asking me if I'm tired or feeling ok, etc.
Complicating matters: I was on vacation this week that just ended and my boss is taking a vacation this coming week. So I am planning to inform her once she's back.

I don't think I'm particularly "late" or "overdue" in telling my employer but my mom, who is a worrywart, can't stop asking me when I'm going to tell. She seems to think that as soon as you pass the 12 week mark you are supposed to tell.
I think I told sometime in later part of my first trimester. They surely found out by 11-12 wks when I told my co-workers. There was some grumbling as there were three of us pregnant and all due in a couple of months time span.

Oh, I didn't start showing till 22+ wks with my twins (maternity pants at 20+ wks) but it was also my first pregnancy so that can play a role in it.



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Joined: September 13th, 2008, 5:13 pm

July 14th, 2012, 9:35 pm #8

I'm about 16 weeks along with twins and haven't yet told my boss I'm expecting.

The last person she hired into her team (internal transfer from another department) was already expecting when she joined the team. I started my job the first week of April and exactly one week later I took a "work from home day" and had my embryo transfer. So I am almost in the same situation as the last person who joined the group!

My boss and I went on a week-long business trip to London two weeks ago and I didn't want to inform her prior to that trip because I didn't want my health to be a topic of concern. I could imagine her continually asking me if I'm tired or feeling ok, etc.
Complicating matters: I was on vacation this week that just ended and my boss is taking a vacation this coming week. So I am planning to inform her once she's back.

I don't think I'm particularly "late" or "overdue" in telling my employer but my mom, who is a worrywart, can't stop asking me when I'm going to tell. She seems to think that as soon as you pass the 12 week mark you are supposed to tell.
I am scared of you! I was already too tired to carry off an int'l business trip at 12 wks. Anyway, agree there's no rule. Use your discretion and try to have a feel for your employer's attitude. GL! Maggie (in VA)
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July 15th, 2012, 2:40 am #9

I'm about 16 weeks along with twins and haven't yet told my boss I'm expecting.

The last person she hired into her team (internal transfer from another department) was already expecting when she joined the team. I started my job the first week of April and exactly one week later I took a "work from home day" and had my embryo transfer. So I am almost in the same situation as the last person who joined the group!

My boss and I went on a week-long business trip to London two weeks ago and I didn't want to inform her prior to that trip because I didn't want my health to be a topic of concern. I could imagine her continually asking me if I'm tired or feeling ok, etc.
Complicating matters: I was on vacation this week that just ended and my boss is taking a vacation this coming week. So I am planning to inform her once she's back.

I don't think I'm particularly "late" or "overdue" in telling my employer but my mom, who is a worrywart, can't stop asking me when I'm going to tell. She seems to think that as soon as you pass the 12 week mark you are supposed to tell.
I'm so happy for you. I had twins last May and didn't show at all until I was around 20 weeks. I only gained 29 pounds in total when I had them at 36 weeks. I wasn't working when pg but had I been I would have told my employer around the time that we did the anatomical exam...19/20 weeks. I would have explained that I waited until we were really sure that our babies were going to stick as we had had losses from the past. I'm sure my employer would understand and also once you get to that 1/2 way point you have a rough idea when you may want to start your leave...especially with twins you may want to start it a bit earlier as full term for them is earlier than with a singleton.

Enjoy sharing your news!

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July 15th, 2012, 2:57 pm #10

I am scared of you! I was already too tired to carry off an int'l business trip at 12 wks. Anyway, agree there's no rule. Use your discretion and try to have a feel for your employer's attitude. GL! Maggie (in VA)
Business Elite on Delta has seats that fully recline to a bed, plus they give you earplugs, eye-shades and a comforter. I figured I could just eat my dinner and then sleep, which I did! All around, I slept pretty well during the trip.

In my first trimester I was exhausted all the time I practically fell asleep at my desk at work, but after I passed 12 weeks, my energy level increased a lot.
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