I'm not sure if this is the correct board, but I was really hoping to hear some (any) words of wisdom. It took us several years, IUIs, OE IVFs and DE IVF to get pregnant with our DS (DE #1 BFN, FET BFP). My pregnancy was challenging due to hyperemesis and I had a traumatic birth. I will admit to being a little afraid of doing this all over again. Even with my fears, there is a whisper I can't shake about wanting to cycle again. I really want my DS to have a sibling. Plus, our little family doesn't feel complete yet.
But I'm afraid. And I worry about my age. I keep doing math in my head. If by some miracle we get pregnant, I will be 50 when the child is five, 60 when the child is fifteen, 70 when the child is twenty-five--which doesn't sound too bad, it's the previous ones that shake me. Five and fifty, whew!
No one in my family is supportive of us trying for #2. They think it's too risky even though the doctors have cleared me. There was a huge wave of love and support when we were ttc #1 and that carried me during all of the lows. This time around the support isn't there and I think if we do move forward, I will keep it to myself. Plus, not being able to share any of this is interfering with my ability to come to a decision.
I would love to hear anybody's opinion about feeling older and their decisions to ttc #2 "against the grain."
And you're not old compared to a lot of others here. I'm almost 47 and pregnant with number 2. I had all of the thoughts you wrote about, too, but, in our case, we live thousands of miles from any relatives and I wanted DD to have someone else when we're gone.
Mind you, I hope we're here to dance together at her 40th with her loving husband and kids. (That covers everything, doesn't it?)
Please do not think I'm insinuating that your post is in any way inappopriate. It's not. You titled it well and put headings to let people know what it was about, so no one would be caught unawares. But you might get more responses on the PG after DE board above because that's where the women who already have chldren usually post.