My dh and I just failed our first ivf cycle miserably - only 2 eggs and none fertilized after expecting to get more (several empty follicles) - and have been considering DE as an option for a while. I'm 41 almost 42 so although my levels seemed ok and we were hopeful going into the cycle the odds weren't in our favor. My dr doesn't feel that trying again would give better results so we need to move on at this point. I'm actually at the top of the waiting list for DE at my clinic but they don't do a ton of donor egg and the SART results aren't great (they told me because they had a number of known donors who were older and didn't work). Their results for the under 35s are pretty good so I assume that's a good sign. Right now though, I'm just associating them with failure and not loving my doctor (although the others are nice) but in general over a year of iuis, cycle delays due to cysts, etc. they have been pretty ok to deal with. I'm wondering about going to Shady Grove in MD or another place that does a lot of DE and seems to have good statistics. Any thoughts on doing this rather than using a smaller program? Does any one else have recommendations, preferably on the east coast? I'm near Philly. Do some of you use agencies rather than the clinic's donors? Is there any benefit to doing that? Just trying to figure it all out as a newbie. Thanks for any thoughts you may have.
We just found out about the failed cycle yesterday so still feeling like I got hit by a truck but I've been checking this site for a little while and have been very inspired by your stories. It's comforting to know that OE isn't the only way to go and it's helped me get through this whole difficult experience.
There are a few of us on this board that have used SG so I am sure others will chime in. I would also do a search of SG if you have some time.
I was with a smaller clinic to start -- did 3 IUIs and 1 OE IVF at the age of 43. I also had good numbers and even produced a relatively high number of follies/eggs for my age -- always had 6-8+ measurable follies and on the 1 OE IVF they retrieved 6. But I was tired of trying to catch the OE brass ring and the real brass ring for me was a baby. I did 2 DE cycles at my old clinic but a move and stress of travel, a m/c and a cycle where I think they overstimmed my previously rock star clinic donor meant that I switched to SG after 2 DE cycles there. I loved my old RE in FL but I did get frustrated after he started trying to blame my uterus when there was no issue with that nor with DH's sperm.
I was nervous about going to a bigger place but in the end I loved the security the 1 for 3 shared risk program gave me. Also, I kinda like that they have a system and it works for them. My RE -- Chang who I did like -- took a look at my file and simply said "there is no reason why we can't get you pregnant." I only saw him at my initial meeting and then at my 2 transfers. I did the shared risk, as I said. I found donor I liked right after I was approved but she went AWOL so I had to select another donor. Due to my earlier DE failures (SG looks at your whole history), I was primary recipient in my cycle. THe donor produced 21 eggs so I got 7. 6 fertilzed and they transferred 2 at 3-days. BFN. 2 months later I transferred the 2 6-day blasts that made it to freeze and I now have an 18-month old daughter. I got pregnant at age 46, delivered at 47.
I think you should look at SG given your location. The train would be an easy option for you. SART stats are not as high as some places but I don't think SG really cherry picks. Also, at times its donor pool may appear to have slim pickings but it does turnover quickly. Finally, I know there has been some confusion over its financial terms so if you do go that way, make sure you read all the documents. My DH is a lawyer and will not let us sign anything without reading. There are a few options at SG and the contracts can be a little confusing. Please let me know if you have any additional questions.