Opinion Sought - Gender Selection?

Opinion Sought - Gender Selection?

Anon
Anon

March 1st, 2011, 4:39 pm #1

I am gearing up for my first DE cycle. I am 43 w/ no health problems, doing DE b/c of age related high FSH. The ED is 21 years old and proven, with lots follies from her last cycle, pregnancy on FET and lots of frosties left over.

DH wants a little girl.

I'm afraid if we worry about gender it will be at the expense of the best embies. We'll be looking for the girl-embies instead of great.

Has anyone done this? Thoughts on best vs. female embies?

I am always grateful for the wisdom of the board!
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LizLA
LizLA

March 1st, 2011, 4:50 pm #2

we wanted a boy. The Dr told us it will reduce our chances of getting prego.

I remember reading somewhere that most blasts are boys...not sure how it works.

GL
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March 1st, 2011, 5:36 pm #3

I am gearing up for my first DE cycle. I am 43 w/ no health problems, doing DE b/c of age related high FSH. The ED is 21 years old and proven, with lots follies from her last cycle, pregnancy on FET and lots of frosties left over.

DH wants a little girl.

I'm afraid if we worry about gender it will be at the expense of the best embies. We'll be looking for the girl-embies instead of great.

Has anyone done this? Thoughts on best vs. female embies?

I am always grateful for the wisdom of the board!
Cuz as much as he may want a girl, most DH's, just like their wives, just want it to work. Maybe he would be amenable to looking for the best embies for your first child, then focusing on gender when you go for a sibling if you had a boy first. That's hard! But, I admit, I really wish I could have had at least one girl. Take care, Maggie (in VA)
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Joined: November 3rd, 2010, 10:16 pm

March 1st, 2011, 6:26 pm #4

I am gearing up for my first DE cycle. I am 43 w/ no health problems, doing DE b/c of age related high FSH. The ED is 21 years old and proven, with lots follies from her last cycle, pregnancy on FET and lots of frosties left over.

DH wants a little girl.

I'm afraid if we worry about gender it will be at the expense of the best embies. We'll be looking for the girl-embies instead of great.

Has anyone done this? Thoughts on best vs. female embies?

I am always grateful for the wisdom of the board!
unless you have already discussed this with, and indeed your clinic is 'willing' to do gender selection, you should know that not all clinics are willing to do GS, some do view it as unethical. if you haven't confirmed this with your clinic, it may be something to point out and discuss with your husband. have a discussion about not having the option to choose to begin with, may help you work out your ultimate position on the matter.

GL,

W
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Anonymous
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March 1st, 2011, 6:34 pm #5

Yeah, the clinic does it. I don't love the clinic, but their stats are good. The clinic I love - of course - doesn't do gender selection....
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Anonymous
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March 1st, 2011, 6:42 pm #6

unless you have already discussed this with, and indeed your clinic is 'willing' to do gender selection, you should know that not all clinics are willing to do GS, some do view it as unethical. if you haven't confirmed this with your clinic, it may be something to point out and discuss with your husband. have a discussion about not having the option to choose to begin with, may help you work out your ultimate position on the matter.

GL,

W
did they offer to let you know what gender embryos were tx?

Thinking about doing CGH too just want to know what the rules are on telling... I think another poster here found out at tx but not sure if they let her choose?
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Dee
Dee

March 1st, 2011, 7:48 pm #7

I am gearing up for my first DE cycle. I am 43 w/ no health problems, doing DE b/c of age related high FSH. The ED is 21 years old and proven, with lots follies from her last cycle, pregnancy on FET and lots of frosties left over.

DH wants a little girl.

I'm afraid if we worry about gender it will be at the expense of the best embies. We'll be looking for the girl-embies instead of great.

Has anyone done this? Thoughts on best vs. female embies?

I am always grateful for the wisdom of the board!
ask about sperm sorting. They can sort out Xs and Ys. For example, if you want a girl, they can just give you the X sperm to fertilize the eggs.

Our clinic did this for us. But we couldn't decide, my DH wanted a boy, I wanted a girl. So they gave us half and half. Half X, half Y sperm.

Its no guarantee though, and they told us it could only improve chances of getting what you want.
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W

March 1st, 2011, 7:51 pm #8

did they offer to let you know what gender embryos were tx?

Thinking about doing CGH too just want to know what the rules are on telling... I think another poster here found out at tx but not sure if they let her choose?
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March 1st, 2011, 11:16 pm #9

did they offer to let you know what gender embryos were tx?

Thinking about doing CGH too just want to know what the rules are on telling... I think another poster here found out at tx but not sure if they let her choose?
We also did PGS/CGH for our most recent fresh cycle ttc a sibling - in our case, b/c we'd had 3 mcs with DE/DS, one before and two after our twins, and would have done anything to avoid another loss. So in addition to adding tons of immune tx/blood thinner, we also did PGS/CGH, though not for purposes of gender selection. We do have b/g twins from a prior cycle and had no real preference on gender - just wanted a healthy baby. (I probably would have chosen boy if we had to choose, and DH probably would have chosen girl, but we didn't need to choose and again, neither of us really cared and we wanted to use the best looking embryo, not one of a particular gender - having a HEALTHY baby of either gender was really the only thing we cared about.) Though we did agree we wanted to put in the one best looking embryo, I also asked to know the gender of that embryo on the day of transfer and they were happy to tell us; they didn't seem to have any prohibition on telling us. I think one person who did DE at our clinic did gender selection, so I think my clinic allows it? Not totally sure though as I haven't asked them that question.
Honestly, DE is such a crapshoot anyway, I would really put in the best looking embryo(s) even if you do CGH. GL .
Kenny
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Anonymous
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March 1st, 2011, 11:47 pm #10

yes it was your case I was thinking of where the clinic told you the gender... we would probably do the same thing with letting the clinic pick the best of the screened embryos whether it was male or female, BUT I know I would like to know the gender info after the embryo was selected. I think it would bug me that the info was already known at the clinic but I had to wait until a 20 wk ultrasound to find out myself!
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