We've been having problems on & off with ds #1 waking up in the middle of the night hysterical. Lately, it's more often than not & dh ends up sleeping in his room.
We're not sure what to do. We don't want to end up in a situation where ds #1 starts to want & expect daddy to sleep with him, but OTOH, he's waking up hysterically scared, so we aren't going to ignore him. We do wait a little bit to see if he'll self-soothe & drop back to sleep but that's almost always not the case. Last night, dh waited even longer than normal, but no go.
Is there even a solution to this? Night lights have been a bust b/c they create shadows, which he's afraid of.
Will he just outgrow it?
On the plus side, a la the recent snoring thread, I'm sleeping better with dh otherwise occupied but I know long term it's not a good idea.
Mostly related to shadows. They want the nightlight to stay on, but don't understand that any light in the room will cause shadows. The main issue is the shadow cast on the ceiling from the ceiling fan. There's no way to prevent it, other than turn off the nightlights. No go! They won't have it. So nightly, one or both boys woke up crying because of shadows.
So, I unpacked 2 dolls my mom made me when I was younger. They are boy/girl scarecrows, about 30" tall. I put them in the boys room, in view of either bed. Told the boys the scarecrows will scare away the shadows. It worked! Of course, the shadows are still there, but to the boys they aren't...or at least they think Peter & Patty (the names I chose for them when I was a kid) are keeping the shadows from being too scary.
We've also been battling night terrors, but that's another whole story....
Good luck & I hope your DS's fears go away soon. I feel for him! I had many fears at night when I was little, even as a young adult.