I thought of you twin moms this weekend

I thought of you twin moms this weekend

Joined: September 26th, 2008, 9:06 pm

June 11th, 2012, 1:54 pm #1

There were two families with twins at the playground. One couple had pretty little girls, about 2 1/2, wearing white, dressed as identically as they were born, with big starched bows in their perfect hair, pushing their little dolly carriages and chattering away cheerfully with each other. The parents sat on a bench chatting and laughing, stopping occasionally to smile indulgently at their girls.

The other couple had gorgeous little b/g twins, maybe 14-15 months old, walking but still not sure of where danger might be. No one in this family had starched clothes. In fact, it looked like their mixmatched cotten clothes had been slept in more than once. I noticed them first by the screams of indignation when the little boy was being changed. His dad didn't seem to notice the noise, just concentrated on getting his boy clean. The girl stood with one hand resting on her dad's knee in the meantime, calmly taking little experimental licks of the fistful of sand she held in the other. The mom (I only identified her as the the mother later, having first mistaken her for a drunk who'd wandered into the park and fallen asleep on the neighboring bench) sat with her head back and legs sprawled, mouth open with spittle pooling at the corner.

When the father finally finished torturing his son, he stood him up with a perfunctory, 'There, there. It's OK.' and went to wake the mother up. They staggered through the sand, pulling the kids back from sharp-edged flying swings, away from the water pump, trying to get them to move and get exercise without being held or dismembered. And I saw the moment their eyes fell on the other twins' parents. And I saw the dad nudge the mom. And the fascinated stares they gave them. And the confusion in their eyes.

Hoping all of you who have had days like the 2nd twins' family was having (years?) will someday have at least a few days like the first twins' family had. Respect, ladies. My hat is off to you.
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June 11th, 2012, 2:23 pm #2

Thank you so much for the laugh! Uh, we're definitely the second set of parents LOL. Still waiting for a day like the first one you described... but we learned long ago to have lots of fun with the sloppy-crazy days. We took the kids and dogs hiking this weekend as we do every weekend and we passed all of these cute couples of all ages in their matching hiking gear and picnic lunches in their backpacks (complete with wine glasses and cloth napkins I'm sure), and their mouths were agape at all of us - 3 kids, 2 whining loudly and one refusing to keep moving, w/ baby best behaved but scowling in backpack after being contained for far too long in her opinion, two dogs, one unruly at best... OMG we were a sight. Pair after pair of fellow hikers were horrified and confused LOL. But DH and I had a great time! Add a few hours of swimming afterward, and we had to carry the kids all up to bed as they passed out playing on the floor after dinner. Our job was done, yay! Oh and we slept well too haha, at least between feeds (little miss... 15 months and STILL nursing every few hours.... gah, but oh goodie... some of the best moments of the day for me). Sorry for the stream of consciousness, still half asleep here LOL. Hugs to you SB, can't' wait to hear of similar chaos in your life .
Kenny

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June 11th, 2012, 2:48 pm #3

There were two families with twins at the playground. One couple had pretty little girls, about 2 1/2, wearing white, dressed as identically as they were born, with big starched bows in their perfect hair, pushing their little dolly carriages and chattering away cheerfully with each other. The parents sat on a bench chatting and laughing, stopping occasionally to smile indulgently at their girls.

The other couple had gorgeous little b/g twins, maybe 14-15 months old, walking but still not sure of where danger might be. No one in this family had starched clothes. In fact, it looked like their mixmatched cotten clothes had been slept in more than once. I noticed them first by the screams of indignation when the little boy was being changed. His dad didn't seem to notice the noise, just concentrated on getting his boy clean. The girl stood with one hand resting on her dad's knee in the meantime, calmly taking little experimental licks of the fistful of sand she held in the other. The mom (I only identified her as the the mother later, having first mistaken her for a drunk who'd wandered into the park and fallen asleep on the neighboring bench) sat with her head back and legs sprawled, mouth open with spittle pooling at the corner.

When the father finally finished torturing his son, he stood him up with a perfunctory, 'There, there. It's OK.' and went to wake the mother up. They staggered through the sand, pulling the kids back from sharp-edged flying swings, away from the water pump, trying to get them to move and get exercise without being held or dismembered. And I saw the moment their eyes fell on the other twins' parents. And I saw the dad nudge the mom. And the fascinated stares they gave them. And the confusion in their eyes.

Hoping all of you who have had days like the 2nd twins' family was having (years?) will someday have at least a few days like the first twins' family had. Respect, ladies. My hat is off to you.
There's a set of gg twins at the day care my kids attend, and if you see them at the right time, you'd think of family #1 above, but I get to see their dad struggling to get them to let him get their hair in a ponytail or sometimes even get their clothes on as we're getting them into the day care -- and I tell you, it seems like it's almost always that family and mine getting their kids to day care last. Man, then is when I'm grateful that a boy's summer wardrobe is a t-shirt, shorts, and socks and shoes (just like dad's). Bob's hair is so thick we cut it nearly military short b/c otherwise it's like he's wearing a fur coat on his head, and he still sweats like a Mexican stevedore.

The kids' former nanny took the kids overnight (as my birthday present) so that we could celebrate my birthday, but I reacted badly to some medicine I used Friday night, and if it weren't already scheduled, I think I would have needed to call her to see if she could come help out anyway. Yesterday, they wouldn't nap when I put them down, but fell asleep in the car on the way to Target, and I ended up paying a dollar to park in the covered garage of a shopping mall so they could sleep some more -- I couldn't though I desperately wanted to. And DH spent most of the day helping my ex-brother-in-law work on his house.

The good night's sleep I had Saturday wasn't enough to catch up, and by the time we hit Target, I could tell fellow-shoppers were giving me the "surely she's too old to be their mother!" double-take, and my clothes were stained with hastily and inadequately wiped-off yogurt (honestly, do they think I'm a napkin?). I hope we'll have that starched and smilin' and relaxed day some day, but I'm not anticipating it very soon.

Take care,

Maggie (in VA)
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June 11th, 2012, 3:52 pm #4

There were two families with twins at the playground. One couple had pretty little girls, about 2 1/2, wearing white, dressed as identically as they were born, with big starched bows in their perfect hair, pushing their little dolly carriages and chattering away cheerfully with each other. The parents sat on a bench chatting and laughing, stopping occasionally to smile indulgently at their girls.

The other couple had gorgeous little b/g twins, maybe 14-15 months old, walking but still not sure of where danger might be. No one in this family had starched clothes. In fact, it looked like their mixmatched cotten clothes had been slept in more than once. I noticed them first by the screams of indignation when the little boy was being changed. His dad didn't seem to notice the noise, just concentrated on getting his boy clean. The girl stood with one hand resting on her dad's knee in the meantime, calmly taking little experimental licks of the fistful of sand she held in the other. The mom (I only identified her as the the mother later, having first mistaken her for a drunk who'd wandered into the park and fallen asleep on the neighboring bench) sat with her head back and legs sprawled, mouth open with spittle pooling at the corner.

When the father finally finished torturing his son, he stood him up with a perfunctory, 'There, there. It's OK.' and went to wake the mother up. They staggered through the sand, pulling the kids back from sharp-edged flying swings, away from the water pump, trying to get them to move and get exercise without being held or dismembered. And I saw the moment their eyes fell on the other twins' parents. And I saw the dad nudge the mom. And the fascinated stares they gave them. And the confusion in their eyes.

Hoping all of you who have had days like the 2nd twins' family was having (years?) will someday have at least a few days like the first twins' family had. Respect, ladies. My hat is off to you.
Though usually DH is the one I nudge to wake up and stop snoring (no drool! haha). We are a sight to people I am sure. Bows, white clothes - never! I have stacks in their drawers that are daycare/school only clothes which is similar to project/gardening clothes - aka the stained/old clothes VS the nice outfits. By the end of summer I expect 95% of the clothes to be in the stained pile with few outfits worthy of a photo op etc.

We are twins plus 1 and McBaby is so sure he is a triplet so to NOT be able to do something or have something they have is just ridiculous in his mind. We were at a pool party/grad event Saturday and I was exhausted!!!! Having to watch 3 lil kids near a pool with 30-40 other guests about killed me and had me worried/paniced for the 4 hours. The only time I was ok and relaxed is when DH was in the pool with all 3 in their floaties with my best friends hubby helping out in the pool. One lady came over and asked me how I do it and if I got a new car for mom's day as I must be worthy. I honestly now dont remember answering her as it was blur!
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June 11th, 2012, 4:41 pm #5

There were two families with twins at the playground. One couple had pretty little girls, about 2 1/2, wearing white, dressed as identically as they were born, with big starched bows in their perfect hair, pushing their little dolly carriages and chattering away cheerfully with each other. The parents sat on a bench chatting and laughing, stopping occasionally to smile indulgently at their girls.

The other couple had gorgeous little b/g twins, maybe 14-15 months old, walking but still not sure of where danger might be. No one in this family had starched clothes. In fact, it looked like their mixmatched cotten clothes had been slept in more than once. I noticed them first by the screams of indignation when the little boy was being changed. His dad didn't seem to notice the noise, just concentrated on getting his boy clean. The girl stood with one hand resting on her dad's knee in the meantime, calmly taking little experimental licks of the fistful of sand she held in the other. The mom (I only identified her as the the mother later, having first mistaken her for a drunk who'd wandered into the park and fallen asleep on the neighboring bench) sat with her head back and legs sprawled, mouth open with spittle pooling at the corner.

When the father finally finished torturing his son, he stood him up with a perfunctory, 'There, there. It's OK.' and went to wake the mother up. They staggered through the sand, pulling the kids back from sharp-edged flying swings, away from the water pump, trying to get them to move and get exercise without being held or dismembered. And I saw the moment their eyes fell on the other twins' parents. And I saw the dad nudge the mom. And the fascinated stares they gave them. And the confusion in their eyes.

Hoping all of you who have had days like the 2nd twins' family was having (years?) will someday have at least a few days like the first twins' family had. Respect, ladies. My hat is off to you.
We have one child and I've already felt like the 2nd family more than once! Only thing I can imagine is that family #1 has a full staff of cooks, maids, bahaviorists, and nanny's at home and that ALL they have to do is parade around with their perfect little girls! Truly, that's the ONLY way I think that is possible!

And, again, this is coming from a mother of ONE who has a DH to help!

Thanks for the laugh -- you really should be a writer...just too funny!

sas
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June 11th, 2012, 5:04 pm #6

Thank you so much for the laugh! Uh, we're definitely the second set of parents LOL. Still waiting for a day like the first one you described... but we learned long ago to have lots of fun with the sloppy-crazy days. We took the kids and dogs hiking this weekend as we do every weekend and we passed all of these cute couples of all ages in their matching hiking gear and picnic lunches in their backpacks (complete with wine glasses and cloth napkins I'm sure), and their mouths were agape at all of us - 3 kids, 2 whining loudly and one refusing to keep moving, w/ baby best behaved but scowling in backpack after being contained for far too long in her opinion, two dogs, one unruly at best... OMG we were a sight. Pair after pair of fellow hikers were horrified and confused LOL. But DH and I had a great time! Add a few hours of swimming afterward, and we had to carry the kids all up to bed as they passed out playing on the floor after dinner. Our job was done, yay! Oh and we slept well too haha, at least between feeds (little miss... 15 months and STILL nursing every few hours.... gah, but oh goodie... some of the best moments of the day for me). Sorry for the stream of consciousness, still half asleep here LOL. Hugs to you SB, can't' wait to hear of similar chaos in your life .
Kenny

Seriously. That you moms of multiples plus one or two manage to get dressed and out of the house without hired help is impressive. I'm late pretty much half of the time because DD wants to do it 'alone' and that always takes AGES. By the time we get there, it's time to come home for a nap.
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June 11th, 2012, 5:06 pm #7

There's a set of gg twins at the day care my kids attend, and if you see them at the right time, you'd think of family #1 above, but I get to see their dad struggling to get them to let him get their hair in a ponytail or sometimes even get their clothes on as we're getting them into the day care -- and I tell you, it seems like it's almost always that family and mine getting their kids to day care last. Man, then is when I'm grateful that a boy's summer wardrobe is a t-shirt, shorts, and socks and shoes (just like dad's). Bob's hair is so thick we cut it nearly military short b/c otherwise it's like he's wearing a fur coat on his head, and he still sweats like a Mexican stevedore.

The kids' former nanny took the kids overnight (as my birthday present) so that we could celebrate my birthday, but I reacted badly to some medicine I used Friday night, and if it weren't already scheduled, I think I would have needed to call her to see if she could come help out anyway. Yesterday, they wouldn't nap when I put them down, but fell asleep in the car on the way to Target, and I ended up paying a dollar to park in the covered garage of a shopping mall so they could sleep some more -- I couldn't though I desperately wanted to. And DH spent most of the day helping my ex-brother-in-law work on his house.

The good night's sleep I had Saturday wasn't enough to catch up, and by the time we hit Target, I could tell fellow-shoppers were giving me the "surely she's too old to be their mother!" double-take, and my clothes were stained with hastily and inadequately wiped-off yogurt (honestly, do they think I'm a napkin?). I hope we'll have that starched and smilin' and relaxed day some day, but I'm not anticipating it very soon.

Take care,

Maggie (in VA)
but that they have moments of #2 (so to speak) as well. I salute you, Maggie, you Supermom, you!
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June 11th, 2012, 5:10 pm #8

Though usually DH is the one I nudge to wake up and stop snoring (no drool! haha). We are a sight to people I am sure. Bows, white clothes - never! I have stacks in their drawers that are daycare/school only clothes which is similar to project/gardening clothes - aka the stained/old clothes VS the nice outfits. By the end of summer I expect 95% of the clothes to be in the stained pile with few outfits worthy of a photo op etc.

We are twins plus 1 and McBaby is so sure he is a triplet so to NOT be able to do something or have something they have is just ridiculous in his mind. We were at a pool party/grad event Saturday and I was exhausted!!!! Having to watch 3 lil kids near a pool with 30-40 other guests about killed me and had me worried/paniced for the 4 hours. The only time I was ok and relaxed is when DH was in the pool with all 3 in their floaties with my best friends hubby helping out in the pool. One lady came over and asked me how I do it and if I got a new car for mom's day as I must be worthy. I honestly now dont remember answering her as it was blur!
You always look so happy and fit and you still make it to sporting events. I haven't even watched the Desperate Housewives my friend recorded for me. But I have made plans to go to a 'girls night out,' my 2nd since DD was born. DH is already nervous about putting her to bed!
You're an amazing woman, Ang! Every inch of you.
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Joined: September 26th, 2008, 9:06 pm

June 11th, 2012, 5:11 pm #9

We have one child and I've already felt like the 2nd family more than once! Only thing I can imagine is that family #1 has a full staff of cooks, maids, bahaviorists, and nanny's at home and that ALL they have to do is parade around with their perfect little girls! Truly, that's the ONLY way I think that is possible!

And, again, this is coming from a mother of ONE who has a DH to help!

Thanks for the laugh -- you really should be a writer...just too funny!

sas
Just telling it like I see it.
Hey, the neighbors are moving. Their house will be free soon. I'd love to have you next door. Can you imagine how we'd be a help to each other?! We might actually get something ironed someday.
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June 11th, 2012, 5:14 pm #10

Seriously. That you moms of multiples plus one or two manage to get dressed and out of the house without hired help is impressive. I'm late pretty much half of the time because DD wants to do it 'alone' and that always takes AGES. By the time we get there, it's time to come home for a nap.
hence my snarky comment about the perfect picnics others had with them LOL. I don't think the stares we were getting were impressed stares, they were confused: "why the f*ck would anyone want to do THAT?" Ah well, their loss - chaos can be fun! Best,
Kenny

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