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Joined: February 24th, 2006, 7:42 am

December 16th, 2010, 3:55 pm #1

Spoke to my sister and brother in-law who are dealing with my mom's inheritance and they said we can borrow the money for fertility treatment with Dylan's birth mom and pay them back when the money comes through. So looks like things will get going soon. Now need to make an appointment with our Fertility clinic. Hopefully we don't have to wait too long.
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December 16th, 2010, 4:26 pm #2

This is very exciting. It really sounds like all the stars are lining up in your favor.
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Joined: February 24th, 2006, 7:42 am

December 16th, 2010, 4:37 pm #3

This feels right and having the same birth mom will be a bonus. We have such a good relationship with her.
I really hope things work out for you. It is terrible what ttc can do to one. I feel like I have gone with so many scenarios lately. Think I have made dh's head spin.
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December 16th, 2010, 5:53 pm #4

It's got to be good for him that you have a good relationship with his birth mom. This is going to help him.

It's just interesting that the birth mom thing is very daunting to me with adoption. I think that's why I didn't do it. I think I just have worries about my ability to set boundaries with people. I was thinking that this infertility way is better because

Also, there are some health problems you can control for if you do donor eggs. And it is nice to be pregnant.

It's just nice to read about someone who has had it work out this great way.
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December 16th, 2010, 6:43 pm #5

as most adoptions are not as open as ours. The birth mom does not know where we live but does have our phone number. She probably has looked in the phone book and probably has an idea where we are. At one stage through coincidence both Dylan and birth mom's 2 month old baby were going to the same play school. It was a bit of a shock in the beginning, but it got to the point where birth mom would phone me and say "won't you check on J when you drop Dylan at school, as she wasn't well". Our relationship has really grown and I know she has Dylan's best interest at heart. Never once has she ever demanded anything or been inappropriate. In fact she has asked us, should she die, to be the legal guardian of J. She has no family and as soon as she has any good or bad news, we are the first to hear about it. She has made many wrong choices in life, but dh and I are very protective over her. I can't say the same for Dylan's birth father. We met him once in court, but he was not interested in having a relationship with Dylan. I really dread the day Dylan asks about him.
Going to have a chat with my Fertility specialist and see what he suggests. The way I feel, the cheapest option is the best, as easiest way to go.
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December 16th, 2010, 8:08 pm #6

Spoke to my sister and brother in-law who are dealing with my mom's inheritance and they said we can borrow the money for fertility treatment with Dylan's birth mom and pay them back when the money comes through. So looks like things will get going soon. Now need to make an appointment with our Fertility clinic. Hopefully we don't have to wait too long.
Brandy
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so glad to hear this Brandy. Sometimes when we've been going round in circles for ages, ways suddenly miraculously just open up, eh?
and it sounds like you've got a great relationship wtih Dylan's BM; good on you.
keep us posted.
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December 16th, 2010, 8:16 pm #7

Thanks. would like to stay on this board if that's ok with everyone. (nt)
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December 17th, 2010, 3:53 am #8

Spoke to my sister and brother in-law who are dealing with my mom's inheritance and they said we can borrow the money for fertility treatment with Dylan's birth mom and pay them back when the money comes through. So looks like things will get going soon. Now need to make an appointment with our Fertility clinic. Hopefully we don't have to wait too long.
Brandy
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What a lovely sister you have and how supportive they are is great. So happy for you and I love following your stories.
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December 17th, 2010, 3:53 am #9

Thanks. would like to stay on this board if that's ok with everyone. (nt)
some other mums (BBG and Vianna) who have done DE with a surro post on the pink board now...
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December 17th, 2010, 4:18 am #10

as most adoptions are not as open as ours. The birth mom does not know where we live but does have our phone number. She probably has looked in the phone book and probably has an idea where we are. At one stage through coincidence both Dylan and birth mom's 2 month old baby were going to the same play school. It was a bit of a shock in the beginning, but it got to the point where birth mom would phone me and say "won't you check on J when you drop Dylan at school, as she wasn't well". Our relationship has really grown and I know she has Dylan's best interest at heart. Never once has she ever demanded anything or been inappropriate. In fact she has asked us, should she die, to be the legal guardian of J. She has no family and as soon as she has any good or bad news, we are the first to hear about it. She has made many wrong choices in life, but dh and I are very protective over her. I can't say the same for Dylan's birth father. We met him once in court, but he was not interested in having a relationship with Dylan. I really dread the day Dylan asks about him.
Going to have a chat with my Fertility specialist and see what he suggests. The way I feel, the cheapest option is the best, as easiest way to go.
They are just so nice! What great stories!

I love the idea of adoption and it makes me sad people say that kids can feel pain from it. It really is a complicated kind of love. Now Dylan will really have a way of understanding that he is important to many people & that is great.

It is sad about the father but he's not alone. Sadly, many non adopted kids do have fathers who are indifferent to them. It all can get emotionally complicated but you sound like the perfect mom to handle it.

It's funny how I know only one adoption that had problems and so many that are nice and I can only think of the one that had problems--maybe because the mom is so vocal about the problems she had and she talks about them so much.
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