For others who've had a "vanishing twin"...

For others who've had a "vanishing twin"...

Joined: November 27th, 2011, 4:22 pm

May 19th, 2012, 9:04 pm #1

Just curious to know if you had a major decrease in symptoms after you lost one of the twins? At 9.5 weeks, I was feeling major exhaustion, intermittent afternoon/evening nausea, breast tenderness, etc., and I could already see and feel my abdomen expanding, but now I literally feel nothing. With previous singleton pregnancies, I've had very few symptoms, so maybe it takes a lot of hormones to make me feel anything at all, but the disappearance of symptoms is very, very disconcerting to me! I suppose it makes sense that I'd have a decrease after losing half the hormone-producing tissue, but it just feels so odd. And I swear my abdomen has shrunk as well..

I know our odds of keeping the remaining twin are good, but I'm driving myself insane here.. Can anyone relate?
Thanks!
Leigh
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Joined: October 27th, 2011, 2:28 am

May 19th, 2012, 9:52 pm #2

I did have a decrease of symptoms and I was worried that all was not well-but it was. I felt like I wasn't even pregnant-I had no symptoms. Before the vanishing twin I seemed to have more. My dd is now 20 months so I'm trying to remember back.I wasn't even sick hardly during my pregnancy-only for 2-3 weeks and that was it, so I was scared at that time. But my dd is very healthy and strong and she came out fine. I relaxed more as the weeks progressed and I kept going to my obgyn visits and they found nothing wrong. Hugs and hang in there. If your next Obgyn visit is soon, that should relieve your mind.
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Joined: February 6th, 2007, 1:08 am

May 19th, 2012, 11:12 pm #3

Just curious to know if you had a major decrease in symptoms after you lost one of the twins? At 9.5 weeks, I was feeling major exhaustion, intermittent afternoon/evening nausea, breast tenderness, etc., and I could already see and feel my abdomen expanding, but now I literally feel nothing. With previous singleton pregnancies, I've had very few symptoms, so maybe it takes a lot of hormones to make me feel anything at all, but the disappearance of symptoms is very, very disconcerting to me! I suppose it makes sense that I'd have a decrease after losing half the hormone-producing tissue, but it just feels so odd. And I swear my abdomen has shrunk as well..

I know our odds of keeping the remaining twin are good, but I'm driving myself insane here.. Can anyone relate?
Thanks!
Leigh
You do get increased symptoms with twins but even with twins at this stage your symptoms would be subsiding. Its impossible not to worry but many many of us have had vanishing twins. I remember when it happened to me it also happened to V the same time and someone else, I can't remember who. We were all beside ourselves with worry. (((()))))



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Joined: June 5th, 2011, 4:39 pm

May 20th, 2012, 1:30 am #4

Just curious to know if you had a major decrease in symptoms after you lost one of the twins? At 9.5 weeks, I was feeling major exhaustion, intermittent afternoon/evening nausea, breast tenderness, etc., and I could already see and feel my abdomen expanding, but now I literally feel nothing. With previous singleton pregnancies, I've had very few symptoms, so maybe it takes a lot of hormones to make me feel anything at all, but the disappearance of symptoms is very, very disconcerting to me! I suppose it makes sense that I'd have a decrease after losing half the hormone-producing tissue, but it just feels so odd. And I swear my abdomen has shrunk as well..

I know our odds of keeping the remaining twin are good, but I'm driving myself insane here.. Can anyone relate?
Thanks!
Leigh
I felt so guilty when my DE twin died (search old posts on here if so inclined) b/c I did not want twins but did not really know it until I was pg w/ twins. I hated losing the twin and was very very sad just as you are right now.

I can tell you as I have had 2 OE pg that produced children that a twin pg is much much harder on the body than a singleton. It was sooo hard on my body as I looked 4 months pg at 2 months w/ my DE twins.

I don't want you to think that you will lose your remaining twin as the odds are in your favor for success. I unfortunately fell on the wrong side of the odds and lost the remaining twin at 13 wks. I felt pg symptoms until the day the second twin died but the symptoms were much less w/ one baby vs two.

All I can say Leigh is that most likely you will have success so please dont think you will wind up like me.

Keep trucking along as we are here for you.


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Joined: August 17th, 2005, 11:44 pm

May 20th, 2012, 1:31 pm #5

Just curious to know if you had a major decrease in symptoms after you lost one of the twins? At 9.5 weeks, I was feeling major exhaustion, intermittent afternoon/evening nausea, breast tenderness, etc., and I could already see and feel my abdomen expanding, but now I literally feel nothing. With previous singleton pregnancies, I've had very few symptoms, so maybe it takes a lot of hormones to make me feel anything at all, but the disappearance of symptoms is very, very disconcerting to me! I suppose it makes sense that I'd have a decrease after losing half the hormone-producing tissue, but it just feels so odd. And I swear my abdomen has shrunk as well..

I know our odds of keeping the remaining twin are good, but I'm driving myself insane here.. Can anyone relate?
Thanks!
Leigh
two, but could see the sacs until 20 weeks. Honestly, I have had very few symptoms with any of my pregnancies, so didn't really notice a difference. I did deliver dd 9 weeks early and it was thought that my uterus still thought we had a triplet pregnancies. However, after my next pregnancies the thought is now that I am a preterm laborer.
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Joined: October 7th, 2007, 3:20 am

May 20th, 2012, 3:06 pm #6

Just curious to know if you had a major decrease in symptoms after you lost one of the twins? At 9.5 weeks, I was feeling major exhaustion, intermittent afternoon/evening nausea, breast tenderness, etc., and I could already see and feel my abdomen expanding, but now I literally feel nothing. With previous singleton pregnancies, I've had very few symptoms, so maybe it takes a lot of hormones to make me feel anything at all, but the disappearance of symptoms is very, very disconcerting to me! I suppose it makes sense that I'd have a decrease after losing half the hormone-producing tissue, but it just feels so odd. And I swear my abdomen has shrunk as well..

I know our odds of keeping the remaining twin are good, but I'm driving myself insane here.. Can anyone relate?
Thanks!
Leigh
First, I am sorry for your loss and the nagging fears of loss. It is an exciting time and an uncomfortable time. If possible, try to squeeze some enjoyment out of being finally pregnant and try to fill yourself with positive confident thoughts - not that I think it will change what is going on down there, that would be magical thinking, but it will help with your mental state and happiness. For me, I learned that I had lost my ds#2's twin right at the visit where we hear ds's heartbeat. I don't remember the effect on my early pregnancy symptoms (those are sooooo variable woman to woman and pregnancy to pregnancy) but I do remember the emotional landscape was ROCKY! I was relieved to not be facing the difficulties of twin pregnancy and parenting twins as my older ds has some special needs and I am old as stone. I felt very sad at the loss even though it was early. I felt "marked" as unlucky that I had a chance for the fun of twins and didn't get it. I felt guilty that I felt some relief that it wasn't twins. I also felt freaked out that there was this no longer living thing in there. THat frightened me. The fear was exascerbated by reading the internet tales of residuals. Dumb move on my part! Early loss is exceedingly common and the tissue is so miniscule that it gets resorbed 99.999% of the time.

wishing you peace of mind and a healthy event free pregnancy (except for the delivery, that is always an event).

Golda
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Joined: September 13th, 2009, 11:17 pm

May 20th, 2012, 4:03 pm #7

Just curious to know if you had a major decrease in symptoms after you lost one of the twins? At 9.5 weeks, I was feeling major exhaustion, intermittent afternoon/evening nausea, breast tenderness, etc., and I could already see and feel my abdomen expanding, but now I literally feel nothing. With previous singleton pregnancies, I've had very few symptoms, so maybe it takes a lot of hormones to make me feel anything at all, but the disappearance of symptoms is very, very disconcerting to me! I suppose it makes sense that I'd have a decrease after losing half the hormone-producing tissue, but it just feels so odd. And I swear my abdomen has shrunk as well..

I know our odds of keeping the remaining twin are good, but I'm driving myself insane here.. Can anyone relate?
Thanks!
Leigh
I have no experience with twin loss but did want to let you know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I think symptoms are not necessarily a good predictor of how things are going as they are so variable. I'm finding my symptoms vary from day to day. I'm tired everyday but some days I'm just absolutely exhausted and barely have the energy to eat (even though I slept the night before), some days my boobs are super sensitive and other days they feel normal, I hadn't had any queasiness or nausea for nearly two weeks and then this am I woke up nauseous and have been queasy all day. I'm thinking positive thoughts for you and your baby. I hope you have an ultrasound and get some reassurance soon.
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Joined: October 27th, 2011, 2:28 am

May 20th, 2012, 11:29 pm #8

One thing I did want to add was that I do remember the exhaustion. I was very. very tired as my pregnancy progressed. I spent many a time laying in bed in the middle of the day and reading or on the computer and relaxing. Sometimes I was so tired I just had to make it physically to my bed and pass out. Crazy tired! So I can relate. Take care of yourselves and get the rest you need when you feel tired-it does not matter if it's in the middle of the day-if you can.
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Joined: May 10th, 2011, 11:57 pm

May 20th, 2012, 11:34 pm #9

Just curious to know if you had a major decrease in symptoms after you lost one of the twins? At 9.5 weeks, I was feeling major exhaustion, intermittent afternoon/evening nausea, breast tenderness, etc., and I could already see and feel my abdomen expanding, but now I literally feel nothing. With previous singleton pregnancies, I've had very few symptoms, so maybe it takes a lot of hormones to make me feel anything at all, but the disappearance of symptoms is very, very disconcerting to me! I suppose it makes sense that I'd have a decrease after losing half the hormone-producing tissue, but it just feels so odd. And I swear my abdomen has shrunk as well..

I know our odds of keeping the remaining twin are good, but I'm driving myself insane here.. Can anyone relate?
Thanks!
Leigh
I feel for you on the loss of the twin. I don't have that experience, but I will say that with my singleton pregnancy, I noticed a decrease in some symptoms around 9 weeks (mainly breast tenderness), and naturally worried about it, but all was well. Hormones do fluctuate, even when there hasn't been the loss that you've had. I hope your doctor can reassure you.

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Joined: August 22nd, 2008, 3:29 pm

May 21st, 2012, 12:20 am #10

Just curious to know if you had a major decrease in symptoms after you lost one of the twins? At 9.5 weeks, I was feeling major exhaustion, intermittent afternoon/evening nausea, breast tenderness, etc., and I could already see and feel my abdomen expanding, but now I literally feel nothing. With previous singleton pregnancies, I've had very few symptoms, so maybe it takes a lot of hormones to make me feel anything at all, but the disappearance of symptoms is very, very disconcerting to me! I suppose it makes sense that I'd have a decrease after losing half the hormone-producing tissue, but it just feels so odd. And I swear my abdomen has shrunk as well..

I know our odds of keeping the remaining twin are good, but I'm driving myself insane here.. Can anyone relate?
Thanks!
Leigh
I'm so very sorry to hear of the sad loss of your baby. I can well understand your concerns...you've been concerned all along and it's like something just hits you in the head to say....see...things don't always work out. I want you to keep up your mantras though...find something really powerful that resonates with your soul to allow you to breathe and have some peace.

Although I haven't lost a twin (that I know of....in the old days before early u/s's there was probably lots of this going on) but I can understand the loss of syptoms.....around the 10 wk point with my twins, my hormones really settled down and i was really worried that I had lost them, this may be what is going on with you right now It's so hard..I remember being so worried (despite all my mantras)...I had to wait until 12 weeks to see them again when we did the nuchal fold.

Today we were in the city where I had the nuchal fold test done and as we drove by the clinic I got this sick feeling in my stomach...everything came right back to me regarding how worried I was about the babies health...I remember telling the tech that I was concerned and I was going to close my eyes at the beginning of the scan and if she could just tell me quickly the results..if there was a heart beat or not.

So your post takes me right back to that time and my heart just breaks for you...but I'm also really pulling for your other baby. There is nothing to say that this twin will not survive and thrive without having to share the womb...the SCH has resolved and I remember doing a lot of searching on the computer when I was in my 1st trimester with the twins (sometimes not a good thing to google too much) but it was very reassuring to see that most women who lost one baby in the 1st trimester went on to carry their other twin to term.

As I mentioned earlier...in the old days there were probably a lot of women who had had bleeding the first trimester that didn't know they had a SCH....or were carrying twins...when we know so much it sometimes doesn't help if you know what I mean.

I'm holding you and your baby in a realm of light and love, all shall be well. And for whatever reasons that your other baby could not be with you any longer...you were an amazing mom to him/her while he/she was with you...all shall be well for that special little soulbaby as well.

Wishing peace for you, hugs from Hope

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