Foolishly never expected it!!! the 'Nana?' comment..

Foolishly never expected it!!! the 'Nana?' comment..

Joined: June 2nd, 2007, 7:45 am

April 4th, 2012, 6:57 am #1

I can honestly say I never expected or prepared for anyone to think I was Silvi's grandmother. DH a grandad maybe but me, never.
Today at the supermarket checkout the operator was cooing over S and asking questions about her and said "Nana, is it?" to me, TWICE I was so confused I asked her to repeat herself...
Was gobsmacked.
I just turned 43 and look about 35 I think....
It was very unsettling!
I laughed it off but came home and stewed up a nice big blechy mood.
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Joined: February 23rd, 2012, 7:57 am

April 4th, 2012, 7:56 am #2

I've seen you and there is no way!!!!

She must have been really young right? They think anything over 30 is grandma status these days. Especially when you see how young mum's are with all the teen pregnancies these days.

Don't stress it. At least she chose a good time of year to make that comment. Plenty of chocolate around!!!
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Joined: September 26th, 2008, 9:06 pm

April 4th, 2012, 8:29 am #3

I can honestly say I never expected or prepared for anyone to think I was Silvi's grandmother. DH a grandad maybe but me, never.
Today at the supermarket checkout the operator was cooing over S and asking questions about her and said "Nana, is it?" to me, TWICE I was so confused I asked her to repeat herself...
Was gobsmacked.
I just turned 43 and look about 35 I think....
It was very unsettling!
I laughed it off but came home and stewed up a nice big blechy mood.
a former neighbor from my childhood recently found me on Facebook. She was a year behind me in school. She wrote that she has 3 sons and NINE grandkids!!!

She must be 45 years old. The oldest grandchild is 9 years old!!!

One can only shake one's head.
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Joined: February 6th, 2007, 1:08 am

April 4th, 2012, 11:45 am #4

I can honestly say I never expected or prepared for anyone to think I was Silvi's grandmother. DH a grandad maybe but me, never.
Today at the supermarket checkout the operator was cooing over S and asking questions about her and said "Nana, is it?" to me, TWICE I was so confused I asked her to repeat herself...
Was gobsmacked.
I just turned 43 and look about 35 I think....
It was very unsettling!
I laughed it off but came home and stewed up a nice big blechy mood.
she obviously has a mental disability.



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Joined: March 10th, 2005, 6:04 pm

April 4th, 2012, 1:34 pm #5

I can honestly say I never expected or prepared for anyone to think I was Silvi's grandmother. DH a grandad maybe but me, never.
Today at the supermarket checkout the operator was cooing over S and asking questions about her and said "Nana, is it?" to me, TWICE I was so confused I asked her to repeat herself...
Was gobsmacked.
I just turned 43 and look about 35 I think....
It was very unsettling!
I laughed it off but came home and stewed up a nice big blechy mood.
many young kids regard everyone over 30 as ancient and they really have no clue! Just ignore the fool.
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Joined: September 13th, 2008, 5:13 pm

April 4th, 2012, 1:56 pm #6

I can honestly say I never expected or prepared for anyone to think I was Silvi's grandmother. DH a grandad maybe but me, never.
Today at the supermarket checkout the operator was cooing over S and asking questions about her and said "Nana, is it?" to me, TWICE I was so confused I asked her to repeat herself...
Was gobsmacked.
I just turned 43 and look about 35 I think....
It was very unsettling!
I laughed it off but came home and stewed up a nice big blechy mood.
Who is three years younger than me has stopped telling people she's the kids' "nanny," because in the south many people refer to grandmothers as "nanny," and some people thought she was their grandmother. She says she's their child care provider. This happened to her in my presence once, at the kids' baptism, and with her own mother sitting near us. I felt so bad for her! Unfortunately, she has a rare genetic disorder that causes hair thinning and mottled skin, among other things, and that contributes to the problem.

Anyway, I've gotten a lot of supposedly innocent, but clearly purposeful, questions and comments, but not the direct "grandma" gaffe yet. But it's only a matter of time; the mirror doesn't lie, especially now with the Lasik and I can better see how old I look.

Take care,

Maggie (in VA)
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Joined: July 23rd, 2008, 6:49 am

April 4th, 2012, 2:51 pm #7

I can honestly say I never expected or prepared for anyone to think I was Silvi's grandmother. DH a grandad maybe but me, never.
Today at the supermarket checkout the operator was cooing over S and asking questions about her and said "Nana, is it?" to me, TWICE I was so confused I asked her to repeat herself...
Was gobsmacked.
I just turned 43 and look about 35 I think....
It was very unsettling!
I laughed it off but came home and stewed up a nice big blechy mood.
Even if you looked every day of 45 years old, that's no reason to assume you're the grandmother with women having children later in life EVEN WITHOUT treatment. I think it's the preponderance of teen mothers and also the fact that in recent decades, it was in fashion to complete one's family before the age of 35 that has caused people's perceptions to shift. Prior to the invention of oral contraception, women just had babies until menopause prevented it. Older mothers is NOT a new phenomenon, rather, having babies only in the 20's and early 30's is the new phenomenon, historically speaking anyway.

I haven't had the grandma comment yet but I'm waiting. I know it's coming. I also look younger than my age but I'm 50 now so can't ride on that much longer!
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Joined: October 27th, 2011, 2:28 am

April 4th, 2012, 4:32 pm #8

she obviously has a mental disability.



lol! I was thinking the same thing. She must be an idiot.
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Joined: September 13th, 2008, 5:13 pm

April 4th, 2012, 5:34 pm #9

Even if you looked every day of 45 years old, that's no reason to assume you're the grandmother with women having children later in life EVEN WITHOUT treatment. I think it's the preponderance of teen mothers and also the fact that in recent decades, it was in fashion to complete one's family before the age of 35 that has caused people's perceptions to shift. Prior to the invention of oral contraception, women just had babies until menopause prevented it. Older mothers is NOT a new phenomenon, rather, having babies only in the 20's and early 30's is the new phenomenon, historically speaking anyway.

I haven't had the grandma comment yet but I'm waiting. I know it's coming. I also look younger than my age but I'm 50 now so can't ride on that much longer!
Maybe I'm more conscious of it as my older half-brother was born to his mother at around 45-46 (probably not coincidentally, just before the advent of reliable, hormonal bc), but for as far as it is from the norm, it's still not unusual for women to have kids in their mid or late forties *if they're not preventing conception*. And, I know I've said this before, but I think that's why my parents weren't so stressed, at least as I perceived it, about being mid-life parents: they had lived most of their lives in the world before widely available and reliable bc. But it's weird how people today assume what they're seeing is a naturally imposed pattern. Maggie (in VA)
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Joined: July 23rd, 2008, 6:49 am

April 4th, 2012, 6:19 pm #10

I am very curious about fertility rates and birth outcomes prior to oral contraception and abortion availability. Were there more Down's syndrome babies in eras where women had babies later in life? It seems like we would have heard about that. I'm thinking it wouldn't have made a significant impact on the overall number of Down's babies because it is a misnomer that older women contribute the majority of Down's babies to the world - they do not. A higher NUMBER of Down's babies are born to YOUNG women simply because the birth rate is higher among young women - but of babies born to older women, there is a higher PERCENTAGE of Down's babies. I also want to know if environmental factors have contributed to more birth defects, but it also seems that would be balanced out by the better medical care of recent years too.

Not sure if I've made my questions clear. There is so much to consider and the topic confuses me, trying to sort it all out.

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