FET done... need some support

FET done... need some support

Joined: August 20th, 2009, 7:03 pm

May 20th, 2012, 5:45 pm #1

Hi Girls,

I'm home from my FET. We had four embryos frozen on day 3 back in 2010 (two 10-cells, one 9-cell, and one 7-cell). The lab thawed the 9-cell and 7-cell embryos, which surprised me because I'd figured they would start with the 10-cellers.

Both embryos survived the thaw.
My 9-cell thawed to a 7-cell.
My 7-cell thawed to a 3-cell.
My initial reaction was that these results were not too good.

The resident RE told me they look to transfer embryos that near 8-cell at an FET of 3-day embryos. When I asked why they bypassed thawing my two original 10-cellers, he said those might be "too accelerated" and the 9-cell and 7-cell were more likely to reach the magic 8-cell FET goal.

The resident RE said that both embryos were fine quality to transfer, but because we do not want more twins, we agreed to transfer only the 7-cell embryo.

A part of me felt really, really sad when the attending RE told me the 3-cell embryo would be discarded.

The attending RE told me the embryo looked "very nice" and asked me how old I was when I generated these embryos. I reminded him that our donor was 24. His face took on an even happier aspect, and he said: "Oh well then, this will be a robust embryo. I'd say you have at least 40% chance of success here, and I'm being very conservative."

The transfer went smoothly. He congratulated me, and that was all.

Now home, I'm feeling uneasy:

1.) I am researching FET and seeing that most women who successfully delivered one live baby had transferred as many as 4 embryos (some blasts). My clinic, by the way. only goes to day 3. I know single embryo transfer was the right choice, yet I feel sad and suspect my success rate will suffer.

2.) The doctors know best, but I really wish they had thawed my 10-cell embryos.

Anyone able to help me feel better?

xo
cat

P.S. Beta June 1.
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Joined: September 26th, 2008, 9:06 pm

May 20th, 2012, 6:34 pm #2

but you know you still have those 10 cell ones waiting as a good piece of insurance.

I think if an RE ever told me cheerfully that he felt I had a 40% chance, I'd feel pretty good about how things has gone. But I think sometimes it's a bit of a defense mechanism for us to not feel too optimistic.

I can well understand your sadness about the embryo that was discarded. That is hard.

It sounds like your chances are quite good. Hang on to that!
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Joined: April 29th, 2004, 3:14 am

May 20th, 2012, 7:19 pm #3

Hi Girls,

I'm home from my FET. We had four embryos frozen on day 3 back in 2010 (two 10-cells, one 9-cell, and one 7-cell). The lab thawed the 9-cell and 7-cell embryos, which surprised me because I'd figured they would start with the 10-cellers.

Both embryos survived the thaw.
My 9-cell thawed to a 7-cell.
My 7-cell thawed to a 3-cell.
My initial reaction was that these results were not too good.

The resident RE told me they look to transfer embryos that near 8-cell at an FET of 3-day embryos. When I asked why they bypassed thawing my two original 10-cellers, he said those might be "too accelerated" and the 9-cell and 7-cell were more likely to reach the magic 8-cell FET goal.

The resident RE said that both embryos were fine quality to transfer, but because we do not want more twins, we agreed to transfer only the 7-cell embryo.

A part of me felt really, really sad when the attending RE told me the 3-cell embryo would be discarded.

The attending RE told me the embryo looked "very nice" and asked me how old I was when I generated these embryos. I reminded him that our donor was 24. His face took on an even happier aspect, and he said: "Oh well then, this will be a robust embryo. I'd say you have at least 40% chance of success here, and I'm being very conservative."

The transfer went smoothly. He congratulated me, and that was all.

Now home, I'm feeling uneasy:

1.) I am researching FET and seeing that most women who successfully delivered one live baby had transferred as many as 4 embryos (some blasts). My clinic, by the way. only goes to day 3. I know single embryo transfer was the right choice, yet I feel sad and suspect my success rate will suffer.

2.) The doctors know best, but I really wish they had thawed my 10-cell embryos.

Anyone able to help me feel better?

xo
cat

P.S. Beta June 1.
I will say..I dont remember all the details of cells.
This is what I remember
out of 13 frozen: first vial no one made it
So they thawed all out of 11
9 made it
4 of various growth place in me.
and the rest discarded..to this day makes me sad.
I thought door was closed, I thought that chapter of my life done.
But the nurse said have faith,
Re wouldnt havent place em if he didnt think there was a possibility.
Never thought I was pg.
Never felt like I was pg.
2 took and they are the best 8yr gg twins ever.
have faith. HUGS.
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Joined: February 6th, 2007, 1:08 am

May 20th, 2012, 10:38 pm #4

Hi Girls,

I'm home from my FET. We had four embryos frozen on day 3 back in 2010 (two 10-cells, one 9-cell, and one 7-cell). The lab thawed the 9-cell and 7-cell embryos, which surprised me because I'd figured they would start with the 10-cellers.

Both embryos survived the thaw.
My 9-cell thawed to a 7-cell.
My 7-cell thawed to a 3-cell.
My initial reaction was that these results were not too good.

The resident RE told me they look to transfer embryos that near 8-cell at an FET of 3-day embryos. When I asked why they bypassed thawing my two original 10-cellers, he said those might be "too accelerated" and the 9-cell and 7-cell were more likely to reach the magic 8-cell FET goal.

The resident RE said that both embryos were fine quality to transfer, but because we do not want more twins, we agreed to transfer only the 7-cell embryo.

A part of me felt really, really sad when the attending RE told me the 3-cell embryo would be discarded.

The attending RE told me the embryo looked "very nice" and asked me how old I was when I generated these embryos. I reminded him that our donor was 24. His face took on an even happier aspect, and he said: "Oh well then, this will be a robust embryo. I'd say you have at least 40% chance of success here, and I'm being very conservative."

The transfer went smoothly. He congratulated me, and that was all.

Now home, I'm feeling uneasy:

1.) I am researching FET and seeing that most women who successfully delivered one live baby had transferred as many as 4 embryos (some blasts). My clinic, by the way. only goes to day 3. I know single embryo transfer was the right choice, yet I feel sad and suspect my success rate will suffer.

2.) The doctors know best, but I really wish they had thawed my 10-cell embryos.

Anyone able to help me feel better?

xo
cat

P.S. Beta June 1.
When we defrost embryos for FET we tend to grow them from Day 3 to day 4 or day 5 but a 7 cell defrosted from a 9 cell sounds to be doing well, we would not transfer a 3 cell from a 7 cell, we discard embryos that lose more than 50% of their cells. The 7 cell to me sounds great. Good luck.



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Joined: December 10th, 2008, 6:33 pm

May 21st, 2012, 3:19 am #5

Hi Girls,

I'm home from my FET. We had four embryos frozen on day 3 back in 2010 (two 10-cells, one 9-cell, and one 7-cell). The lab thawed the 9-cell and 7-cell embryos, which surprised me because I'd figured they would start with the 10-cellers.

Both embryos survived the thaw.
My 9-cell thawed to a 7-cell.
My 7-cell thawed to a 3-cell.
My initial reaction was that these results were not too good.

The resident RE told me they look to transfer embryos that near 8-cell at an FET of 3-day embryos. When I asked why they bypassed thawing my two original 10-cellers, he said those might be "too accelerated" and the 9-cell and 7-cell were more likely to reach the magic 8-cell FET goal.

The resident RE said that both embryos were fine quality to transfer, but because we do not want more twins, we agreed to transfer only the 7-cell embryo.

A part of me felt really, really sad when the attending RE told me the 3-cell embryo would be discarded.

The attending RE told me the embryo looked "very nice" and asked me how old I was when I generated these embryos. I reminded him that our donor was 24. His face took on an even happier aspect, and he said: "Oh well then, this will be a robust embryo. I'd say you have at least 40% chance of success here, and I'm being very conservative."

The transfer went smoothly. He congratulated me, and that was all.

Now home, I'm feeling uneasy:

1.) I am researching FET and seeing that most women who successfully delivered one live baby had transferred as many as 4 embryos (some blasts). My clinic, by the way. only goes to day 3. I know single embryo transfer was the right choice, yet I feel sad and suspect my success rate will suffer.

2.) The doctors know best, but I really wish they had thawed my 10-cell embryos.

Anyone able to help me feel better?

xo
cat

P.S. Beta June 1.
It's so so hard isn't it???? I think the girls are doing excellent in giving advice and praying your little one is nestling in.
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Joined: August 22nd, 2008, 3:29 pm

May 21st, 2012, 3:57 am #6

Hi Girls,

I'm home from my FET. We had four embryos frozen on day 3 back in 2010 (two 10-cells, one 9-cell, and one 7-cell). The lab thawed the 9-cell and 7-cell embryos, which surprised me because I'd figured they would start with the 10-cellers.

Both embryos survived the thaw.
My 9-cell thawed to a 7-cell.
My 7-cell thawed to a 3-cell.
My initial reaction was that these results were not too good.

The resident RE told me they look to transfer embryos that near 8-cell at an FET of 3-day embryos. When I asked why they bypassed thawing my two original 10-cellers, he said those might be "too accelerated" and the 9-cell and 7-cell were more likely to reach the magic 8-cell FET goal.

The resident RE said that both embryos were fine quality to transfer, but because we do not want more twins, we agreed to transfer only the 7-cell embryo.

A part of me felt really, really sad when the attending RE told me the 3-cell embryo would be discarded.

The attending RE told me the embryo looked "very nice" and asked me how old I was when I generated these embryos. I reminded him that our donor was 24. His face took on an even happier aspect, and he said: "Oh well then, this will be a robust embryo. I'd say you have at least 40% chance of success here, and I'm being very conservative."

The transfer went smoothly. He congratulated me, and that was all.

Now home, I'm feeling uneasy:

1.) I am researching FET and seeing that most women who successfully delivered one live baby had transferred as many as 4 embryos (some blasts). My clinic, by the way. only goes to day 3. I know single embryo transfer was the right choice, yet I feel sad and suspect my success rate will suffer.

2.) The doctors know best, but I really wish they had thawed my 10-cell embryos.

Anyone able to help me feel better?

xo
cat

P.S. Beta June 1.
before you see it.' So take lots of deep breaths into your womb and believe that your little one is snuggling in for the long haul. I don't know much about 3 dayers but I have read many many times that embryos do better inside a real womb than continuing to grow in the petri dish so hold onto that vision....and believe in your soulbaby..he/she has been waiting for you...until then trust that no matter what...all shall be well...it ALWAYS is. HUGS...b/c I know it is hard but the most beautiful babies on this board have come from day 3 FET's. Finally, if there was ever a time to grow as a soul...it is during the 2 weeks so enjoy the journey...and try not to focus too much on June 1st...for now you are with your little ones.

Holding the vision for you, Cat, Your bud, Hope

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Joined: February 25th, 2010, 8:30 pm

May 21st, 2012, 7:24 pm #7

Hi Girls,

I'm home from my FET. We had four embryos frozen on day 3 back in 2010 (two 10-cells, one 9-cell, and one 7-cell). The lab thawed the 9-cell and 7-cell embryos, which surprised me because I'd figured they would start with the 10-cellers.

Both embryos survived the thaw.
My 9-cell thawed to a 7-cell.
My 7-cell thawed to a 3-cell.
My initial reaction was that these results were not too good.

The resident RE told me they look to transfer embryos that near 8-cell at an FET of 3-day embryos. When I asked why they bypassed thawing my two original 10-cellers, he said those might be "too accelerated" and the 9-cell and 7-cell were more likely to reach the magic 8-cell FET goal.

The resident RE said that both embryos were fine quality to transfer, but because we do not want more twins, we agreed to transfer only the 7-cell embryo.

A part of me felt really, really sad when the attending RE told me the 3-cell embryo would be discarded.

The attending RE told me the embryo looked "very nice" and asked me how old I was when I generated these embryos. I reminded him that our donor was 24. His face took on an even happier aspect, and he said: "Oh well then, this will be a robust embryo. I'd say you have at least 40% chance of success here, and I'm being very conservative."

The transfer went smoothly. He congratulated me, and that was all.

Now home, I'm feeling uneasy:

1.) I am researching FET and seeing that most women who successfully delivered one live baby had transferred as many as 4 embryos (some blasts). My clinic, by the way. only goes to day 3. I know single embryo transfer was the right choice, yet I feel sad and suspect my success rate will suffer.

2.) The doctors know best, but I really wish they had thawed my 10-cell embryos.

Anyone able to help me feel better?

xo
cat

P.S. Beta June 1.
I know this is such a tough process. I am hoping you are finding some peace with your decisions and your clinic's decision today. I am rooting for you Cat. Hugs to you and your family. PAH
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