I'm home from my FET. We had four embryos frozen on day 3 back in 2010 (two 10-cells, one 9-cell, and one 7-cell). The lab thawed the 9-cell and 7-cell embryos, which surprised me because I'd figured they would start with the 10-cellers.
Both embryos survived the thaw.
My 9-cell thawed to a 7-cell.
My 7-cell thawed to a 3-cell.
My initial reaction was that these results were not too good.
The resident RE told me they look to transfer embryos that near 8-cell at an FET of 3-day embryos. When I asked why they bypassed thawing my two original 10-cellers, he said those might be "too accelerated" and the 9-cell and 7-cell were more likely to reach the magic 8-cell FET goal.
The resident RE said that both embryos were fine quality to transfer, but because we do not want more twins, we agreed to transfer only the 7-cell embryo.
A part of me felt really, really sad when the attending RE told me the 3-cell embryo would be discarded.
The attending RE told me the embryo looked "very nice" and asked me how old I was when I generated these embryos. I reminded him that our donor was 24. His face took on an even happier aspect, and he said: "Oh well then, this will be a robust embryo. I'd say you have at least 40% chance of success here, and I'm being very conservative."
The transfer went smoothly. He congratulated me, and that was all.
Now home, I'm feeling uneasy:
1.) I am researching FET and seeing that most women who successfully delivered one live baby had transferred as many as 4 embryos (some blasts). My clinic, by the way. only goes to day 3. I know single embryo transfer was the right choice, yet I feel sad and suspect my success rate will suffer.
2.) The doctors know best, but I really wish they had thawed my 10-cell embryos.
Anyone able to help me feel better?
P.S. Beta June 1.
but you know you still have those 10 cell ones waiting as a good piece of insurance.
I think if an RE ever told me cheerfully that he felt I had a 40% chance, I'd feel pretty good about how things has gone. But I think sometimes it's a bit of a defense mechanism for us to not feel too optimistic.
I can well understand your sadness about the embryo that was discarded. That is hard.
It sounds like your chances are quite good. Hang on to that!