Delivery Scehduled. And I'm a little terrified.

Delivery Scehduled. And I'm a little terrified.

Joined: November 28th, 2012, 12:12 am

October 30th, 2014, 6:27 pm #1

Saw the MFM today and the babies and I are doing great. They are measuring well, my cervix is still nice and long, and the fluid still looks good. No cause for unnecessary worries.

Because we've got one breech baby, and to-date we've never had both head-down, we talked in detail about our delivery. Baby B is breech this week (they flip flop with some regularity). MFM is very comfortable going vaginal and turning Baby B. If Baby A were breech we'd absolutely do a c-section. So the ball was in my court to decide if I'd want to give a vaginal delivery a try. I feel badly but with either baby breech I'm not going vaginal. I think he was disappointed since he's sort of expert in this kind of delivery but the stress of it all would be too much for me. I was with my SIL in the delivery room in March. Her baby was getting distressed during the delivery so they did an emergency section and he coded. Fortunately they revived him and he's perfect. But it was terrifying. A short while back my cousin's baby became distressed during delivery and during the time it took to prep the OR and do the section they lost him. It was devastating. If these things weren't a part of my history I might be more open to giving a vaginal delivery with a breech baby B. All that being said, there's still time for babies to turn head down and in that case I'll give the vaginal delivery a go. I honestly don't know what I'm rooting for at this point- there is some lovely convenience and control with the section but the recovery will be rotten and extra stressful with two newborns to look after.

But I am happy to have a delivery date! 12/29! Praying we make it that far. 8 weeks to go! I feel a little emotional about it all. The time has flown by and I honestly wouldn't mind being PG a little longer. I've been so lucky having a nice easy pregnancy. I'm getting pretty good at it. I'm really anxious about how I'll do with 2 teeny babes. I know everyone figures it out, and I'm not at all afraid of hard work, but I want us all to be okay and I just have no clue how it will all go. I suppose that's parenthood- you just never know what each day will bring and you roll with it. I've got a little more time to get more relaxed.

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Joined: September 13th, 2008, 5:13 pm

October 30th, 2014, 7:28 pm #2

I don't think Freddy went head-down till about 2-3 weeks before we delivered just shy of 38. Personally, I didn't find the recovery from a c-section very hard, though I had a really good OB/GYN, but women's experiences vary really dramatically on this. Some women here have commented that a c-section was easier on them than a hard vaginal delivery. This last 6 weeks or so should take care of that desire to be pg a little longer . I hope everything goes smooth as silk, and your babies are happy and healthy. Take care, Maggie (in VA)
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October 30th, 2014, 9:35 pm #3

Saw the MFM today and the babies and I are doing great. They are measuring well, my cervix is still nice and long, and the fluid still looks good. No cause for unnecessary worries.

Because we've got one breech baby, and to-date we've never had both head-down, we talked in detail about our delivery. Baby B is breech this week (they flip flop with some regularity). MFM is very comfortable going vaginal and turning Baby B. If Baby A were breech we'd absolutely do a c-section. So the ball was in my court to decide if I'd want to give a vaginal delivery a try. I feel badly but with either baby breech I'm not going vaginal. I think he was disappointed since he's sort of expert in this kind of delivery but the stress of it all would be too much for me. I was with my SIL in the delivery room in March. Her baby was getting distressed during the delivery so they did an emergency section and he coded. Fortunately they revived him and he's perfect. But it was terrifying. A short while back my cousin's baby became distressed during delivery and during the time it took to prep the OR and do the section they lost him. It was devastating. If these things weren't a part of my history I might be more open to giving a vaginal delivery with a breech baby B. All that being said, there's still time for babies to turn head down and in that case I'll give the vaginal delivery a go. I honestly don't know what I'm rooting for at this point- there is some lovely convenience and control with the section but the recovery will be rotten and extra stressful with two newborns to look after.

But I am happy to have a delivery date! 12/29! Praying we make it that far. 8 weeks to go! I feel a little emotional about it all. The time has flown by and I honestly wouldn't mind being PG a little longer. I've been so lucky having a nice easy pregnancy. I'm getting pretty good at it. I'm really anxious about how I'll do with 2 teeny babes. I know everyone figures it out, and I'm not at all afraid of hard work, but I want us all to be okay and I just have no clue how it will all go. I suppose that's parenthood- you just never know what each day will bring and you roll with it. I've got a little more time to get more relaxed.
Same situation over here except my MFM didn't even offer a c/s if I want it. He's pushing breech extraction since A is head down and B is smaller/breech. They do them all the time... Sigh.... I'm still in denial and hoping I just go into labor on my own between now and induction day. Or that B turns. 20 days for that to happen. While I would prefer the c/s, I gave no experience with being cut open so my preference isn't based on anything other than fear of 2 large babies coming out my vag. I haven't pressed for or demanded a c/s bc I can appreciate the benefits of a vag delivery and want to do what's "best" for the girls. I can't even think about the birth complications you referenced and have to put those possibilities in a vault I can't access.

As for wanting to be pregnant longrr, I think you will change your mind on that as you get closer. I'm 35+ 1 and really miserable. It's a level of uncomfortableness I never knew existed. Sleep is pretty much non-existent bc it hurts too much --no position is comfortable. I'm pretty much in the recliner for whatever sleep I get. I feel guilty complaining as this pregnancy has been smooth with no complications--I'm grateful for that but sooooo ready for it to be over!!!
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October 31st, 2014, 12:20 am #4

Some things it just does not profit you to dwell on. Hopefully you can keep those complications locked tightly up and enjoy (?) the rest of your pregnancy and have a smooth, trouble-free delivery. So happy for you and AC in Boston too to be in the homestretch.

Re c sections, even with my extra fluff, I recovered super fast and was actually driving just 6 days later (with permission). I wish I knew why I recovered so easily so I had great tips to pass along to others but think it was sheer luck. I was up and down a 3 story townhouse and standing for hours with the babies till someone finally noticed and offered me a chair a week or two in so there was definitely no taking it easy. I think I recovered well in spite of all the activity though, not because of!
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October 31st, 2014, 3:20 am #5

Saw the MFM today and the babies and I are doing great. They are measuring well, my cervix is still nice and long, and the fluid still looks good. No cause for unnecessary worries.

Because we've got one breech baby, and to-date we've never had both head-down, we talked in detail about our delivery. Baby B is breech this week (they flip flop with some regularity). MFM is very comfortable going vaginal and turning Baby B. If Baby A were breech we'd absolutely do a c-section. So the ball was in my court to decide if I'd want to give a vaginal delivery a try. I feel badly but with either baby breech I'm not going vaginal. I think he was disappointed since he's sort of expert in this kind of delivery but the stress of it all would be too much for me. I was with my SIL in the delivery room in March. Her baby was getting distressed during the delivery so they did an emergency section and he coded. Fortunately they revived him and he's perfect. But it was terrifying. A short while back my cousin's baby became distressed during delivery and during the time it took to prep the OR and do the section they lost him. It was devastating. If these things weren't a part of my history I might be more open to giving a vaginal delivery with a breech baby B. All that being said, there's still time for babies to turn head down and in that case I'll give the vaginal delivery a go. I honestly don't know what I'm rooting for at this point- there is some lovely convenience and control with the section but the recovery will be rotten and extra stressful with two newborns to look after.

But I am happy to have a delivery date! 12/29! Praying we make it that far. 8 weeks to go! I feel a little emotional about it all. The time has flown by and I honestly wouldn't mind being PG a little longer. I've been so lucky having a nice easy pregnancy. I'm getting pretty good at it. I'm really anxious about how I'll do with 2 teeny babes. I know everyone figures it out, and I'm not at all afraid of hard work, but I want us all to be okay and I just have no clue how it will all go. I suppose that's parenthood- you just never know what each day will bring and you roll with it. I've got a little more time to get more relaxed.
You know...I know everyone wants a vaginal delivery. I did too. But my DD refused to budge after 3 1/2 of pushing so off I went to the ER. With the twins, we were planning on a c but once in the hospital they asked if I wanted to do vaginal since both were head down (where they had been for MONTHS..which is why my pelvis is wrecked!). Anyway...I said "Sure. Why not try a VBAC." They got the OR ready, however. I was going to labor in the OR; I had already had an epidural. I felt that was a really safe way to play it. Anyway, at 10 cm my twin B, who to this day is the one who just has to do things his own way, went transverse on me. So, in order to avoid a vaginal followed by a c (Can you imagine?) we just did the c. Let me tell you, a week later I was carrying those boys to a ped visit by myself because no one was there to help me. I healed quicker from that than I did my first c!

Yes, there's still time for the kiddos to get in position. Ask if you can labor in the OR just in case an emergency occurs. HOw tragic your cousin's baby was lost.

Yes, we all figure it out. Enjoy your remaining time and take good care of yourself!
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Joined: August 22nd, 2008, 3:29 pm

October 31st, 2014, 6:29 am #6

Saw the MFM today and the babies and I are doing great. They are measuring well, my cervix is still nice and long, and the fluid still looks good. No cause for unnecessary worries.

Because we've got one breech baby, and to-date we've never had both head-down, we talked in detail about our delivery. Baby B is breech this week (they flip flop with some regularity). MFM is very comfortable going vaginal and turning Baby B. If Baby A were breech we'd absolutely do a c-section. So the ball was in my court to decide if I'd want to give a vaginal delivery a try. I feel badly but with either baby breech I'm not going vaginal. I think he was disappointed since he's sort of expert in this kind of delivery but the stress of it all would be too much for me. I was with my SIL in the delivery room in March. Her baby was getting distressed during the delivery so they did an emergency section and he coded. Fortunately they revived him and he's perfect. But it was terrifying. A short while back my cousin's baby became distressed during delivery and during the time it took to prep the OR and do the section they lost him. It was devastating. If these things weren't a part of my history I might be more open to giving a vaginal delivery with a breech baby B. All that being said, there's still time for babies to turn head down and in that case I'll give the vaginal delivery a go. I honestly don't know what I'm rooting for at this point- there is some lovely convenience and control with the section but the recovery will be rotten and extra stressful with two newborns to look after.

But I am happy to have a delivery date! 12/29! Praying we make it that far. 8 weeks to go! I feel a little emotional about it all. The time has flown by and I honestly wouldn't mind being PG a little longer. I've been so lucky having a nice easy pregnancy. I'm getting pretty good at it. I'm really anxious about how I'll do with 2 teeny babes. I know everyone figures it out, and I'm not at all afraid of hard work, but I want us all to be okay and I just have no clue how it will all go. I suppose that's parenthood- you just never know what each day will bring and you roll with it. I've got a little more time to get more relaxed.
you are listening to your gut with regards to your decision regarding your delivery plans. Although I had an easy labour and delivery with my twins (baby B was breech and the bigger one) each of us, as you mentioned have our own experiences and have to make decisions based on that.

My Sacred Circle book club just discussed a book by Buddhist Nun, Pema Chodron called, "The Places That Scare Us." At the end of our discussion we went around our circle and wrote down on a piece of paper the greatest things that scare us and you know what it was for two of our sisters? ...the loss of a child....so yeah...taking the avenue with the least risk is a good idea if that is your biggest fear. (I just wrote about this book on my blog and then shared a YouTube clip from the author on Fear and Fearlessness...if you have a moment and are lying in bed rubbing your tummy..check it out.

I know for me though, since I didn't have any help after the twins arrived, I couldn't have taken care of them (Will who was only 23 months old and our other 5 children) while recovering from a C-Section...I had to be up and running immediately following their birth so my mind set was, this is going to work!...and my Dr. was on board with that as well....she too was really excited about delivering our twins vaginally. Each of us has to find a mantra that reinforces our choices and then believe in them wholeheartedly with confidence.

Reading your post takes me right back to the last little bit of my pg with our twins...it was such a special, precious time feeling two of them move inside, moving together, and I was so excited to meet them for the first time. Enjoy the rest of your pgcy and I hope you can let go and trust all is going to go exactly how it is meant...which will be perfect. All shall be well.

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October 31st, 2014, 4:29 pm #7

Saw the MFM today and the babies and I are doing great. They are measuring well, my cervix is still nice and long, and the fluid still looks good. No cause for unnecessary worries.

Because we've got one breech baby, and to-date we've never had both head-down, we talked in detail about our delivery. Baby B is breech this week (they flip flop with some regularity). MFM is very comfortable going vaginal and turning Baby B. If Baby A were breech we'd absolutely do a c-section. So the ball was in my court to decide if I'd want to give a vaginal delivery a try. I feel badly but with either baby breech I'm not going vaginal. I think he was disappointed since he's sort of expert in this kind of delivery but the stress of it all would be too much for me. I was with my SIL in the delivery room in March. Her baby was getting distressed during the delivery so they did an emergency section and he coded. Fortunately they revived him and he's perfect. But it was terrifying. A short while back my cousin's baby became distressed during delivery and during the time it took to prep the OR and do the section they lost him. It was devastating. If these things weren't a part of my history I might be more open to giving a vaginal delivery with a breech baby B. All that being said, there's still time for babies to turn head down and in that case I'll give the vaginal delivery a go. I honestly don't know what I'm rooting for at this point- there is some lovely convenience and control with the section but the recovery will be rotten and extra stressful with two newborns to look after.

But I am happy to have a delivery date! 12/29! Praying we make it that far. 8 weeks to go! I feel a little emotional about it all. The time has flown by and I honestly wouldn't mind being PG a little longer. I've been so lucky having a nice easy pregnancy. I'm getting pretty good at it. I'm really anxious about how I'll do with 2 teeny babes. I know everyone figures it out, and I'm not at all afraid of hard work, but I want us all to be okay and I just have no clue how it will all go. I suppose that's parenthood- you just never know what each day will bring and you roll with it. I've got a little more time to get more relaxed.
This was all so different-- few Drs would have given you the choice! My singleton was breech and I was never given the option of a vaginal delivery. Yes, recovery w/ a C-section can be rough, but if you have a few weeks of help, I think you'll be ok.

It's exciting to have a date! Congrats on that and hope the rest of the wait is smooth sailing!
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Joined: September 13th, 2008, 5:13 pm

October 31st, 2014, 6:13 pm #8

Some things it just does not profit you to dwell on. Hopefully you can keep those complications locked tightly up and enjoy (?) the rest of your pregnancy and have a smooth, trouble-free delivery. So happy for you and AC in Boston too to be in the homestretch.

Re c sections, even with my extra fluff, I recovered super fast and was actually driving just 6 days later (with permission). I wish I knew why I recovered so easily so I had great tips to pass along to others but think it was sheer luck. I was up and down a 3 story townhouse and standing for hours with the babies till someone finally noticed and offered me a chair a week or two in so there was definitely no taking it easy. I think I recovered well in spite of all the activity though, not because of!
And that applies to so many things in life. I'll have to keep that handy for future occasions. Maggie (in VA)
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Joined: September 29th, 2013, 1:44 pm

October 31st, 2014, 7:19 pm #9

Saw the MFM today and the babies and I are doing great. They are measuring well, my cervix is still nice and long, and the fluid still looks good. No cause for unnecessary worries.

Because we've got one breech baby, and to-date we've never had both head-down, we talked in detail about our delivery. Baby B is breech this week (they flip flop with some regularity). MFM is very comfortable going vaginal and turning Baby B. If Baby A were breech we'd absolutely do a c-section. So the ball was in my court to decide if I'd want to give a vaginal delivery a try. I feel badly but with either baby breech I'm not going vaginal. I think he was disappointed since he's sort of expert in this kind of delivery but the stress of it all would be too much for me. I was with my SIL in the delivery room in March. Her baby was getting distressed during the delivery so they did an emergency section and he coded. Fortunately they revived him and he's perfect. But it was terrifying. A short while back my cousin's baby became distressed during delivery and during the time it took to prep the OR and do the section they lost him. It was devastating. If these things weren't a part of my history I might be more open to giving a vaginal delivery with a breech baby B. All that being said, there's still time for babies to turn head down and in that case I'll give the vaginal delivery a go. I honestly don't know what I'm rooting for at this point- there is some lovely convenience and control with the section but the recovery will be rotten and extra stressful with two newborns to look after.

But I am happy to have a delivery date! 12/29! Praying we make it that far. 8 weeks to go! I feel a little emotional about it all. The time has flown by and I honestly wouldn't mind being PG a little longer. I've been so lucky having a nice easy pregnancy. I'm getting pretty good at it. I'm really anxious about how I'll do with 2 teeny babes. I know everyone figures it out, and I'm not at all afraid of hard work, but I want us all to be okay and I just have no clue how it will all go. I suppose that's parenthood- you just never know what each day will bring and you roll with it. I've got a little more time to get more relaxed.
Hi AC,

Yes, our life experiences do alter our judgments but this is life. I, for one, am very happy that you are requesting a C/S. When I was a young student nurse many years ago a doctor could not get a singleton breech baby out and the baby died while he tried. When the mother awakened she pulled me down on top of her crying that she could not believe that she lost another baby. To this day, I wonder if that same doctor did something wrong the first time also. In my mind breech = C/S. I know that I'm biased but a brain injury or the like in a newborn is a life-long problem.

FWIW several of my friends have had C/Ss after a vaginal delivery and all have said that they preferred the surgery to labor and vaginal delivery.

B
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October 31st, 2014, 7:51 pm #10

Saw the MFM today and the babies and I are doing great. They are measuring well, my cervix is still nice and long, and the fluid still looks good. No cause for unnecessary worries.

Because we've got one breech baby, and to-date we've never had both head-down, we talked in detail about our delivery. Baby B is breech this week (they flip flop with some regularity). MFM is very comfortable going vaginal and turning Baby B. If Baby A were breech we'd absolutely do a c-section. So the ball was in my court to decide if I'd want to give a vaginal delivery a try. I feel badly but with either baby breech I'm not going vaginal. I think he was disappointed since he's sort of expert in this kind of delivery but the stress of it all would be too much for me. I was with my SIL in the delivery room in March. Her baby was getting distressed during the delivery so they did an emergency section and he coded. Fortunately they revived him and he's perfect. But it was terrifying. A short while back my cousin's baby became distressed during delivery and during the time it took to prep the OR and do the section they lost him. It was devastating. If these things weren't a part of my history I might be more open to giving a vaginal delivery with a breech baby B. All that being said, there's still time for babies to turn head down and in that case I'll give the vaginal delivery a go. I honestly don't know what I'm rooting for at this point- there is some lovely convenience and control with the section but the recovery will be rotten and extra stressful with two newborns to look after.

But I am happy to have a delivery date! 12/29! Praying we make it that far. 8 weeks to go! I feel a little emotional about it all. The time has flown by and I honestly wouldn't mind being PG a little longer. I've been so lucky having a nice easy pregnancy. I'm getting pretty good at it. I'm really anxious about how I'll do with 2 teeny babes. I know everyone figures it out, and I'm not at all afraid of hard work, but I want us all to be okay and I just have no clue how it will all go. I suppose that's parenthood- you just never know what each day will bring and you roll with it. I've got a little more time to get more relaxed.
I think you are making the right choice....go with what your gut and heart tells you is best. It is your body and your babies. Those instincts will come in very handy as a Mommy. In the beginning when I was less confident as a Mom I would do what I was told even if it didn't feel right because the professionals told me so. Within a couple of months, I realized I knew best when it came to my DS.

I had similar feeling of anxiety about not wanting the pregnancy to end until about 35 or 36 weeks. They I started to get uncomfortable and was anxious to deliver. At 40 weeks and 4 days, I saw my OB on a Monday. She agreed to start an induction on Tuesday night. I was excited all day Monday but I woke up Tuesday morning freaking out that today was "the day." I cried as my DH took pictures of me pregnant before we left for the hospital . I remember distinctly feeling like I was mourning the lass of this wonderful part of our journey. I cried on an off for the fifty minute ride to the hospital. There were a couple of tears as we checked in but once we were there everyone was so wonderful I was excited and much less scared.

I ended up having a c-section after a very long labor because my DD was head down but facing transverse. OB tried to turn her but was unable because her head was large and could drop low enough into my pelvis. I had a very easy recovery. For me I think the key was getting up and moving. We did a lot of walking around the post partum ward. I'm currently getting ready to cycle for a sibling. I'm petite. If I get pregnant again and the baby is measuring large with a large head (a trait from my DH), I would definitely opt for c-section again.

Good luck and enjoy these last weeks of your pregnancy. There will be so many amazing and wonderful things ahead.
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