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April 3rd, 2012, 10:31 am #1

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thesameboat
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April 3rd, 2012, 12:28 pm #2

it's only ONE door that's closed. Not most of them.

I don't know you, so it's very hard for me to try to guess different careers that might suit you. I do agree thqt teaching is NOT for everyone and one surefire way to end up unhappy is to go into a career you're not suited for just because of school holidays, etc. You aren't under a lot of time pressure, right? Look around and try to watch other people with different sorts of jobs.

What was it about police work that interested you? Are those qualities that other jobs have? What other interests do you have?

Can I please also give you a gentle reminder that it's considered polite to put headers in your post if you might be bringing up or mentioning a topic that others might find painful to read? (child mentioned) is enough. Most of the ladies on this board have not been blessed with a child yet and might not find it easy to read posts in which yours is mentioned. Other mentions that are appreciated are for death, miscarriage, abortion, divorce etc.

Wishing you luck in your search and that tomorrow is a day without tears.
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April 3rd, 2012, 1:20 pm #3

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she couldn't get in the police force for some reason. she applied for a job answering emergency calls and got it, it was shift work and quite well paid, she was then promoted over and over and now is in charge of the whole call centre. at one stage she was a female counsellor going to see ladies who had been raped etc. she loves her job and it was relatively easy to get into and once you are in at any level you can progress from there. Hope you find something you love.
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April 3rd, 2012, 2:34 pm #4

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It is not fair to the ladies who have not been blessed with a child, and have been struggling with infertility for years, and possibly spent a lot of money on it as well (with no success so far), to start complaining about your indecision on what to do with your career now that you have a child.

Sorry for the harsh words, but pls. take your post to the pink board, or somewhere else.
Or at least add (OE child mentioned) in the title of your post.
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Joined: May 10th, 2011, 11:57 pm

April 3rd, 2012, 3:15 pm #5

I agree that the poster ought to have included "child mentioned" (and perhaps "OT" as well) in the subject line, but she IS here because she is trying to have a second child. As far as I know, the yellow board is not restricted to those who are childless (or if so, maybe I should remove myself now?). If she wants to vent here about her job issues, those who don't wish to read it don't have to.
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April 3rd, 2012, 3:29 pm #6

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when one one door closes, he opens another. That other door has abundant opportunities. Now is the time to research and take a good look at all the other things you might be interested in. Since you do have lots of working years ahead of you, take the time to prepare for something you would really love and have a passion for. This is the time to dig deep and really find out about you. It is a wonderful opportunity.

I am sorry that things didn't work out the way you planned, but I am sure that there is even something better in the future for you. So dry you tears and get to work on researching other opportunities and lay the ground work (training/education) to do it.
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April 3rd, 2012, 3:31 pm #7

It is not fair to the ladies who have not been blessed with a child, and have been struggling with infertility for years, and possibly spent a lot of money on it as well (with no success so far), to start complaining about your indecision on what to do with your career now that you have a child.

Sorry for the harsh words, but pls. take your post to the pink board, or somewhere else.
Or at least add (OE child mentioned) in the title of your post.
And an ugly way to say them, and while I completely agree this was a message more appropriate to the pink board, there is no excuse for being unkind about a sincere post. I am sorry for your IF struggle, Ms. Anonymous, but if your bitterness is going to prevent you from communicating civilly, maybe you need to find a different place for support. This is why I really dislike the anonymous posting feature of this board; there are enough ways for women to protect their anonymity while requiring a logon. As it is, we have spammers and trolls intermittently disrupting the board.

Maggie (in VA)
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April 3rd, 2012, 3:35 pm #8

I agree that the poster ought to have included "child mentioned" (and perhaps "OT" as well) in the subject line, but she IS here because she is trying to have a second child. As far as I know, the yellow board is not restricted to those who are childless (or if so, maybe I should remove myself now?). If she wants to vent here about her job issues, those who don't wish to read it don't have to.
I'm very sorry for my harsh words and for offending anyone. I may have reacted too quickly; but that is how I felt after reading the post.
And now I cannot edit or delete my post either.
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April 3rd, 2012, 3:51 pm #9

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Good for you that you found this out sooner rather than later!

Good for you that you have your priorities straight and realize that YOU want to raise your daughter and not outsource it!

Struggling with infertility does not make you (or any of us) a failure as a woman!

Put things in perspective, my dear. It sounds to me as if you are very blessed Husband, child, etc. Adopt an attitude of gratitude and you'll be amazed at the path that opens in front of you. It really will be OK

Jobs come and careers go - but true love (i.e., your family) is forever!

(HUGS!)

CL

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April 3rd, 2012, 4:03 pm #10

I'm very sorry for my harsh words and for offending anyone. I may have reacted too quickly; but that is how I felt after reading the post.
And now I cannot edit or delete my post either.
If we see we have spoken in haste, we can do more than simply repent at leisure. Definitely think twice before putting words out there that you can't take back, especially when posting as "anonymous" because it sheds a bad light on all posters who prefer to remain anonymous.
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