brushing teeth - becoming huge problem...

brushing teeth - becoming huge problem...

Joined: November 10th, 2004, 4:12 am

July 2nd, 2012, 3:52 am #1

I began brushing DS's teeth when he only had 2 or 3. He LOVED the little blue finger thing and would laugh and want more brushing (and, of course, bite the heck out of me). During a particularly busy couple months at work (I was at office until midnight or even later at times), I turned all this over to DH who, I can only assume, had a much different method that didn't involve playing. I believe it involved more holding him down on the changing table or in the high chair after eating and brushing away no matter whether he was ok with it or not.

I don't want to dwell on what he could have done or should have done (I've already done that to some extent and it, of course, doesn't get us anywhere but into a big argument), fact is, it is now a HUGE battle to get DS to brush teeth. He screams and cries and clenches his mouth shut and fights and just seems SO upset. He won't play with me and "Mr. Blue-Finger" any more and literally runs when he sees that little blue finger brush. It makes me so sad b/c he use to chase after me to get to Mr. Blue-finger.

I see all these cute suggestions on other sites about talk to him reason with him, let him see you brush your teeth, tickle him, have fun in the bath with it, etc, etc -- it simply doesn't work - I've tried for hours at a time for the last few weeks trying to make it non-upsetting to him and it just always culminates in holding him down and screaming. It would literally be a full time job trying to brush his teeth 3 times a day if I continue trying to reason with him this way, and, again, it usually ends up in a fight anyway. So what do I do? Do we hold him down and force him? Will he eventually NOT get so upset or is that just the wrong way to go about it.

It's truly the one thing that is just not working with him right now. He's 19 months so I really can't explain things to him or give him gold stars or even bribe him with toys much. I HATE seeing him so upset but if that's the only way, that's what we'll do. I just left him in tears after our latest wrestling match and it just breaks my heart, but I'll do it if I know it's the only way and it will get better.

Anyone else have this issue? Does it get easier if you force it? Can he be traumatized by continuing this? Should we just NOT brush his teeth for a while until we can reason with him? I truly don't know what to do.

I did see a post where the suggestion was to simply let them come to terms with brushing slowly even if the job doesn't get done. Has anyone here done this and did their LO still have healthy baby teeth by the time they began brushing finally?

sas

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July 2nd, 2012, 4:08 am #2

She loved it so we didn't have to struggle with teeth brushing anymore. They come with all different characters on them too...we started with Thomas but are now using Sponge Bob (even though she has never seen the show...lol!)

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Joined: November 10th, 2004, 4:12 am

July 2nd, 2012, 4:30 am #3

did she truly HATE having a brush in her mouth before you got it. I just really think DS is just dead set against ANY attempts...but I'll try it if you think it will work.

Thanks,

sas
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Joined: October 9th, 2008, 2:53 am

July 2nd, 2012, 4:49 am #4

I began brushing DS's teeth when he only had 2 or 3. He LOVED the little blue finger thing and would laugh and want more brushing (and, of course, bite the heck out of me). During a particularly busy couple months at work (I was at office until midnight or even later at times), I turned all this over to DH who, I can only assume, had a much different method that didn't involve playing. I believe it involved more holding him down on the changing table or in the high chair after eating and brushing away no matter whether he was ok with it or not.

I don't want to dwell on what he could have done or should have done (I've already done that to some extent and it, of course, doesn't get us anywhere but into a big argument), fact is, it is now a HUGE battle to get DS to brush teeth. He screams and cries and clenches his mouth shut and fights and just seems SO upset. He won't play with me and "Mr. Blue-Finger" any more and literally runs when he sees that little blue finger brush. It makes me so sad b/c he use to chase after me to get to Mr. Blue-finger.

I see all these cute suggestions on other sites about talk to him reason with him, let him see you brush your teeth, tickle him, have fun in the bath with it, etc, etc -- it simply doesn't work - I've tried for hours at a time for the last few weeks trying to make it non-upsetting to him and it just always culminates in holding him down and screaming. It would literally be a full time job trying to brush his teeth 3 times a day if I continue trying to reason with him this way, and, again, it usually ends up in a fight anyway. So what do I do? Do we hold him down and force him? Will he eventually NOT get so upset or is that just the wrong way to go about it.

It's truly the one thing that is just not working with him right now. He's 19 months so I really can't explain things to him or give him gold stars or even bribe him with toys much. I HATE seeing him so upset but if that's the only way, that's what we'll do. I just left him in tears after our latest wrestling match and it just breaks my heart, but I'll do it if I know it's the only way and it will get better.

Anyone else have this issue? Does it get easier if you force it? Can he be traumatized by continuing this? Should we just NOT brush his teeth for a while until we can reason with him? I truly don't know what to do.

I did see a post where the suggestion was to simply let them come to terms with brushing slowly even if the job doesn't get done. Has anyone here done this and did their LO still have healthy baby teeth by the time they began brushing finally?

sas
Hi sas, am sorry to hear of the toothbrush.
In my humble opinion I think what even happens that toddlers like to feel part of the world. They like to do what everyone else does. With that in mind don't make a big deal out of not brushing. Just have everyone on your household brush their teeth each morning after breakfast. Give your lo his toothbrush and put toothpaste on it etc. then you all get your own and. Brush away.
It is like putting on sox and shoes... Everyone brushes their teeth and if you don't you are kind of missing out.
Good luck, it's a hard one, best thk.
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Joined: March 25th, 2008, 8:46 pm

July 2nd, 2012, 5:04 am #5

I began brushing DS's teeth when he only had 2 or 3. He LOVED the little blue finger thing and would laugh and want more brushing (and, of course, bite the heck out of me). During a particularly busy couple months at work (I was at office until midnight or even later at times), I turned all this over to DH who, I can only assume, had a much different method that didn't involve playing. I believe it involved more holding him down on the changing table or in the high chair after eating and brushing away no matter whether he was ok with it or not.

I don't want to dwell on what he could have done or should have done (I've already done that to some extent and it, of course, doesn't get us anywhere but into a big argument), fact is, it is now a HUGE battle to get DS to brush teeth. He screams and cries and clenches his mouth shut and fights and just seems SO upset. He won't play with me and "Mr. Blue-Finger" any more and literally runs when he sees that little blue finger brush. It makes me so sad b/c he use to chase after me to get to Mr. Blue-finger.

I see all these cute suggestions on other sites about talk to him reason with him, let him see you brush your teeth, tickle him, have fun in the bath with it, etc, etc -- it simply doesn't work - I've tried for hours at a time for the last few weeks trying to make it non-upsetting to him and it just always culminates in holding him down and screaming. It would literally be a full time job trying to brush his teeth 3 times a day if I continue trying to reason with him this way, and, again, it usually ends up in a fight anyway. So what do I do? Do we hold him down and force him? Will he eventually NOT get so upset or is that just the wrong way to go about it.

It's truly the one thing that is just not working with him right now. He's 19 months so I really can't explain things to him or give him gold stars or even bribe him with toys much. I HATE seeing him so upset but if that's the only way, that's what we'll do. I just left him in tears after our latest wrestling match and it just breaks my heart, but I'll do it if I know it's the only way and it will get better.

Anyone else have this issue? Does it get easier if you force it? Can he be traumatized by continuing this? Should we just NOT brush his teeth for a while until we can reason with him? I truly don't know what to do.

I did see a post where the suggestion was to simply let them come to terms with brushing slowly even if the job doesn't get done. Has anyone here done this and did their LO still have healthy baby teeth by the time they began brushing finally?

sas
Maybe some yummy Tom's of Maine Silly Strawberry to put on it? (My kids think it is yummy in any event). I know he is kinda old for it but if all else fails maybe something like this:http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Buddy-Babys- ... toothbrush? I'd definitely pitch the blue finger thing.

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Joined: June 2nd, 2007, 7:45 am

July 2nd, 2012, 9:32 am #6

I began brushing DS's teeth when he only had 2 or 3. He LOVED the little blue finger thing and would laugh and want more brushing (and, of course, bite the heck out of me). During a particularly busy couple months at work (I was at office until midnight or even later at times), I turned all this over to DH who, I can only assume, had a much different method that didn't involve playing. I believe it involved more holding him down on the changing table or in the high chair after eating and brushing away no matter whether he was ok with it or not.

I don't want to dwell on what he could have done or should have done (I've already done that to some extent and it, of course, doesn't get us anywhere but into a big argument), fact is, it is now a HUGE battle to get DS to brush teeth. He screams and cries and clenches his mouth shut and fights and just seems SO upset. He won't play with me and "Mr. Blue-Finger" any more and literally runs when he sees that little blue finger brush. It makes me so sad b/c he use to chase after me to get to Mr. Blue-finger.

I see all these cute suggestions on other sites about talk to him reason with him, let him see you brush your teeth, tickle him, have fun in the bath with it, etc, etc -- it simply doesn't work - I've tried for hours at a time for the last few weeks trying to make it non-upsetting to him and it just always culminates in holding him down and screaming. It would literally be a full time job trying to brush his teeth 3 times a day if I continue trying to reason with him this way, and, again, it usually ends up in a fight anyway. So what do I do? Do we hold him down and force him? Will he eventually NOT get so upset or is that just the wrong way to go about it.

It's truly the one thing that is just not working with him right now. He's 19 months so I really can't explain things to him or give him gold stars or even bribe him with toys much. I HATE seeing him so upset but if that's the only way, that's what we'll do. I just left him in tears after our latest wrestling match and it just breaks my heart, but I'll do it if I know it's the only way and it will get better.

Anyone else have this issue? Does it get easier if you force it? Can he be traumatized by continuing this? Should we just NOT brush his teeth for a while until we can reason with him? I truly don't know what to do.

I did see a post where the suggestion was to simply let them come to terms with brushing slowly even if the job doesn't get done. Has anyone here done this and did their LO still have healthy baby teeth by the time they began brushing finally?

sas
and may already have been .....I totally get that it was out of your control, but I reckon tooth brushing is something kids come to in their own time and if you can just get him into the habit of knowing that tooth brushing is something everyone does every day at least twice, by the time you can reason with him with sticker charts and rewards, he will be up for it.
In your situation I would just stop with the toothbrush for a while. And get your DH to as well if you can..... It's not worth that much trauma for you all.

Good Luck.
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July 2nd, 2012, 11:09 am #7

I began brushing DS's teeth when he only had 2 or 3. He LOVED the little blue finger thing and would laugh and want more brushing (and, of course, bite the heck out of me). During a particularly busy couple months at work (I was at office until midnight or even later at times), I turned all this over to DH who, I can only assume, had a much different method that didn't involve playing. I believe it involved more holding him down on the changing table or in the high chair after eating and brushing away no matter whether he was ok with it or not.

I don't want to dwell on what he could have done or should have done (I've already done that to some extent and it, of course, doesn't get us anywhere but into a big argument), fact is, it is now a HUGE battle to get DS to brush teeth. He screams and cries and clenches his mouth shut and fights and just seems SO upset. He won't play with me and "Mr. Blue-Finger" any more and literally runs when he sees that little blue finger brush. It makes me so sad b/c he use to chase after me to get to Mr. Blue-finger.

I see all these cute suggestions on other sites about talk to him reason with him, let him see you brush your teeth, tickle him, have fun in the bath with it, etc, etc -- it simply doesn't work - I've tried for hours at a time for the last few weeks trying to make it non-upsetting to him and it just always culminates in holding him down and screaming. It would literally be a full time job trying to brush his teeth 3 times a day if I continue trying to reason with him this way, and, again, it usually ends up in a fight anyway. So what do I do? Do we hold him down and force him? Will he eventually NOT get so upset or is that just the wrong way to go about it.

It's truly the one thing that is just not working with him right now. He's 19 months so I really can't explain things to him or give him gold stars or even bribe him with toys much. I HATE seeing him so upset but if that's the only way, that's what we'll do. I just left him in tears after our latest wrestling match and it just breaks my heart, but I'll do it if I know it's the only way and it will get better.

Anyone else have this issue? Does it get easier if you force it? Can he be traumatized by continuing this? Should we just NOT brush his teeth for a while until we can reason with him? I truly don't know what to do.

I did see a post where the suggestion was to simply let them come to terms with brushing slowly even if the job doesn't get done. Has anyone here done this and did their LO still have healthy baby teeth by the time they began brushing finally?

sas
I posted about this a few months ago. I'm really glad I did, because it really calmed my worry. Like your LO, I have a toddler with an independent spirit who hates having anything 'done' to her. I will get her an electric brush at some point but in the meantime, having read the responses I received, I am not making it an issue and brushing her when I can.
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Joined: July 17th, 2011, 6:13 pm

July 2nd, 2012, 1:41 pm #8

I began brushing DS's teeth when he only had 2 or 3. He LOVED the little blue finger thing and would laugh and want more brushing (and, of course, bite the heck out of me). During a particularly busy couple months at work (I was at office until midnight or even later at times), I turned all this over to DH who, I can only assume, had a much different method that didn't involve playing. I believe it involved more holding him down on the changing table or in the high chair after eating and brushing away no matter whether he was ok with it or not.

I don't want to dwell on what he could have done or should have done (I've already done that to some extent and it, of course, doesn't get us anywhere but into a big argument), fact is, it is now a HUGE battle to get DS to brush teeth. He screams and cries and clenches his mouth shut and fights and just seems SO upset. He won't play with me and "Mr. Blue-Finger" any more and literally runs when he sees that little blue finger brush. It makes me so sad b/c he use to chase after me to get to Mr. Blue-finger.

I see all these cute suggestions on other sites about talk to him reason with him, let him see you brush your teeth, tickle him, have fun in the bath with it, etc, etc -- it simply doesn't work - I've tried for hours at a time for the last few weeks trying to make it non-upsetting to him and it just always culminates in holding him down and screaming. It would literally be a full time job trying to brush his teeth 3 times a day if I continue trying to reason with him this way, and, again, it usually ends up in a fight anyway. So what do I do? Do we hold him down and force him? Will he eventually NOT get so upset or is that just the wrong way to go about it.

It's truly the one thing that is just not working with him right now. He's 19 months so I really can't explain things to him or give him gold stars or even bribe him with toys much. I HATE seeing him so upset but if that's the only way, that's what we'll do. I just left him in tears after our latest wrestling match and it just breaks my heart, but I'll do it if I know it's the only way and it will get better.

Anyone else have this issue? Does it get easier if you force it? Can he be traumatized by continuing this? Should we just NOT brush his teeth for a while until we can reason with him? I truly don't know what to do.

I did see a post where the suggestion was to simply let them come to terms with brushing slowly even if the job doesn't get done. Has anyone here done this and did their LO still have healthy baby teeth by the time they began brushing finally?

sas
If the extent of his being upset exceeds what you'd consider "a normal state of being upset", it's time to back off.

My son was like that with bathing, and it developed at around 2 and lasted till 3. With bathing, I couldn't back off and forced it anyways. Was he traumatized? May be so, but what could I do? They were very unpleasant, screaming affairs. Tooth brushing, personally, has been on the lower level of priorities. I wasn't too strict about tooth brushing till they almost reached school age (yea, this is a shameful secret. But one can do only what one can do).

I would keep an eye on other signals of his behavior. Is he upset about changes, transitions?


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July 2nd, 2012, 2:48 pm #9

man with sensory challenges
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Sorry you're going through this
I know it's a challenge and very stressful, indeed
Wish I could offer more help right now...but I'm hoping the bit of help I can offer will work!


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Joined: November 10th, 2004, 4:12 am

July 2nd, 2012, 4:52 pm #10

Maybe some yummy Tom's of Maine Silly Strawberry to put on it? (My kids think it is yummy in any event). I know he is kinda old for it but if all else fails maybe something like this:http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Buddy-Babys- ... toothbrush? I'd definitely pitch the blue finger thing.

Will see if I can pick one up. Does it have actual bristles?

Thanks!

sas
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