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Mrs. M
Mrs. M

June 13th, 2012, 11:11 pm #1

Thinking of you. I can't remember your beta date but hoping you are well and getting some good news soon.
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Joined: August 17th, 2011, 2:17 pm

June 14th, 2012, 2:14 pm #2

Thanks, Mrs. M.

I started getting BFNs at home on Saturday (which was 9dp5dt). Got the official negative beta yesterday.

we are so sad. I was so happy and optimistic, not my usual MO at all, so it all felt different and exciting. I really, really felt pg, and not just the physical signs, I felt it from a deep place. I really could not believe my eyes when I poased.

I've been crying off and on since saturday, but I'm starting to feel better. It makes me sad, though, I know I won't ever feel that optimistic again.

SG wouldn't tell me the outcomes for the other two recipients, which pissed me off, it strikes me as useful information. In my currently pessimistic, jaded heart, I'm sure they were both successful and it's only me not getting what I wished for. (feeling sorry for myself much?)

It helps that we have 3 frozen. My doc wanted to do another mock transfer to take a good look at my uterus, which makes me happy. Than we'll do an FET later this summer.

Thanks for checking in, it means a lot.
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Joined: August 18th, 2010, 6:45 pm

June 14th, 2012, 3:29 pm #3

All BFNs suck. Getting through the disappointment is enough to shake even the strongest to the core.

I eventually got my SG doctor to tell me the outcome of my first failed fresh DE cycle when I declared we needed more testing on my DH. The doctor looked it up and found the other couple had a BFN too so "there was no need to do any more testing on me and my DH."

I haven't even bothered to call them back to discuss my latest failure. But when I do I will again try to get them to tell me the outcome of the other recipient. If I have any luck I will let you know.

Be good to yourself. Hugs
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Joined: June 5th, 2011, 4:39 pm

June 14th, 2012, 4:17 pm #4

Thanks, Mrs. M.

I started getting BFNs at home on Saturday (which was 9dp5dt). Got the official negative beta yesterday.

we are so sad. I was so happy and optimistic, not my usual MO at all, so it all felt different and exciting. I really, really felt pg, and not just the physical signs, I felt it from a deep place. I really could not believe my eyes when I poased.

I've been crying off and on since saturday, but I'm starting to feel better. It makes me sad, though, I know I won't ever feel that optimistic again.

SG wouldn't tell me the outcomes for the other two recipients, which pissed me off, it strikes me as useful information. In my currently pessimistic, jaded heart, I'm sure they were both successful and it's only me not getting what I wished for. (feeling sorry for myself much?)

It helps that we have 3 frozen. My doc wanted to do another mock transfer to take a good look at my uterus, which makes me happy. Than we'll do an FET later this summer.

Thanks for checking in, it means a lot.
It is such a big blow to go through all the time, effort and money that it takes to do a DE cycle and come out with a BFN. I am so grateful that u have 3 frozen embryos left and hope that your baby is in one of them. (((Hugs))). FB
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Joined: September 13th, 2008, 5:13 pm

June 14th, 2012, 4:33 pm #5

Thanks, Mrs. M.

I started getting BFNs at home on Saturday (which was 9dp5dt). Got the official negative beta yesterday.

we are so sad. I was so happy and optimistic, not my usual MO at all, so it all felt different and exciting. I really, really felt pg, and not just the physical signs, I felt it from a deep place. I really could not believe my eyes when I poased.

I've been crying off and on since saturday, but I'm starting to feel better. It makes me sad, though, I know I won't ever feel that optimistic again.

SG wouldn't tell me the outcomes for the other two recipients, which pissed me off, it strikes me as useful information. In my currently pessimistic, jaded heart, I'm sure they were both successful and it's only me not getting what I wished for. (feeling sorry for myself much?)

It helps that we have 3 frozen. My doc wanted to do another mock transfer to take a good look at my uterus, which makes me happy. Than we'll do an FET later this summer.

Thanks for checking in, it means a lot.
That's hard. I've never done a split cycle before, but it seems to me that it's unfair at best not to let all the recipients know the outcome of the other recipients. It's basic information you need to have an idea how to proceed. Maggie (in VA)
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Mrs. M
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June 14th, 2012, 9:09 pm #6

Thinking of you. I can't remember your beta date but hoping you are well and getting some good news soon.
BFN's are so awful. I think it is unfair that they will not share the other recipients results, since you don't know who they are, I can't see how that is a breech of any confidentiality. Please take care of yourself. I hope time will ease your pain. I hope your miracle(s) is in those frosties. I'm glad you will be able to cycle again the end of summer. Cycling again was the only thing that ever made me feel better. Another ((hug)).
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Joined: September 7th, 2011, 4:55 pm

June 15th, 2012, 12:30 am #7

Thanks, Mrs. M.

I started getting BFNs at home on Saturday (which was 9dp5dt). Got the official negative beta yesterday.

we are so sad. I was so happy and optimistic, not my usual MO at all, so it all felt different and exciting. I really, really felt pg, and not just the physical signs, I felt it from a deep place. I really could not believe my eyes when I poased.

I've been crying off and on since saturday, but I'm starting to feel better. It makes me sad, though, I know I won't ever feel that optimistic again.

SG wouldn't tell me the outcomes for the other two recipients, which pissed me off, it strikes me as useful information. In my currently pessimistic, jaded heart, I'm sure they were both successful and it's only me not getting what I wished for. (feeling sorry for myself much?)

It helps that we have 3 frozen. My doc wanted to do another mock transfer to take a good look at my uterus, which makes me happy. Than we'll do an FET later this summer.

Thanks for checking in, it means a lot.
I am so heartbroken for you. Take care and I hope that one of your frozen embryos results in a successful pregnancy. Hugs!
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Joined: October 22nd, 2010, 7:15 am

June 15th, 2012, 3:42 am #8

Thanks, Mrs. M.

I started getting BFNs at home on Saturday (which was 9dp5dt). Got the official negative beta yesterday.

we are so sad. I was so happy and optimistic, not my usual MO at all, so it all felt different and exciting. I really, really felt pg, and not just the physical signs, I felt it from a deep place. I really could not believe my eyes when I poased.

I've been crying off and on since saturday, but I'm starting to feel better. It makes me sad, though, I know I won't ever feel that optimistic again.

SG wouldn't tell me the outcomes for the other two recipients, which pissed me off, it strikes me as useful information. In my currently pessimistic, jaded heart, I'm sure they were both successful and it's only me not getting what I wished for. (feeling sorry for myself much?)

It helps that we have 3 frozen. My doc wanted to do another mock transfer to take a good look at my uterus, which makes me happy. Than we'll do an FET later this summer.

Thanks for checking in, it means a lot.
I am hoping that you do find success with the your frozen embies. Rest up and get your mind, body and spirit ready for your FET later in the summer.

Hugs!
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Joined: September 26th, 2008, 9:06 pm

June 15th, 2012, 5:10 am #9

Thanks, Mrs. M.

I started getting BFNs at home on Saturday (which was 9dp5dt). Got the official negative beta yesterday.

we are so sad. I was so happy and optimistic, not my usual MO at all, so it all felt different and exciting. I really, really felt pg, and not just the physical signs, I felt it from a deep place. I really could not believe my eyes when I poased.

I've been crying off and on since saturday, but I'm starting to feel better. It makes me sad, though, I know I won't ever feel that optimistic again.

SG wouldn't tell me the outcomes for the other two recipients, which pissed me off, it strikes me as useful information. In my currently pessimistic, jaded heart, I'm sure they were both successful and it's only me not getting what I wished for. (feeling sorry for myself much?)

It helps that we have 3 frozen. My doc wanted to do another mock transfer to take a good look at my uterus, which makes me happy. Than we'll do an FET later this summer.

Thanks for checking in, it means a lot.
A bfn after going through all of this is a terrible loss. I'm so sorry. I'm glad you've got some frozen, though, and hope for success soon for you.
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Joined: August 21st, 2011, 7:59 pm

June 15th, 2012, 3:16 pm #10

Thanks, Mrs. M.

I started getting BFNs at home on Saturday (which was 9dp5dt). Got the official negative beta yesterday.

we are so sad. I was so happy and optimistic, not my usual MO at all, so it all felt different and exciting. I really, really felt pg, and not just the physical signs, I felt it from a deep place. I really could not believe my eyes when I poased.

I've been crying off and on since saturday, but I'm starting to feel better. It makes me sad, though, I know I won't ever feel that optimistic again.

SG wouldn't tell me the outcomes for the other two recipients, which pissed me off, it strikes me as useful information. In my currently pessimistic, jaded heart, I'm sure they were both successful and it's only me not getting what I wished for. (feeling sorry for myself much?)

It helps that we have 3 frozen. My doc wanted to do another mock transfer to take a good look at my uterus, which makes me happy. Than we'll do an FET later this summer.

Thanks for checking in, it means a lot.
So very sorry it did not work for you this time, but great you have three good frosties to transfer.
It is unfair they won't share the results of the others splits, can't see the logic of that. Try and keep
your spirits up and focused on your next successful transfer. Sending you a hug.
Best regards
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