I found this April 4th article equally riveting and blood boiling. She seems to have a deep seated anger toward egg donation, and to the women specifically who are the recipients. I wonder how she would feel if she hadn't found out her problem with genetics, and the impact it may have on her own fertility.
Curious to hear your thoughts on this article. It is long, but I wasn't able to put it down.
Here is the link:
http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archi ... gs/253625/
She really is a clueless jerk (or, as BBG so eloquently put it, a "narcissistic asshat")! Here's another lovely quote:
"...but, really, I just don't want to do another round of hormones, to push my luck with the retrieval surgery, to feel like a luxury guinea pig, to be a part of the creation of another mystery child, to feel somewhat criminal when I deposit 8,000 dollars that could have been better spent on adopting a child instead of this elaborate luxury operation that may cost less than a handbag this mother could conceivably own and that I've become complicit in all this and why didn't these people just adopt because it obviously wasn't the money and yes, maybe the mother really wanted to experience childbirth and who am I to tell a stranger that she shouldn't want that but is being a parent really about giving birth and if I say that it isn't about giving birth, does that make me, somehow, a parent?"
Good lord. Not only "why didn't she just adopt"...but then the presumption that "it obviously wasn't the money"... REALLY?! Do you have any fricking
idea how much money adoption costs?? (Yes, for me, it really WAS "about the money"... as in, I could do a DE cycle in South Africa a hell of a lot cheaper than I could adopt a child anywhere
. That's the simple, plain truth of the matter. Of course I could also go fifteen thousand dollars into dept doing it, but hey, that beats going $40,000 into dept!)
I'm really saddened to think that this is how donors might feel about us. I'm hoping they aren't all like this; that at least some of them (or most?) might actually realize that many of us can't afford this easily; that we save, and scrape, we dig out our credit cards, and just about move heaven and earth to try to make this dream come true. And that, at the end of the day, when we hold our babies, we adore them unconditionally, and never, ever, spend time "laughing" about our children's "imperfections" or gloating that "they didn't get it from me." (Her arrogance and presumption in this regard leave me totally speechless!!!)
So, yes, interesting article. I haven't even finished it yet, but just felt compelled to share...