Anonymous DE

Anonymous DE

Joined: July 7th, 2011, 12:00 am

July 9th, 2011, 1:38 am #1

Hi any of you ladies had an anonymous DE. I am worried that the child may not look like me at all. I know its to late because my flight is the 11th July and transfer on the 13th. I am soo nervous.
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Joined: July 4th, 2011, 3:21 am

July 9th, 2011, 1:59 am #2

...But I think that's many of us are doing here... using anonymous egg donors... unless you mean that you didn't even see any childhood photos or get any info about your donor.

Even if your child doesn't look like you, s/he will inherit your mannerisms and ideals, etc. You will share something much more important than genetics. (:

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Joined: July 7th, 2011, 12:00 am

July 9th, 2011, 2:17 am #3

Thanks for your reassuring words. And I was not able to see any pictures of my donor as a child. I just know her age, height skin color and that she has two children.
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CrazyLady
CrazyLady

July 9th, 2011, 3:49 am #4

than my experience...

but to honest - I would have done it without the childhood pictures anyway. I'm hoping, if I'm lucky enough to become a mom, that my little guy looks like my husband...

We got a profile that includes childhood photos, a family health history of her parent, grandparents, and siblings...

When I was an egg donor a couple of decades ago, I provided the same info (and pics).

Peace to you and best of luck!!!

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July 9th, 2011, 4:03 am #5

Thanks for your reassuring words. And I was not able to see any pictures of my donor as a child. I just know her age, height skin color and that she has two children.
and somehow, they look like me. My little guy especially. Baby girl's nose is wee and perfect, which mine never was though. I am thankful for that, I must say. When I used to sperm shop, a small nose was critical to me. I think if I'd seen donor pics, I would not see the similarities between my kids and me like I do. It's not that I wouldn't have liked to have seen them but it is what it is so I look on the positive.
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thesameboat
thesameboat

July 9th, 2011, 11:12 am #6

Hi any of you ladies had an anonymous DE. I am worried that the child may not look like me at all. I know its to late because my flight is the 11th July and transfer on the 13th. I am soo nervous.
We got VERY little information about our donors. But what a pp says is true. The clinics do try to match you up according to realistic looks and children adopt their parents' mannerisms and facial expressions, so your child WILL take after you in some ways.

Good luck to you!
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Anonymous
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July 9th, 2011, 12:51 pm #7

Hi any of you ladies had an anonymous DE. I am worried that the child may not look like me at all. I know its to late because my flight is the 11th July and transfer on the 13th. I am soo nervous.
I hope I am not sounding silly asking these questions
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July 9th, 2011, 1:01 pm #8

I think I am just letting nerves get the best of me. I can't believe in less than two weeks I will have my little one inside me.
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Kim
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July 9th, 2011, 1:49 pm #9

Hi any of you ladies had an anonymous DE. I am worried that the child may not look like me at all. I know its to late because my flight is the 11th July and transfer on the 13th. I am soo nervous.
A relative too. Everyone in my family is a bit different so since were no tell I figured people will say she/ he looks like someone... Everyone says one of mine (OE) looks just like my mom and others say she looks like daddy.... I think people search to find which relative they look like. I've seen kids that don't look at all like their parents too.... Remember your body will be turning the genes on and off so you will be apart of different traits. I don't know much about it but it's pretty cool! Xo good luck!
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Piper
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July 9th, 2011, 2:20 pm #10

Hi any of you ladies had an anonymous DE. I am worried that the child may not look like me at all. I know its to late because my flight is the 11th July and transfer on the 13th. I am soo nervous.
I think people put so much into "looks" and worry so much that a child will not resemble other family members. But, realistically, genetics can be a real crapshoot! I know people who have children who are the spitting image of one or the other parent (or both) and I know families where no one really looks like anyone at all!

One of my favorite Christmas cards every year is a lovely infertility friend of mine- she and her dh adopted one child and then three years later, another child--this family could not look more alike and their oldest takes great delight in the comments!!

My ds does not look like me but looks a lot like dh. BUT, he has a lot of my mannerisms and his personality can be a lot like mine! Sometimes, I get comments that he is so much like me!

Your child will look like him or herself.

And as an fyi, I am always a little bit glad that I never saw a picture of our wonderful donor. I have a picture in my mind. I never searched for anyone else in my child's face.

Good luck with your cycle!
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