To grow or not to grow?

For any man 20 and older with a shorter beard (or any facial hair style) and prior beard experience who wants to show off his beard and share his experience.

To grow or not to grow?

tlking29
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November 15th, 2017, 2:17 am #1


Good Day Gentleman,

I'm a pastor of a church that is finally going to take the challenge to grow a full beard. The problem is that I have some patchy areas and I'm unsure if they will fill in good enough. I've been watching and reading many of your journey's and a few similar to my beard growth but of course not exact. At least, that I have found on here. What I don't want to do is go the full 3 or 4 months only to be disappointed and take my poor church members on this journey for nothing and they have to stare at me every time I preach. I hope you can understand. I'm sharing pictures I took today that are right at 3 weeks of growth. Thanks for any help or suggestions!

Tim K.


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November 15th, 2017, 3:23 am #2

Unfortunately the only way to know how it will turn out is to give it a try.  I have seen a number of guys with more patches grow a good looking beard.  Overall, your cheek coverage is pretty good, so I thank the chances are in your favor.  Do you have any bearded family members with beards to compare?  Even that is no guarantee, sometime brothers have very different beards.

BTW - My church sponsored a state wide Pastor's Conference just yesterday and I was one of the volunteers to help out.  I was amazed how many pastors are now bearded, and several with rather large beards.  When I was young, I never show even a shadow of a beard on a Pastor.
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November 15th, 2017, 3:33 am #3

Slybeard wrote:Unfortunately the only way to know how it will turn out is to give it a try.  I have seen a number of guys with more patches grow a good looking beard.  Overall, your cheek coverage is pretty good, so I thank the chances are in your favor.  Do you have any bearded family members with beards to compare?  Even that is no guarantee, sometime brothers have very different beards.

BTW - My church sponsored a state wide Pastor's Conference just yesterday and I was one of the volunteers to help out.  I was amazed how many pastors are now bearded, and several with rather large beards.  When I was young, I never show even a shadow of a beard on a Pastor.
Thanks Slybeard!! That's very encouraging. I hope you are right but I've seen some with what I would think had less coverage on their cheeks and I felt their beards looked great once it came out. That's what encouraged me to try. As far as relatives go...I'm adopted so rule that out lol. Story of my life. You are right about most pastor's today verses yesteryear. I never saw pastor's with beards growing up. It was actually looked down on to have facial hair. Yet, Jesus had a beard that they plucked. Hard to pluck a shaven face. Lol. Just mainly concerned with my left side but hoping the hair on the cheek will grow to help cover it. I have sported what they said was a very impressive handlebar stache that I plan on helping for coverage purposes. Thanks again for your message of encouragement.

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November 15th, 2017, 5:59 am #4

Hey TLK:
Welcome to the board.  It is nice to have you here.  You have a nice beginning with your beard.  I believe you need to go for it.  Presenting the Gospel isn't dependent on your beard.  Your beard has a lot of potential and it is a part of you.

I, too, am a clergy.....an Anglican priest in Texas, ordained for 35 years now (and married that long on November 27).  I have been bearded for 38 years.  It is my lifestyle, and people like me for how I am with them.  I hurt with them, laugh with them, coach them, ream them out when they need it.  They like me for being God's servant to them, not for my beard.  I think you ought to grow it out, and make the journey.

We all have different patterns in our beards, and when we accept them, that is the secret.  You have a nice mustache.  It connects well to the rest of your beard. (For it to be shaped into a handlebar will be awesome.) Your soul patch area under your mouth is another connector, and it connects well with your chin.  Your chin is very nice. You have ear to ear coverage, nice cheeklines, and it appears your neckline is set in the right spot. 

You have grown for some time, and it is filling in well.  Gravity will pull it down to make it look more even.  It is a matter of time.  It will look great, and you will be very stylish as a pastor.  Yes, many have beards, and some even have big beards.  Now, please don't grow it, so your church members will get angry and pluck your beard.  Church members can be cantankerous. hahahaha.

Really nice to meet you.  You will love your journey.  So, your 3 weeks is a great beginning.  Can you do periodic updates?  You will see your progress, and we can support you.

I would love to hear from you.
My name is Tom (the bearded father)
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November 15th, 2017, 6:02 am #5

awesome start for three weeks! Looks good
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November 15th, 2017, 10:22 am #6

welcome to the board, Tim! Unfortunately, they only way to know for sure is to grow it, as Sly said. On the other hand, you do paper to have what it takes to grow a nice beard!

(If you wish, take a look at my thread, we have similar density, I think - you do have better coverage - it might give you an idea of how your beard might turn out, no guarantee, of course)
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November 15th, 2017, 11:41 pm #7

beardedfather wrote: Hey TLK:
Welcome to the board.  It is nice to have you here.  You have a nice beginning with your beard.  I believe you need to go for it.  Presenting the Gospel isn't dependent on your beard.  Your beard has a lot of potential and it is a part of you.

I, too, am a clergy.....an Anglican priest in Texas, ordained for 35 years now (and married that long on November 27).  I have been bearded for 38 years.  It is my lifestyle, and people like me for how I am with them.  I hurt with them, laugh with them, coach them, ream them out when they need it.  They like me for being God's servant to them, not for my beard.  I think you ought to grow it out, and make the journey.

We all have different patterns in our beards, and when we accept them, that is the secret.  You have a nice mustache.  It connects well to the rest of your beard. (For it to be shaped into a handlebar will be awesome.) Your soul patch area under your mouth is another connector, and it connects well with your chin.  Your chin is very nice. You have ear to ear coverage, nice cheeklines, and it appears your neckline is set in the right spot. 

You have grown for some time, and it is filling in well.  Gravity will pull it down to make it look more even.  It is a matter of time.  It will look great, and you will be very stylish as a pastor.  Yes, many have beards, and some even have big beards.  Now, please don't grow it, so your church members will get angry and pluck your beard.  Church members can be cantankerous. hahahaha.

Really nice to meet you.  You will love your journey.  So, your 3 weeks is a great beginning.  Can you do periodic updates?  You will see your progress, and we can support you.

I would love to hear from you.
My name is Tom (the bearded father)
Thank you Tom! 

I sure appreciated your message. That's awesome that we have so much in common in ministry. I too have been in ministry for over 30 years. I'm sure we could discuss many similar experiences that we have gone through because of the ministry, some good and some not to good. But I wouldn't change a thing in regards to the joys that I've been able to experience as a pastor.  

I appreciate your insight and your perspective on how my beard seems to be developing at this time. I have always wanted to grow one but because of my pattern I just felt that I would never be able to pull one off. Thanks to this board and many of you experienced bearded guys with your observations you have encouraged many of us less confident guys. Thanks for that! I especially liked what you said about gravity. I look forward to that happening because my hair seems to want to ride along my skin in different directions. I mentioned to my wife that gravity HAS to do something about that, I hope. lol. 

It is nice meeting you, sir. I will for sure share updates so that you all can see how it grows and so you can continue to advise me. Thanks again!! 

Tim
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November 15th, 2017, 11:42 pm #8

Ashx79 wrote: awesome start for three weeks! Looks good
Thanks a lot, Ashx79! I appreciate your encouragement!
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November 15th, 2017, 11:43 pm #9

deco wrote: welcome to the board, Tim! Unfortunately, they only way to know for sure is to grow it, as Sly said. On the other hand, you do paper to have what it takes to grow a nice beard!

(If you wish, take a look at my thread, we have similar density, I think - you do have better coverage - it might give you an idea of how your beard might turn out, no guarantee, of course)
Thanks so much, Deco! I'm glad you think that on paper it appears to have the promise of a good beard. So, time will tell for sure. I'll take a look at your thread and see. Thanks again!
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November 16th, 2017, 12:39 am #10

tlking29 wrote:
deco wrote: welcome to the board, Tim! Unfortunately, they only way to know for sure is to grow it, as Sly said. On the other hand, you do paper to have what it takes to grow a nice beard!

(If you wish, take a look at my thread, we have similar density, I think - you do have better coverage - it might give you an idea of how your beard might turn out, no guarantee, of course)
Thanks so much, Deco! I'm glad you think that on paper it appears to have the promise of a good beard. So, time will tell for sure. I'll take a look at your thread and see. Thanks again!
That was actually a typo! I meant to write "appear", and it somehow autocorrected to paper! Hahah.
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November 16th, 2017, 5:19 am #11

deco wrote:
tlking29 wrote:
deco wrote: welcome to the board, Tim! Unfortunately, they only way to know for sure is to grow it, as Sly said. On the other hand, you do paper to have what it takes to grow a nice beard!

(If you wish, take a look at my thread, we have similar density, I think - you do have better coverage - it might give you an idea of how your beard might turn out, no guarantee, of course)
Thanks so much, Deco! I'm glad you think that on paper it appears to have the promise of a good beard. So, time will tell for sure. I'll take a look at your thread and see. Thanks again!
That was actually a typo! I meant to write "appear", and it somehow autocorrected to paper! Hahah.
lol! I read between the autocorrect haha.
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November 16th, 2017, 6:03 am #12

Welcome. Thus far, you appear to be off to a good start.

As many of the others have said, it has been astounding to see the shift to seeing beards in churches. I too wound not see any with facial hair (in spite of countless men in the Bible,) and aside from the pastor from my old church now having a beard, a minister I knew years ago has been known for sporting a long beard in the pulpit.


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November 16th, 2017, 12:22 pm #13

Thanks Imaginary for the welcome! Yes, it truly is amazing the shift not only in churches but in society as well when it comes to beards. Which I've never understood why beards would have a negative tone to begin with. I always have believed that facial hair is there for a reason. God put it there. He created us just as we are so why not grow it. I love that each beard is just as individual as the person that sports it. It's pretty cool if you ask me. 
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November 16th, 2017, 12:24 pm #14

Greetings Tim. Wonderful to have you here and a sincere welcome.

I think you'll find many 'pastors' here to help with the ins and outs of the physical, mental and sprit-filled bearded journey you are embarking upon. You are off to a great start - far better than you might believe currently.

Like you, I felt a beard was not one of my gifts and didn't embark upon this journey until early this year. Without the support of the board, I wouldn't have grown beyond my perceived limits and self image. What I know to be true today is so very different than when I began. Same is true for you.

Thank you for you work, your dedication to your profession. I've dear friends who pastor and they tell me that finding soft places to land and regroup - in that sea of need - can be challenging but necessary to feeding ones soul to offer it back to others. You've got a bit of that here, if you choose to participate in full.

I'm intrigued with what's in store for you and cheering you on from these sidelines. Best. Scott


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November 16th, 2017, 9:46 pm #15

Thank you so much, Pandarocks!! Very good to meet you and to read your message. And thank you for your sincere appreciation for me and those who serve in ministry. You are right, those of us in ministry find it hard sometimes to find a place to get away and chill. I have read many messages on this board and am amazed with the comradery found here. It's pretty unique. I would love to eventually be one of the experienced bearded men on here that offers good advise and encouragement, but time will tell. I love the thread that slybeard has about the patchy journey. I have looked at it several times and I'm truly amazed at the transformation found there. Some that make me  do a double take. It's pretty cool. So, that is what helped me to decide to begin the journey. 

Thanks for your encouragement too. I appreciate you letting me know how you feel my progression is thus far. I am beginning to believe the good response from all of you. lol...it's taking me time to realize that perhaps I really can pull this off! ha. Your words help a lot!

Thanks again and God bless you sir!
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November 16th, 2017, 11:02 pm #16

tlking29 wrote:
beardedfather wrote: Hey TLK:
Welcome to the board.  It is nice to have you here.  You have a nice beginning with your beard.  I believe you need to go for it.  Presenting the Gospel isn't dependent on your beard.  Your beard has a lot of potential and it is a part of you.

I, too, am a clergy.....an Anglican priest in Texas, ordained for 35 years now (and married that long on November 27).  I have been bearded for 38 years.  It is my lifestyle, and people like me for how I am with them.  I hurt with them, laugh with them, coach them, ream them out when they need it.  They like me for being God's servant to them, not for my beard.  I think you ought to grow it out, and make the journey.

We all have different patterns in our beards, and when we accept them, that is the secret.  You have a nice mustache.  It connects well to the rest of your beard. (For it to be shaped into a handlebar will be awesome.) Your soul patch area under your mouth is another connector, and it connects well with your chin.  Your chin is very nice. You have ear to ear coverage, nice cheeklines, and it appears your neckline is set in the right spot. 

You have grown for some time, and it is filling in well.  Gravity will pull it down to make it look more even.  It is a matter of time.  It will look great, and you will be very stylish as a pastor.  Yes, many have beards, and some even have big beards.  Now, please don't grow it, so your church members will get angry and pluck your beard.  Church members can be cantankerous. hahahaha.

Really nice to meet you.  You will love your journey.  So, your 3 weeks is a great beginning.  Can you do periodic updates?  You will see your progress, and we can support you.

I would love to hear from you.
My name is Tom (the bearded father)
Thank you Tom! 

I sure appreciated your message. That's awesome that we have so much in common in ministry. I too have been in ministry for over 30 years. I'm sure we could discuss many similar experiences that we have gone through because of the ministry, some good and some not to good. But I wouldn't change a thing in regards to the joys that I've been able to experience as a pastor.  

I appreciate your insight and your perspective on how my beard seems to be developing at this time. I have always wanted to grow one but because of my pattern I just felt that I would never be able to pull one off. Thanks to this board and many of you experienced bearded guys with your observations you have encouraged many of us less confident guys. Thanks for that! I especially liked what you said about gravity. I look forward to that happening because my hair seems to want to ride along my skin in different directions. I mentioned to my wife that gravity HAS to do something about that, I hope. lol. 

It is nice meeting you, sir. I will for sure share updates so that you all can see how it grows and so you can continue to advise me. Thanks again!! 

Tim
I agree about the joys in ministry.  God has been so good to me and my family.  I love my church family.  The more I serve, the more I see my church family includes the saints around me, like  you.  I am excited to see what you do.  Enjoy your beard journey.
Blessings to you, Tim+++
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November 17th, 2017, 12:19 am #17

I concur Tom! I love my church family as well and our fellowship is sweet. As that chorus goes... The Longer I Serve Him, The sweeter He grows The more that I love Him , More joy He bestows Each day is like heaven My heart overflows, The Longer I Serve Him, The sweeter He grows. I'm enjoying the journey a lot more today thanks to you guys. Take care and thanks again, Tom! 
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November 17th, 2017, 1:51 am #18

Thanks Pastor.  That is a nice chorus.  I feel the same way.  Sent you a private message.
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November 29th, 2017, 10:29 pm #19

Here is my latest update. First shots were from week 4 I believe. It looks like it's starting to fill in a little better. I'll have to admit while I am in week 6 now there are days or moments I like it and moments I have a harder time but I'm committed to this so I'm hanging in there.

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November 29th, 2017, 10:31 pm #20

tlking29 wrote:Here is my latest update. First shots were from week 4 I believe. It looks like it's starting to fill in a little better. I'll have to admit while I am in week 6 now there are days or moments I like it and moments I have a harder time but I'm committed to this so I'm hanging in there.

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Not sure why some of the pictures are side ways. I didn't take them that way.

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