Thanks, Julie, for your support and interest!
This babysitter had traveled with us before, and we'd agreed on a rate at that time. We hadn't discussed it for this specific trip. I'd just assumed that our previous commitment would continue, and she didn't mention wanting 1/3 more until after I had plane tickets.
I'm hoping that some of our board buddies do have experience that they may be willing to share.
Hope you're doing OK, Julie!
Oh, I hate this stuff. That is such bad form on her part. Really, what are you to do since plane tickets are non-refundable?
Very tempting to just follow the advice below and roll with it. It would leave a bitter taste in my mouth, but if you say anything, it will leave a bitter taste in hers (or in both of yours).
Depending on who she is, maybe she doesn't realize that you are stuck because of the tickets? Or that 33% is quite a doozy of an increase to spring on someone who has no choice? That increasing a rate is a reasonable thing to do if you feel you are being paid below market, but the right time to do this is before you accept an assignment, not after. You could point these out to her, not to change anything from this trip but just so she recognizes it going forward.
Do you think what she did is bring it up to market? Maybe you really were off by that much? I wish I had some concrete knowledge on that front. My guess would be the regular hourly rate for the hours she'll be working, all meals, transportation and accommodations, and then a per diem on top of that, maybe $100/day? Wow, this adds up--which is why I've never traveled with a sitter, which is why I've never traveled, which is why I'm feeling very limited in my job options...ugh!
When I've talked with a sitter about doing an overnight, I was thinking hourly for the hours dd is awake/sitter would be up waiting for me if it weren't an overnight (ie, hourly until about 11pm and then again in am) and about $50 for the overnight.
me:smc (single mom by choice)
Dd: Conceived when I was 42 after 2 years ttc. Conceived on 6th IVF cycle after 2 bfn's and 3 m/cs.