Domestic flight with just one parent--ID needed for child?

Domestic flight with just one parent--ID needed for child?

Joined: June 24th, 2005, 12:12 am

May 17th, 2012, 4:25 am #1

Do I need an ID for my dd when we fly (JetBlue from MA to FL)?

Have any of you ever had any problem flying alone with your child? The SMC boards have all these posts about bringing letters from REs and birth certificates proving that you are the only parent and not kidnapping the child away from their father. Seems crazy to me...Why would SMCs be spotted and singled out any more than married moms flying without dhs?





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Joined: April 16th, 2004, 9:20 pm

May 17th, 2012, 4:47 am #2

I'd bring it. Our kids are now 8 and they have passports which we always bring on travel. I know that on some domestic flights we were not asked to provide IDs, but lately we just show them to avoid any questions.

As you may remember my kids have two moms and no dad and one time when they were really small (I think 2 years old), the ticket agent at United in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico asked us for a letter from the father. I was like "huh", there is no father. She hassled us for a long time, it bordered on abuse. Eventually, I was completely enraged, no offense, I said that this is not Saudi Arabia and in the US kids do not need permission from their father to travel with their mom. It was ridiculous and served no purpose other than to harass. The kids were small and didn't get it, but now I'd be mortified!

If I was you, I'd bring the ID or birth certificate just in case. Frankly, I think it should be a requirement, because how could you be sure otherwise the child is yours?

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Joined: June 24th, 2005, 12:12 am

May 17th, 2012, 4:55 am #3

I don't have a passport for dd and we leave in 2 weeks. I have birth certificate but without any photo, that proves nothing...

Oh, I can't even believe this. I hope others write that they travel with nothing...



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Dd: Conceived when I was 42 after 2 years ttc. Conceived on 6th IVF cycle after 2 bfn's and 3 m/cs.

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Joined: August 21st, 2006, 3:29 pm

May 17th, 2012, 5:12 am #4

Do I need an ID for my dd when we fly (JetBlue from MA to FL)?

Have any of you ever had any problem flying alone with your child? The SMC boards have all these posts about bringing letters from REs and birth certificates proving that you are the only parent and not kidnapping the child away from their father. Seems crazy to me...Why would SMCs be spotted and singled out any more than married moms flying without dhs?





me:smc (single mom by choice)
FSH: 16
Dd: Conceived when I was 42 after 2 years ttc. Conceived on 6th IVF cycle after 2 bfn's and 3 m/cs.
Tara21,

I am trying to remember, and I think the only flights I have taken with DS but without DH have been international (so we've had our passports) but have included some domestic legs. I don't think we've ever been asked for ID for DS on the domestic part.

I'm pretty sure you could get a passport in 2 weeks, but that it would cost extra, don't know how much. Also you may run into problems there -- not sure what procedures are for children of single parents, but I know for my DS we had to have both parents' signatures (and possibly we both had to be present, I can't remember). While I agree it is silly to expect an unaccompanied parent to have ID for the child, I do also understand wanting to prevent one parent from taking the child out of the country without the other parent's knowledge/permission (given that other parts of the world may have very different legal systems), so I am kind of sympathetic to that, but I had not thought about how it would affect a parent who is truly solo (rather than just separate). If you learn more about this I'd be interested to know how it's set up.

Best wishes,
Alex
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Joined: February 10th, 2009, 9:24 pm

May 17th, 2012, 5:17 am #5

I don't have a passport for dd and we leave in 2 weeks. I have birth certificate but without any photo, that proves nothing...

Oh, I can't even believe this. I hope others write that they travel with nothing...



me:smc (single mom by choice)
FSH: 16
Dd: Conceived when I was 42 after 2 years ttc. Conceived on 6th IVF cycle after 2 bfn's and 3 m/cs.
You can go to your drivers license facility and get state ID cards for your DD. Thats what Im planning on doing for domestic summer travel. I shudder to think of it, but it is probably good to have a fingerprint of our kids on file somewhere, along with a current picture, and the state ID would satisfy both of these.

I havent traveled with my kids since May of 2010, so I dont know what current TSA regulations are for kids. Im going to call the airline and ask what ID is required. When we traveled in 2010, I brought along their birth certificates, though I dont recall anyone asking to see them (and DH was with me, so I dont know if that made a difference or not)

I hope all this worry is for not, and you will have a great trip!

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Joined: February 10th, 2009, 9:24 pm

May 17th, 2012, 5:22 am #6

I think youre in the clear since its a domestic flight.

http://www.tsa.gov/travelers/customer/e ... _1029.shtm

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May 17th, 2012, 5:22 am #7

Tara21,

I am trying to remember, and I think the only flights I have taken with DS but without DH have been international (so we've had our passports) but have included some domestic legs. I don't think we've ever been asked for ID for DS on the domestic part.

I'm pretty sure you could get a passport in 2 weeks, but that it would cost extra, don't know how much. Also you may run into problems there -- not sure what procedures are for children of single parents, but I know for my DS we had to have both parents' signatures (and possibly we both had to be present, I can't remember). While I agree it is silly to expect an unaccompanied parent to have ID for the child, I do also understand wanting to prevent one parent from taking the child out of the country without the other parent's knowledge/permission (given that other parts of the world may have very different legal systems), so I am kind of sympathetic to that, but I had not thought about how it would affect a parent who is truly solo (rather than just separate). If you learn more about this I'd be interested to know how it's set up.

Best wishes,
Alex
I just checked JetBlue and TSAs sites and I think we are fine with no ID for dd since it's domestic. Of course, there are stories of folk not following their own guidelines, but we'll hope that doesn't happen.

I totally get the kidnapping thing (when going to other countries with different police and legal systems), but a photo ID doesn't prove the trip is consensual...

So, in this case, an SMC would be at an advantage because she at least could bring a letter from the RE or the birth certificate. But, what do married parents do? Notarized letters of permission from their spouses? I've never heard of parents doing this and that's why the whole SMC-specific concern sort of caught me off-guard.

Must get to work on passport process to avoid future concern (I started once before and the SMC is not such a hurdle since I go in with her birth certificate, if I remember correctly).





me:smc (single mom by choice)
FSH: 16
Dd: Conceived when I was 42 after 2 years ttc. Conceived on 6th IVF cycle after 2 bfn's and 3 m/cs.

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May 17th, 2012, 5:26 am #8

You can go to your drivers license facility and get state ID cards for your DD. Thats what Im planning on doing for domestic summer travel. I shudder to think of it, but it is probably good to have a fingerprint of our kids on file somewhere, along with a current picture, and the state ID would satisfy both of these.

I havent traveled with my kids since May of 2010, so I dont know what current TSA regulations are for kids. Im going to call the airline and ask what ID is required. When we traveled in 2010, I brought along their birth certificates, though I dont recall anyone asking to see them (and DH was with me, so I dont know if that made a difference or not)

I hope all this worry is for not, and you will have a great trip!

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I just went to the MA RMV site and in MA you have to be 16 to get a state issued picture ID (and 21 for a state issued liquor ID). so, not much to do except stay domestic until I get her a passport! thanks for doing the link below!

and now, we all need to get to bed!!!



me:smc (single mom by choice)
FSH: 16
Dd: Conceived when I was 42 after 2 years ttc. Conceived on 6th IVF cycle after 2 bfn's and 3 m/cs.

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Dd: Conceived when I was 42 after 2 years ttc. Conceived on 6th IVF cycle after 2 bfn's and 3 m/cs.

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May 17th, 2012, 5:46 am #9

I just checked JetBlue and TSAs sites and I think we are fine with no ID for dd since it's domestic. Of course, there are stories of folk not following their own guidelines, but we'll hope that doesn't happen.

I totally get the kidnapping thing (when going to other countries with different police and legal systems), but a photo ID doesn't prove the trip is consensual...

So, in this case, an SMC would be at an advantage because she at least could bring a letter from the RE or the birth certificate. But, what do married parents do? Notarized letters of permission from their spouses? I've never heard of parents doing this and that's why the whole SMC-specific concern sort of caught me off-guard.

Must get to work on passport process to avoid future concern (I started once before and the SMC is not such a hurdle since I go in with her birth certificate, if I remember correctly).





me:smc (single mom by choice)
FSH: 16
Dd: Conceived when I was 42 after 2 years ttc. Conceived on 6th IVF cycle after 2 bfn's and 3 m/cs.
I think nothing is required, but again if I was you, I would carry a copy of the birth certificate.

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May 18th, 2012, 2:23 am #10

Do I need an ID for my dd when we fly (JetBlue from MA to FL)?

Have any of you ever had any problem flying alone with your child? The SMC boards have all these posts about bringing letters from REs and birth certificates proving that you are the only parent and not kidnapping the child away from their father. Seems crazy to me...Why would SMCs be spotted and singled out any more than married moms flying without dhs?





me:smc (single mom by choice)
FSH: 16
Dd: Conceived when I was 42 after 2 years ttc. Conceived on 6th IVF cycle after 2 bfn's and 3 m/cs.
Needed a notary public- raised seal letter for him to travel internationally with my 7yr old son. He has needed this since birth. The letter is specific and states that I agree to letting my son travel.

Expected planned delivery on 11/13/2008 -3 weeks early.
42-recent FSH 12.4 at private md.
Natural Cycle w/ proges. support BFP 02/08 at 42.4
Natural cycle-BFN
M/C Sept.07-natural p/g waiting for IVF Ins. says fertile must wait 6months to reapply for IVF!
June 07-IUI low stim good responder-BFN
May 07-IUI low stim-BFN
April 07- FSH -11.3 & 11.5 E2-44
March 07- all fertility testing no issues. Husband has no issues.
10/06-Delivered stillborn DS at 40weeks a day after my 41st birthday. Cord Accident. Natural conception at 40.
01/2006 -natural conception at 40
10/2005 -M/c at 7weeks
09/2005 - natural conception
08/2005 - start trying for #2
12-2004 - c/s delivery of ds at 39.2
04/2004 - natural conception at 38
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