Books about death for kids?

Books about death for kids?

wcl
Joined: September 19th, 2006, 11:17 am

May 8th, 2012, 7:35 am #1

Sorry to start with a downer this morning. Does anyone know of uplifting children's books about death for ages 2, 5 and 9? A family is about to lose their 13-year-old DS, and the books are needed for his siblings. I thought of Dog Heaven for the younger kids. What others would you suggest?

Thank you!
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May 8th, 2012, 12:02 pm #2

Hi Wendy,

Water Bugs and Dragonflies comes highly recommended (other friends) -- and it's about the death of a five year old -- may be suitable for all the kids, not sure:

http://www.google.com/products/catalog? ... q=children's+books+about+death&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_qf.,cf.osb&biw=1187&bih=512&wrapid=tljp13364777099050116&um=1&ie=UTF-8&tbm=shop&cid=3150201539843665913&sa=X&ei=HQipT6jUHcqJ6AHTsei_BA&sqi=2&ved=0CH8Q8wIwBQ#

We have this one:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Fall-Freddie- ... 0805010645 and it's beautiful, though I think too abstract for the younger children, especially the two-year-old.

Another option, though it's about the death of a grandparent:

http://www.amazon.com/Remember-Butterfl ... 0525446796

Of course, my go-to source is Mister Rogers, who I was privileged to know even the slightest bit. Here's a page of links on his company's website; one deals with death:http://www.fci.org/

If there is a grief center where your friends live, especially one for children, I would ask them for recommendations -- also for information about ongoing support such as groups for children. We have some amazing resources here where I live, and I can't recommend this highly enough. The activities they offer (creating a treasure box for/of their deceased loved one, art therapy, talking, etc.) are helping and healing.

What a heartbreaking situation. My heart goes out to them. I still remember when our neighbors (and fellow church members, and our family dentist) lost their 14-year-old son, who had struggled with leukemia for years. It affected our entire community--was one of those 'defining' experiences--and his friends and classmates carried on his memory throughout their remaining school years and, I suspect, their lives. And his siblings (eight of them, the youngest of whom was around eight when he died) have kept his memory and his presence alive for years--it's an extremely close and full-of-faith family--I think a lot of how they handled and integrated it had to do with their spiritual beliefs and their closeness and love for each other.

I am so sorry to hear this, Wendy. I hope the resources above will help and that others will have even better suggestions.

Hugs,
kat.
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May 8th, 2012, 12:14 pm #3

Sorry to start with a downer this morning. Does anyone know of uplifting children's books about death for ages 2, 5 and 9? A family is about to lose their 13-year-old DS, and the books are needed for his siblings. I thought of Dog Heaven for the younger kids. What others would you suggest?

Thank you!
wcl
It's very kind of you to reach out to them, Wendy.

I found a few things you might consider. You could also call the local Hospice and grief support groups to get recommendations.

These are about sibling death:

http://www.fernside.org/resources/liter ... ibling.pdf

More books for siblings:

http://www.chop.edu/service/child-life- ... lness.html

Also about siblings:

http://www.counselingstlouis.net/books.html

Most of these books are not about sibling death:
http://pbskids.org/itsmylife/emotions/d ... books.html

This goes to an Amazon search, but many of these are about pets:

Amazon.com: Children's Books/Ages 4-8 Nonfiction Death & Grief Bookshttp://amzn.to/IH93zB


Assorted books for children and parents on death:

http://www.babysteps.com/rrrdch.html




Keiki's Makuahine (Keiki's Mom) 51, dh 52
Keiki: b. 2002 after 3 months bedrest
Natural conception following ZIFT/chem. pg

Olivia: b. 1999 d. 1999
28-week preemie, ptl cause unknown
Natural conception after 1 mc

ttc since 1998
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wcl
Joined: September 19th, 2006, 11:17 am

May 8th, 2012, 1:05 pm #4

Hi Wendy,

Water Bugs and Dragonflies comes highly recommended (other friends) -- and it's about the death of a five year old -- may be suitable for all the kids, not sure:

http://www.google.com/products/catalog? ... q=children's+books+about+death&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_qf.,cf.osb&biw=1187&bih=512&wrapid=tljp13364777099050116&um=1&ie=UTF-8&tbm=shop&cid=3150201539843665913&sa=X&ei=HQipT6jUHcqJ6AHTsei_BA&sqi=2&ved=0CH8Q8wIwBQ#

We have this one:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Fall-Freddie- ... 0805010645 and it's beautiful, though I think too abstract for the younger children, especially the two-year-old.

Another option, though it's about the death of a grandparent:

http://www.amazon.com/Remember-Butterfl ... 0525446796

Of course, my go-to source is Mister Rogers, who I was privileged to know even the slightest bit. Here's a page of links on his company's website; one deals with death:http://www.fci.org/

If there is a grief center where your friends live, especially one for children, I would ask them for recommendations -- also for information about ongoing support such as groups for children. We have some amazing resources here where I live, and I can't recommend this highly enough. The activities they offer (creating a treasure box for/of their deceased loved one, art therapy, talking, etc.) are helping and healing.

What a heartbreaking situation. My heart goes out to them. I still remember when our neighbors (and fellow church members, and our family dentist) lost their 14-year-old son, who had struggled with leukemia for years. It affected our entire community--was one of those 'defining' experiences--and his friends and classmates carried on his memory throughout their remaining school years and, I suspect, their lives. And his siblings (eight of them, the youngest of whom was around eight when he died) have kept his memory and his presence alive for years--it's an extremely close and full-of-faith family--I think a lot of how they handled and integrated it had to do with their spiritual beliefs and their closeness and love for each other.

I am so sorry to hear this, Wendy. I hope the resources above will help and that others will have even better suggestions.

Hugs,
kat.
Some really good suggestions. I'll check them out.

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wcl
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May 8th, 2012, 1:06 pm #5

It's very kind of you to reach out to them, Wendy.

I found a few things you might consider. You could also call the local Hospice and grief support groups to get recommendations.

These are about sibling death:

http://www.fernside.org/resources/liter ... ibling.pdf

More books for siblings:

http://www.chop.edu/service/child-life- ... lness.html

Also about siblings:

http://www.counselingstlouis.net/books.html

Most of these books are not about sibling death:
http://pbskids.org/itsmylife/emotions/d ... books.html

This goes to an Amazon search, but many of these are about pets:

Amazon.com: Children's Books/Ages 4-8 Nonfiction Death & Grief Bookshttp://amzn.to/IH93zB


Assorted books for children and parents on death:

http://www.babysteps.com/rrrdch.html




Keiki's Makuahine (Keiki's Mom) 51, dh 52
Keiki: b. 2002 after 3 months bedrest
Natural conception following ZIFT/chem. pg

Olivia: b. 1999 d. 1999
28-week preemie, ptl cause unknown
Natural conception after 1 mc

ttc since 1998
Wow! Thank you for taking time to give me all those links. Who knew all that was out there!

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May 8th, 2012, 3:51 pm #6

Sorry to start with a downer this morning. Does anyone know of uplifting children's books about death for ages 2, 5 and 9? A family is about to lose their 13-year-old DS, and the books are needed for his siblings. I thought of Dog Heaven for the younger kids. What others would you suggest?

Thank you!
wcl
that is so sad. You are so sweet to want to help in this way.

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Julie


me:43, DH 44
FSH 26
DS: born by c-sec Apr15'03, 9lbs5oz 41wks gest. (after 4 years of ttc, starting in 1998)
DD born by c-sec Oct 13 2007, 8lbs13oz 39wk gest. (after just under 3 years of ttc)
~~DS was conceived naturally the cycle following a cancelled DE IVF, using my good friend's eggs. She was on the verge of hyperstimming.
~~DD's nat conception I attribute to using OPKs like a crazy nut, eating grapefruit daily and using preseed. also 5 cycles of TCM ending 2 cycles before that lucky cycle.
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May 8th, 2012, 7:50 pm #7

Sorry to start with a downer this morning. Does anyone know of uplifting children's books about death for ages 2, 5 and 9? A family is about to lose their 13-year-old DS, and the books are needed for his siblings. I thought of Dog Heaven for the younger kids. What others would you suggest?

Thank you!
wcl
I am so sorry to read this. The only book I'm aware of, and it's an oldie, is The Fall of Freddie the Leaf. I believe Leo Buscaglia wrote it.

Then there's my favorite child guru of all time, Mister Rogers. I'm sure he has a book about death. I have purchased a few of his other special books on Amazon. They have all been well-written, we have one about death of a pet and another about making friends.

I am terribly sorry, WCL.....

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wcl
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May 8th, 2012, 10:23 pm #8

that is so sad. You are so sweet to want to help in this way.

hug
Julie


me:43, DH 44
FSH 26
DS: born by c-sec Apr15'03, 9lbs5oz 41wks gest. (after 4 years of ttc, starting in 1998)
DD born by c-sec Oct 13 2007, 8lbs13oz 39wk gest. (after just under 3 years of ttc)
~~DS was conceived naturally the cycle following a cancelled DE IVF, using my good friend's eggs. She was on the verge of hyperstimming.
~~DD's nat conception I attribute to using OPKs like a crazy nut, eating grapefruit daily and using preseed. also 5 cycles of TCM ending 2 cycles before that lucky cycle.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
It's a small thing but I feel more or less qualified to pick some good books--with a little help from my pals here.

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wcl
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May 8th, 2012, 10:30 pm #9

I am so sorry to read this. The only book I'm aware of, and it's an oldie, is The Fall of Freddie the Leaf. I believe Leo Buscaglia wrote it.

Then there's my favorite child guru of all time, Mister Rogers. I'm sure he has a book about death. I have purchased a few of his other special books on Amazon. They have all been well-written, we have one about death of a pet and another about making friends.

I am terribly sorry, WCL.....

Pink
Yes, I know Freddie the Leaf. I'm worried that it's a bit too sad and heavy. But Mister Rogers does handle these kinds of issues very well. Wish he'd done a book about a person dying, but the pet book is the only one I see out there. Too bad he himself is gone now. I miss his quiet, reassuring voice amid all the clamor on TV!

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May 8th, 2012, 11:25 pm #10

Sorry to start with a downer this morning. Does anyone know of uplifting children's books about death for ages 2, 5 and 9? A family is about to lose their 13-year-old DS, and the books are needed for his siblings. I thought of Dog Heaven for the younger kids. What others would you suggest?

Thank you!
wcl
I am sorry to hear this, I just can't imagine. A book that the social worker recommended for my kids when my mom passed recently was "When Dinosaurs Die". My kids seemed to like it and is an easy read as well. I am saying a prayer for that family, so terrible.
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