Our baby boy has arrived

Malakai
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11:45 PM - Jun 13, 2018 #1

On June 2nd, after my girlfriend was induced and went through 24 hours of labor, our baby boy turned breech at the last minute and had the cord wrapped around his neck, my girlfriend was rushed in for an emergency c-section. At 4:08 AM, he was born, 6 lbs 14oz. All in all, we stayed in the hospital for about a week, although the baby was discharged a couple days before mom. 

There were good experiences and some majorly bad ones with the hospital staff. First, L&D were pretty amazing, but mother and baby, which is on another floor, was mostly horrific, and for the most part, I believe it was because my girlfriends was in a wheelchair, and some of the nurses and assistants almost treated her like she was contagious. Some obviously didn’t think people in wheelchairs needed to have kids. A couple were complete a-holes, one even being basically combative. 

In the whole mother and baby section, they have only one wheelchair acuroom. They assigned that room to someone not in a wheelchair, and only after requests and cmoplaints did we get that room. One of the nurses tried to hide her being a botch but was snooty and didn’t even want to get close to my girlfriend or touch her or anything. Any time she talked to her, the nurse would stand off in a distance. Social workers got involved, and they tried to force my girlfriend to go to a rehab facility, instead of coming straight home. I ended up having to call up a family member, to come take the baby, because I did not want him to be around if there were any confrontations. Right before our child was going to leave with the family member, the hospital did a 180 and just released her. 

It wouldn’t end there though, because she got a bad infection from wearing the catheter for too long in the hospital. They were suppose to send her home with medications, to treat it, but they didn’t. Just yesterday, we had to take her back to a doctor, to get medication for her. I complained to our main o GYN doctor about her treatment there, and her response was to close the door, so that the other nurse who was peaking her head in and listening to my complaints wouldn’t hear what I said and became completely dismissive of everything I said. Thank God we are out of that hell hole. 

Some people may think of the UF as one of the best hospitals there is, but it is a teaching hospital, with mostly young staff that are arrogant and do not have a lot of experience, even if they are book smart.
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3:54 PM - Jun 14, 2018 #2

I realize there are quite a bit of spelling mistakes in my post. I’m not used to typing on an iPad and don’t really have a pc or laptop where I am, but in August sometime, hopefully I’ll be back on the farm, with my own pc. My girlfriend is kind of weird about people using her MacBook.
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3:20 PM - Jun 21, 2018 #3

Sorry for the late reply.

Thanks be to God your son is born. Great news indeed. Welcome to life, Malakai's son!
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4:47 AM - Jun 28, 2018 #4

I’ll just say this: this is one of the toughest things I’ve had to do in my life, raising a newborn. I don’t know if most fathers even know some of the stuff I’ve experienced, just out of circumstance of having a disabled partner that is also the mother to your son or daughter, not to mention the huge challenges of breastfeeding.

I’m exhausted all the time and am more of a hermit than I’ve ever been. It’s not that it’s even heavy physical labor, but it can still knock you down pretty hard,
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3:34 PM - Jun 28, 2018 #5

I don't blame you for feeling exhausted. But I promise you this: I tried all kinds of crazy things to convince myself they would make me happy. At one time,  I actually went to a school dance and dressed like Fred Durst in 1999 while  I thought Limp Bizkit was "good music".

I was still unhappy.

Then I bought The Fragile by Nine Inch Nails thinking that hard hitting industrial would make me happy.

I wasn't.

Then  I got into video gaming as you witnessed out of me the last 12 years.

I still felt empty and incomplete.

Today  I have turned to the Lord for spiritual nourishment and enlightenment. I can tell you for certain, things like I just mentioned amount to nothing when a person is fully engaged in God's grace. Even if you've NEVER been to church, you might be surprised by what just going to a good one ( not filled with corrupt cultists- a real church) will do for your health. Our country was on the brink of extinction because we badly need God and have strayed too far from Him.

I've never been happier and more at peace with all that has transpired and wounded me in my life. A real healing process of sorts.

But then again, we all have free will. So, all I have to offer you now is the first hand perspective of seeking happiness in all the worst places only to come up empty. A companion, wheel chair or not, with a newborn is a blessing I would not take for granted. Jesus said all who want to be with Him 'must take up the cross and follow Him.'

Think about that for a second. If not for our crosses, would you still be a good person or desire good? I'm willing to believe if not for bearing crosses (which we all do), we would be corrupt and dishonest as those we witness on Earth have shown their true colors when they look like they never suffer. God suffers with us. He doesn't "enjoy" it,  I promise you that.

Feel free to email ME any time you want. Especially if you need to vent. What you're doing is brave, noble, and yes, very tough. I hope your son grows up to be an extraordinary human being. God loves him too.
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