Yes you can...A message from Lorraine

Yes you can...A message from Lorraine

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23 Jul 2002, 19:00 #1

From: SweetLorraine (Silver) Sent: 7/23/2002 1:06 AM
For anyone out there wondering if they truly could quit smoking - please give me a few minutes to tell you how Freedom helped me.

More than nine months ago I quit smoking - nicotine is highly addictive and I am completely suseptible to every addictive substance known to man. I was a hardcore user of nicotine that thought filter cigarettes were for sissies. I smoked for more than 30 years, virtually all of my adult life.

When smoking became less acceptable in the 1990s I switched to stronger cigarettes so that I could get by with less than a pack a day.

In Juneof 2001 Using nicotine became even less convenient - I was no longer allowed to smoke at home. Work had never allowed smoking, so there I was faced with pretty much constant withdrawal. I began to think about quitting, very reluctantly. I decided to cut down (that was a suggestion on a web site - I think the ALA's ). Withdrawal was even worse - there was no time when smoking was pleasurable. At 7 - 8 cigarettes a day I was either craving a cigarette or dizzy from smoking one. And one was never enough. This went on until October - four months to realize some simple truths:

1) I do not smoke because I enjoy it - I smoke because I'm addicted to nicotine

2) Smoking has no benefits

My health care provider offered several options for quitting smoking - including NRT but considering how poorly I'd done with nicotine I didn't think change the form of the drug was going to be the answer for me. One thing they offered pushed me over the edge, it was information. They had a test to evaluate your readiness to quit smoking. The test had a question about the number of cigarettes you smoked each day; if you answered less than 10 the response was what are you waiting for?

I had a whole carton of cigarettes left! Despite that I decided to quit on Wednesday evening. I had an appointment to get my teeth cleaned the following morning and had an extra two days off work. It seemed like as good a time as there was going to be.

I spent a lot of time on the computer - playing games and looking for information on quitting smoking. Actually I was searching for some benefit to smoking that I could use to justify taking it up again when I found tons of information on the benefits of not smoking. I still have What Happens When You Smoke Your Last Cigarette book marked. It gave me comfort to visualize healing instead of deprivation.

One of those early searches brought me to Freedom. I eventually managed to get a MSN Passport and to apply for membership. The acceptance letter from Grumpy was such a thrill. I posted a barely coherrent diary thread and got responses. I was still fuzzy at that point and having a lot of trouble with complex tasks like messaging. Despite my rather disjointed posts everyone was very kind and I clung to the words never take another puff like a life raft.

After the first few weeks infomation began to seep into my brain and time began to move forward. I saw humor I'd missed in posts, abbreviations made sense; hours passed without junky thinking plaguing me. Hints of comfort and life without smoking being possible at the same time began to filter in. I had hung in there long enough so that what the seasoned quitters had been telling me all along began to happen.

Up until that time I was going on blind faith that Joel, Joh, Joanne, Linda and the rest of the Freedom folks weren't lying. There had been plenty of times when I said to myself "Yeah sure you all are comfortable in your quits and never even think about a cigarette - but that is never going to happen for me because I'm such an addict and I'm still having thoughts!" Mind you this is prior to the one month mark and they were just thoughts! My patience was in such short supply that I marvel I got through it.

It was at the point where I was convinced that comfort was never going to happen to me that it did. A post from Marty made realize that thoughts are way different from cravings or urges or triggers. With that little glimmer of insight I re-read Joel's post on Fixiating on a Cigarette (sorry never have gotten that link thing to work) and the light went on! Started looking at things from a new perspective. I started to appreciate my quit, worked into enjoying my quit and now I am celebrating my quit.

I achieved a goal I had thought was impossible - I quit smoking. I wanted to add my testimony to the annals of Freedom. For each lurker, newbie, for anyone struggling with nicotine addiction - there is hope. Freedom offers information and support it's all you need to win - if you do your part. Your part requires a commitment that for now you wont take another puff, that's it.

Quitting can be as easy as you make it - the faster you put the information available at Freedom into practice the easier it will be.




Lorraine

Celebrating 9 months 1 week and 5 days of Freedom!

PS I'm off to the beach for awhile tommorow so congratulations in advance on any milestones I miss - and congratulation on anyone celebrating another day of Freedom they are all worth celebrating!
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23 Jul 2002, 19:08 #2

Here is the link you were referring to Lorraine: Fixating on a cigarette. Your post should help to inspire our newest members and lurkers alike that no matter how much or how long a person has smoked, and no matter how skeptical a person may be of his or her chances of quitting, that successful quitting is within every smokers grasp if they educate themselves as much as they can and to totally understand and believe the simply message that to stay free they must never take another puff!

Joel
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23 Jul 2002, 19:26 #3

Terrific post, Lorraine

That should be a real booster for anyone thinking of quitting, and thru the early stages of a quit. I specially keyed into the words you used "Started looking at things from a new perspective. I started to appreciate my quit, worked into enjoying my quit and now I am celebrating my quit" and that's a great insight. You have defined three stages of a quit - appreciate it, enjoy it, celebrate it - and I'd never thought of it that way. But that is exactly right !!!!

That's a wonderful nine month quit you have there, Lorraine, and it's good to see you sharing your experience and insight with others. I hope you've contacted Gucci or whoever about designing those new color shoes you're going to need pretty soon

Marty
NOT A PUFF FOR 1 year 7 months 3 weeks 1 day
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23 Jul 2002, 20:13 #4

Dear Sweet Lorraine,

What a great post! You had me giggling - esp. with the "complex tasks like messaging" - and you had me nodding in self-recognition too.

How many of us really, really believed in the beginning that we would feel better? That the craves would fade away? That we could really do it? Luckily for us all, believing is optional. All we had to do to prove it was learn everything we could about nicotine addiction, take it one day at a time and let the comfort unfold.

This is SO doable!

Thank you Lorraine!

Melissa
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23 Jul 2002, 21:54 #5

I agree this is SO doable. That's almost the ironic part of this all. I'll bet that every single quitter here, at one point, thought that they couldn't do it. Or were at least terrified by the thought of the dreaded "QUIT." And I'm sure for some it's much harder than for others, but it's not THAT bad. I know for me, it was SO much easier than I anticipated. I think an enormous part of the difficulty of quitting are the false pretenses under which we begin our endeavor, the over dramatized anticipation, the fear that the junkie instills in us. And probably most of all IGNORANCE. Education is everything in a quit, and this is why Freedom and Joel and all the Goldies are such an incredibly INVALUABLE resource. You has offered each of us the the tools to appreciate, enjoy, and celebrate our quits. Thank you for that.

Jessica
Day 21 smoke and nicotine free!!!
Woohoo!!!!
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23 Jul 2002, 22:52 #6

WHAT OUTSTANDING INSPIRATION!!! I will keep this nearby for strength as I follow you on this path! GREAT POST and thank you from a newbie!

SAM 18 days, 10 hours, 52 minutes of freedom!
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24 Jul 2002, 00:47 #7

Great post, Lorraine! Who would have thought that we would come to enjoy not smoking so much! It is the great irony, isn't it?
yqs, Janet :)
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24 Jul 2002, 00:52 #8

Lorraine,

Excellent post! Thank-you.

Jazz
I have chosen not to smoke for 2 Months 1 Day 14 Hours 1 Minute 49 Seconds. Cigarettes not smoked: 1251. Money saved: C$419.32.
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24 Jul 2002, 01:04 #9

appreciate it, enjoy it, celebrate it

I like that. It's right up there with all the great ones, including Never Take Another Puff.

Definitely a good daily affirmation for newbies and oldbies alike. For the newbies, it provides wonderful inspiration...and for the oldbies, even though I'm not one yet, (just what exactly is somebody who's in the middle considered anyway ? LOL) it would seem like it would be a reminder never to become complacent in their quits and to keep on appreciating how far they've come.

Well, whatever it is, it sounds good to me.
Thank you, Lorraine !!!

Brightest Blessings,
Tatum

Been kicking Nicodemons Butt to the Curb For 2 Months 3 Weeks 3 Days 2 Hours . Cigarettes not smoked: 2553. Money saved: $319.17.
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08 Aug 2002, 20:37 #10

For all the newbies and lurkers!
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15 Aug 2002, 02:14 #11

Sweet, Sweet Lorraine,

You posted this one the day I quit! I think I remember reading it at some point during one of my brain fogs. I'm currently adding a post in my diary with my favorite links, read this one, added it to my list, and decided it needed to come up . . . just in case some newer-than-me newbie or lurker needs to see it.

Love, Peace, and Freedom!
YQS
C
3W 15h 39m 49s (-649 cigarettes)
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22 Oct 2002, 12:24 #12

A sweet post from a sweet goldbie...
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17 Dec 2002, 23:36 #13

I am glad you brought this post up, what an inspiration! Well said and SOOO true!
Patti
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12 Sep 2003, 20:03 #14

1) I do not smoke because I enjoy it - I smoke because I'm addicted to nicotine.

2) Smoking has no benefits.

3) One day at a time, yes you can!
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11 Jan 2004, 10:15 #15

Heya, Newbies, Sweet Lorraine is now Gold X Two! She is my dear quit sis, a month ahead of me! Read her wonderful message, and take note!

yqs, Janet :)
Two Years One Month +
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22 Jan 2004, 21:53 #16

For the newbies
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23 Jan 2004, 01:27 #17

Wonderful post SweetLorraine,

I too am going on blind faith that you guys are telling the truth and that one day I will feel comfortable in my own skin. I wrote in my post today that i think I am hiding out in my house because nothing I do feels truely right. I'll just keep waiting One Day At a Time!
Laurie
I have chosen not to smoke for 3 Weeks 10 Hours 4 Minutes 27 Seconds. Cigarettes not smoked: 685. Money saved: $85.68.
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17 Mar 2004, 00:42 #18



Yes you can!
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15 Apr 2004, 08:59 #19

SweetLorraine clicked the heels of her magic shoes together and repeated,
"There's no place like home. There's no place like home."

How is it I've never read this wonderful post? Thank you Lorraine! Just what I needed to read tonight.

~ Kay ~
Celebrating 3.73 Months of Freedom.
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04 May 2004, 21:44 #20

for anyone from last night who might want to invest in their lifespan, not just their portfolio.... You can do this!
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05 May 2004, 20:50 #21

Thanks for bringing this up Bill. I still agree with everything I said . It's been an amazing journey.

A few weeks ago I bought a new car I drove around in it for another week before I realized it didn't come with either an ashtray or a lighter.

I'm sure there's nothing unusual about the lack of smoking accessories. But it certainly is a big change for me not to notice them. A few years ago I would have noticed on the test drive and been frantic. There was a time when I thought wing windows an absolute neccessitiy in an automobile.

Not smoking continues to bring pleasant surprises into my life. One of the biggest is the total ease of being without an active addiction to feed. Quitting takes effort in the beginning. Being quit is effortless. Deep comfort is a benefit I'm grateful for each day.

When will comfort happen for you? I can't tell you, in my case it snuck up on me when I wasn't looking. I can tell you this though, as long as you remember, just for today not a single puff no matter what, then comfort will be be yours.

yqf

Lorraine, Gold Club

P.S. New cars really do smell great!
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23 Oct 2004, 15:36 #22

hi lorraine, your words are just what the doctored ordered. IDEAL for newbies, and for folks like me at just over 1 month. Tonight I had a bit of a shock when a psychological -dependency thought hit me. I was scared but held on thanks to Freedom. This really comforted me. A remarkable and compelling read. I loved the part where you took things at blind faith then it all came together. many thanks Lorraine. and thanks Joel for re-posting.
mari, 1 month and 14 days
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24 Oct 2004, 20:57 #23

Hi Mari,

You are the reason I wrote this. I wanted others to know that you do get past all the doubts, thoughts, urges and cravings. I still, obviously, stop by Freedom and read on a faily regular basis. It's good to be reminded what the initial struggle was like.

I read your post about meeting smoking friends for a drink and the feelings that produced and felt such empathy for you . By the time I read your post the crisis had already passed, so I didn't post to your thread because of Freedom's policy ( Bringing negative posts to the top after the crisis has passed[font=ARIAL, GEORGIA, 'TIMES NEW ROMAN', TIMES, SERIF] [/font] ).

You are doing this, your quit will grow into something you cherish as long as you remember, just for today, not a single puff, no matter what. I'm rooting for you.

yqf

Lorraine Gold Club
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24 Dec 2004, 02:44 #24

GIVE YOURSELF THE GIFT OF LIFE.
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01 Jan 2005, 22:26 #25

Yes you can!
  • The next few minutes are all that matter & each is doable!
  • No crave episode will be longer than 3 minutes
  • Look at a clock as time distortion is a very real recovery symptom
  • Do not skip meals as nicotine is no longer feeding you
  • Work on spreading your daily food intake out more evenly
  • Natural fruit juice will help stabilize blood sugar the first three days
  • Take a moment towrite down your list of reasons for quitting
  • If any challenge seems bigger than you read your list.
  • Slow deep breaths, a nice cool glass of water, yes you can!
  • If you're a big caffeine drinker consider try cutting intake by half
  • Nicotine doubled the rate at which your body depleted caffeine
  • Try leaving alcohol alone until you get your quitting legs under you
  • Or at least take EXTREME care with alcohol during early recovery
  • Within 72 hours withdrawal will peak in intensity
  • Nicotine's half-life is roughly 2 hours.
  • Within 72 hours your blood and body will be nicotine free
  • You're not fighting a carton, pack or whole cigarette but just 1 puff
  • If you take one puff you'll be forced to do nicotine detox again
  • You're not that strong but then you don't need to be.
  • Nicotine is just a chemical with an I.Q. of zero. It cannot think.
  • The next few minutes are entirely doable.
  • Only one rule ... no nicotine just one day at a time
  • Never Take Another Puff !
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