Why am I still having "urges?"

Subconscious use cue extinguishment
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:59

23 Jan 2007, 13:59 #26

I needed this today! I'm on day 21 and for the last day and a half it seems that's all I've thought about is cigarettes. I know it's disgusting and I don't really want one but I can't seem to get the thought out of my head! I've done a couple things that I haven't done in this quit yet and that's probably what has given me the feeling that I should be smoking a cigarette. The 4 mile walk I did today helped fight the urge, and once again reading here helped. I'm sure tomorrow will be better and I made it through one more day smoke free!

Rita - Free and Healing for Twenty One Days and 48 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 1 Day and 16 Hours, by avoiding the use of 484 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $96.84.
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Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

23 Jan 2007, 19:04 #27

Sometimes you will encounter a person who says they are constantly thinking about smoking or sometimes you yourself feel that you fit into this category of individual. Generally when a person says they are constantly thinking about smoking, people around them tries to share the advice to think about something else. First, there is an inaccuracy about what the ex-smoker is saying. He or she is not constantly thinking about smoking, rather, he or she is fixating on "one cigarette" or "one puff." It's hard to think about something else because one puff seems like such a wonderful concept. They are often reminiscing about one of the best cigarettes, or more accurately, about the sensation around one of the best fixes they ever had. It may be one the smoked 20 years earlier but that is the one they are focused on.
So what about thinking about something else? Well, it's hard to think of something else that can deliver such pleasure as this magic memory. Even if they successfully think of something else and overcome that urge, they walk away from the moment with a sense of longing or sadness with what they have just been deprived of again.

So, what is an ex-smoker to do? Change the tactic. Instead of trying (often unsuccessfully) of something else, acknowledge the desire. Don't tell yourself you don't want one, you do and you know it. But remember there is a catch. To take the one you have to have all the others with it. And with the others, you have to take all the problems that go with "them." The smell, the expense, the embarrassment, social ostracization, the total loss of control, and the health implications. The health effects are the most serious of the implications considering they lead to slowly being crippled then death.

This is what to focus on when the thought of one creeps into consciousness, the package deal of smoking. Think about the hundreds of cigarettes that have to go with that first one weekly. Think about the thousands that go with that first one every year, or the hundreds of thousands that will go with it until it kills you. These are not exaggerated numbers. Do the math yourself; calculate how much you smoked in your lifetime and figure out how many more will be consumed if you didn't quit.

I am not saying to look at cigarettes negatively, just look at them exactly as they really were. If you pull the whole spectrum of smoking into focus, you will be able to walk away from the "urge" with the attitude that you are glad you are not doing that anymore. You won't feel deprived you will feel grateful. The more you remember smoking the less you will think about a cigarette. In a sense forcing yourself to remember will help you forget. Not forget smoking, but the fantasy, the appeal of a nicotine fix. A nicotine fix was not worth smoking for while you were a smoker, you can bet it is not worth it as an ex-smoker with freedom to lose now as well as all the other implications that always went with smoking.

In summing up, I will say that not smoking will never seem as good as the fantasy of smoking. But smoking was never that good either. The fantasy is "one" with no side effects, and no loss of control. The reality though is a dirty, disgusting, and deadly addiction. See them for what they are and you will stop wanting them as much.

Again, it can't be said too often, you are fighting for your health and your life. To win this fight is no more complicated than just keeping your commitment enforced to never take another puff!

Joel
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Joined: 07 Jan 2009, 19:35

27 Jan 2007, 10:53 #28

This is exactley why I love this web site. Gong on almost three weeks smoke free here and I am still thinking alot about smoking. I thought I was crazy, so I come to this site and here you you all are. Thanks for helping everyone.

As an aside I have recomended this web site to many people and two well, one and a half have quit!! I am trying to help the 1/2. I just threw her cigs away for her SO incase you are reading go Sheri..NTAP
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Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

30 Jan 2007, 03:44 #29

"Will I ever stop thinking of cigarettes?" Dial up
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Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 01:29

30 Jan 2007, 17:55 #30

Thank you. I too SO needed to read this post. I will be watching the video that was posted as well.

I have been quit for 1 Week, 21 hours, 10 minutes and 1 second (7 days). I have saved $30.33 by not smoking 157 cigarettes. I have saved 13 hours and 5 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 1/22/2007 6:45 AM
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22 Mar 2007, 20:51 #31

Related video:
"Will I ever stop thinking of cigarettes?" Dial up
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Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:03

08 Apr 2007, 14:02 #32

Joel,
OUCH!!!! This is so true. I put my rollerblades on, I want a smoke. I'm cleaning the house when the kids are gone, I want a smoke. I will never take another puff. Period. I will find another way to deal with life, but it will not be nicotine!
34 days, and 7 grateful kids later.
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Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

09 Apr 2007, 06:25 #33

Joel
That is an awsome way of looking at the situation and so true. I am almost 1 year to the day into this quit (my last quit ever). Lately I have endured maybe 2 30 second "urges" to smoke. Once when I had company from out of town and about half of us were smokers. I actually felt left out for a second. It was only a second after all. When I think about the amount of time I spent wishing I could quit in the first place...it's a no brainer. I can handle 30 seconds of loss, compared to a lifetime!
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Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

04 Oct 2007, 09:08 #34

Today was an especially hard one for me. I really really really thought I was going to smoke. Still dealing with the peaks and valleys of mood swings. I know from past experience that if I smoke, my mood will improve. But am I going to throw this quit away, like I have all my others? Not on your life. Not on MY life. I've learned too much here to hopefully ever smoke again. Like they say in the 12 Step meetings, "Ain't nuthin' worse than a head full of AA and a belly full of beer." So I breathed deep, thought about getting home to my computer and the boards. And how if I DID smoke, I would not be allowed back here. I would be honest. And I do NOT want to ever NOT be able to come here to this group. No way. Tomorrow will be a better day. Suzi 1M 1W 5D
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Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

04 Oct 2007, 09:51 #35

It will get better. I never-ever want to go back to smoking nicotine. Its not COOL, its not FUN, its NOT going to feel good, it will make us SICK. Fixating on a cigarette is a good one too. Here's a nice cup of tea for you....., you did good, you took a deep breathe and moved on....way to go girl......
Star- your qs - enjoying 81 days.
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Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:26

04 Oct 2007, 09:57 #36

Hang in there, Suzi - we both know you can do it!

Hugs,

Anne

Three weeks, three days, 9 hours, 27 minutes and 39 seconds. 609 cigarettes not smoked, saving $274.43. Life saved: 2 days, 2 hours, 45 minutes.
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Joined: 16 Jan 2003, 08:00

04 Oct 2007, 12:09 #37

From: Suzi Sent: 10/3/2007 9:09 PM
Thanx Quit Sistas Star and Anne!!! Gonna hang tough and
KNOCK that thought down and KNOCK that thought away and...!!! Suzi
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Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:16

18 Dec 2007, 12:10 #38

I haven't been to this site in a long time but it seems right to visit once in a while. This helped me start a new life over 1 and 1/2 years ago. May 21, 2006 was the exact date. I guess I never will forget that date. It has been a wonderful journey and it does just get better and better. I still have a dream now and then about smoking but that is all. I now go many days without even remembering that I smoked. I smoked for more than 42 years and I am so thankful that I found this site and found freedom. I really do have to say I feel "free". Everywhere I go, I have so much fun and I don't have to keep leaving to get my fix. I can relax and enjoy everyone's company. I was about the last in my entire group of friends and family to remain smoking. I have just two friends now who have not quit, but I am working on them.

This is definately one of the most important sites on the internet.



Thank you Freedom from Tobacco

Dianne
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Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:16

17 Feb 2008, 13:48 #39

Thank you for this, it really put things into perspective for me!
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Joined: 16 Jan 2003, 08:00

21 Dec 2008, 23:37 #40

Keep focused, whether it is hours into a quit or decades into a quit. It was a good decision to quit, maybe the most important decision you have made in your life as far as quality and length of your life goes. To keep the decision alive and continue to reap the benefit, always remember, Never Take Another Puff!

Joel
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Joined: 14 May 2010, 19:46

29 May 2010, 14:41 #41

It's like that post was written just for me to read. I needed that this morning thank you.

Shantastic
5 weeks 1 day and 12 hours quit!
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Joined: 06 Dec 2008, 16:58

05 Aug 2011, 18:52 #42

As an ex-smoker, there may be times you want a cigarette. As a smoker, there will be times you want to quit. Neither side is perfect, but the ex-smoker side has clear advantages. It will get easier and easier over time getting to the point of smoking becoming a thing of the past. The smoking side leads to a much more ominous road.

Keep focused, whether it is hours into a quit or decades into a quit. It was a good decision to quit, maybe the most important decision you have made in your life as far as quality and length of your life goes. To keep the decision alive and continue to reap the benefit, always remember, Never Take Another Puff!

Joel
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Joined: 18 Jan 2009, 06:57

20 Apr 2012, 12:05 #43

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Joined: 16 May 2012, 04:29

26 May 2012, 15:38 #44

This website is great.  I quit before I found this forum, just a day or two before, but I am sure I would still not be smoke free if I did not find this forum.  I had no idea how important reading all this reinforcement information really is to my quit.  The first 72 hours is hard, but it really is the non threatening thoughts of I beat nicotine, so I can have a smoke now that always brought me back. 

The NTAP saying has pulled me through those thoughts quite well so far.

Thanks 

Two weeks, six days, 8 hours, 8 minutes and 16 seconds. 406 cigarettes not smoked, saving $203.39. Life saved: 1 day, 9 hours, 50 minutes.
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Joined: 13 Nov 2008, 14:04

26 May 2012, 15:55 #45

These should help too:
Just one little puff
Just one or two
Never Take Another Puff
The Law of Addiction
Is relapse a natural part of the addiction process?
One puff files


From Good news, our members don't relapse anymore...:


This policy offers up two big advantages. The first is to the group as a whole. Every person coming here is now guaranteed that the board is always going to be focused on people who are successfully off smoking. There will be no need to spend time consoling relapses or trying to help a person rationalize a relapse. Again we had the advantages of that principle already covered in our There is no legitimate reason to relapse thread.







But the primary benefactor of this policy is each and every member himself or herself. We have made it very easy for each and every member to have a clearly defined spelled out battle line. No longer does a person have the luxury of thinking, "Well if I relapse, I'll go to Freedom and quit again." We have in effect destroyed what to some people can be a very persuasive argument supporting a kind of junkie thinking.







Again, for the majority of people here this policy poses no threat and makes the each and every members mission here that much more clearly defined. It was what their intent was the day they first signed up to Freedom. To stay a member of Freedom, and more important, to keep the health and life saving benefits of staying a successful ex-smoker is as simple now as just remembering to stay totally committed to never take another puff!

 
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