wackylaurie
wackylaurie

February 14th, 2004, 9:36 pm #11

Hi Joel,
Had a couple of days that the craves seemed to be pounding down on me. you suggested that I read this and a few other threads. I had already read them before but I read them again. I will continue to read things over and over. It is just like getting that GET OUT OF 1 CRAVE FREE! pass.
I still do not know what the triggers were that caused such a ruckus in my head but because of another thread I read that also is explained.
Well, I posted, got wonderful support and suggestions and I DID NOT TAKE THAT STINKING THINKING PUFF! If I had smoked yesterday today I would have been a failure, all my hard work would have been in vain, nothing would have been solved and now I would be back on that LIFE ZAPPING tread mill again. If smoking is so wonderful why did I always want to quit?
Well this ex-smoker is going to spend this valentines day walking the urban trail of Asheville with my sweetheart. Happy VICTORY Day to all!
Laurie
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LilLulu814
LilLulu814

February 15th, 2004, 9:49 pm #12

hi Laurie! I'm so glad you didnt take that puff! You are always so good with your posts, so encouraging and welcoming. I too have always wanted to quit and never seemed to find the "right" time. I guess like people waiting to have a baby ti; th e"right" time, the time is right when you start to think about it, there never really is a "right" time. Im not sure where I'd be if not for this site and all of you wonderful encouraing people. Not sure if my quit would still be happening, but I don't have to wonder, because I found you and I have come to read everyday since the second day of my quit. Thank you all for being so kind and encouraging. Laurie, keep up the good work and NTAP.
I have chosen not to smoke for 1 Week 3 Days 10 Hours 48 Minutes 39 Seconds. Cigarettes not smoked: 313. Money saved: $53.92.
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threeboyz2keep
threeboyz2keep

February 26th, 2004, 12:09 pm #13

Thanks Joel, I needed this reminder....

One month, two weeks, two days, 23 hours, 43 minutes and 30 seconds. 1439 cigarettes not smoked, saving $172.76. Life saved: 4 days, 23 hours, 55 minutes.

Michelle
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tedhend
tedhend

February 26th, 2004, 12:59 pm #14

I sign on this evening and read this. This site is incredible. I am eight days in my quit, facing lots of urges and fighting them back. So far, nothing has been a hard fight and posts like this reinforce my vigilance. I need this ammo in my head, the thought of giving in to a puff and then wanting to quit all the time- what a choice!
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ozeroc
ozeroc

August 19th, 2004, 12:05 am #15

Thanks Joel,
I needed to read that.
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AntiqueRadioGuy2
AntiqueRadioGuy2

September 20th, 2004, 11:36 pm #16

Thx!
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

January 10th, 2005, 9:23 pm #17

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Joel
Joel

February 4th, 2005, 10:49 am #18

For a clinic graduate from 10 years ago--in case she is looking in. First real thought for a cigarette in years kind of caught her a little off guard.
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coryw42
coryw42

February 5th, 2005, 7:24 am #19

A very good friend of mine quit smoking over 10 yrs ago and she admits to having a craving for maybe a split second for a cigarette every once in a great while, she said it happens so fast that she hardly realizes it.
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

November 20th, 2005, 9:09 am #20

"The thoughts that happened down the road are triggers of fond memories. The thought is often that it seems like a good idea now to smoke a cigarette. Kind of like the urge you get to clean your house on a slow day. Seems like a good idea for a few seconds, but if you find something better to do, so be it. The same concept holds true for the thought of a cigarette.

Other times there will be thoughts of "I used to smoke when I did this." Not a desire for a cigarette or smoking, but a feeling that your timing or ritual is off. Sometimes there may even be a feeling that you are supposed to be doing "something" right now, but do not even realize what it is. All of a sudden you realize you used to smoke at this particular juncture of time or a specific new situation. Again, it is not that you want or need a cigarette in these two cases, just that the routine was a little off." - Joel

Well today was the day I went to the attic to retrieve the lights, wreaths, garlands and whatnot to begin preparing our house for the approaching Holiday. Possibly the last 'nice' weekend day (nearly 50 and a little windy but lots of sun) to get most of this annual ritual behind me.

And so as I'm carying two large tote bins into the garage (yep another garage story ) I got hit with just the kind of urge Joel details above. Even at 10 months I occasionally run into a 'First Time since I Quit' activity. The urge wasn't all that strong, really didn't last too long - 5 or 10 seconds tops. But the flood of thoughts, claims and counter claims, was indeed a warning flare that I should be especially mindful that I'm going to be in many once a year situations for the next two months.

So if any of you guys are gonna be putting up the holiday lights and decorations for the first (or even second) time since getting rid of nicotine, just know that the associations you have filed in your brain linking smoking with some event or other may bring back the 'Hey, how bout a cig' thought and urge.

Way too educated to be fooled by what I now recognize another  false association  being recalled from my minds' storehouse. Each and every time I like to repeat a phrase that I came up with after reading Kay's classic Triggers: Reminders From Your Executive Assistant ....

'Oh I'm sorry Sir, I'm afraid you've reached a number that is disconnected and no longer in service.'

JoeJFree always a nicotine addict and 40 year tobacco user gratefully now an X-smoker for 10 months, 9 days, 9 hours, 51 minutes and 54 seconds (313 days)
I've now reclaimed 27 Days and 4 Hours to live life as I choose! NTAP!
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Crystal View1.ffn
Crystal View1.ffn

November 20th, 2005, 10:05 am #21

 THANK GOODNESS FOR READING, READING, READING !


Joe, GOOD FOR YOU ! ! !  This is a very important and precious links to bring up at this time of year (and, of course, all year!). Triggers: Reminders From Your Executive Assistant .... This was one of the MOST IMPORTANT pieces of the education I "planted" in my mind and heart. It is the one that comes to mind most often when my executive assistant tries to feed me lines!

Restoring volume control
"But, the past couple of days… It is November, it is getting colder, it is getting near the holidays and I went to the mall tonight, work is reved up because we are doing the very biggest project we have ever done and it is exhilerating and so exciting, I am doing some "heart" work and I am not sure "where " I am going with it!, and, well, IT IS LIFE ISN'T IT. "


These days, I think about lots of stuff, like leaving work to go shopping, stopping at a favorite deli for dinner, going to visit my children and grand children, cleaning, living....but not about when I am going to get my next fix. FREEDOM !  Today, I even thought, with all these grandchildren that seem to be blessing my live, I might actually get to be a great-grandmother someday! This part of my journey is SO different but so lovely.



Katie - After 40 Years! Free and Healing for One Year, One Month, Three Days, 11 Hours and 50 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 23 Days and 12 Hours, by avoiding the use of 6774 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $1,377.31.
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Rickgoldx5
Rickgoldx5

March 31st, 2006, 12:09 pm #22

For Steve or anyone thinking they might have another quit in them.
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auntvaleria
auntvaleria

April 12th, 2006, 8:03 pm #23

aunt valeria
I have been quit for 1 Month, 2 Weeks, 2 Days, 11 hours, 33 minutes and 52 seconds (47 days). I have saved $130.56 by not smoking 949 cigarettes. I have saved 3 Days, 7 hours and 5 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 2/23/2006 7:30 PM
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Joel
Joel

July 21st, 2006, 3:10 am #24

As an ex-smoker, there may be times you want a cigarette. As a smoker, there will be times you want to quit.

Neither side is perfect, but the ex-smoker side has clear advantages.

It will get easier and easier over time getting to the point of smoking becoming a thing of the past. The smoking side leads to a much more ominous road.

Keep focused, whether it is hours into a quit or decades into a quit.

It was a good decision to quit, maybe the most important decision you have made in your life as far as quality and length of your life goes.

To keep the decision alive and continue to reap the benefit, always remember, Never Take Another Puff!

Joel
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

November 22nd, 2006, 1:16 pm #25

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jrsammy9
jrsammy9

January 23rd, 2007, 1:59 pm #26

I needed this today! I'm on day 21 and for the last day and a half it seems that's all I've thought about is cigarettes. I know it's disgusting and I don't really want one but I can't seem to get the thought out of my head! I've done a couple things that I haven't done in this quit yet and that's probably what has given me the feeling that I should be smoking a cigarette. The 4 mile walk I did today helped fight the urge, and once again reading here helped. I'm sure tomorrow will be better and I made it through one more day smoke free!

Rita - Free and Healing for Twenty One Days and 48 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 1 Day and 16 Hours, by avoiding the use of 484 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $96.84.
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Joel
Joel

January 23rd, 2007, 7:04 pm #27

Sometimes you will encounter a person who says they are constantly thinking about smoking or sometimes you yourself feel that you fit into this category of individual. Generally when a person says they are constantly thinking about smoking, people around them tries to share the advice to think about something else. First, there is an inaccuracy about what the ex-smoker is saying. He or she is not constantly thinking about smoking, rather, he or she is fixating on "one cigarette" or "one puff." It's hard to think about something else because one puff seems like such a wonderful concept. They are often reminiscing about one of the best cigarettes, or more accurately, about the sensation around one of the best fixes they ever had. It may be one the smoked 20 years earlier but that is the one they are focused on.
So what about thinking about something else? Well, it's hard to think of something else that can deliver such pleasure as this magic memory. Even if they successfully think of something else and overcome that urge, they walk away from the moment with a sense of longing or sadness with what they have just been deprived of again.

So, what is an ex-smoker to do? Change the tactic. Instead of trying (often unsuccessfully) of something else, acknowledge the desire. Don't tell yourself you don't want one, you do and you know it. But remember there is a catch. To take the one you have to have all the others with it. And with the others, you have to take all the problems that go with "them." The smell, the expense, the embarrassment, social ostracization, the total loss of control, and the health implications. The health effects are the most serious of the implications considering they lead to slowly being crippled then death.

This is what to focus on when the thought of one creeps into consciousness, the package deal of smoking. Think about the hundreds of cigarettes that have to go with that first one weekly. Think about the thousands that go with that first one every year, or the hundreds of thousands that will go with it until it kills you. These are not exaggerated numbers. Do the math yourself; calculate how much you smoked in your lifetime and figure out how many more will be consumed if you didn't quit.

I am not saying to look at cigarettes negatively, just look at them exactly as they really were. If you pull the whole spectrum of smoking into focus, you will be able to walk away from the "urge" with the attitude that you are glad you are not doing that anymore. You won't feel deprived you will feel grateful. The more you remember smoking the less you will think about a cigarette. In a sense forcing yourself to remember will help you forget. Not forget smoking, but the fantasy, the appeal of a nicotine fix. A nicotine fix was not worth smoking for while you were a smoker, you can bet it is not worth it as an ex-smoker with freedom to lose now as well as all the other implications that always went with smoking.

In summing up, I will say that not smoking will never seem as good as the fantasy of smoking. But smoking was never that good either. The fantasy is "one" with no side effects, and no loss of control. The reality though is a dirty, disgusting, and deadly addiction. See them for what they are and you will stop wanting them as much.

Again, it can't be said too often, you are fighting for your health and your life. To win this fight is no more complicated than just keeping your commitment enforced to never take another puff!

Joel
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jtaft
jtaft

January 27th, 2007, 10:53 am #28

This is exactley why I love this web site. Gong on almost three weeks smoke free here and I am still thinking alot about smoking. I thought I was crazy, so I come to this site and here you you all are. Thanks for helping everyone.

As an aside I have recomended this web site to many people and two well, one and a half have quit!! I am trying to help the 1/2. I just threw her cigs away for her SO incase you are reading go Sheri..NTAP
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Joel
Joel

January 30th, 2007, 3:44 am #29

"Will I ever stop thinking of cigarettes?" Dial up
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MichQuit122GOLDin08
MichQuit122GOLDin08

January 30th, 2007, 5:55 pm #30

Thank you. I too SO needed to read this post. I will be watching the video that was posted as well.

I have been quit for 1 Week, 21 hours, 10 minutes and 1 second (7 days). I have saved $30.33 by not smoking 157 cigarettes. I have saved 13 hours and 5 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 1/22/2007 6:45 AM
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Joel
Joel

March 22nd, 2007, 8:51 pm #31

Related video:
"Will I ever stop thinking of cigarettes?" Dial up
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savide7
savide7

April 8th, 2007, 2:02 pm #32

Joel,
OUCH!!!! This is so true. I put my rollerblades on, I want a smoke. I'm cleaning the house when the kids are gone, I want a smoke. I will never take another puff. Period. I will find another way to deal with life, but it will not be nicotine!
34 days, and 7 grateful kids later.
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Sojournerxl1
Sojournerxl1

April 9th, 2007, 6:25 am #33

Joel
That is an awsome way of looking at the situation and so true. I am almost 1 year to the day into this quit (my last quit ever). Lately I have endured maybe 2 30 second "urges" to smoke. Once when I had company from out of town and about half of us were smokers. I actually felt left out for a second. It was only a second after all. When I think about the amount of time I spent wishing I could quit in the first place...it's a no brainer. I can handle 30 seconds of loss, compared to a lifetime!
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Suzi
Suzi

October 4th, 2007, 9:08 am #34

Today was an especially hard one for me. I really really really thought I was going to smoke. Still dealing with the peaks and valleys of mood swings. I know from past experience that if I smoke, my mood will improve. But am I going to throw this quit away, like I have all my others? Not on your life. Not on MY life. I've learned too much here to hopefully ever smoke again. Like they say in the 12 Step meetings, "Ain't nuthin' worse than a head full of AA and a belly full of beer." So I breathed deep, thought about getting home to my computer and the boards. And how if I DID smoke, I would not be allowed back here. I would be honest. And I do NOT want to ever NOT be able to come here to this group. No way. Tomorrow will be a better day. Suzi 1M 1W 5D
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starbirder.ffn
starbirder.ffn

October 4th, 2007, 9:51 am #35

It will get better. I never-ever want to go back to smoking nicotine. Its not COOL, its not FUN, its NOT going to feel good, it will make us SICK. Fixating on a cigarette is a good one too. Here's a nice cup of tea for you....., you did good, you took a deep breathe and moved on....way to go girl......
Star- your qs - enjoying 81 days.
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