What does my quit mean to me now ?

Hillbilly(Gold)
Hillbilly(Gold)

December 13th, 2002, 8:55 pm #21

If you're in your first day or week or month, this is what you have to look forward to if you just hang in there. Everyone has to start the same way--on Day 1.
From there to the place Marty is talking about is just a matter of taking things One day at a time

It really is that simple.


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Parker GOLD
Parker GOLD

March 6th, 2003, 4:27 am #22

I first read this when my quit was just shy of 2 months old. At that time, I thought it was a beautiful picture of a quit, but did not believe that I would ever feel this way. I still felt plagued by daily thoughts of smoking.

Now on the verge of 9 months, this post makes sense to me. I'm haven't hit all the same levels, but can feel myself heading in that direction. A good, healthy, life-affirming direction.

Nurture your quit with everything you've got in you. Give it time to grow and mature. Comfort is there waiting for you...

Grateful for every day of my freedom,
Parker
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john Clown065
john Clown065

March 7th, 2003, 3:17 pm #23

My quitting nicotine has transformed my life, and I dread to think where I would be if I had relapsed, as I had done on all my previous attempts to quit. I now lead an extremely active lifestyle and enjoy to the full the benefits of having been nicotine free for the past two and a half years or so. Quite simply it is probably the most important thing I have done for myself so far in my life, and I never want to be in a position where I would have to quit smoking again.

Best wishes -John (Previously Clown065)
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

April 23rd, 2003, 10:29 pm #24

If you're a new arrival reading posts like Marty's you're probably scratching your head. Each of us were so deep into our dependency that we lost sight of truth and reality. I know you think taking back your life is hard but it isn't nearly as challenging as spending the rest of your life as the chemical servant of nicotine. Patience, baby steps, just one day at a time and you'll soon begin to sense the calmness that resided inside your mind before nicotine took control. You're going home! John
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Shinelady Gold3282003
Shinelady Gold3282003

May 31st, 2003, 9:34 am #25

Just sitting here on Friday night looking for something inspirational to read on freedom and ...... I see that OBob has brought up this post from Marty. It's a wonderful, thought provoking , inspirational post. The one line that hit me like a ton of bricks was..

The thing I miss is the awful, sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach that I used to get every night when I went to bed, the dread of what I was doing to my body, and the feeling of self-disgust that I wasn't doing what I knew I should do about it. When I smoked, even the best of days was ruined.

Thanks Marty, I can relate to that one. It's so easy to run away from things that are unpleasant or painful to live with, but what a wonderful feeling it is to take charge and do something about it. Wonderful post and I know it will hit the pit of the stomachs of many of us... Thanks.....

yqs, sue
Two months, two days, 3 hours, 41 minutes and 55 seconds. 2526 cigarettes not smoked, saving $364.79. Life saved: 1 week, 1 day, 18 hours, 30 minutes.
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

June 30th, 2003, 9:52 am #26

The next few minutes are doable!
The minutes beyond them doable too.
Soon the doing is done, deep comfort begun,
as you arrive home to "you."
John
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Paige silver
Paige silver

July 1st, 2003, 3:57 am #27

Thank you Marty, for such an inspiring post! I've been having a rough couple of days, and reading what you had to say was just what I needed. Thanks for helping me to see what a bright future I have, and everyone here has, as a non-smoker. I know I need to get through one day at a time, but sometimes I have to concentrate on the bigger picture, too.

Blessings,
Paige
One month, one week, two days, 16 hours, 5 minutes and 43 seconds. 610 cigarettes not smoked, saving $129.64. Life saved: 2 days, 2 hours, 50 minutes.
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marty (gold)
marty (gold)

July 1st, 2003, 4:15 am #28

Oh boy, I haven't seen that post since I wrote it nearly a year ago !!!! And now that I've read it again, it rings as true for me today as it did then I still get a huge buzz at having succeeded in quitting. I still smile when I realize what I have achieved, and it still makes the worst of days so much better --- and I've needed that boost quite a lot in the past few months
I'm a lucky guy, and everyone here can become just as lucky as me All you have to do is ... wait for it .... all together now ...
NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF
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IrishLotus GOLD
IrishLotus GOLD

July 2nd, 2003, 9:03 pm #29

I have read this post before, but today, for some reason, it really is starting to feel "real". So real in fact, that I felt inspired this morning to go back to my very first post (The Blossoming Lotus) and look over the reasons I had for quitting to see if I could gauge my accomplishments thus far. The list reads as follows (concrete "accomplishments" are posted in red; the "result" of being over nine months nictoine free) :
20 Reasons Why I Chose to Live a Smoke Free Life 1. To fix that hole that has developed in the back of my throat that allows thick, goopy, nasty mucus to drip down my esophagus and make me cough (and cough and cough and COUGH!) and gag whenever I brush my teeth I stopped gagging after about two weeks smoke free and I hardly ever cough anymore...in fact, I haven't even had a cold since I quit!

2. To preserve my beautiful singing voice I am absolutely amazed at the things I can do with my vocal chords now. I always knew that I had a good ear for pitch, but ever since I began smoking, I started to "accept" the fact that I, for some reason (DUH!), just wasn't "talented" enough to really blow people away with my voice...well guess what?!?!? I have not only expanded my range tremendously but I have greatly increased my breath control and thus have been able to really "control" my voice for the first time in my life. I am absolutley exhilirated and I can't wait to audition for my next musical! We'll see about blowing people away!!!!!

3. So that I can breathe big, full, breaths Yoga has become a dream!!!

4. For sparkly white teeth and a beautiful smile Just about the time I stopped gagging when I brushed my teeth I began to notice a glowing new smile...and here I always though I was destined to have yellow teeth...BLAH!

5. For the $50.00 a week I will be able to save and use for things like a car and a computer Well, I haven't gotten the computer (yet) but I am happy to report that since I quit smoking I have been able to save enough money to purchase my first new vehicle which has allowed me to gain a whole lot of independence as well as to move in with my beloved boyfriend in South Jersey where you simply can't exist without reliable transportation. I am also very pleased to report that my new car still smells as purty as the first day I bought it and that when it rains I can keep the window up and STAY DRY!!!

6. So that I can actually taste all of the things I am missing due my severely damaged taste buds Ahhh yeah, food is DELICIIOUS! I didn't even know what I was missing!

7. So that my index and middle fingers are no longer stained yellow My fingers (and face) returned to a healthly pink glow about a week or so after I quit.

8. Mmmmmmmmm……lots and lots of sweet kisses (no more ashtray mouth) Well, my boyfriend still smokes, but I am definitely more confident in the smell of my breath now that I have quit. Even if he stinks I know I am tasty!

9. To prove that I am strong enough to beat a little piece of paper filled with 4,000 chemicals Who woulda thunk it? The confidence and increased self-esteem that I have experienced as a result of reaching this goal is absolutely beyond belief. I now feel as if the impossible is possible...and that is a feeling you just can't beat!

10. To make my life longer and more satisfying I have already begun to cherish each and every day of my life. In fact, I really treasure every breath these days, and that is a blessing in and of itself.

11. For all of that extra energy that comes along with good blood circulation and oxygen in my brain Not to mention all of the extra time I have gained now that I don't have to waste it puffing away! Woo hoo!

12. So that I can start taking birth control and keep my body healthy for when I am ready to have a baby I am also very happy to report that I was able to start taking the pill and it has added a very lovely "flexibility" to my love life...nough said.

13. To stop this constantly irritating itch in my throat Gone!

14. Because each breath is precious Amen to that!

15. It's the first step in getting my act together Now this is really the reason I wanted to pull up my first post. This past week I really "hit a wall" reagrding my weight gain, and I have been making an effort to really commit to a healthier eating plan as well as a consistent exercise program, and I am proud to report...so far so good. This new "program" includes cutting out alcohol (which has been a big sticking point for me, especially since I quit smoking...it has been a bit of a crutch) and now I feel as if I am REALLY starting to get my act together. I am sure I will have a "TRIUMPHANT" report for all of you on my year anniversary in September!

16. So that I will smell as pretty as I am Just like a blossoming lotus!

17. To avoid getting premature wrinkles So far so good!

18. Because my boyfriend treats me like a goddess, and I should treat myself that way too Finally starting to feel like a goddess and that I DESERVE all the good things in life! Incredible!

19. To add YEARS to my life! Yesiree Bob!

20. BECAUSE I CAN! Well, what do you know....

Today I feel so good about myself. I am free. Thank you.

YQS-

Lotus

Feeling the Healing for 9 Months 1 Week 1 Day 7 Hours 3 Minutes 33 Seconds. Cigarettes not smoked: 8438. Money saved: $2,109.71.
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CookiesGold
CookiesGold

July 2nd, 2003, 9:40 pm #30

It's sooooo very doable.
Cookie
I have been quit for 8 Months, 2 Weeks, 5 Days, 7 hours, 49 minutes and 53 seconds (262 days). I have saved $1,836.27 by not smoking 10,493 cigarettes. I have saved 1 Month, 5 Days, 10 hours and 25 minutes of my life.
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Lyverbyrd
Lyverbyrd

July 26th, 2003, 10:48 pm #31

Wow....Lotus. I so want to feel the way that you do!
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Robin Lady Di
Robin Lady Di

August 1st, 2003, 3:33 am #32

That's a good question because my 19 day old quit is the most important thing I have going on. It's so new to me that it's most often the subject of my thoughts. I know as time goes on my preocupation with quitting will be replaced by other realities but for now I am embracing my quit and giving it all the attention it needs. It's a new friend to me and we need to spend time getting used to each other. My quit is my lifeline to a better tomorrow. I be glad when we are better acquainted and can share some silent time together but for now we talk a lot. I have a lot to learn about dealing with life without using cigarettes as my crutch. The best thing about my quit is knowing I can stay quit.
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

September 12th, 2003, 8:46 pm #33



Did nicotine's two-hour half-life inside our body ever allow us to really relax and really rest? Imagine the extremely joyous times in life never again being interrupted to tend to the needs of our addiction. The constant sense of calmness and comfort awaiting you is "you" and you'll never have to smoke to stay there!

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Joel
Joel

November 29th, 2003, 3:08 am #34

A new member was looking for some positve posts.
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OBob Gold
OBob Gold

January 8th, 2004, 8:03 am #35

The future is out there for you to grab.
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Hillbilly(Gold)
Hillbilly(Gold)

January 12th, 2004, 8:31 am #36

It's hard for me to believe that I am now where Marty was when he wrote this. Go back thru the various posts on this thread and do the math.
It was at my request that Marty wrote this, and it's as timely now as it was then. If you're reading this in your early days, believe it when I tell you that if you'll just give it time, things will get better. They did for me.
It's been so long for me that I have trouble remembering how hard it is for you at three days or three weeks. I tell you this to give you a reason to take heart--it does get better. Life does go on without cigarettes, I know because I've been there. I know, and I remember that I didn't believe the "oldies" when they told me this. I know, and I hope you believe. I hope you believe and give quitting a chance like I did.
I didn't believe, but I thought "What the heck, what have I got to lose, except a habit (addiction). And it worked. You don't have to believe, you just have to take things one day at a time. It's like Marty said, well go back and read it for yourself.
Just do it.
Dave
I don't smoke and I don't chew and I don't go with the girls that do. 1 Year 8 Months 3 Weeks 3 Days 22 Hours 27 Minutes 31 Seconds. Cigarettes not smoked: 22187. Money saved: $2,773.47.
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twink1291
twink1291

January 12th, 2004, 9:40 am #37

Marty, I love this post and its very helpful, but it seems to contradict other things I 've read at this site that says once an addict, always an addict. I am really worried about relapsing this weekend where I will be with people who smoke. I've been smoke-free for 3 weeks.
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OBob Gold
OBob Gold

January 12th, 2004, 9:54 am #38

"Marty, I love this post and its very helpful, but it seems to contradict other things I 've read at this site that says once an addict, always an addict. I am really worried about relapsing this weekend where I will be with people who smoke. I've been smoke-free for 3 weeks."
Perhaps your confusion is a result of your understanding about what it means to be an addict. Marty is an addict. Ditto me. Same for Dave and for you. But, what does that mean? Quite simply, it means that we are one puff away from being exactly where we were 5 minutes before we quit. Being an addict forever doesn't mean being miserable or constantly fearful. It means that, in order maintain your freedom from the substance to which we're addicted (nicotine in this case) we have to follow one simple rule: refraining from ever putting that substance into our bodies again.
Your fear of the upcoming weekend is a good thing. Unlike Marty, Dave or me, you're still very early in your quit, and you're just learning to deal with situations in which you used to smoke without using nicotine. It is likely that the weekend will present some challenges. You should spend significant time preparing for these challenges by understanding how to look at actively-using addicts, coming up with a plan to cope, and firming your resolve by revisiting your reasons for quitting. It is also vitally important that you remember that you will not relapse unless you take a puff. Sounds simple, but that's what it boils down to. You have it in your power to make the decision that is in your best interests when you're faced with it.
Here is some further reading that should be useful to you:
The Law of Addiction
I am an addict! Hooray!
One puff files
"Maybe I am different"
Being tempted watching others smoke
How do you handle being with smokers?
Another slant on how to watch people smoke

Bob (an addict who's been free for 2 years)
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twink1291
twink1291

January 13th, 2004, 5:21 pm #39

Bob, I've read your reply several times and I think I am beginning to understand. You got exactly to the heart of my question. Thanks so much.

HK.
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IrishLotus GOLD
IrishLotus GOLD

March 18th, 2004, 11:26 pm #40

Thanks for poppin this one up Parker! As it turns out, I am almost *twice* the quitter I was when I first responded to this thread (nearly 18 months free), and the best thing I can tell you all is that this comfort keeps getting better and better! I am beginning to truly feel in charge of ALL my actions (and Reactions for that matter), now that I am in control of my addiction to nicotine. Absolutely incredible. Thanks Marty for writin' this one in the first place...it's nice to look back and see how far we've come.

YQS~Lotus

Free and very gratefully healing for 1 Year, 5 Months, 3 Weeks, 1 Day, 20 hours, 21 minutes and 51 seconds (540 days). I have saved $4,056.35 by not smoking 16,225 cigarettes. I have saved 1 Month, 3 Weeks, 5 Days, 8 hours and 5 minutes of my life.
"I am convinced that life is 10% what happpens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you...we are in charge of our attitudes."
- Charles Swindoll
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Golddabler1
Golddabler1

March 18th, 2004, 11:45 pm #41

I can,t believe that i have never responded to this,as marty says that dreading feeling when going to bed,i have my first sore throat since i quit,it is a dry cough,but what a difference to go to bed and believe that this is what i have,a year ago i would have had a big dark shadow hanging over me,i would have went to bed wondering as i tried to doze off if i was suffering from something more serious.My quit means the world to me now,i see things very clearly as far as nicotine addiction is concerned,i am in a place where active addiction is a thousand miles away but ironically it is also just a puff away,thankfully that puff is no longer an option.
Rickdabler 1 year 1 week 2 days 12 hrs happily nicotine free.
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SweetLorraine (Gold)
SweetLorraine (Gold)

March 19th, 2004, 10:58 pm #42

Like Rick I can't believe I've never posted how much I love this post. Marty is, as always spot on.
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marty (gold)
marty (gold)

March 19th, 2004, 11:06 pm #43

Hey, I wrote that nearly two years ago
And you know what ? I still agree with myself
Still going stronger and stronger, calmer and easier, every month and year that rolls by.
And LOVING IT !!!!!!!!!!!
Marty
NOT A PUFF for three years, three months, two weeks : 21687 cigarettes not smoked, saving $7,590.75: Life saved: 10 weeks, 5 days
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

April 11th, 2004, 10:40 am #44

If 200 butts are pictured above then piture another
110 ashtrays just like it that Marty didn't smoke
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Hillbilly(Gold)
Hillbilly(Gold)

September 20th, 2004, 8:33 pm #45

If you're on Day Three and still hurting, this is what you have to look forward to.

Don't cheat yourself out of this kind of comfort.
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