Joel
Joel

September 20th, 2001, 9:15 pm #26

Hello Treese:

Your experience of in a sense squelching your desire by watching smokers smoke is not strange at all. It is one of my most strongly recommended pieces of advice. When you are alone thinking about a cigarette, you are fantasizing. You are not even seeing the smoke or really smelling the smoke, you are recalling the sensation of fixes from the past. But when you see a person smoking, you get to witness the real look. The smoke, the smell the real way the smoker appears as he or she is sucking in his or her face desperately trying to elevate nicotine levels to ease up the withdrawal you know he or she is feeling. Then if on top of this you visualize the smoke that isn't coming out and the processes that are happening throughout the poor smokers body, it can reinforce youw own desire to stay smoke free. It will get to the point that you view these people with pity as opposed to viewing them with any form of envy. They are not in an enviable position in any way, shape of form. To stay happily on the side you are on now, an ex-smoker in control of your addiction--simply remember to never take another puff!

Joel

P.S. Go read the thread, "watching others smoke," I think you will appreciate it.
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Treese (Silver)
Treese (Silver)

September 29th, 2001, 10:18 am #27

Thanks Joel. That string really puts things in perspective. Don't ask for one, just take them all back...thanks again for another lesson learned!! I will never take another puff. I AM feeling better everyday. I am sooo proud to make it this far. I've never done this before. this is the first time that I've quit long enough to actually feel some benefits. Treese
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Joel
Joel

October 15th, 2001, 5:11 pm #28

I saw where a couple of our 9 months quitters were all of a sudden noticing a renewed frequency of smoking thoughts, and it is more than likely a result of new triggers being experienced by the seasonal variations discussed here. These times will pass and not happen much next year under the seasonal changes as long as you keep remembering this year to never take another puff!

Joel
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November 9th, 2001, 7:27 am #29

One more for Michelle
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Joel

November 30th, 2001, 8:29 pm #30

For Reiterin
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Joel

January 15th, 2002, 11:13 pm #31

For Illbe40 as well as all of our New Year Quitters.



Don't worry about the third week issue. If you keep your resolve reinforced and your reasons for quitting strong, there is nothing particularly inherently risky about the third week. The fact is the third week poses no risk of relapse as long as you remember to get through day 15 to 21 staying focused on your on your commitment to never take another puff!



Joel
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January 27th, 2002, 6:57 pm #32

I never had to use this one for a year three year quit before.
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March 18th, 2002, 2:31 am #33

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March 21st, 2002, 6:39 pm #34

Being that we are just entering a new season, I thought I would bring this one up again to explain the triggers that can be encountered and the temporary increase in smoking thoughts that may accompany seasonal variations of activities. Although I don't think there is any big risk here in the Midwest of America of springtime smoking thought--we are supposed to get snow today.

Rain or shine, hot or cold, day or night, life is possible and better as long as you know to never take another puff!

Joel
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April 12th, 2002, 5:41 pm #35

With a few people turning bronze thought I had better bring this one up too. Also for my mid-western United States people who finally had a spring like day yesterday. The new outdoor activities and change of clothing can easily be triggering old smoking thought. No one should panic by these thoughts for trigger will never cause a relapse as long as you always remember that even though there will be thoughts--they will pass and your quit will stay secure as long as you always know to never take another puff!

Joel.
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May 15th, 2002, 8:33 pm #36

Just wanted to make sure that all of our members who may be hitting the three year mark today should not be worried about having a tough day thought wise just because the earth revolved around the sun three times since their last cigarette was extinguished. As this post says, the three year issue is a non-issue, unlike the third day which has a physiological component and the three month which may have seasonal effects creating new trigger circumstances. The third year significance is only positive, and of course, the only thing better for a person celebrating three years is that same person celebrating three years and one day, then three years and two days, then, well you get the idea.

So congratulations all of our three year quitters, as well as all of our three day quitters and all of our members no matter what day they are on. Even days where a person may feel that they had strong thoughts are not terrible days. A terrible day is when a person relapses, or when the same person gets diagnosed with a smoking induced disease, or when the same person starts treatments that may have really terrible side effects, or the day the person takes his or her last breath because his or her body can no longer sustain life because of the damages caused by smoking. Each smoke free day is a great day in respect to smoking. To make today a great day and tomorrow too stay focused on the message that to stay smoke free you must never take another puff!

Joel
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May 23rd, 2002, 7:06 am #37

Figured I would bring this up since we are starting to address summertime routines. This post talks about the triggers of seasonal changes and activities that vary by seasons.
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June 12th, 2002, 12:48 am #38

I saw where one member referred to the terrible threes in regards to week three. As this article points out, there is not a whole lot of reason for fear of the third week issue. Day three and month three have variables that may in fact make them more awkward, but the third week idea is pretty much arbitrary--if thoughts happen this week it is only because of situational cues than from any set time frame issues. You will get through all time frames though as long as you always remember to never take another puff!

Joel
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June 19th, 2002, 1:05 am #39

I see a new concept popping up about a "Green Wall." The vast majority of people don't hit a "Green Wall." Just because one or two other people may have had the experience, there is a pretty good chance that for every one person who experiences such a feeling, there are an equal number of people and probably a whole lot more who don't have such reactions. Are the groups of people who do not experience this wall normal and the ones who do abnormal? No, both groups are having what can be described as normal adjustments.

The "Green Wall" described above is pretty much the same as the three week issue in this article. It is an arbitrary time with no real predictave value for anyone. Tou our newest members and lurkers, don't sit around and fret things that may or may not happen. Just keep your ammunition sufficiently reinforced that no matter what desires may pop up that you are going to stay committed to never take another puff!

Joel
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July 13th, 2002, 4:08 am #40

For Rick in response to his observations on seasonal triggers.
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August 16th, 2002, 11:28 am #41

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August 28th, 2002, 2:14 pm #42

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August 31st, 2002, 9:52 pm #43

This string discusses seasonal variations which can start a process of smoking thoughts and triggers for many people around this time of the year.
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Lilac (Bronze)
Lilac (Bronze)

August 31st, 2002, 10:33 pm #44

Thank you, Joel, for helping me out. I couldn't remember where the seasonal material was altho' I have read the terrrible threes several times and loved it.. I was going to link that one instead of the one I did. I just linked the other one to make sure I was in fact linking successfully. I am probably ,as usual ,using the wrong term.. Anyway, thanks again. Lilac
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MareBear GOLD
MareBear GOLD

September 1st, 2002, 9:56 am #45

This one's for Naymor. You mentioned something in another thread about the new season coming up and the triggers that come along with it.

YQS,
MareBear

Not a puff for: 3 Months 3 Days 13 Minutes 17 Seconds. Cigarettes not smoked: 1900, saving me $294.53.
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Juanjuanjuanjuanjuan200
Juanjuanjuanjuanjuan200

September 1st, 2002, 10:49 pm #46

No seasond on the tropics, but life changes periodically and moves differently. Going on my third month soon I dont know how to identify my seasonal triggers. Who cares. I will keep a watch on my craves.

Juan
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Joel
Joel

September 15th, 2002, 5:01 am #47

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September 24th, 2002, 2:38 am #48

Since we are now officially at a change of seasons I thought it would be good to bring this one up.
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Roger (Gold)
Roger (Gold)

October 27th, 2002, 10:05 am #49

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SammymnGOLD
SammymnGOLD

October 29th, 2002, 1:49 am #50

I also don't necesssarily put alot of stock in the concept of terrible threes, but I will say that interestingly I'm at 3 months, 3 weeks, and 3 days and the last week and a half or so have been very strangely and unexpectantly difficult.

I plod along nonetheless.

, Sarah
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