Triggers: Reminders From Your Executive Assistant

Subconscious use cue extinguishment
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:58

28 Mar 2005, 22:55 #21

Thanks for bumping this one up! I"ve printed it and review it often. This is one of the articles that gave me hope I could quit and it would'nt be horrible forever. It empowers me to know all I have to do is face certain situations once or twice and I can rewrite how I respond to them.

Thanks again. :)


JoeJFree Gold
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

22 Sep 2005, 19:42 #22

Printed the lead post out for my Dad who says he is still having regular 'thoughts' about smoking, even after 3 months.
Not all that unusual for somone who has smoked a lifetime!

Thanks for the wisdom & viewpoint Kay.
I'm sure your now famous article will help him with his 'Thiggers'.Image

yqb - JoeJ Free retraining my 'Assistant' for the last 254 days.

John (Gold)
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

07 Jan 2006, 05:25 #23

As Kay shares here, we each conditioned our minds to expect nicotine at certain times, places, locations, events or when encountering certain emotions. As I've heard Joel say more than once, when phones were still tied to cords most of us wouldn't pick it up when it rang without first ensuring that we had our nicotine source handy as we didn't know how long we'd be on it.
It may be little things like ice cubes hitting a glass, our little walk, or subtle distinctions like the weekly paper being a single cigarette read while the Sunday paper was always three. Each trigger encountered means an opportunity to reclaim one additional aspect of our life, to obtain another piece of the puzzle. Soon the pieces start fitting together and before long more of the puzzle is complete than missing.
Unless we insist upon keeping a few pieces in our pocket (those lingering romantic dependency fixations) - with each passing day the challenges will grow fewer, shorter and generally less intense. Fully retrain your EA, complete the puzzle and taste the full flavor of a life where wanting for nicotine becomes the exception not the rule.
This can be one of the most interesting adventures in self discovery that we'll ever make if we'll only stop being afraid and allow ourselves to notice and smell the beauty of the slowly opening rosebud that is us.
John (Gold x6)
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Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:59

10 Feb 2006, 02:38 #24


Thank you for this wonderful analogy. It came to me not a moment too soon as today is one of the hardest days I've had so far.

I'm going to print it and refer to it whenever I feel my "Assistant" needs a little refresher training. Image

Tracy - Free and Healing for Eleven Days, 21 Hours and 11 Minutes. I have extended my life by 19 Hours by avoiding the use of 238 cigarettes that would have cost me $87.50.

Sal GOLD.ffn
Joined: 16 Jan 2003, 08:00

05 Apr 2006, 22:17 #25

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Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:35

05 Apr 2006, 23:59 #26

Great post - this scenario must surely remind us all of some trigger that has suddenly sprung into our heads for no apparent reason. What a great site Freedom is!


(3 Weeks, 2 Days, 44 minutes and 18 seconds. Quit date: 13/03/2006 16:15).

Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 01:40

22 Jun 2006, 23:33 #27

I love this!! I'm printing this! I can just imagine the little guy running up behind me or tapping me on the shoulder while finishing a cup of coffee. From now on, I will talk to him and remind him of the new memos and please throw the old memos out.

Sal GOLD.ffn
Joined: 16 Jan 2003, 08:00

19 Jan 2007, 07:02 #28

A great reply in Roger's Patience:
It is so important to remember that this is a healing process.
It takes time to re-wire the brain.
It takes time to learn to move through our daily lives and routines without relying on a drug.
It takes time to educate ourselves and to gain confidence in our ability to succeed.
For today...make a promise to yourself to give time time.
Be patient with your healing.
Keep reading and learning and trusting us when we say: it will get better!
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Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:41

07 May 2007, 09:02 #29

This is an excellent topic. Whenever I find myself thinking about smoking, I try to go through this analysis in an effort to determine what the trigger is. Just knowing that it is a trigger helps. NTAP

Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

22 Aug 2007, 14:42 #30

Just what I was needing to read:
"He will get it; I know he will. It will just take a while and a walk through all my various scenarios. He is really very, very good. He learned so well the first time -- I have to give him time to learn the new mandate."

I was doing something tonight that was frustrating me. It triggered an old junkie thought or two (which went away actually pretty fast considering the situation!).
I tend to be impatient and expect thoughts/triggers of smoking to be gone....period...end of subject!

This reading helped me have more understanding
for myself. I owe my executive assistant a little grace, considering he/she is dealing with reconditioning 35 years worth of junkie thinking. I extend my apologies to my executive assistant!.....for having unrealistic expectations of you. You really are doing a fine job! Carry on, I'd wouldn't be Free & Healing without you!!

Lou - Keeping it simple, One day at time & NTAP now ='s
2 Months, 3 days Free and Healing