Thoughts that seem worse than the first days urges

Retraining the conscious mind
Joel
Joel

October 1st, 2002, 9:56 am #31

I was just doing some phone support for a person who I just referred over to Freedom. Thought she would find this one particularly helpful.
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TiffanyisFree
TiffanyisFree

November 11th, 2002, 11:24 pm #32

I hope I'm not being presumptuous, but this post is an absolute GEM.
I've always been more petrified of the days to come, of the maybe's and what-if's and being caught off guard. This is definitely a favorite of mine.

Tiffany
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Vernicebell
Vernicebell

May 6th, 2003, 11:56 pm #33

Thank you for reminding me to keep my guard up. It's only been 1 week and 5 days and I'm starting to not think about cigarettes as much, That maybe I'm "healed". I need to remember that it is an addiction that I will always have. It may not be an active addiction but an addiction all the same.
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CKAgger Gold.ffn
CKAgger Gold.ffn

August 7th, 2003, 4:27 pm #34

Thanks a lot, Joel - things are better now, and your prompt reaction and reading the articles also helped.
Like I said: I knew something would hit me the day I got back to work, but I wasn't prepared for the force it came with. Yet another experience and reminder of the addiction!
Well, one thought that comforts me is that even though I don't smoke then if I want I can just go down to the smoking room and chat with my smoking colleagues - if I miss this psychological aspect of my daily feedings, I don't have to miss it; my fellow smokers are still nice people and are still there to talk with - if I want to. Actually, I've already recommended whyquit.com to two of my colleagues.
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rllothringer
rllothringer

August 28th, 2003, 6:41 am #35

Thanks, again, Joel. It's amazing that even though I have have read this one, and the others you bumped to the top, that they still seem like a new read at times....those times when I need to read them the most.

Again, thank you. This site, and this information, really help me get through the good and bad days.
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nonicfrank
nonicfrank

September 9th, 2003, 1:20 am #36

this is the post I needed to read. I was having urges today and needed to read a message like this. Its true that you start fantizing about that AHHH cig. For me its not one particular cig but just that ahh feeling. But its true when you say that is not what smoking is like It really is like what it was when you quit. Sometimes life isnt always a bowl of cherries and not smoking didn't make it that way.


--Nonicfrank-
3w 18:45 smoke-free, 216 cigs not smoked, $55.62 saved, 18:00 life saved
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mrtexas1979
mrtexas1979

April 12th, 2004, 7:51 am #37

boy this hit me today my 47th day free from all nicotine am I glad to have this website-- thinking of the last cigarette I smoked instead of the first one gave me the ammo to get past the urge ---thank's joel--now I can get back to working on my BRONZ----DONNY
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jennyissilver
jennyissilver

April 16th, 2004, 8:30 pm #38

Joel makes a really important point here about separating reality from fantasy.

Since I've quit & started again, quit & started again so many times in my history of addiction I'd like to add another thought that would trip me up and that is: feeling TOO good. After going months or even a year without smoking it's easy to believe that one little cigarette couldn't possibly hurt anything. You think to yourself: "I'm healthy. I'm strong and in control. Hey, I might even be invincible."

I won't trick myself that way anymore because now I recognize that I'm an addict and that was just another example of my junkie thinking.

Jenny
Enjoying my 34th day of freedom but not taking it for granted
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Lyverbyrd
Lyverbyrd

May 1st, 2004, 2:57 am #39

I've needed this post today, came here looking for a little bit of strength, and here it is. Thank you freedom. Just so you know you just CAN'T let your guard down, here I am, maybe an "oldbie" instead of a newbie by now, and I still needed a reminder that I can never take another puff.

So, my strength and resolve have returned, and I'll be ok again to roll with the punches.

All the best to you all.

Paula: 10 months, and so proud, today!
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Lynn Andrews BRONZE
Lynn Andrews BRONZE

May 12th, 2004, 9:53 pm #40

I'm glad this one was brought up this week, I've really needed it. I'm losing my 8 year old black lab today. She's seriously ill and in a lot of pain, and we're going to help her end that misery this afternoon. All through it, I've had flashes of junkie thoughts. It's a good reminder that the thoughts are just that - thoughts - unless I forget to NTAP.

Thanks FREEDOM!!

Lynn, free and healing for 4 Months, 2 Days, 8 hours and 53 minutes (123 days), by not smoking 3,084 cigarettes. This has saved me $616.85 and helped me regain 2 Weeks, 23 hours and 48 minutes of my life!
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Mocha
Mocha

August 2nd, 2004, 1:44 pm #41

I have to be honest.... going on my first quit, I do ask myself, what if I reached for a cigarette right now. Would I really be repulsed? I am scared of that thought, even if it lasts only for a second, it is a reacurring one.

Would I be caughing like I did the first time? Would it be that one I've been romanticizing at times? Would I really have to start from scratch (that one I KNOW the answer too, my god, of course I would have to).

Curiosity killed the cat. I have no interest in taking the chance of finding out that everyone here has been right.

I feel too **** good today to give this up!!
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strgohio43
strgohio43

August 28th, 2004, 11:27 pm #42

Man, I needed to read this today

Thank you Joel

Jayna
4 weeks 6 days 1201 death sticks not smoked
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lioness81472 GOLD
lioness81472 GOLD

September 24th, 2004, 3:03 pm #43

This one is great! Thanks for posting this one for reinforcement. This is so true, the urge for me just snuck up on me & surprised me. I have been reading daily again. I am again reminded there is no GOOD reason to start smoking again. I had let my guard down and forgotten my quit, and was imagining that "one" wonderfully NASTY cigarette. I am so glad I came here for the support that is always given so freely and for the reinforcement that is always here. There is so much education here on the addiction of cigarettes and continue to learn everytime I come back here. Every feeling and thought I've had, someone else has had the same thoughts & feelings...I am not alone in this, and neither is anyone that comes to this site and reads. As long as they remember to NTAP!! I am too educated with this quit to ever start again. I must always remember my quit and celebrate it daily. Thanks again!

Still Reading & Still quit for 11 months + and counting!!

Carey
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WideEnlightened
WideEnlightened

September 30th, 2004, 3:25 am #44

Thanks for pulling this up Joel.

I am double green today, but the fantasy cigarette seems way too frequently present. The problem is now I can't lie to myself. I can't pretend it isn't the road to death and despair. I just hate it that it's there anyway!

Some people don't seem to have many thoughts about smoking, but you say every quit is different. After 46 years, what did I expect?

I have to say it's good to see so many 40+ first time posts. I felt like such a dinasaur in the beginning. Now I just feel like I spent an awful lot of very "dumb" years. Well, onward with the freedom family.

Thank you....all of you.

Mary Ann
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Joined: January 16th, 2003, 8:00 am

February 18th, 2006, 8:08 am #45

Remember cigarettes as they really were, not how you wished they were. Then when the urge is triggered, you will have the ammunition to squelch it. You will recognize that you were just having a bad moment, when you were quitting you were having "bad days." When you were smoking you were a slave to a product that was killing you. You fought long and hard to overcome that control and you never want to relinquish your freedom of choice over such a deadly product again. To keep the control, remember, when the urge is triggered-never take another puff!
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ChurnedSue
ChurnedSue

April 4th, 2006, 3:05 am #46

Joel
Complacent I must never be

This is scary
I will print this off and carry it everywhere
Sue
3months and 3 days free and determined to stay that way
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SandraJ0 Gold1
SandraJ0 Gold1

April 17th, 2006, 10:58 pm #47

Thanks I needed that. !!!

I will never forget

Sandy 79 days and counting.
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auntvaleria
auntvaleria

May 11th, 2006, 10:51 am #48

From Joel:
To keep the control, remember, when the urge is triggered-never take another puff!
aunt valeria
I have been quit for 2 Months, 2 Weeks, 1 Day, 2 hours, 21 minutes and 42 seconds (76 days). I have saved $209.26 by not smoking 1,521 cigarettes. I have saved 5 Days, 6 hours and 45 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 2/23/2006 7:30 PM
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ladytekwriter
ladytekwriter

May 12th, 2006, 7:00 am #49

Hello all,

I went to visit my cousin weekend before last and discovered that I suddenly got a lot of bad urges, being there. When my Aunt was alive we smoked there together at the dining table. I told give me the pretzels, and made it through.

Now I am on guard when going into old situations as a new person, and expect the craves to start, but it is not as bad when I am prepared.
Time Smoke-Free: 27 days, 19 hours, 1 minute and 27 seconds
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didihunt7
didihunt7

May 30th, 2006, 3:56 am #50

Joel,


This I will have to keep somewhere for the future. This was really good information. This will be a reminder to me why I quit in the first place and I never want to forget that.


NTAP

Dianne
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Caninegold asst
Caninegold asst

August 13th, 2006, 11:33 pm #51

THANK YOU
Lianne
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LauraMarie835
LauraMarie835

October 9th, 2006, 10:36 am #52

It is so good to be reminded of how cigerattes really were - instead of imagining that they were the greatest things ever. (because that's so easy to do)

Thank you -

LauraMarie
20 days
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squitz
squitz

October 11th, 2006, 11:03 pm #53

thanks so much for this reminder - afternoon slump and i can start forgetting!
ntap - nearly 3 weeks
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Marixpress
Marixpress

October 12th, 2006, 12:13 am #54

thank you thank you thank you thank you
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whitey
whitey

January 8th, 2007, 4:51 am #55

I can't explain why or how, but it seems I always seem to find the perfect reading exactly when I need it.

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Whitey (Dianne)
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