The Terrible 3's

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29 Sep 2001, 10:18 #21

Thanks Joel. That string really puts things in perspective. Don't ask for one, just take them all back...thanks again for another lesson learned!! I will never take another puff. I AM feeling better everyday. I am sooo proud to make it this far. I've never done this before. this is the first time that I've quit long enough to actually feel some benefits. Treese
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15 Oct 2001, 17:11 #22

I saw where a couple of our 9 months quitters were all of a sudden noticing a renewed frequency of smoking thoughts, and it is more than likely a result of new triggers being experienced by the seasonal variations discussed here. These times will pass and not happen much next year under the seasonal changes as long as you keep remembering this year to never take another puff!

Joel
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15 Jan 2002, 23:13 #23

For Illbe40 as well as all of our New Year Quitters.



Don't worry about the third week issue. If you keep your resolve reinforced and your reasons for quitting strong, there is nothing particularly inherently risky about the third week. The fact is the third week poses no risk of relapse as long as you remember to get through day 15 to 21 staying focused on your on your commitment to never take another puff!



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21 Mar 2002, 18:39 #24

Being that we are just entering a new season, I thought I would bring this one up again to explain the triggers that can be encountered and the temporary increase in smoking thoughts that may accompany seasonal variations of activities. Although I don't think there is any big risk here in the Midwest of America of springtime smoking thought--we are supposed to get snow today.

Rain or shine, hot or cold, day or night, life is possible and better as long as you know to never take another puff!

Joel
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12 Apr 2002, 17:41 #25

With a few people turning bronze thought I had better bring this one up too. Also for my mid-western United States people who finally had a spring like day yesterday. The new outdoor activities and change of clothing can easily be triggering old smoking thought. No one should panic by these thoughts for trigger will never cause a relapse as long as you always remember that even though there will be thoughts--they will pass and your quit will stay secure as long as you always know to never take another puff!

Joel.
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15 May 2002, 20:33 #26

Just wanted to make sure that all of our members who may be hitting the three year mark today should not be worried about having a tough day thought wise just because the earth revolved around the sun three times since their last cigarette was extinguished. As this post says, the three year issue is a non-issue, unlike the third day which has a physiological component and the three month which may have seasonal effects creating new trigger circumstances. The third year significance is only positive, and of course, the only thing better for a person celebrating three years is that same person celebrating three years and one day, then three years and two days, then, well you get the idea.

So congratulations all of our three year quitters, as well as all of our three day quitters and all of our members no matter what day they are on. Even days where a person may feel that they had strong thoughts are not terrible days. A terrible day is when a person relapses, or when the same person gets diagnosed with a smoking induced disease, or when the same person starts treatments that may have really terrible side effects, or the day the person takes his or her last breath because his or her body can no longer sustain life because of the damages caused by smoking. Each smoke free day is a great day in respect to smoking. To make today a great day and tomorrow too stay focused on the message that to stay smoke free you must never take another puff!

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23 May 2002, 07:06 #27

Figured I would bring this up since we are starting to address summertime routines. This post talks about the triggers of seasonal changes and activities that vary by seasons.
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12 Jun 2002, 00:48 #28

I saw where one member referred to the terrible threes in regards to week three. As this article points out, there is not a whole lot of reason for fear of the third week issue. Day three and month three have variables that may in fact make them more awkward, but the third week idea is pretty much arbitrary--if thoughts happen this week it is only because of situational cues than from any set time frame issues. You will get through all time frames though as long as you always remember to never take another puff!

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19 Jun 2002, 01:05 #29

I see a new concept popping up about a "Green Wall." The vast majority of people don't hit a "Green Wall." Just because one or two other people may have had the experience, there is a pretty good chance that for every one person who experiences such a feeling, there are an equal number of people and probably a whole lot more who don't have such reactions. Are the groups of people who do not experience this wall normal and the ones who do abnormal? No, both groups are having what can be described as normal adjustments.

The "Green Wall" described above is pretty much the same as the three week issue in this article. It is an arbitrary time with no real predictave value for anyone. Tou our newest members and lurkers, don't sit around and fret things that may or may not happen. Just keep your ammunition sufficiently reinforced that no matter what desires may pop up that you are going to stay committed to never take another puff!

Joel
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31 Aug 2002, 21:52 #30

This string discusses seasonal variations which can start a process of smoking thoughts and triggers for many people around this time of the year.
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31 Aug 2002, 22:33 #31

Thank you, Joel, for helping me out. I couldn't remember where the seasonal material was altho' I have read the terrrible threes several times and loved it.. I was going to link that one instead of the one I did. I just linked the other one to make sure I was in fact linking successfully. I am probably ,as usual ,using the wrong term.. Anyway, thanks again. Lilac
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01 Sep 2002, 09:56 #32

This one's for Naymor. You mentioned something in another thread about the new season coming up and the triggers that come along with it.
YQS,
MareBear
Not a puff for: 3 Months 3 Days 13 Minutes 17 Seconds. Cigarettes not smoked: 1900, saving me $294.53.
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01 Sep 2002, 22:49 #33

No seasond on the tropics, but life changes periodically and moves differently. Going on my third month soon I dont know how to identify my seasonal triggers. Who cares. I will keep a watch on my craves.

Juan
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29 Oct 2002, 01:49 #34

I also don't necesssarily put alot of stock in the concept of terrible threes, but I will say that interestingly I'm at 3 months, 3 weeks, and 3 days and the last week and a half or so have been very strangely and unexpectantly difficult.

I plod along nonetheless.

, Sarah
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17 Jan 2003, 23:55 #35

Awwww .....thanks Richard. Looking forward to turning silver right after your gold. -YQS, Lotus
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11 Mar 2003, 04:30 #36

For all of my fellow FREEDOMITES looking forward to Spring...
we're almost there!
YQS-
Lotus
2 weeks from 6 months!
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15 Mar 2003, 23:58 #37

I saw spring time started to being talked about today and here in the Midwest part of the United States, springlike conditions are starting to become obvious. With seasonal changes will come seasonal triggers. The way to get through seasonal triggers is the same way you got through any other earlier trigger--, continuing on with your life while keeping yourself reminded of the reasons you first quit and keeping your ammunition reinforced of why you are still committed to never take another puff!
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16 Mar 2003, 14:04 #38

this does ring a bit of a bell with me. twice i have stopped for 3 months and wham, i was back at it. i can't even tell you why. i do suppose it is different for everyone and i don't want to jinx myself so....
i think i'll take the easy way out and acknowledge that i did not smoke Today. just today. yesterday was a bear, today was bearable, and who knows about tomarrow much less 3 months from now.
would it be funny if i said i had an itchy "trigger" finger?
nadette
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16 Mar 2003, 15:15 #39

This makes so much sense in a rediculous way. I can remember last Spring, thinking about quitting smoking, but then talking myself out of it because "what would I do while I was camping in the summer if I wasn't smoking?" Smoking was an important part of camping for me. Not anymore though, because I refuse to take another puff.
I am so glad that I do not smoke.
Smoke free for Five days, 10 hours, 7 minutes and 38 seconds. 97 cigarettes not smoked, saving $22.69. Life saved: 8 hours, 5 minutes.
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16 Mar 2003, 22:27 #40

It's sort of a jolt to read about all the activities that you'll participate in after quitting and realize how long it's been since you've done them without smoking. How about realizing that you've never done virtually anything in your adult life without being a smoker? I'm sure many of us are in that same situation; having smoked since childhood (in my case: 12 years old) and not having quit until much, much later (but never too late!) in life (again, in my case: 52 years old).

It's an odd feeling doing so many things without cigarettes; but very enjoyable and very... FREE. And every day that goes by just makes it that much better.

73 days, 19 hours of freedom; 2435 cigs not smoked; $1035 CDN saved; 8 days, 11 hours of my new life saved; the feeling: priceless
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06 Apr 2003, 07:56 #41

For Cookie:

Being that you just turned 6 months there may very likely be some of the same seasonal change issues that this string addresses.
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16 Apr 2003, 03:09 #42

It was very warm in MN yesterday so I wanted to find this. I also wanted to happily announce that this spring is my last "3" to adjust to since quitting last summer: YIPPPEEE!

, Sarah ( 9 Months 1 Week 4 Days 4 Hours 25 Minutes 1 Second. Cigarettes not smoked: 5703. Money saved: $1,214.88.
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24 Dec 2003, 09:51 #43

I see a few of our people approaching the three month mark and thinking about smoking a little more than usual. This post is a good one explaining the issues with three months as well as the seasonal and holiday issues associated with this particular time of year.
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21 Mar 2004, 05:51 #44

Thank you Thank you Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have been really struggling lately with extra thoughts of smoking and didn't understand why. This was so helpful.

Erin - Free and Healing for Three Months, Five Days, 17 Hours and 30 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 6 Days and 17 Hours, by avoiding the use of 1935 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $323.39.
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20 Sep 2004, 19:47 #45

I bring up this post most of the time now to discuss seasonal triggers. The original intent of the string though was broader than this. It was designed to dispel the myth that all ex-smokers are destined to have problems at predetermined time frames. Today there was a member who wrote about having a problem into his second month and a few other members joined in saying how hard the second month was for them. For our thousands of long-term members these posts are of no concern. Those who had a tough time at two months would simply agree and those who didn't would simply recognize that the issue didn't apply to them. Either way though both groups were beyond the time frame.

The problem is people who are just off for one month, or a week, or a few days, or people who are here reading just considering quitting will see posts like this and begin to dread the "inevitable" two month mark where they have now been led to believe that they were going to begin to experience a tough and miserable time.

The truth is that there is nothing inherently threatening about the two month mark. Some people may experience some tough times, others will not. This is no different than the three month mark issue discussed above or any time frame.

Everyone reading here needs to know though that as long as they keep reminding themselves of the reasons that they first quit and keep reinforcing their reasons for wanting to stay off that even at these arbitrary moments of smoking thoughts that their quits will stay intact as long as they stick to thecommitment that they made to themselves to never take another puff!

Joel
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