Retraining the conscious mind
Being mostly a newbie myself, as I am only barely Green behind the ears, I would like to tell newer newbies that I was very concerned about the amount of time I spent thinking about cigs. I work in the construction industry which is choked with smokers and dippers and being around people smoking unrestrainedly all day was what had made me lose quits before. Every time I saw someone smoking I would think Hmm.. time for a smoke and actually go for my pocket to get one out and then remember- I can't! This went on for the first two weeks and I was wondering if this was how it was going to be for me forever. I had smoked a pack plus a day for 30 years it was so much a part of my life that I figured I would always feel the urge to smoke when I saw someone else smoke. After the 2nd week I was feeling much more confident and determined and when I thought about smoking it was that I was sooo.. glad that I didn't anymore. Now after four weeks plus I think about smoking maybe 20 seconds a day and its never an urge to smoke, its a sense of something missing but not missed. The law of addiction is the first thing I think of when I think about smoking and I know that as long as I remember that I will never take another puff.
Healing for 32 days and feeling liberated!
I saw where a newer member was a little surprised as to how she was not thinking about smoking much after just being off almost a month. I can say from the thousands of people I dealt with in live clinic follow-up calls her experience was pretty much the norm--most participants were having only sporadic thoughts at that point in time. People struggling with frequent daily urges were the exception rather than the rule.
I think most who go through the hundreds of responses in this string will also see that her experience is quite common among many of our members.
I had my first day without a single thought of smoking at just over the two month mark.
At the four month mark now, I really don't have any urge to smoke at all. I think about it because I stay active on quit smoking sites to help me stay focused on never take another puff and to give something back by encouraging others, but my only thoughts of smoking are how happy I am that I don't do it any more.
I will get an occasional "first-time trigger" -- something I associated with smoking that I'm encountering for the first time as an ex-smoker. I note the trigger for what it is, but that's it. It's not like the triggers are making me want to smoke.
I laugh now because two years ago I was crying!
I can't not think about cigarettes, because there are so many people out there smoking, but I never wish to join them anymore. fact is, there are places I can't go now because there are too many people smoking it starts to make me sick to my stomach.
In fact, last Christmas, I had to leave my sister-in-laws because they (2 people) were smoking inside. Sure, they had the door cracked, but please that didn't do anything. Then I noticed how nasty I smelled from their smoke... YUCK!
Sharon ~ free for 731 days
I turned "green" today. It's still early in the recovery process so I'm not going to say I don't think about them...because I do, but in all honesty it's not really that much. The thoughts come quickly from time to time, but they leave just as quickly. I have busied myself in getting on with my life without cigarettes so there are usually plenty of things going on to take my mind off the occasional thoughts. Once over the initial withdrawal and with nicotine out of the system, I have found that the educational material along with reminding myself to "never take another puff" is enough to get me through the occassional "thought".
I have been nicotine free for 1M 1h 15m. I have saved $155.25 by not smoking 621 cigarettes. I have put to better use 2D 3h 45m of my life. My Journey to Freedom Started: 5/20/2008 7:00 PM
Read the testimony not of one but many who tell true.
Want a nicotine delivery device?
Not on my life!
How many seconds a day do I WANT some nicotine? ....... Still none.
JoeJ Freer than I ever dreamed I could be .....
by simply keeping one core promise made 1322 days ago -
"Never Take Another Puff....and freedom it will be."
I've said outloud several times over the past month that "I want a smoke". Usually right after a stressfull moment or prolonged activity has concluded to one of those "smoke 'em if ya got'm" moments.
Before anyone could say something (whether anyone was there or not) my own inner voice ( the one only I hear but don't always follow
) would say; "no Barry this is a point in time when you used to "want" a smoke.
In the time it used to take me to pull one out and light it I am now able to check my wording of "want" to "used to want" and the urge has faded.
Between me, myself and I nicotine can barely get a word in edgewise and it never get's the last word.
At seven and a half months nicotine-free, I'd say that, on average, I think about smoking probably one second a day.
I only think about smoking at all maybe once every three days. We aren't talking about anything like a crave, just a passing thought that I used to smoke in this circumstance or maybe just the odd catching myself thinking "time for a smoke break....oh....wait....nevermind". Old habits die hard.
In any case, these thoughts seldom last more than three seconds once every three days for so, so my average is one second per day thinking about smoking. I spend more time thinking about whether I need to change the water filter in the coffee maker.
I HAVE ESTIMATED THAT OUT OF THE LAST 9,000,000 SECONDS (104 DAYS +) I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT SMOKING ONLY A MEASLY 200 SECONDS.
I FEEL GREAT AND CELEBRATE EACH DAY I DECIDED TO COME HOME.
Theresa - Free and Healing for Three Months, Twelve Days, 19 Hours and 2 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 10 Days and 21 Hours, by avoiding the use of 3144 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $1,105.08.
Beth - Free and Healing for Seven Months, Fourteen Days, 20 Hours and 56 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 15 Days and 19 Hours, by avoiding the use of 4557 cigarettes that would have cost me $1,161.60.
I take nothing for granted. The thought still occurs to me however. Sometimes it occurs to me that a cigarette could fill some empty space in my emotions, but it's a rather weak notion. When that idea occurs, I often see a picture in my mind of the sensations that I used to experience taking a drag on a cigarette and in retrospect, the satisfaction I got really didn't amount to much (and the smoke hurt).
And no, I don't often think about cigarettes even after only 5 months of complete abstinence. Thanks to WhyQuit.com, the junkie beliefs I used to maintain to support that addiction no longer hold water.
Joel and everyone here at my Freedom Family -
I am proud to say that I am Nora, a nicotine addict - Free and Healing for Eight Days, 21 Hours and 15 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 1 Day and 9 Hours.
The only way I can be here is by taking this journey one day at a time and never taking another puff - Thank you all for your amazing support and knowledge.
Hmmmm. How many seconds a day???
I sometimes think about cig's in a moment (like when the business of the day is winding down) BUT
I never think that I want one- not one drag- not one puff- nothing!
I am an adult- If I had wanted one by now- I could have had 1. I chose not to smoke and I stand behind that choice 1 million percent!
Christine- Clean for 9 weeks 2 days - saving 544.00 chosing not to smoke 1633 menthol flavored death sticks.
You will see that a few members seem to be giving the impression that it is normal to be constantly thinking of smoking weeks into quitting simply because they are recovering addicts. In reality this is not the case. Here is a string with seven years of examples of hundreds of members showing that the norm experienced by most of our members and likely most of our readers too is that thoughts for cigarettes become fewer and fewer over time. People who are constantly wanting to smoke weeks or months into their quits are not simply doing so because they are nicotine addicts. All of the people in the posts above are nicotine addicts and again, if you read their comments you will see that the vast majority of them think of cigarettes very rarely.
I might have had a thought about having a cigarette a few days ago but I'm not sure. It could be my old age kicking in. They pop into my head and out again so rarely and so quickly they don't even register anymore. For the first few months a smoking thought would pop into my head, then I'd think about what triggered it, smile, take a deep breath and say to myself "I don't do that any more". Now it takes someone to bring up the subject of smoking or I have to see (or smell) people smoking for me to even think about it. Though I might think about it I certanly don't do it with any sort of longing. If I have any feeling at all it's of remorse that I smoked for so long or feeling sorry for those people still enslaved by it. To answer the question posed by this post, MOST DAYS I'D HAVE TO SAY ZERO SECONDS on "thoughts" and never on "desires".
Keep with it newbies it does get easier and sooner than you can believe. It's so simple for us. We just NTAP.
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Tell a newbie how how many seconds a day you still want a cigarette?
Out of the 86,400 seconds that make up today - how many will you spend actually wanting to ingest some nicotine by sucking hot tobacco smoke through a paper tube?
I bet it's actually less than 1% (that would be 14.4 minutes). WOW, You're already 99% free psychologically. We all 100% free physically when we decide to ntap.
Even before I quit I didn't want to & yet I still had to....to stave off constant withdrawal anxiety from falling nicotine levels in my blood serum.
Once free of nicotine I no longer have to................. why would I want to do that again?
Dont' go through the rest of life thinking you're just getting by without nicotine ......instead Celebrate LIVING Free of nicotine.
Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change as well.
Joe J free 47 months
I'm coming up on ten months as an ex-smoker. I want a cigarette ZERO times a day. I don't want anything to do with them or nicotine addiction. I'm not around smokers much, but when I am, I feel sorry for them, being chained to that addiction like I was.
Now. In the interest of truth is advertising. There are occassional moments when I want "something". When I am sitting at the computer and feel just the slightest urge for a "break". Getting a fresh cup of coffee or lunch or scratching an itch takes care of it. I have learned that the same breaks I took as a smoker work without smoking. For example, on Thanksgiving day, I left the kitchen for half an hour and just went to lie die away from the family mob scene. Not smoking didn't change the value of recharging my batteries like that for a few minutes.
Comfort for me hit sometime between two and four months. The urges for cigarettes since then have been isolated first time triggers, pretty easy to identify and no problem at all to knock down.
Melrose, the ex-smoker
2 years, 2 months, 4 days
I think about smoking most days but spend NO time wanting to smoke now.
There is nothing I want back about nicotine and cigarettes.
For anyone starting out, you will think about the actual act of smoking plenty but the need and desire goes.
8 weeks 2 days.
Thanks to the understanding I got from Freedom I am better able to distinguish a generallized craving as just that. Maybe I want a cigarette; maybe I'm hungry; maybe I just need exercise. I certainly won't choose a cigarette anymore; there are better ways to satisfy a craving and like it's often said here; even if the craving is specifically a nicotine version; it'll be over quite soon. NTAP...
This little sign says it all and with over 2 years and 4 months without nicotine, I can truthfully say that I just do not think of smoking. I never thought I would be able to say that, but it's true!! When I see a person or a group outside a building puffing away, I just feel very sad for them. When I first quit and saw people smoking I was jealous and the craves would start. But with each day without nicotine, you become empowered and it becomes more and more difficult to rationalize having a puff.
So to all the newbies, keep it in the present...just NTAP just for today. Before you know it freedom will just be there for you as it was always meant to be. Happy Holidays to all my fellow Freedomites!!
VICKI - Free and Healing for Two Years, Four Months, Ten Days, 20 Hours and 33 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 59 Days and 23 Hours, by avoiding the use of 17277 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $4,028.68.
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"Don't think of a Monkey"
puts the monkey in your head.
Until coming across this thread,
zero seconds for today.
After coming across this thread,
4 seconds is fairly accurate for today.
Am I the only one who still thinks about smoking? I haven't had a cigarette for 1 month, 1 week, 2 days, & 1 hour... Although that is not a long time, I have quit many times for 8 months - 5 years and I still thought about smoking frequently. I believe that the question was "thinking" about smoking - not thinking that it is a good idea. I would say that I think about smoking for 1 minute every 20 minutes or so... that means, I think about smoking for 3 minutes/hour. Considering I am usually awake 16 hours/day, I spend 48 minutes a day or 2,880 seconds/day thinking about smoking.
|From: Joel ||Sent: 12/4/2007 1:56 PM |
| From above: |
I am kicking this string up now because I want the new members to be reading through it. It is an important string showing how over time the thoughts for cigarettes do really become infrequent.
I also want to note that the purpose of this string is for new members to read the experiences from a lot of people what it is like for them not to over time, not for new members to write what it is like for them the first few days or weeks of quitting.
One month 3 days here.
1-3 minutes per day on average I still want a cigarette. It's not a craving that happens during first 3 days, not an itch that goes for 1-3 weeks after you quit cold. It's just a small thought how nice it would be to have a cigarette right now.
And even then it doesn't happen every single day, maybe every second day I want one for 1-3 minutes, that is. I sometimes get back to this site and re-read a couple of Joel's essays on random or see a picture of cancer-impaired lungs. That helps a lot.
That just one cigarette is only an illusion. There is no such thing as one cigarette. There are years of misery however. Why bother?