Tell a newbie how how many seconds a day you still want a cigarette

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04 Jul 2001, 00:14 #41

Hello Everyone,
After 20 years of smoking, I put out my last butt at 9:45pm on February 26, 2001.
My stats are: 18 weeks, 13 hours, 17 min, and 37 seconds. Basically 4 months and almost 1 week. Cigs not smoked, 3,796. Money saved, $949.
I have truly not had a desire for a cigarette since about the 2 month mark. The only thoughts I have of smoking now, are how to avoid being around it. I love being in control of my life, and I know that to stay this way, I must never take another puff. Problem solved.
YQS, Julia
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04 Jul 2001, 01:06 #42

Hello everyone! Well, I've gone over the list I made before I quit of when and why I smoked and I guess I could sum up my excuses as "because I was awake." Seriously, though, I see that I don't even think about smoking now for any of the reasons I listed anymore, and I see in my Journal that I haven't had a serious craving since the third week of my quit. I've had some triggers, though, but those have lasted as long as it takes to think "Oh, no, I'm not even going there" which is about two seconds! And, that doesn't happen often at all. I'd say that since the third week, I've had thoughts about once a week on average, and I've noticed that my Journal entries are more about being aggravated being in a room with smokers and suffering from the effects of their smoking. My eyes burn, and my chest gets tight~~I'm just miserable!
I don't intentionally avoid being around smokers, hubby smokes, and one of our daughters and her boyfriend smoke,~~~outside~~~ and I visit with them on the patio, but I've never wanted a cigarette while I'm with them. I thought this would be a big temptation, but it isn't. Last weekend when everybody was home for a visit, I got a bit miffed when I saw them trooping outside to smoke after dinner while I was left cleaning the kitchen by myself! Then I remembered how I used to scoot out there to smoke after a meal because I needed to smoke! There's nothing pretty about seeing a cloud of smoke swirling around the heads of people I love. Nor is it appealing to smell that stale tobacco on their clothes and in their hair. And, I've started noticing how a smoker's face scrunches up as they puff on that cigarette, and squint when the smoke gets in their eyes and burns. Not a pretty sight at all, not to mention that they're killing themselves a puff at a time, just as I used to do.
My husband and I used to spend hours outside on our patio smoking and talking every day, first thing in the morning, after meals, and last thing at night. When I first quit I didn't go out there very much because I was afraid that I'd weaken and relapse. Then I'd go out but not stay too long. Now I go out whenever I want to and I never think about lighting up. I do think about smoking, though, but only in the sense of how happy I am that I don't need to do it anymore. I don't have to go out there in order to feel better because I'm needing the nicotine. (And, I have to add here, did I really feel better?) Now I have a choice, then I didn't. Now I'm free of the control of the nicotine, then I wasn't. And as Marius said, I can't imagine a long flight without smoking. How miserable that would be! We made a trip to London in May, ten hours in a plane, and I never thought about smoking, but I saw my hubby running for the door as soon as the plane landed for his "fix." We went to a wedding two weeks ago and I saw the bride going outside every half hour or so for a smoke break. Episodes like this just reinforce my resolve never to be jerked around by the addiction to nicotine ever again as long as I live. So, as for my smoking thoughts, 99% of them are gratitude that I don't smoke anymore, and constantly hoping and praying that all smokers will quit and enjoy the freedom and joys of a smoke-free life.
It can be done~~One Day At A Time!
Not one puff...No matter what...Just for today!!!
Love to all,
Mari
Three months, three weeks, two days, 19 hours, 44 minutes and 51 seconds. 2316 cigarettes not smoked, saving $414.49. Life saved: 1 week, 1 day, 1 hour, 0 minutes.
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04 Jul 2001, 02:46 #43

Hi Joel: I smiled at your topic as the first thing I read of yours almost 9 months ago that helped keep me off cigarettes was.... "would I rather occasionally think about smoking, or constantly think about quitting ?" That's when I realized that in our brain, our thoughts are constantly changing. So the others are so right, "IT" only lasts a few seconds to minutes. Whereas a desire to quit happens with every cigarette we smoke!

It's been 9 months and while nothing would make me stick one of those cancer sticks in my mouth, I do think and remember often during a day. Except thanks to your reminding me I know the thought flies away quickly!

It's an important concept that we need to remember always.

Thanks Joel, for being here for us. I was glad yesterday to find my password so I could check in from time to time. Can you believe it was almost 9 months ago since you answered my plea for help? You and the others gave me belief in myself.
I am forever grateful.

Your sweet smelling never take another puff, Dionne
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04 Jul 2001, 03:42 #44

My stats are at: Two months, one day, 21 hours, 1 minute and 7 seconds. 1257 cigarettes not smoked, saving $314.38. Life saved: 4 days, 8 hours, 45 minutes.

How many seconds per day do I think about having a cigarette? Not many. I would say that on average I think about it for maybe a total of 90 seconds, and I only usually have one craving per day. That craving is usually triggered by spending time with my closest friend who continues to smoke a pack a day. With her I still want to smoke occassionally, and this is the only on-going trigger in my quit right now, but with each day it gets easier to not smoke around her. Two weeks ago I went to a cottage with her and another v. close friend who chain smokes, and cravings only hit about 3 or 4 times. Not too bad considering how many times cravings hit them - they seemed like they were trying to set a record for number of cigarettes smoked in a row!

Teresa
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05 Jul 2001, 01:23 #45

I am copying Mike's post to this string because it really addresses the issue of thoughts about smoking at different time periods after quitting. I don't think Mike will mind.

Joel
From: NOMO Sent: 7/4/2001 12:04 PM
Hello Everyone

In light of these words of wisdom, I thought I'd drop in and say hello and to tell all who are struggling to quit and stay quit, that,

It DOES get easier !!!!

Tomorrow will be my 7 month anniversary. If not for the help I've received from the great people here, I would have smoked 10,572 cigarettes !!! I would have spent very close to $2000 in the process.

All of our quits may differ, but I, personally, almost never feel like I want to smoke any more. If and when I DO, It not much problem to utilize the education I received here, and to move on.

I honestly never thought I'd be able to say that I'm an ex-smoker !!

If all newbies heed the wisdom that is so abundant here, you'll be able to say these things too I'm living (and breathing) proof !!!!!

Mike
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05 Jul 2001, 02:02 #46

i am a member who has been basically in lurk mode for the past several months, now and then popping in mostly to read joel's stuff, but felt i ought to respond to this one . . . how often do i think about smoking? at least a couple times a day it crosses my mind, only because there are many things to remind me, but that's not the same thing as wanting one, or having a genuine urge. the only time i ever have an actual crave or urge or really want one--and then only fleetingly--is when i see another person light up, and then only for those first few seconds.
hang in there, newbies. quitting smoking is a difficult process, but it is a process that progresses with every second/minute/hour/day that goes by. you will have your moments, sure, but with the right knowledge and motivation you will easily beat them and move on.
as for me, i wouldn't trade in the sweet smell of wisteria on a hot summer night for anything in this world.
keep fighting the good fight. :)
aimee
10 months, 1 week, 5 days, 13 hours, 33 seconds . . .
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06 Jul 2001, 05:44 #47

guess i thot i'd like to put my 2 cents worth in. i don't think about smoking hardly at all. sometimes, when i'm going to be doing something that i haven't done as a non-smoker i think "how can i do that without a cigarette?" which seems kinda silly since i haven't had a cigarette since March 31, 2001 and being without them doesn't bother me in the least. but for some reason something new comes along and i ask that question - face it - and find out it's no big deal at all. in fact, i have learned that being around cigarette smoke just makes me sick. for the first time a couple weeks ago i went to friends house for dinner - they are heavy smokers - and i wondered how i'd be able to face the evening. i walked into a very smokey house which was most unappealing - we sat at the table and the smoke from both their cigarettes went right into my face - it was making me sick and nauseous and giving me a headache - sooooooooooooooooooo.............i had no problem at all not wanting to smoke. for that matter - i left with my lungs all junked up again - coughing and pleghming my way home and i hated that too. i haven't craved one since i quit this time - i've been very fortunate. i feel good - and i'm very proud of me and that's just the best feeling in the whole wide world. i had 28 years worth of smoke in me - and i had quit for 7 years after smoking 10 - had one one day and blew it for another 18 years. shows you what an addiction can do. i don't want that to ever happen again. i like this feeling it's far better then the little "i think i want a smoke" which crops up only every once in a while.

anne

Three months, four days, 16 hours, 22 minutes and 48 seconds. 1353 cigarettes not smoked, saving $236.77. Life saved: 4 days, 16 hours, 45 minutes.
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06 Jul 2001, 05:55 #48

Hi Joel, and all my freedom friends,

I too think this is an important thread. In my early quit I too thought when will this get better? I can tell you it does. I will be 70 in November, and I will also be a year smoke free. What a present to myself. I don't think about cigarettes as cigarettes, with the urge or yen to smoke them, but rather as repulsive in odor, and deadly in result. I also have days when I feel strange, or a little spacy. When this occurs I know it will go away, and that smoking is not a remedy or an option, but a death sentence. I do think about other people when they smoke in front of me, but with pity rather than desire. How many seconds a day do I think about them is easy hardly at all. I go days sometimes and tobacco is the farthest thing from my mind. I am 7 and a half months smober, have saved over $1100, and most remarkable have not smoked over 8,000 nastysticks. I also was impressed with your cilia thread, Joel, I printed it off along with pictures, had my smoking wife and son read it, and mailed it to my smoking daughter nurse. Again thank you Freedom for saving or at least extending my life.


HAL
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06 Jul 2001, 21:26 #49

I took the liberty of copying Treese's post from last night here to this string. It is one thing when a person who has quit smoking for a day or two hears people say that they hardly think of smoking at all once off for months or years. But when you hear from someone off for only a few days or maybe even just a few weeks, and he or she too is only having sporadic thoughts throughout the day--well this adds a ray of hope that times will be better soon for the recently quit smoker. It is not even important that a person feels it is going to get better. All that is important is that the person hangs in there and sees it happen for him or herself.
From: Treese Sent: 7/5/2001 10:29 PM
Hi Everyone! Thought I'd check in again tonight to let you all know it's been a great day today!! I have been announcing to everyone I know that I am a nonsmoker and have vowed to NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!!! I have given this website address to everyone, even ones who don't smoke but have loved ones that do. They ask me how I quit and I tell them how highly educational and supportive this site is. I find myself quoting things I've read and re-read. Im not proud of the fact of being addicted to nicotine (I totally admit it though) and explained to many why this quit is successful and my other quits failed. Today I did think about cigs but not as much as yesterday. Today, I thought about them for a few seconds, maybe 6 times but then the thought went away. It's definately thoughts today and NOT a feeling like I GOTTA HAVE A CIG CRAVE.I've had a few thoughts that just popped into my head and I stopped to think a minute, that HEY, I DON'T SMOKE ANYMORE-and then the thought would pop right back out of my head. Even tho I still think of those nasty cigs daily, whenever I see someone smoking, I can only feel sorry for them and don't envy them like I had done in previous quits. So, today was much better than yesterday. I look forward to having fewer thoughts about cigs as each day goes by. I know it is getting better because when I have my thoughts, I immediately say to myself that a cig is not going to make me feel better and I definately am not going thru **** Week again!! I have been smoke free for 1W,3D,37M,14S. 150 cigs not smoked and $25.25saved. I am so thankful to have found FREEDOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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11 Jul 2001, 11:20 #50

WANTING A SICKERETTE ? I really dont any more, maybe 1/2 second when my beer drinking buddy who smokes my old brand is around, but that is the only time I even get the urge . I am surrounded by smokes all day but not my brand. I looked backed at my 1st post and I remember I really had a hard time those 1st couple weeks. Worst was 1st thing in morning and after I eat but now That is not even a problem and has not been for a while. I love my smoke free life and will never ever smoke again. My 20 year old Daughter ask me how I could be smoke FREE with her and my wife lighting up at same time and before I could answer my wife told her I was stronger than them. I think over time they will both see the way but I will never smoke again. It is a constant battle but it does get better as you go , just hang on and feel the power as you NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF !!!
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12 Jul 2001, 00:37 #51

In the middle of my round of smoking clinic calls and I got the impression a number of my participants are reading at www.whyquit.com and here so I wanted to bring this one up to a point of prominence. It is so important that people in the first days of a quit recognize that the physical feelings they are experiencing are temporary reactions and not what it feels like forever being an ex-smoker. This string gets that point across very well. Thanks to everyone who participated here.

Joel
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12 Jul 2001, 19:29 #52

This was posted by Tommo yesterday in its own string but I thought it would be good here too for longer term use.
From: Tommo (Green) (Original Message) Sent: 7/11/2001 3:54 PM
Hello Everyone

I know I've gone back to lurking but I still come here to read what is going on. I remember reading that we should celebrate being a twobie so here I am.

To everyone that posts on here, thank you for your support in this great journey.

To lurkers and newbies, it really is much easier now and I now deal with most situations without a problem. Yes, I still get thoughts but they are only thoughts and last about 30 seconds. If you are thinking "Will it ever get better" then I was there too and it does get better, much better.

Tommo

2 months, 2 weeks, 2 days, 22 hours, 2 minutes and 2 seconds. 1947 cigarettes not smoked, saving £375.96. Life saved: 6 days, 18 hours, 15 minutes.
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12 Jul 2001, 23:31 #53

and adding yet another to this thread.
From: tavonem (green) Sent: 7/12/2001 9:08 AM
Hi Tommo.....congratulations....nice to meet you. It must be that time of the year for lurkers to turn to posters, i came out of the closet yesterday and posted for the first time.

I also have quit for two months + and your sooooo right about it getting easier......all the newbies who happen across this....please please please stick with it, those bad feelings do pass......truly and honestly they do.

two months four days of freedom.
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13 Jul 2001, 00:41 #54

thought i would add my 2cents :) its been 9 months, 1 week and 5 days and i can honestly say I never imagined being an ex smoker would be so wonderful. in the beginning i thought about smoking all the time..now i go DAYS..even WEEKS and it doesnt even cross my mind! things DO get easier!!!
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13 Jul 2001, 07:22 #55

Hi all, Mahdi here with the true about my non-smoking stats. I quit hammering those nails into the coffin on March 12, 2001. I am without a puff for 4 months..19 hours..15 minutes..15 seconds. I haven't smoked 1,719 cigarettes. I have saved $335.14. I have added 5 days.. 23 hours.. and 15 minutes to my life. To tell the truth, most days I don't think about smoking at all. On those rare occasions that I do happen to think about it, the thought only last for a few seconds. Then I remember how long I have gone without one, and realize how good it feels to not smoke. Never Take Another Puff.........Mahdi
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13 Jul 2001, 08:16 #56

Hi. This is my first post since I turned SILVER!!!! But to answer your question, I seldom think about SMOKING a cigarette, but sometimes I think, "This is one of the times when I would have smoked". I waited a long time for it to get this tolerable, and I will certainly NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF.

Wilma_nc
Six months, two days, 22 hours, 28 minutes and 57 seconds. 7357 cigarettes not smoked, saving $606.85. Life saved: 3 weeks, 4 days, 13 hours, 5 minutes.
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14 Jul 2001, 03:22 #57

Joel, this string's a nice idea. It would be interesting to see a chart of the results, with the X axis being the number of days since quitting and the Y axis being the range of smoking desire. I guess I'd split physical withdrawl craves from situational triggers to show how the desire changes (and lessens in intensity) over time.

I'm at 9 days. I have perhaps five low- to medium-intensity urges per day that seem like they MIGHT be physical. In fact these urges may have nothing to do with smoking/nicotine; it may just be job stress. If that's the case the urge is just my workday job stress situational trigger (if stressed, smoke.) These urges last from 2 to 20 seconds - taking a few deep breaths and remembering that I'm happy to be not smoking pretty much makes them go away.

I really think the important work for me now is relearning how to live as a non-smoker --- learning what to do with myself during the everyday situations in which I used to smoke. I think for someone in the second week like me, this relearning and the frustrations (what do I do with myself in THIS situation) that can accompany it may be the biggest challenges and the greatest risk of relapse. Caring for one's quit by reading information and remembering reasons why has been the way I've overcome those risks and succeeded in staying nicotine free.

Chris
Nicotine free for 1 Week 2 Days 3 Hours 51 Minutes 47 Seconds.
"Dance like no one's watching, love like it's never going to hurt, sing like no one's listening, live like it's heaven on earth." --Guy Clark
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14 Jul 2001, 06:25 #58

Chris you sound like a math teacher!
We'd love to see this thread plotted!
That would be interesting! Stay strong!
You're looking good : ))
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14 Jul 2001, 11:14 #59

Hello everyone:

I just got home from my meeting and see that there are a number of posts from people experiencing both physical (blood sugar type) and psychological (various forms of depression and anger) symptoms. I just wanted to bring this thread up to clarify that these reactions are temporary, not what it is like to be a long term ex-smoker, but more what it is like to be a smoker in the early stages of a quit. I will bring up some posts on these issues but just want to make sure that everyone realizes that these effects are temporary, and if you spend a little time reading through this entire thread you will see the overall ease that not smoking will become with a little patience, time and experience. I'll try to spend a little time tomorrow addressing indvidual issues raised here. Until then, focus on the importance of making it through the day, or night here in America. Keep your focus on a day at a time and remember for now that your goal is to never take another puff!

Joel
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17 Jul 2001, 04:32 #60

This ash free journey to comfort is filled with a bumper crop of healing, the highest quality air that has fueled our lungs in years, and even a few extra coins in our pockets. Contrary to your fears and the message of early withdrawal recovery rewards each of us with our very own permanent rainbow. Remember, it is vastly easier staying clean than getting here. Still just one rule ... none today!

Breathe deep, hug hard, live long,

John (Zep)
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17 Jul 2001, 21:48 #61

How often do I still want a cigarette?

Good question.

It's been a long, long time since I last wanted one - months, I suppose. The cigarettes, urges, craves, have simply vanished out of my life. I stay prepared, and with the knowledge gained in here I'll always be ready for an urge, but the truth is, I think it's over now.

I don't want cigarettes any more, that's all there is to it.

Thank you, Freedom!

Susanne
One year, 14 hours, 48 minutes and 1 second. 7312 cigarettes not smoked, saving ATS 14.624,67. Life saved: 3 weeks, 4 days, 9 hours, 20 minutes.
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17 Jul 2001, 23:34 #62

Hi everyone

Even though I have 'only' been nicotine free for 1 month, 1 week, and 1 day, I have not wanted a cigarette for weeks. I have occasionally wanted a something... a I don't know what... but I knew it was not really a cigarette I wanted. And I breathed... and I read some more... And I posted, and vented... And the antsy, got-to-fill-this-black-hole-inside-me feeling went away. As Nicodemon realised I was not going to even consider having a cigarette s/he weakened and went away quicker and quicker and quicker, and I got stronger and stronger and stronger.

And I am so glad I am a non-smoker, and addiction-free, and I found this site. Thanks to everyone for being there. Love Jenni xxx
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25 Jul 2001, 22:25 #63

In case any of Zep's new clinic participants are looking in today, or if any new lurker are stopping by too. This string is really important, everyone needs to know that what ever they are experiencing now does get better with time and experience. Things will get better and better as long as you know to never take another puff!

Joel
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26 Jul 2001, 00:39 #64

I posted to this thread exactly a month ago. Just read my post and have to say it is amazing how fast things change. I am not the same person 30 days later. No longer
have any craves. I think about a cigarette only a few times a day now. much less than before. The thoughts now are no longer threatning. I do not have any real desire for a
cigarette any longer. Just little things remind me of smoking here and there.
That is it

John
Two months, 1 hour, 38 minutes and 25 seconds. 1221 cigarettes not smoked, saving $283.97. Life saved: 4 days, 5 hours, 45 minutes.
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28 Jul 2001, 09:37 #65

I've been sitting here thinking about the question;"How many times a day do I want a cigarette?" The answer is: I don't want one. It comes to mind but only because it's something I have done for years.If I stop and think, feel my body and my needs, I find out that I don't want a cigarette. As you all know my husband is stationed in Kuwait. Today was a bad day, I missed him terribly. He finally got through on the phone and we talked for awhile. Then I felt a tremendous craving coming on. I stopped for a second and figured it out. I didn't want to smoke, I wanted to cry because I missed him so much. That is what I did. After some time I was fine and felt much better. I need to learn not to cover up my feelings with nicotine. It's different, strange , and exciting. I am finally going to be the person I was suppose to be all along. BTW I ran on the treadmill again today. My husband and I are talking about running together when he gets back.
Daniela
1 week, 22 hours, and whatever else
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