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Focus on the Rocks Within ReachAlthough all of my prior quits failed resulted because I broke the The Law of Addiction and took a puff of nicotine, the junkie thinking that my mind engaged in immediately prior to destroying my latest period of healing varied from failure to failure. Although many discover the law of addiction and the power of a puff through repeated failure and the school of hard-quitting-knocks, each year millions simply run out of time and opportunities before defeat becomes permanent, cold, lifeless and still.
Although I used stupid reasons like it was time for a little reward for quitting for a whole day - just one quick puff of nicotine that always turned into 3 or 4 - common to each failure was the fact that I allowed my original core motivations to be consumed by my dependency as I became impatient with the pace of recovery. Central to each was that I never once adopted a "One Day at a Time" recovery philosophy that viewed each day of freedom and healing as the full and complete victory it reflects.
Instead of successfully coping with those few moments of challenge prior to each relapse I simply surrendured to them. I now know that no crave will ever last longer than three minutes (about the time necessary to smoke a cigarette).
A one day at a time mind set allows us to focus on success for just today, the moments before us now. If we are not successful over the next few minutes then we each know how we'll spend all the minutes, days, and packs that follow. Like a skilled cliff or rock climber, focus on getting a good grip of the rocks within arm's reach. To worry about rocks that you can not yet reach or dwell upon how far it is to the ground below or the distance remaining to be climbed, does not help at all in getting a good grip on here and now! Deal with tomorrow, tomorrow while appreciating the tremendous importance of victory today!
The next few minutes are all that matter and each is entirely doable! Yes you can, yes you are, yes you have! We're each with you in spirit,
Breathe deep, hug hard, live long!
John (Gold x7)