Smoking Friends

Smoking Friends

Joined: December 18th, 2008, 11:58 pm

November 26th, 2003, 11:24 pm #1

One of the hardest things is that a lot of my friends smoke. We would sit around and drink wine and smoke and talk. I've hung out with a couple of them but it's been no big deal because it's in my home where smoking is not longer allowed. But...my closest friend has been on vacation since I quit, she doesn't even know. Anyway, she's coming home tonight and I think the anticipation of that is what's making today such a hard day. I know she'll be happy for me that I quit but disappointed too, like I was when my friends quit. You lose a smoking buddy. I'm hoping that my quitting might be a springboard into her quitting since we've both been talking about it a lot lately. But I also know how hard it can be to quit simultaneously with someone and then if they relapse your junkie mind uses that as justification that it's okay, for just another year, another month or whatever.

I am resolved to NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!!
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Joined: January 9th, 2009, 12:27 am

November 27th, 2003, 12:02 am #2

Great job on quitting!!

I also quit during a time when all my friends still smoke. Recently I have been to bars with them and out to happy hour and I must say it is easier than you think it will be. I too, told a friend that had moved that I had quit and she was amazed. Out of all of us I was the "hard core" smoker, they never thought I could ever quit. But like you, we have proved them wrong!!!

One of the people in the group did express that she was sad that she could no longer come get me at work and go down for a smoke and talk... I told her we are still friends, we can still talk, we can still go down for a break and talk... Nothing has changed between us, the only change is I won't be holding a nasty, smelly, HIGHLY addictive stick!!! I am proud to say I will NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!!!

Keep up the good work, don't let the friends bum you out for quitting!! Be proud!
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1m 5d 17:01 smoke-free, 740 cigs not smoked, $111.00 back in my pocket, 2d 13:40 life saved
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Joined: December 18th, 2008, 11:58 pm

September 19th, 2004, 1:16 pm #3

This post was good for me to see. I've quit for 10 days and just drank two glasses of wine at a party. Meanwhile, other people at the party were on the porch...smoking. Luckily, they're weren't many.

It set me spiraling into an intense crave. I fought back...and still am...hurrah!! BUT it made me understand that I'll need to lay off the wine for a long time, and stay extra strong when people I used to smoke with are around.
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Joined: December 18th, 2008, 11:57 pm

September 19th, 2004, 2:23 pm #4

Hey Osomashi,

Did you notice Jane's latest post? I just don't understand
She's past 10 months(!) and the way she looks at other smokers has really changed.

These threads may have some food for thought in them for you too:
Another slant on how to watch people smoke
Are there "social smokers?"
Be prepared - planning for that first outing with smokers
How do you handle being with smokers?
"My cigarette, my friend"
Unsupportive friends

Hug your quit tightly! You are doing a great job staying nic-free. I see you are diving into the reading. That is great!

~ Kay ~
Celebrating 8.something months of Freedom~!
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Joined: December 18th, 2008, 11:57 pm

January 6th, 2006, 3:11 am #5

Good Content and great research by Kay from a year of so ago.

For reference - 3 0f the 4 above members are for sure well past GOLD now (and CW having made it past 10 months is most likely too busy living free to spend time at FFTQSN forum)
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Joined: December 18th, 2008, 11:57 pm

December 7th, 2006, 8:08 am #6

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Joined: December 18th, 2008, 11:57 pm

December 7th, 2006, 8:11 am #7

shedding a little light on a commonly encountered subject.

......And Mari who was going through a challenging time in her young quit when she posted at 10 days back in Sept. 19 of '04 recently left this message on the board:
2 years, 2 months, 2 weeks
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