Repost of "Bad Days"

Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

12 Feb 2001, 22:34 #11

For Patticake:

You had a bad experience during a day, not a bad day though. You got through it without smoking and have learned the lesson of being prepared for the unexpected. Triggers can come at anytime and your surrounding environment may be of no help to you at the moment they occur. That is why it is so important that you are mentally prepared to always be ready to help yourself. Make a list of all the reasons you quit and the reasopns you want to stay off. Make it during a clear sane moment, it is hard to make when in the midst of a mental smoking battle. Carry that list where you used to carry your cigarettes and when the situation occurs again, pull it out and read it. When you are done, if you still think you want "a cigarette", pull out a copy of "The Smokers Vow" attached below and read it through and absorb its meaning and really ask yourself do you want to be a full-fledged smoker for the rest of your life until it cripples then kills you. I am willing to bet if you really go through these two practices you will survive the evening without having to leave or feel that shaken. You may leave for health reasons because you realize that your lungs are under assault and you don't esthetically like being deluged by smoke, but you won't have to leave because you are feeling tempted or mentally threatened. It is a matter of keeping up your motivation and resolve and what better to do this than your own reasons for quitting.

Anyway, here is the smokers vow. Wish you luck.

Joel
Joel's Reinforcement Library
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The Smoker's Vow

To be said just before taking your first puff after
having quit for any appreciable period of time


With this puff I enslave myself
to a lifetime of addiction.
While I can't promise to always love you,
I do promise to obey every craving and
support my addiction to you
no matter how expensive you become.
I will let no husband or wife,
no family member or friend,
no doctor or any other health professional,
no employer or government policy,
no burns or no stench,
no cough or raspy voice,
no cancer or emphysema,
no heart attack or stroke,
no threat of loss of life or limbs,
come between us.
I will smoke you forever
from this day forth,
for better or worse,
whether richer or poorer,
in sickness and in health,
till death do us part!
"You may now light the cigarette."

"I now pronounce you a full-fledged smoker."



Postscript: While 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce, the addiction to smoking will last a lifetime-albeit a shorter lifetime. Once a smoker, annulment of the addiction is impossible. One puff can result in a permanent relapse. Don't take the chance of relapsing to this marriage of inconvenience.


NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!

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Patticake (Gold)
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:58

13 Feb 2001, 01:38 #12

Thank you Joel for getting me back on track where I can get things back into perspective. You are absolutely right, parts of my day yesterday were absolutely great. Lesson learned. Well Nicodemon who got the last laugh here? FREEDOM......that's who.
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

28 Feb 2001, 21:01 #13

I know I just brought this one up a few days ago but Kim was having a bad day. But from the look of her last post she woke up the next morning to a good day. This is important to recognize. Having a bad day and not smoking gives the real opportunity to waking up the next day with many things being better. Sure there may still be some unresolved issues hung over from the day before. Maybe even some new problems. But you have another whole day now to work on them. And if you don't resolve everything that day there will always be tomorrow. Sooner of later the problem of today will be resolved with time.

But taking a cigarette because of a problem is different. Because you will not wake up the next day with just the same problem. You will wake up the next day with the same problem and a whole lot bigger problem than you woke up the previous day with-an active addiction, a need for a drug. A drug that is either going to put you into a major withdrawal or is going to be continued day after day. A drug addiction that doesn't ease up with time but just gets stronger and more dangerous. Most important it is an addiction that will not give you more time to resolve itself or any other life issues, but one in fact that will give you less time overall to deal with life problems but also to experience life's joys too. It basically comes down to being an addiction that will steal your time by shortening your life.

Again, surviving even a bad day smoke free makes it a good day by definition, when considering the grand scheme of things. To make today a good day and all the others to follow always remember to never take another puff!

Joel
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mirigirl (silver)
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:00

28 Feb 2001, 21:18 #14

Thank God these "bad days" (or bad moments?) do pass and we can wake up to a new day, grateful that we got through the last one, (no matter how skew-iff!!??) smoke and nicotine free!!

It does get better.

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NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!!
One month, one week, one day, 21 minutes and 35 seconds of FREEDOM!!
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LadyJen22
Joined: 07 Jan 2009, 19:13

26 Mar 2001, 06:25 #15

Thanks for bringing this up for me Joel. It's great to have such support.
We have all probably heard the saying, "A Bad Day at the Beach is better than a Good Day at Work."
Well, I think we should coin a new phrase:

"A Bad Day Not Smoking is BETTER than a Good Day Smoking!"

Jen
1M, 2W, 2D Smoke Free
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Patticake (Gold)
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:58

26 Mar 2001, 10:53 #16

I suppose not having the habit to lean on and learning to lean on myself has been my greatest hurdle. I have really been taking a good look at myself, seemed everything (almost) I did nicotine was involved. One of my rituals was a smoke and a Dr. Pepper in the evenings. Had to learn to undo that habit. Gads I wasted a lot of time, nicotine this, nicotine that, no wonder this is called Freedom. I have really had some 'bad times' getting from 1/17/01 to today....even had some times when I had a hard time remembering why I wanted to quit in the first place. Even had some days when I looked in the mirror and said "hi, who are you today'. Even had some days when I wished I could crawl under the bed with my cats and sleep eighteen hours like they do. Then one day it suddenly occured to me that yes enemy #1 was nicotine, but enemy #2 was 'moi'. I had convinced myself I was having a horrible time simply because I had noticed someone else was and I was just following the herd. Actually after I had completed a mental inventory I discovered I felt pretty darn good. I checked a lot of the notes I had made in my journal and discovered that a lot of them were a hoot. Now I admit this is not something I EVER want to go through again. I smoked for 40+years and I have a lot of history with the stinking things but I honestly can't think of a day/moment that was so bad that I couldn't go through it again and relapse. I asked my God for help on January 17th, he led me here, now that was a very good day.
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

13 Apr 2001, 16:50 #17

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Joanne Gold
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:58

17 May 2001, 12:22 #18

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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

18 May 2001, 11:52 #19

I haven't been able to spend a lot of time here the past few days. It seems a number of people are experiencing what they think of as bad days. Everyone should work at keeping things in perspective. Life goes on without smoking and sometimes things will be bad that have nothing to do with smoking and or quitting.

But I think if everyone really considers the full implications of smoking, they will realize that that even bad days are better days than they would be if you were still a smoker. More significant, if you compare your bad days to people on oxygen for the rest of their lives because they are permanently pulmonary cripples, or people on chemotherapy trying to save their lives from cancer, or people in the end stages of smoking induced conditions that have no real effective treatments, they will realize that the bad days they are now having are a walk in the park compared to these patients bad days. In fact, your bad days are probably better than these people's good days.

If in doubt of this concept, go to www.whyquit.com and take a read of the ALA Wall of Remembrance or take a look at Bryan's story and see which of these people's life stories would you consider trading positions with. Trouble in relationships, job troubles, sleep disturbances, even depression, if compared to these tragic stories should help make you realize what you have gained by quitting as opposed to lamenting of the problems that you may perceive quitting has caused. In most cases quitting hasn't caused your problems, life has. Cigarettes won't resolve problems either, just add new ones to them that are usually more serious than the problem leading you to want a cigarette. Life goes on after quitting. In fact it will likely go on longer and you will go on significantly healthier as long as you always remember to never take another puff!

Joel
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

13 Jun 2001, 05:19 #20

Seemed apropros today from people talking about stress and the such
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