Recognizing Needs

Subconscious use cue extinguishment
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:04

11 Jan 2007, 13:18 #61

i love this site with its endless posibilities for growth and recognition through posts. what a great moment i just had reading this post put into words something that i've kind of felt but not been able to really grasp.

and what a wonderful way to celebrate clean look at it as a re-exploration of the VARIETY and POSSIBILITIES in meeting our needs. how boring, and unfulfilling it was to have a one common answer. i think of myself as dynamic, so why ever settle again for one catch all solution that doesn't actually solve anything.
the other day i sat and had a bowl of oatmeal before work. while driving to work i realized i felt awake, alert, and fed.

so simple.

so different than how i tried to manage mornings while on nicotine. i'd have a terrible time getting out of bed, rush to get ready, 'treat myself' to 5 minutes of a cigarette before getting in my car, and then down coffee at work until i felt awake.

i myself am enjoying the re-sensitizing to the endless options to meeting my needs.


(i haven't seen hardly anyone use that stick figure, ha ha ha)

(33 days of rediscovering ways to meet my needs, 426 opportunities to choose a path other than nicotine, $110 to spend on finding those new paths)
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Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 01:32

11 Jan 2007, 13:30 #62

This is an excellant post. I have read it several times but never replyed. I can remain silent no longer. Very helpful, thank you !!!!!


Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:02

11 Jan 2007, 18:19 #63

When I first read this I had been having lots of cravings. I went and got a big glass of water and came back to reread it and some of the replies. I was actually really thirsty!

This article is really helpful.


I have been quit for 2 Weeks, 1 Day, 5 hours, 19 minutes and 28 seconds (15 days). I have saved $76.10 by not smoking 304 cigarettes. I have saved 1 Day, 1 hour and 20 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 12/27/2006 12:00 AM

Joined: 07 Jan 2009, 19:37

20 Sep 2007, 20:35 #64

I'm glad I found this information. After 20 days, I have this wanting 'something' feeling quite a lot. I now know to explore what my body is trying to tell me and not just think that it is a craving that won't go away!
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27 Sep 2009, 23:05 #65

Thanks for the post really brings thing into perspective

Joined: 20 Jan 2010, 01:49

18 Feb 2010, 02:08 #66

Woke this morning to intense "craves" after working a long stretch of night shift. I used to smoke my way through the tired, not well exercised feeling.  Not today.  I saw this post this am and have been meeting each one of my needs.  This is the first time in 34 days I have taken inventory and corrected what needed to be corrected.  It has helped tremendously!  I am looking forward to tomorrow so that I can practice this new game of discovery and correction.  
Thanks posters!

Joined: 17 Aug 2010, 16:35

18 Nov 2010, 13:46 #67

Absolutely wonderful!
Gratefully Gold

I escaped from the prison of smoking on August 14, 2010.  
[font]The best revenge is quitting well![/font] 

Joined: 09 Sep 2010, 13:05

18 Nov 2010, 16:09 #68

Wow!  What a great insight to share. Thanks for the original post and thanks for putting it up prominently so I saw it today.

I intend to heed this advice and learn to identify what I am craving.

Jim - Free and Healing for Two Months, Twenty Four Days, 21 Hours and 37 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 20 Days and 21 Hours, by avoiding the use of 6013 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $1,357.73.

(6 days 2 and a half hours to bronze)

Joined: 28 Jan 2011, 19:27

15 Feb 2011, 20:21 #69

I honestly thought the first cig of the day with my cup of coffee would be the hardest one to give up, the one I'd miss the most...Now, I report back-that morning cig is the one i'm the most grateful to not have. It's wonderful to start my day breathing clean air and without engaging the ceaseless cycle of nicotine replenishment and depletion.

Joined: 05 Jan 2011, 00:09

18 Feb 2011, 00:50 #70

I have been compelled also to say - this is an excellent post.  It means so much to have someone say what you feel - and in a way that gives you confidence.
Thank you OBob - I wish you were still on these boards...but that's ok - we're still lovin' you anyway - wherever you are

Quit 1-1-11 smiling and smiling

Joined: 30 Mar 2011, 13:45

19 Jun 2011, 09:35 #71

I love this post too and thought I'd comment while I'm here. I'm approaching bronze, 6 days to go, and the ideas in this post are as relevant to me now as they were at the start of my quit.

In the beginning, I could not bear the feeling that I had an unmet need. I was like a tiny child in a tantrum, unable to wait or think, overcome with frustration, needing something RIGHT NOW to make me feel better. When I look back I'm a little embarrassed.  Then I began to understand how immature I was emotionally in this area. Taking care of your own needs is a life skill, and I hadn't learned it yet. This learning had been hijacked by nicotine in my early teens.  

At the start of my quit, I found the whole idea that perhaps I wanted a glass of water and not a hit of nicotine quite frankly bizarre. How are the two even related? I've gone through a process of trying lots and lots of different things when I need 'something'. Is it a hug, a walk, a drink, a chat? Is it some quiet time, some loud music, what is it? Somewhere along the way I was able to giggle at myself and at my efforts to get it right. I was clueless.

I won't say I have all the answers as I definitely don't. But the process of learning is much more relaxed now than it has ever been. The withdrawal is gone, the restless feeling I had for weeks is gone. It's just me now, on my own, trying to learn what feels like the right thing and what doesn't. When am I hungry, sleepy, bored? What do I need to do to keep myself on an even keel? The frustrated, tantruming child is making fewer appearances as time goes on.

On the whole, my understanding has increased unbelievably following the education on this website and posts like the opening one here. This place is literally saving my life. Many, many thanks. 

Redsunflower - Free and Healing for Two Months, Twenty Six Days and 3 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 9 Days and 1 Hour, by avoiding the use of 2610 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me £261.94. 

Joined: 12 Jul 2012, 14:06

18 Jul 2012, 14:41 #72

Just stumbled across this incredibly helpful post and wanted to put it back in circulation. Nine days nictotine free and I'm rediscovering that my body does indeed have requirements beyond the ubiquitous cigarette. For anyone else who is (re)discovering obscure concepts like Thirst, Hunger, Sleepiness, Restlessness which had previously been construed as the urge to smoke, I refer you to O'Bob's fine original article. I remember well that during the first three days what I wanted was a cigarette a cigarette a cigarette. Only a very few days later, if a crave hits, more often that not it is actually a message that I need something else - even if that something else is simply to stand up and stretch my legs. Learning to listen to my mind and body feels good after years of ignoring them and reacting to all cues by lighting up.
Another happy no smoking day to everyone.

Katharine - Free and Healing for Nine Days, 12 Hours and 48 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 15 Hours, by avoiding the use of 191 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $42.54.

Joined: 03 Jul 2013, 14:10

14 Sep 2013, 22:54 #73

Thank you OBob Gold for this post from many many years ago. This thread was great for me to find and read. I can see from reading all the entries on it that it has been helpful and pertinent for everyone who has read it. It is such a well articulated and great explanation of the "something is missing" feelings I have experienced (as a nicotine addict) during my journey to freedom from nicotine. The "something missing" is so many times just what you have written about, hunger, water,sleep ... the cigarettes took over my life and the nicotine substituted for all these normal needs. No wonder I am feeling less tired and healthier! I am actually enjoying at this time in my quite taking back my life.

a happy ex-smoker,
nicotine free 2 months, 3 weeks, 1 day, 10 hours and 35 minutes