I love this post too and thought I'd comment while I'm here. I'm approaching bronze, 6 days to go, and the ideas in this post are as relevant to me now as they were at the start of my quit.
In the beginning, I could not bear the feeling that I had an unmet need. I was like a tiny child in a tantrum, unable to wait or think, overcome with frustration, needing something RIGHT NOW to make me feel better. When I look back I'm a little embarrassed.
Then I began to understand how immature I was emotionally in this area. Taking care of your own needs is a life skill, and I hadn't learned it yet. This learning had been hijacked by nicotine in my early teens.
At the start of my quit, I found the whole idea that perhaps I wanted a glass of water and not a hit of nicotine quite frankly bizarre. How are the two even related? I've gone through a process of trying lots and lots of different things when I need 'something'. Is it a hug, a walk, a drink, a chat? Is it some quiet time, some loud music, what is it? Somewhere along the way I was able to giggle at myself and at my efforts to get it right. I was clueless.
I won't say I have all the answers as I definitely don't. But the process of learning is much more relaxed now than it has ever been. The withdrawal is gone, the restless feeling I had for weeks is gone. It's just me now, on my own, trying to learn what feels like the right thing and what doesn't. When am I hungry, sleepy, bored? What do I need to do to keep myself on an even keel? The frustrated, tantruming child is making fewer appearances as time goes on.
On the whole, my understanding has increased unbelievably following the education on this website and posts like the opening one here. This place is literally saving my life. Many, many thanks.
Redsunflower - Free and Healing for Two Months, Twenty Six Days and 3 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 9 Days and 1 Hour, by avoiding the use of 2610 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me £261.94.