Quitting With A Positive Attitude

Roger (Gold)
Roger (Gold)

2:54 PM - Jan 12, 2003 #1

"There Is Nothing Either Good Or Bad, Hard Or Easy,
It's How We Choose To Think That Makes It So"
~William Shakespeare~

When you read the above quote, think about the first thought that came to your mind. Was it one that made a contradictive statement or one that opened up your mind for potential provocative thinking and acceptance of this universal law?

Throughout history it has been universally understood how we picture things that we like or dislike or how we perceive ourselves handling them, is most likely how they will turn out. Why do you suppose that is? Most experts would suggest we have already predetermined that within our subconscious mind by our fears and trepidations. By entering a preconceived thought in our subconscious, we unknowingly set the tone or program our subconscious as to how a particular task is handled by us. There are many things we cannot change the end result of. We can however control our actions and reactions, leading to a more pleasant or difficult result based on our attitude and perception as to how we handle the task.

For the remainder of this thread I am going to be talking about how we can use and develop our attitude to assist us as we travel our journey to get from Point A.....Actively feeding our addiction.....To Point B.....Being a comfortable x-smoker in control of our addiction.
"Whether You Believe You Can Do A Particular Task,
Or Whether You Believe You Can't,
You Are Absolutely Right Either Way You Think"

~Henry Ford~
You might ask the following question. How do I go about changing my preconceived attitude I have about quitting smoking and How do I use this positive attitude and approach when I begin my quit?

First of all, make the decision to quit! Set a quit date. Remember, procrastination has been the destroyer of many dreams and goals.

From the moment you make that decision, begin to look forward to your quit day with excitement along with the attitude you can do it. Focus your energy and thoughts on the positive benefits you will receive after you cease all use of nicotine and cigarettes. Visualize your self as being healthier, happier, less stressed, having lower blood pressure, smelling better than an ashtray or just be accepted by society in a more acceptable light. The benefits are many. Make a list of all the reason and benefits you hope to accomplish. Do not focus on thoughts that emphasize your quit is going to be difficult, even if you have quit in the past and failed. Refrain from visualizing yourself banging your head on the wall or floor as you deal with withdrawal symptoms. Do not picture yourself being chained to a wall in a spare room or basement. Look at the positive side. Remember the old saying, every cloud has a silver lining. Always find somthing good and beneficial to focus on.

As your quit day approaches, begin to intensify the images you are placeing in your mind. Visualize yourself as a comfortable x-smoker. See yourself doing activities and enjoying them in places where you cannot smoke. Imagine doing physical activities much better than you have in a long time due to your enhanced breathing capabilities since you've quit. Daydream about getting together with family or friends and not having to go outside to feed your addiction. See yourself as a very proud and accomplished x-smoker. See yourself with brighter and cleaner looking teeth and clearer and cleaner skin. However your life is now, reinforce your thoughts how much better it will be in just a short period of time. Remind yourself frequently how excited you are being so close to the day you finally take control of your life back from your addiction. Do this visualization process each day and the last thing you think about before you fall asleep at night.

Your quit day is here. You are excited but apprehensive at the same time. Just keep telling yourself you can do this and are very excited about the rewards to follow. After waking, get up and take a nice long hot shower and get dressed. You will realize your life is different. The routine has changed. Frequently remind yourself it is for the better. You will think about having cigarettes. It is natural thought process as they have been a part of you for so long. Just part your lips and make a big smile and keep moving on. Try that right now. Smile as big as you can. Did that make you feel better and possibly laugh a bit? It should have. Remember that as a smile can be very good healing therapy. Time will pass and soon a half a day is gone. You have survived on excitement, adrenalin and determination.
Understand it is just a matter of time before a crave comes your way. You already know from prior reading at Freedom a crave only lasts 3-4 minutes. You can handle it. You begin to count....one-thousand one, one-thousand two....while at the same time you are taking deep breaths. Soon you relax, it is over and a kind of a calmness comes over you. You pat yourself on the back because you survived it. Your brain releases a measured amount of dopamine and you get a natural high. Perhaps the first naturally induced one since you began smoking years ago. Your confidence level adjusts up a notch or two. You smile and tell yourself.......That wasn't so bad. Bring them on, I can handle them!

If your symptoms of withdrawal are more intense than the one I describe above or they begin to come at you in waves as they do at times for some people. Don't panic. Try to relax and deal with it. Remember they don't last forever. If you do find them difficult to deal with it's because your negative side, junkie mind, has already began to analyze this withdrawal thing in depth. Yes, your own worst enemy, your junkie mind panics and begins to place survival thoughts in your mind. It begins to see the grand illusion of the perfect smoke. Just one to tide you over. You can actually feel the smoke laden nicotine enter your mouth, throat, lungs, and finally the 4000 plus deadly chemicals are being distributed throughout your every cell and organ. You begin to vividly imagine the relaxation. It is time to wake up!
This is the point you need to take control of the situation back from those negative thoughts and feelings. Begin immediately to muster up all the positive affirmations you can think of. Begin repeating to yourself any one of the following affirmations or some others you have written down prior to this occurrence. Read them aloud. Say them with conviction and passion.
I don't need nicotine too keep on living.
I don't need to smoke to feel alive.

What I am feeling is my body and mind
healing from years of substance abuse.
This is a temporary feeling and will pass.
I can and will live without nicotine.
I do not need this drug to survive nor do I
want to administer this drug to my system anymore.
I am happy I quit despite how I feel at the present.
The benefits from quitting far outweigh the
symptoms during my temporary adjustment period.
This will get much better as promised by the
ones who traveled this journey before me.
I have faith in that.
Minute by minute or hour by hour you will you get through it and the day will finally end. Breathe a deep breath of nicotine free oxygen. A warm sensation may come over you. You reflect on your first day and fully understand the power of this chemical and its addictive qualities that has kept its grip on you for so many years. Today you won the battle. Again, make sure you place a huge smile on your face. Tell yourself how proud you are of you today. Pat yourself hard on your back for succeeding this day. You well deserve it.

Before you finally let your conscious lights go out and give way to your subconscious, understand it is imperative to reinforce the process again by placing the images of yourself as a comfortable x-smoker in your mind again. See yourself as you want to be. Repeat the imagery you have been doing each day prior. Visualize yourself as a successful x-smoker in control. Proclaim to yourself vocally how you are looking forward to tomorrow so you can defeat your addiction one more day no matter what it throws your way. Utter the following proclamation,
"I Can Do This One Day At A Time, Just for Today.
Tomorrow, I Will Deal With Tomorrow."

This imaging and positive affirmations really do work. Experts have concluded, by surrounding your mind with positive imaging, creates within your subconscious, positive attitudes. This is achieved by placing positive mental pictures of yourself being the way you want to be and doing the things you want to do. These visualizations cause your mind to work towards achieving these images, even while you sleep. This practice needs to happen daily with each crave and before bedtime. It works one day at a time.

You might ask the question, will my attitude help my symptoms of withdrawal be lessened? Probably not. Although I do believe it will make it easier for you to accept them and move on sooner. Can you successfully quit with out all of the attitude stuff? Sure you can. However, I will go on to say, I believe the time it takes for you to find the comfort you seek and accept your new life as an x-smoker, without needing the crutch of nicotine and cigarettes, will happen sooner with a positive attitude and approach to your quit, rather than waiting for your attitude to adjust with time. Here is another a very good point to consider for those of you already working on a quit. If you are struggling with physical or psychological withdrawal or having difficulties putting your quit and new life into the proper perspective, the art of practicing positive affirmations daily can help you to turn that around. As your attitude develops, you find comfort and develop more confidence in yourself, allowing you to believe, you will have the ability to remain quit and never take another puff.
"Change How You Think And You Can Change Your Life"


One Day At A Time, You Can If You Think You Can 

Roger
Gold Club
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janetd (GOLD)
janetd (GOLD)

1:16 AM - Jan 13, 2003 #2

Wonderful post, dear Roger! Smiling in the face of adversity! I love it! Certain wrinkles have deepened since I quit from smiling so much. But that's a good thing, isn't it?

yqs, Janet
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Lena (SILVER)
Lena (SILVER)

1:41 AM - Jan 13, 2003 #3

Hi Roger, What a great post. I am so happy you are here. Thank you for your insight. Your quit friend Lena 5 weeks 3 days without a puff!!!
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valeriescleanGOLD
valeriescleanGOLD

2:29 AM - Jan 13, 2003 #4

Great Post Roger! I needed this today! I agree 110%!
Valerie
1 week, 4 days, 9 hours 27 minutes of VICTORY!
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Joel
Joel

7:07 AM - Jan 13, 2003 #5

Hello Roger:

I actually have an attitude quote I sometimes use in clinics. It is that if you quit with a lousy attitude you are pretty much assured to have a lousy time when first quitting.

If on the other hand you quit with a good attitude, well, you may still have a lousy time in the beginning, but at least you will have a good attitude about it.

As you may have guessed, this insight doesn't help a whole lot in the first few days. But it usually gets a chuckle. The more important advice on this issue is the string Acknowledge the negative--but dwell on the positive. Thanks for your sharing of insights here.

Joel
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Parker GOLD
Parker GOLD

9:04 AM - Jan 13, 2003 #6

Roger, I have to believe that someone out there lurking is going to set a quit date because of this fine piece of writing. Someone is going to read this and believe that it is possible for them to be successful at quitting. What a gift you have given with this!

Parker - 7 months
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Roanne
Roanne

4:53 AM - Jan 14, 2003 #7

Thanks for the post, Roger. I read an article in Joel's library about this very same topic when I was quit about three days, and it really made a difference. I like to think of it as "An attitude of gratitude." If I treat this as a good thing it makes all the difference in the world as to how well I handle my quit. Thanks again!

One month, one week, 20 hours, 54 minutes and 8 seconds. 971 cigarettes not smoked, saving $218.65. Life saved: 3 days, 8 hours, 55 minutes.
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

6:13 AM - Jan 14, 2003 #8

Thanks for the read Roger : ) Love that Ford quote! Before we dove into these hundreds of other cessation issues and before I received that first email for a guy named Joel, I was a one issue type guy - attitude, attitude, attitude! Back then I even believed it could not only overcome my own ignorance of the law of addiction but that it was the most important thing of all in quitting. But then how could I believe in something that I had never really known - the law of addiction? It's amazing the way ignorance works! It truly is bliss and can also deadly as relapse was the rule of the day before Joel arrived carrying the big picture.

Like you, I still deeply believe that we are what we think! Put that together with a detailed understanding of the law of addiction, and a bit of reinforcement now and then and I think it's highly likely that I'll Never Take Another Puff! Thanks Roger!
Breathe deep, hug hard, live long, John : )
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ladygrace
ladygrace

6:13 AM - Jan 16, 2003 #9


I love it, THE ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE. I'm posting that on my PC to keep me ever mindful. Thank you for the insight Roger. All of you'll are the greatest! I come here everyday to receive my dose of motivation and inspiration!!!!

Proud to be free for 21+ days, and forever counting!!!
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BillW Gold.ffn
BillW Gold.ffn

11:43 PM - Jan 25, 2003 #10

Hi Roger!

Absolutely right! My own quit finally blossomed when I decided to change my attitude.
If you decide quitting will be easy.....
I suppose its possible that you could be wrong.
If you decide quitting is hard,
There is no doubt that you will be absolutely right!
BillW Eleven months, two weeks, three days. 10532 cigarettes not smoked, saving $2,080.08. Life saved: 5 weeks, 1 day, 13 hours, 40 minutes.
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Lynner10
Lynner10

1:05 AM - Jan 26, 2003 #11

Hi Roger,
Wow, I needed this today.
I do feel better :) and I love the "naturally induced high" when I smile with cleaner breath, teeth, wow this is great :)

Thanks, Debbie

I have chosen not to smoke for 3 Weeks 2 Days 15 Hours 54 Minutes 48 Seconds. Cigarettes not smoked: 1041. Money saved: $124.94. **new refrigerator here we come*
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Sam18Nov Gold
Sam18Nov Gold

11:18 AM - Feb 03, 2003 #12



way to go Roger.....

thanks for being here............................i am
yqs
sam

Free for 8M 1W 4D 23H 13M

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marypGold
marypGold

11:23 AM - Feb 03, 2003 #13

Thanks Roger...........

yqs Winnie One month, two days, 9 hours, 36 minutes and 32 seconds. 668 cigarettes not smoked, saving $106.88. Life saved: 2 days, 7 hours, 40 minutes.
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Roger (Gold)
Roger (Gold)

1:38 PM - May 31, 2003 #14

Quitting With A Positive Attitude Is Definitely A Plus, Not A Requirement.
Anyone can quit as long as they have the desire to. A good positive attitude won't stop the physical and psychological withdrawal symptoms that take place during our temporary period of adjustment we call quitting. A good positive attitude will help a person deal with their symptoms and treat them in a more emotionally managable manner. I believe a positive attitude will help you find the comfort you desire sooner rather than later. Reality also says no matter how your attitude is, the comfort will find you sooner or later as long as you never take another puff. It just depends on how long you want to fight with it.
Believe you can quit for just 5 minutes at a time. Believe in that one time concept. Then each time you make it 5 minutes and beyond your attitude and confidence will build until you believe as I do.
You Can If You Think You Can, 5 Minutes At A Time
Roger
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

9:22 AM - Jul 14, 2003 #15

If you are TRYING to quit smoking then you're still undecided.
Tell yourself quitting is HARD and unless you're lying it will be.
Believe your craves to be INTENSE and intense will be the ride.
Ponder excuses for a FIX and you'll eventually get to use them.
If you think you might RELAPSE, then relapse you just might.
If you believe that you will FAIL, then chances are you will.
If you WANT to be a ex-smoker, your mind has yet to heal.
When you're READY for your freedom, freedom you shall find.
View this challenge as WONDERFUL and fulfillment will arrive.
See the GLORY of today, then glory it will be!
Praise the HEALING of your body and set your spirit free.
Inhale the JOYS of today, feel the spender of the journey.
Yet be TRUTHFUL of the past, to protect the here and now.
BELIEVE yourself a ex-smoker, a ex-smoker you shall see.
NEVER take another puff and freedom it will be.
Breathe deep, hug hard, live long John
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

8:08 PM - Aug 25, 2003 #16

Using Attitude to Reduce Anxiety Have you previously tried to break nicotine's grip? Have you ever stopped to consider that each of your recovery attempts have been different? It might surprise you to learn that those investing the time to educate themselves often experience far less challenging recoveries than ever before. Those who learn to handle the possible wild blood sugar swings that often accompany nicotine cessation, who learn why it may take only half as much caffeine in order for their blood serum caffeine level to be identical to what it was while still actively smoking nicotine, and who take the time to understand and appreciate the different phases associated with the sense of emotional loss are using their intellect to help avoid many of the symptoms they might otherwise have experienced. This article focuses on yet another important area, diminishing anxiety by embracing recovery.

Can we make ourselves miserable on purpose? No doubt about it. Throughout our lives we've experienced worry, fear, anger and irritability, only to find out later that our worries, fears and anxieties were either totally unnecessary or were over little or nothing at all. Most often they resulted from procrastination as we failed to take those first baby steps and instead fled into the dependability of our addiction or addictions.

Addiction isn't about intoxication but about feeling normal, safe and temporarily free of stress. For the nicotine addict it's about returning to that artificial chemical world of "nicotine normal," a strange mix where elevated dopamine output briefly restores that missing "aaahhh" sensation, while elevated levels of adrenaline yet again prepare the body's defenses for fight or flight. But when it comes to recovery, what was once the mind's conditioned subconscious defense to real or imagined harm, now becomes the greatest obstacle to recovery.

Nicotine's two hour chemical half-life inside the human body creates a constant struggle to remain in that energized zone of comfort. It's a lifetime battle to avoid the inevitable letdown associated with constantly declining nicotine reserves and the corresponding decline of dopamine output, as the lingering aftermath of the addict's early aaahhh sensation - sensed in the brain's reward pathways within 10 seconds of that first puff - begins to evaporate.

It's a never-ending cycle of nicotine induced adrenaline releases whipping every neuron in the body's central nervous system, with each cigarette, like some tired horse badly in need of a rest. It's an endless struggle to avoid feeling tired and drained as adrenaline output declines. It's the struggle to avoid losing the instant energy and alertness that arrived as stored fats were released into the blood while an accelerating heart-rate pumped carbon monoxide, nicotine, additional oxygen and the fats through rapidly constricting blood vessels engaged in preparing for the possibility of blood loss during fight or flight.

Welcome to the addict's world of "nicotine normal," no longer an adventure but a lifetime job. Although staying addicted is hard work, the inner mind has been conditioned to believe that chemical withdrawal and recovery -- that temporary period of adjustment needed to again become 100% comfortable engaging life as "you" -- is a threat to survival. Even though the logical, reasoning and dreaming conscious mind sees recovery as the only possible way of ever returning to a true sense of non-chemical normal, the subconscious "nicotine normal" mind has been heavily conditioned by years of feeling the immediate effects of elevated dopamine and adrenaline levels. It sees nicotine cessation as quitting you, not recovering you. Incapable of reason or logic, it sees recovery as a threat and will employ fear, anger, anxiety, depression, and pre-conditioned crave episodes in its struggle to get your conscious mind to comply, relapse, and bring new nicotine back into your body.

Instead of reassuring the subconscious mind not to fear returning to the "real" you, many add needless self-induced tensions and anxieties to the recovery experience that at times can make recovery seem overwhelming. We can make them escalate to the point where we lash out against loved ones and friends, where we want to hit a tree with our bare hand or where we put our head under a pillow and scream at the top of our lungs. Our crave episodes and thoughts don't cause us to relapse. If they did then few of earth's more than one billion comfortable ex-smokers would ever have become ex-smokers. What causes relapse is the layers and layers of anxiety icing that the conscious mind intentionally cakes upon recovery.

Remember when we were first learning to swim and found ourselves in water over our head. Did you panic? I did. If I had been a skilled swimmer would I have panicked? Of course not. Here at WhyQuit and Freedom we teach smokers to swim and then lead them into deep water. Once there, the smoker can panic and risk relapse or remain calm, enjoy the swim, and fully embrace this most amazing experience. Recovery doesn't need to be nearly as difficult as our instincts are inclined to make it. In fact, it can be a proud, reassuring and glorious adventure in physical and psychological healing.

Sadly, almost half of all current smokers will never learn how to swim and the toxic feedings associated with their chemical world of "nicotine normal" will end up costing them their lives. Many genuinely believe that time is running out and disaster is about strike. For far too many this gut instinct is correct and bad news is just around the corner. Others think that plenty of time remains but after repeated failed attempts they still remain a slave to nicotine's subconscious chemical conditioning. Don't panic. Instead, invest the time needed to become an excellent swimmer. The more knowledgeable and skilled we become the greater our chances of breaking free and remaining afloat. Yes, there may be a few big waves along the way but that doesn't mean we should fear their arrival or that we can't relax and do the backstroke until encountered.

As part of our recovery, why not work on reducing self-inflicted stress, worry, anxiety and panic. In evaluating your thoughts try to be as objective and honest as possible with yourself.. If we repeatedly tell ourselves that this temporary period of adjustment called "recovery" is hard, frightening and painful, won't our anxieties only escalate further as we fuel our subconscious mind's survival instinct to see "nicotine normal" again prevail? Seeing truth after living a lifetime of denial isn't easy. Let's look at one quick example shared with me by Professor Phil Michaels at U.S.C. School of Medicine.

"Did you "like" destroying your body, "like" the taste of 4,000 burning chemicals stinging your tissues, "like" being a chemical slave, or "like" interrupting life's special moments in order to go feed your addiction? The "like" example of addiction denial is grounded in each of us using honest reason to reach a faulty conclusion that often flows like this: "I do not do things I do not like to do," "I smoke lots and lots of cigarettes, " "therefore I must really like smoking." An honest alternative would be "therefore I must really be addicted to smoking." Denial comes in many forms including recovery denial.

We can deny that The Law of Addiction applies to us and make believe we somehow have the ability handle one powerful puff of nicotine and not experience full blown relapse. We can also feed ourselves the big big bite theory that says that the only way to measure success is in terms of staying nicotine-free "forever," instead of focusing on the only time frame that really matters -- complete victory over the next few minutes. If we keep feeding ourselves massive doses of dishonest or destructive thinking, how long will our conscious rational mind last before abandoning its quest for freedom and joining our emotional subconscious in demanding relapse? But let's turn back to subject of self-inflicted anxiety that can grow so intense we begin to fixate and dwell denial lies while seriously pondering relapse.

Picture a plugged-in lamp but without a bulb and the switch turned off. Picture yourself intentionally sticking your finger into the bulb socket and leaving it there. Now picture all of your nicotine feeding cues (triggers) -- the times, places, emotions and events during which you customarily smoked nicotine and thereby conditioned your subconscious to expect the arrival of new nicotine -- being wired directly into the lamp's switch.

We know from detailed studies the "average" number of crave episodes experienced during recovery. Power to the crave lamp will be briefly turned-on a specific number of times each day, with the average being less than 18 minutes on their most challenging day -- recovery day three with 6 craves, each less than three minutes in duration. Be sure and look at a clock as a recent study found that time distortion is a very real recovery symptom that can make a 2 to 3 minute crave episode feel much longer. I've prepared the below crave chart from crave coping data presented in a 1998 study published in Research in Nursing and Health.
With the above chart, please keep in mind that these are just averages and every recovery is different. Some experience no craves at all while others can have twice as many as show above. Even so, if you were in the extreme with double the average, that's still only 36 minutes of crave episode anxiety on your most challenging day - 36 minutes to freedom, each minute entirely doable!

If you know that you are going to be encountering your crave triggers and cues but you don't know when, what will having your finger in an electrical lamp socket all day do to your nerves? Will it keep you on edge? Will the constant sense of anticipation breed anxiety that has you lashing-out against anyone walking into the room? Will you feel like crying? Will worry and concern deprive you of concentrating on other things? Will it wear you down and drain your spirit?

But what if you knew for certain that the shock itself would always be tolerable, that no crave episode would ever harm you, cut you, make you bleed, break bones, make you ill, or kill you, and that the episode itself would not last longer than three minutes? What if you actually began to believe that meeting, greeting and moving beyond each crave episode was a critical and welcome step toward full, complete and permanent recovery? Can honesty, certainty, confidence, understanding, planning and attitude make the time and distance between crave episodes more relaxed and their eventual arrival a welcomed event?

Instead of focusing on any minor anxiety discomfort you may experience during the short period of time a crave episode is actually occurring and the recovery light switch is on, why not work on learning to relax more during the massive amount of time that the switch is actually off? If we keep feeding ourselves the thought that recovery is hard then we should fully expect our subconscious mind to issue forth the emotions needed to cause the rational you to abandon your quest for freedom. If we keep telling ourselves this is hard, we should expect it to be hard.

Why feed ourselves failure? Why fear the swim and worry needlessly when some of us are not even in the water yet? Why assist our inner conditioned mind in breeding negative and powerful anxieties? Why allow such thoughts to fester until they begin oozing anxiety's destructive relapse puss? Instead, chase all negativism from your mind. Replace it with calmness, safety, joy and the knowledge that no three minute crave episode can force you to ever again **** nicotine into your body. Replace it with the reassurance that most subconscious crave triggers are re-conditioned or broken after a single encounter. Fight back with your reason, logic, and dreams that look forward with confidence while knowing that nothing is being left behind, and that nicotine addiction does not define who you are, your life or command your remaining time on earth.

Embrace recovery as your wonderful journey home to experience the rich, deep, and tranquil inner calmness that resided inside your mind before climbing aboard the endless nicotine/dopamine/adrenaline lifetime roller-coaster ride of cycling highs and lows. See encountering and reconditioning each crave trigger cue for what it truly is - a highly visible sign of true healing and recovery. Sense the emerging glory that is you and the abundance of oxygen arriving at every living cell in your body. In times of challenge fill your cup with truth, desire and the reasons that caused you to embark upon this quest for freedom . See all thoughts of smoking nicotine, that at times may seem to flood the mind, as golden opportunities to shed honest light on each, while sorting through years of conscious denial in which you made excuses for your chemical addiction that built a safe-house based on lies.

How full is your cup? Do you feel like you've lost a close friend (half empty) or do realize that friends do not kill friends  (half full)? Did you QUIT smoking (half empty) or is this where you really START living (half full)? Do you fear the arrival of your next crave (half empty) or are you excited by knowing that its arrival brings you one step closer to once again comfortably engaging every aspect of life as "you?" Will your next crave last forever (falsehood) or three minutes at most (the truth)? Will chemical withdrawal never end (falsehood) or will its intensity peak within 72 hours and then begin to gradually subside (the truth)? Do you expect to continue to experience daily "thoughts" of "wanting" to smoke nicotine forever (falsehood) or will your recovery amazingly evolve to a point where you awake each day "expecting" to go your entire day without ever once "wanting" to smoke nicotine? (the truth)?

Do you truly find joy in being addicted to one of the most powerful substances on planet earth or is that just something you convinced yourself of in order to justify your addiction, your next fix, and to avoid the challenge of withdrawal? Will 5, 10 or even 20 temporary extra pounds actually kill you (if they even happen at all) or have you already read that it takes 100 extra pounds to equal the health risk associated with just one pack a cigarettes a day?

Did you sell yourself on believing that smoking nicotine calmed or relieved stress when in fact it never once solved a single stressful event in your entire addicted life, other than relieving its own absence? Instead, you simply took flight or escape into your addiction in order to replenish rapidly falling blood-serum levels of the alkaloid nicotine that were being neutralized by stress generated body acids. How much of life went unaddressed by healthy reactions because of endlessly fleeing into our chemical world of nicotine normal? Name one stressful event that nicotine solved? Life as an addict is far more difficult than being "you" as the acid-alkaloid interaction adds the anxieties of early chemical withdrawal to every stressful challenge life throws your way.

Are you selling yourself relapse by telling yourself that you're growing weaker by the hour and won't be able to handle the next crave episode (if any), or do you know for certain that the next brief encounter will be less than three minutes, that you can handle each minute, that a crave cannot harm you, and that they are growing fewer and further apart with each passing day? Are you fueling the subconscious mind's belief that returning to the "real" you is a frightening and fearful thing to do? Are you breeding and fueling needless anxiety while having little or no memory or recall of the wonderful sense of calmness and lack of addiction chatter that occupied your mind prior to becoming nicotine's slave?

Do you miss destroying more air sacs with each and every puff or are you celebrating the freshness that now kisses healing lungs? Do you feed your mind romantic visions of purchasing or bumming the nicotine needed for relapse, or the truthful message of just one puff producing defeat, decay, destruction, disease and 50/50 chance of losing roughly 5,000 sunrises? Do you miss handing-over your hard earned money in order to remain chemically captive, or smile upon discovering the extra funds that your pockets somehow seem to produce?

Do you miss the lingering cloud of toxic smoke containing 44 known carcinogens, more than 500 gases, and 3,500 + chemical particles, or do you delight in the fact that oils upon your face again belong to you? Is your world saddened by not being able to crush an endless chain of hot chemically laden cigarette butts and pour mountains of butts from carcinogen rich ashtrays, or are you marveling in your new ash-free world that's clean, bright and refreshing? Is your cup half empty or is it half full? Our subconscious is listening and we are what we think - attitude is everything.

None of us are stronger than nicotine but then we don't have to be as nicotine is just a chemical and has an intelligence quotient (IQ) of zero. Knowledge is power! Don't be afraid of turning on the light. Embracing recovery is embracing "you!" Baby steps. The next few minutes are all that matter and each is entirely doable! There are lots of lessons to learn here at WhyQuit and Freedom but only one passing grade - no nicotine today - Never Take Another Puff!


Breathe deep, hug hard, live long!

John
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

8:25 AM - Feb 14, 2005 #17

This topic is a great read and an extremely thought provoking discussion thread. I plan to save a link to this "How To" guide and include it every time I greet someone joining Freedom from now on. Attitude IS everything when you are choosing the Road to Comfort over the Road to Ruin. Once you commit to yourself to never smoke, or use tobacco in any form, something magical will happen. It will be like you've thrown a switch in your mind and now you are travelling on a new track bound for a healthier, happier, more calm and comfortable destination. You are on your way back to YOU.
What this discussion really made me realize is that this Nicotine Removal Therapy Process hinges on one crucial turning point. Sometime in this process, the earlier the better, you have to look in the mirror and ask yourself this question: ARE YOU COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR DECISION TO REMOVE NICOTINE FROM YOUR LIFE PERMANENTLY?
If the answer is YES, then the War is won. No need to battle yourself. When your mind is made up and you are 100% committed to your decision your perception of self immediately adjusts. You are now an EX-Smoker who will never take another puff, dip or sniff. You are truly Free of nicotines' control or influence from that moment forward. You ARE living a no-nicotine life, you are allowd to enjoy it fully.
However, if you are not 100% Comfortable with your decision to remove nicotine from you life, IF you harbor ANY DOUBT about your decision - then the Battle's just begun and it may not be won!
If you are 100% COMMITTED to making this Great Journey then you will need to choose a destination. For me, I choose to set out for Comfort Island which lies in the middle of the Nonicotine Sea. Plot a course and make way at best possible speed. During the journey course corrections will be required, for a while hourly, then daily, as you go further along weekly and after awhile you will need to make a correction or two each month (or so I've been told). Like any good captain you must always keep an eye on the course plot and you must NEVER change your destination. Before you know it and much sooner than you ever dreamed was possible you will reach Comfort Island. I've never been there but they tell me it's nice. I have the heading, the course is plotted, I'm well under way and nothing is going to keep me from reaching that wonderous land I've heard of, Comfort.
 JoeJFree a nicotine addict and Ex-smoker for 1 month, 4 days, 8 hours, 59 minutes and 31 seconds (34 days)  NTAP!
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JoeJFree Gold
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12:56 PM - Mar 27, 2005 #18

If you are TRYING to quit smoking then you're still undecided.
Tell yourself quitting is HARD and unless you're lying it will be.
Believe your craves to be INTENSE and intense will be the ride.
Ponder excuses for a FIX and you'll eventually get to use them.
If you think you might RELAPSE, then relapse you just might.
If you believe that you will FAIL, then chances are you will.
If you WANT to be a ex-smoker, your mind has yet to heal.
When you're READY for your freedom, freedom you shall find.
View this challenge as WONDERFUL and fulfillment will arrive.
See the GLORY of today, then glory it will be!
Praise the HEALING of your body and set your spirit free.
Inhale the JOYS of today, feel the spender of the journey.
Yet be TRUTHFUL of the past, to protect the here and now.
BELIEVE yourself an ex-smoker, an ex-smoker you shall see.
NEVER take another puff and freedom it will be.
Breathe deep, hug hard, live long John

Quitting With A Positive Attitude Is Definitely A Plus, Not A Requirement.
Anyone can quit as long as they have the desire to. A good positive attitude won't stop the physical and psychological withdrawal symptoms that take place during our temporary period of adjustment we call quitting. A good positive attitude will help a person deal with their symptoms and treat them in a more emotionally managable manner. I believe a positive attitude will help you find the comfort you desire sooner rather than later. Reality also says no matter how your attitude is, the comfort will find you sooner or later as long as you never take another puff. It just depends on how long you want to fight with it.
Believe you can quit for just 5 minutes at a time. Believe in that one time concept. Then each time you make it 5 minutes and beyond your attitude and confidence will build until you believe as I do.
You Can If You Think You Can, 5 Minutes At A Time
Roger

- Thanks John & Roger, hoping this can helps someone else as much as it has helped me!
JoeJFree always a nicotine addict and gratefully now an X-smoker for 2 months, 16 days, 13 hours, 33 minutes (75 days)
I've now reclaimed 10 Days and 11 Hours to live life as I choose! NTAP!
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Roger (Gold)
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2:41 PM - Mar 27, 2005 #19

As a long time active nicotine addict of over 35 years, I initially did not see my quitting process as a positive experience. Based on all my previous failures trying to gain control over my addcition, I would automatically conjure up, within my mind, all the negative images stored there from previous quit attempts. After each failure, I feared them more and more. They appeared to grow in size and just kept getting larger. Those fears coupled with negative thoughts and images had more control over me than my addiction to nicotine did. The reason for this is very simple. I failed to,
When I reached the 24 hour mark without any nicotine entering my body for the first time in over 35 years, I finally was able to see beyond the dark cloud of addiction that wrapped my brain for so long. I caught a fleeting glimpse of a silver lining that resided beyond active addiction. It was then I understood my journey for what it really was. A positive outcome for a negative situation.
If your thoughts are mostly negative regarding what and how you feel, you can turn the tables on them by developing a positive outlook towards your quit. Change the way you think and you will change your life.
This can be done the same way you quit.
One Day At A Time.
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GoldenDivamom1972
GoldenDivamom1972

12:42 AM - Mar 28, 2005 #20

I must admit, there have been times where I have not been overwhelmingly positive about my quit. There have been plenty of times I have chosen not to post my negative thoughts, simply because I didn't want to discourage any lurkers or newbies.

Overall, however, the positive moments have significantly outweighed the negative moments. While I may no longer spend every waking moment yapping about my quit to everyone and anyone, it *is* still my biggest life project. Ultimately, everyday that I choose not to ingest nicotine is a GREAT day, no matter what else is thrown my way.

"Doin' the deal" for 83 days and beyond,
Amy
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elrandou
elrandou

2:30 AM - Apr 15, 2005 #21

I just read yor post and I think it's a beautiful poem. I was reading it loudly and made an excellent rap-like song out of it! Come on everybody! Let's all sing together:
NEVER take another puff and freedom it will be.
Lena
9 days smoke-free
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

1:45 AM - May 01, 2005 #22

From Post # 8 above:

Thanks for the read Roger : ) Love that Ford quote! Before we dove into these hundreds of other cessation issues and before I received that first email for a guy named Joel, I was a one issue type guy - attitude, attitude, attitude! Back then I even believed it could not only overcome my own ignorance of the law of addiction but that it was the most important thing of all in quitting. But then how could I believe in something that I had never really known - the law of addiction? It's amazing the way ignorance works! It truly is bliss and can also deadly as relapse was the rule of the day before Joel arrived carrying the big picture.

Like you, I still deeply believe that we are what we think! Put that together with a detailed understanding of the law of addiction, and a bit of reinforcement now and then and I think it's highly likely that I'll Never Take Another Puff! Thanks Roger!
Breathe deep, hug hard, live long, John : )
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Joel
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8:35 PM - Aug 18, 2005 #23

From: Joel. Sent: 1/12/2003 5:07 PM
Hello Roger:

I actually have an attitude quote I sometimes use in clinics. It is that if you quit with a lousy attitude you are pretty much assured to have a lousy time when first quitting.

If on the other hand you quit with a good attitude, well, you may still have a lousy time in the beginning, but at least you will have a good attitude about it.

As you may have guessed, this insight doesn't help a whole lot in the first few days. But it usually gets a chuckle. The more important advice on this issue is the string Acknowledge the negative--but dwell on the positive. Thanks for your sharing of insights here.

Joel
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

11:15 PM - Apr 04, 2006 #24

For Kevin -

There comes a time in every nicotine dependency recovery experience where we have to decide it is time to quit quitting and start looking ahead to living as a person finally free of their dependency.


If you are struggling with physical or psychological withdrawal or having difficulties putting your quit and new life into the proper perspective, the art of practicing positive affirmations daily can help you to turn that around. As your attitude develops, you find comfort and develop more confidence in yourself, allowing you to believe, you will have the ability to remain quit and never take another puff.
"Change How You Think And You Can Change Your Life"
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JoeJFree Gold
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5:03 AM - Apr 14, 2006 #25

I believe you quit thinking you are wanting a cigarette when you realize it was nicotine, not smoke, that you needed. I believe you quit wanting ciugarettes when you decide you don't wnat any more of them.

I printed the following poem from John in a large colorful font and put it on our fridge at home so I would be sure to read it first thing every day. I did so for at least the first three months of this journey back to me. - JoeJ

If you are TRYING to quit smoking then you're still undecided.
Tell yourself quitting is HARD and unless you're lying it will be.
Believe your craves to be INTENSE and intense will be the ride.
Ponder excuses for a FIX and you'll eventually get to use them.
If you think you might RELAPSE, then relapse you just might.
If you believe that you will FAIL, then chances are you will.
If you WANT to be a ex-smoker, your mind has yet to heal.
When you're READY for your freedom, freedom you shall find.
View this challenge as WONDERFUL and fulfillment will arrive.
See the GLORY of today, then glory it will be!
Praise the HEALING of your body and set your spirit free.
Inhale the JOYS of today, feel the splendor of the journey.
Yet be TRUTHFUL of the past, to protect the here and now.
BELIEVE yourself an ex-smoker, an ex-smoker you shall see.
NEVER take another puff and freedom it will be.
Breathe deep, hug hard, live long John (GOLD x 6)
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