"Quitting Smoking": A Fate Worse than Death?

"Quitting Smoking": A Fate Worse than Death?

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14 Jan 2002, 03:27 #1

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"Quitting Smoking"
A Fate Worse than Death?


People sitting in at smoking clinics are amazed at how resistant smokers are to giving up cigarettes. Even smokers will sit and listen to horror stories of other participants in sheer disbelief. Some smokers have had multiple heart attacks, circulatory conditions resulting in amputations, cancers, emphysema and a host of other disabling and deadly diseases. How in the world could these people have continued smoking after all that? Some of these smokers are fully aware that smoking is crippling and killing them, but continue to smoke anyway. A legitimate question asked by any sane smoker or nonsmoker is, "why?"

The answer to such a complex issue is really quite simple. The smoker often has cigarettes so tied into his lifestyle that he feels when he gives up smoking he will give up all activities associated with cigarettes. Considering these activities include almost everything he does from the time he awakes to the time he goes to sleep, life seems like it will not be worth living as an ex-smoker. The smoker is also afraid he will experience the painful withdrawal symptoms from not smoking as long as he deprives himself of cigarettes. Considering all this, quitting smoking creates a greater fear than dying from smoking.

If the smoker were correct in all his assumptions of what life as an ex-smoker were like, then maybe it would not be worth it to quit. But all these assumptions are wrong. There is life after smoking, and withdrawal does not last forever. Trying to convince the smoker of this, though, is quite an uphill battle. These beliefs are deeply ingrained and are conditioned from the false positive effects experienced from cigarettes.

The smoker often feels that he needs a cigarette in order to get out of bed in the morning. Typically, when he awakes he feels a slight headache, tired, irritable, depressed and disoriented. He is under the belief that all people awake feeling this way. He is fortunate though, because he has a way to stop these horrible feelings. He smokes a cigarette or two. Then he begins waking up and feels human again. Once he is awake, he feels he needs cigarettes to give him energy to make it through the day. When he is under stress and nervous, the cigarettes calm him down. Giving up this wonder drug seems ludicrous to him.

But if he quits smoking he will be pleasantly surprised to find out that he will feel better and be able to cope with life more efficiently than when he was a smoker. When he wakes up in the morning, he will feel tremendously better than when he awoke as a smoker. No longer will he drag out of bed feeling horrible. Now he will wake up feeling well rested and refreshed. In general, he will be calmer than when he smoked. Even when under stress, he normally will not experience the panic reactions he used to feel whenever his nicotine level fell below acceptable levels. The belief that cigarettes were needed for energy is one of the most deceptive of all. Almost any ex-smoker will attest that he has more strength, endurance, and energy than he ever did as a smoker. And the fear of prolonged withdrawal also had no merit, for withdrawal symptoms would peak within three days, and totally subside within two weeks.

If any smoker just gives himself the chance to really feel how nice not smoking is, he will no longer have the irrational fears which keeps him maintaining his deadly addiction. He will find life will become simpler, happier, cleaner, and most importantly healthier, than when he was a smoker. His only fear will now be in relapsing to smoking and all he has to do to prevent this is - NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!
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14 Feb 2002, 22:40 #2

For those in the early days of their quits. What you feel like the first few days is what it is like to be a smoker in withdrawal, not what it feels like to be an ex-smoker. These two states are worlds apart. To stay in the ex-smoking world only requires remembering now to never take another puff!



Joel


12-23-2013 
Added following new video based on this article: 






Quitting smoking: A fate worse than death
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21 Jun 2002, 20:43 #3

WOW! I needed to read that this morning. I'm still in my first two weeks, and had a real bad day yesterday of craves, urges, whatever you wanna call them. It took all my willpower and energy to NOT pull into a gas station yesterday and buy a pack. But I didn't do it and I feel great this morning!

Joel seems to know exactly what I need to read in the morning.

laura
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21 Jun 2002, 20:50 #4

Dear Joel,

How right you are about the feeling waking up. I think it must be my favourite thing about my quit. I can only aliken it to waking up as a child: Bright, refreshed and ready for my day! My nofagometer (as I call it) calculates how much time I've saved by quitting. Well, I could probably treble it if I take in to account my new morning routine.
Lurkers! He speaks the truth!!
Clac xxx
1 month, 2 weeks, 4 days, 21 hours, 57 minutes, 42 seconds tick tick tick....
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16 Jul 2002, 19:16 #5

We have many new members starting today. I only have a few minutes here this morning and wanted to bring up a few posts that addresses some of the key issues that some of them have raised. This is a key one for those who are still in the early stages of quitting and may be questioning whether the way they are feeling at the moment is worth it. Of course it is worth it, for the way you are feeling now is not the way you will be feeling for long. The way you feel when you are first quitting is not what it feels like to be an ex-smoker--it is just what it is like to be a smoker in the earliest stages of a quit. The first three days is what it is like to be an addict in drug withdrawal which has the potential of being a very miserable state. But even as bad as withdrawal may be when it is at its worst, it is nothing to the pain and suffering that a person could end up going through if he or she were to keep smoking and get any one thing wrong that smoking is fully capable of inducing. Again, I will bring up a few post addressing early stage quitting issues and hopefully will have a little more time later to address our newer members.

Joel
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17 Jul 2002, 01:28 #6

I hope the New Folks and Lurkers tune in to this thread. The first week of quitting is not what it is going to feel like forever. Neither is the second week or third week. This is a process not just an event. It does get better. I only crave a cigarette 3 or 4 times a day now. The craves don't last long and are not the slightest bit painful. They cause me some slight and momentary mental discomfort. When I compare that to the daily agonizing (and I use that word deliberately-it is not an exaggeration) I did before quitting, it is nothing.

Yesterday, I went back and read some posts of 2 - 3 months ago. People who I perceived as pillars of strength when I first started sounded pretty shaky and confused back then. It does get better. Smoking doesn't. That just gets worse. After 32 years of sucking it in, I know that for a fact.

Best wishes all,
Parker (free and healing for 1 month and 11 and 1/2 days)
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17 Dec 2002, 23:32 #7

Elsewhere on the board today we are talking on how negativity often keeps people smoking and how working on the positive side of not smoking can help secure people's quits. Just thought I would bring up a few strings that highlight this issue.
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28 Jan 2003, 06:46 #8

WOW! I am normal Thanks Joel

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28 Feb 2003, 08:55 #9

For Alex:

Just reading or hearing the truth is no guarantee that a person is going to believe or continue to believe the truth. It's amazing what lengths people will go to continue to smoke and what losses will continue to mount--eventually resulting in the total loss of health and possibly even life all because some people will not accept the premise that to stay smoke free they must never take another puff!

Joel
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21 Mar 2003, 23:57 #10

I just wanted to say how great I think this thread is.

I think it really spells out what a GREAT decision ALL of us here at Freedom have made. All of the benefits of not smoking discussed here are completely true.

I think a lot of us have noticed we have much more time and energy to do things... Which is a HUGE plus.

I happen to be the happiest little camper because of turning green. I guess I couldn't resist sharing how great I think this thread is....

CF
1 month without a single puff.
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09 May 2003, 10:36 #11

"If the smoker were correct in all his assumptions of what life as an ex-smoker were like, then maybe it would not be worth it to quit."
It's hard work living, decaying and dying an addict!
And nothing about life need change except your drug use!
Hope you're exicted! You're going home!
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15 Jul 2003, 11:39 #12

don't ever be afraid to quit. it's a decision you'll never regret.
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22 Nov 2003, 12:41 #13

"If the smoker were correct in all his assumptions of what life as an ex-smoker were like, then maybe it would not be worth it to quit. But all these assumptions are wrong. There is life after smoking, and withdrawal does not last forever. Trying to convince the smoker of this, though, is quite an uphill battle. These beliefs are deeply ingrained and are conditioned from the false positive effects experienced from cigarettes."
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12 Jan 2004, 22:14 #14

  • Is there any guarantee that you'd ever come this far again?
  • Your brain was tuned and conditioned to function around the presence of nicotine and its two-hour chemical half-life. What would be different next time?
  • How much more time do you have before risking being among the one-quarter of adult nicotine smokers who fail to live beyond middle-age, or the half for whom a birthday near their 60th is the last they'll ever see?
  • What chemical is worth surrenduring up to one-third of your functional lung capacity and a substantial portion of your ability to smell and taste?
  • There are only two choices. On which side of the bars will you spend the balance of your life?
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06 Feb 2004, 02:36 #15

Lest any of us forget.

We have three real world examples currently happening to board members that really show what kind of bad days smoking is capable of causing. The side effects that people may go through from quitting are nothing compared to the side effects that can be caused by not quitting. The three stories unfolding below clarify this point. No one should ever think that quitting is a fate worse than death. The best way to mimimize your risk of facing real pain and suffering is to remember to stay totally committed to the promise that you made to yourself when joining to never take another puff!

Joel

Stage 4, lung cancer interview

Quit for Life!!!

My Health
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07 Feb 2004, 20:42 #16

This is a good article for anyone questioning whether or not "this will ever get better." Your health and your life will likely be infinitely better than it would have been if you never quit as long as you stick with your commitment to never take another puff!

Joel
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29 Dec 2004, 20:19 #17

This is a good article for anyone questioning whether or not "this will ever get better." Your health and your life will likely be infinitely better than it would have been if you never quit as long as you stick with your commitment to never take another puff!

Joel
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03 Jan 2005, 01:40 #18

If we'll only open our mind to the possibility that we've fogotten just how wonderful it is to allow our brain's neurochemical flow to be dictated by life instead of nicotine, and to the possibility that quitting really occurred on the day that nicotine took control of our brain, this could be one of the most mind expanding journeys you've ever made.

Recovery truly is a journey in recovering hundreds of expectations of engaging all aspects of life without reaching for nicotine. Physical withdrawal symptoms, emotional recovery, subconsciously triggered crave episodes and conscious thought fixation are your stepping stones to true healing, calmness, cue reconditioning and a healthy rational mind. Why fear this wonderful adventure when we can embrace it! What sense does it make to fear returning to a day where we go the entire day without once wanting to put nicotine into our bloodstream?

Forget about using quitting "forever" as your recovery yardstick. What good is waiting to celebrate victory until after "forever is complete and we're dead? Who is coming to that party?

Allow each hour of freedom, challenge overcome, and full day of healing to reflect the full and complete victory each represents. The next few minutes are all that will ever matter and each will be entirely doable. If allowed, soon they'll build into healing, life expectancy and the richest comfort you've known since climbing aboard nicotine's never-ending neurochemical roller-coaster ride of dopamine/adrenaline/serotonin highs and lows.

The old addiction proverb is true. "One is too many and a thousand never enough." It's time to go home now and there's one one rule ... no nicotine just one hour, challenge and day at a time... NONE!

Breathe deep, hug hard, live long,

John (Gold x5)
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24 Apr 2005, 22:43 #19

Good Morning Freedom,

Its Sunday on my end of the world and Sundays tend to be a little quieter on the board but for those looking for a little inspirational reading I thought I'd pop up a few classics.


Lorraine GoldX3
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27 May 2005, 11:52 #20

The smoker often feels that he needs a cigarette in order to get out of bed in the morning. Typically, when he awakes he feels a slight headache, tired, irritable, depressed and disoriented. He is under the belief that all people awake feeling this way. He is fortunate though, because he has a way to stop these horrible feelings. He smokes a cigarette or two. Then he begins waking up and feels human again. Once he is awake, he feels he needs cigarettes to give him energy to make it through the day. When he is under stress and nervous, the cigarettes calm him down. Giving up this wonder drug seems ludicrous to him.

But if he quits smoking he will be pleasantly surprised to find out that he will feel better and be able to cope with life more efficiently than when he was a smoker. When he wakes up in the morning, he will feel tremendously better than when he awoke as a smoker. No longer will he drag out of bed feeling horrible. Now he will wake up feeling well rested and refreshed. In general, he will be calmer than when he smoked. Even when under stress, he normally will not experience the panic reactions he used to feel whenever his nicotine level fell below acceptable levels. The belief that cigarettes were needed for energy is one of the most deceptive of all. Almost any ex-smoker will attest that he has more strength, endurance, and energy than he ever did as a smoker. And the fear of prolonged withdrawal also had no merit, for withdrawal symptoms would peak within three days, and totally subside within two weeks.
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02 Jun 2005, 05:03 #21

From: Joel Sent: 2/5/2004 12:36 PM
Lest any of us forget. We have three real world examples currently happening to board members that really show what kind of bad days smoking is capable of causing. The side effects that people may go through from quitting are nothing compared to the side effects that can be caused by not quitting. The three stories unfolding below clarify this point. No one should ever think that quitting is a fate worse than death. The best way to mimimize your risk of facing real pain and suffering is to remember to stay totally committed to the promise that you made to yourself when joining to never take another puff!

Joel

Stage 4, lung cancer interview

Quit for Life!!!

My Health
Sadly, the above post is dated now. The third story was Kim's medical update in her own words from last January. Click on the picture below for Kim's full story.
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10 Aug 2005, 20:13 #22

Gitte suggested we add the following links to this string:

The truth is...
It Is never too Late
Quitting too late - another perspective

Seems like a good idea to me. Thanks for the suggestion Gitte.

Joel
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16 Jan 2006, 19:40 #23

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23 Feb 2006, 01:21 #24

Maybe this will help put the desire to continue using cigarette smoking to feed an unnecessary, unnatural and unhealthy nicotine addiction into proper perspective.
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27 Feb 2006, 06:13 #25

If any smoker just gives himself the chance to really feel how nice not smoking is, he will no longer have the irrational fears which keeps him maintaining his deadly addiction.

He will find life will become simpler, happier, cleaner, and most importantly healthier, than when he was a smoker.

His only fear will now be in relapsing to smoking and all he has to do to prevent this is - NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!
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