None or All. Why I choose none Parade

None or All. Why I choose none Parade

Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:58

10 Feb 2003, 07:13 #1

Freedom provides a ton of information on quitting smoking. Some of it offers a view of the comfortable road ahead as an ex-smoker, thus removing much of the fear. Some offers a view of the alternative.... life and death as a smoker. Most boils down to reinforcing the fundamental concept: The Law of Addiction.

In short, smoking, and by extension quitting.... they're all or nothing propositions. There is no in between. It's smoke or don't smoke... freedom or slavery.... success or failure.... for the addict, there is no such thing as one cigarette. One = All
I often boil it down thusly when offering support.
None or All. Why choose none?
or
I can smoke none or I can smoke all of them. I choose to smoke none because... (fill in the blank).
And, there's the point of this little parade. The "why". Of all the things Freedom offers, it cannot ultimately nail the latter half of the equation. That has to come from within. Each of us has our own reasons why we quit. Some have to do with health... some with life.... some with cost...social reasons..... the important thing is that, for us to be successful, the reasons for undertaking this journey must come from within. We quit for ourselves and ourselves alone.
OUR reasons are the foundation upon which every choice between none or all rests.
So..... This parade is an opportunity to fill in the blank. One reason, 20 reasons. Vague or specific.
I can smoke none or I can smoke all of them. I choose to smoke none because... (fill in the blank). Have fun...
Bob
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10 Feb 2003, 07:16 #2

I wrote these down when I first quit:

I can smoke none or I can smoke all of them. I choose to smoke none because...
  • The phlegm-filled, coughing, gagging, shaking spasms that always marked my abandonment of previous quits, and lasted through the 3 horrid-tasting chain-smoked, cough-inducing cigarettes it took to crawl back out of withdrawal and into dependency
  • Sneaking cigarettes in the bathrooms of non-smoking hotel rooms, and using steam from the shower, perfumed soap, and wide open windows in mid-winter to try to get rid of the evidence.
  • The severe lethargy and irritability that set in during the last 3 or 4 puffs on a cigarette. The first several puffs would often provide relief, but the last few almost always caused me to feel exhausted and weak -- probably Carbon Monoxide poisoning.
  • Littering the ground with my butts.
  • Unhappiness from my wife, who loves me, and wanted me to quit, but couldn't help.
  • Annoyed looks from people who are put off by the reek from my addiction in public places.
  • The lack of self-esteem and confidencethat comes with knowing you are a slave to something as hideous as tobacco smoke.
  • Making bad colds and bronchitis worse because of my addiction
  • Arguing with my wife over smoking inside.
  • The despair of another broken quit.
  • The tobacco hangover
  • Trying to get to sleep with my heart pounding in my skull after smoking several cigarettes right before bed.
  • Being a poor example to children that I care about, but to whom I could only give empty advice, when I saw them take up smoking (as I say, not as I do).
  • The acrid stench of my apartment the morning after a night of smoking in it.
  • Freezing my butt off during the winter months -- California doesn't allow smoking in pubs or restaurants.
  • Disapproving looks from friends who can't understand how somebody could be so stupid as to smoke.
  • Weekend withdrawals, the accompanying moodiness, and corresponding arguments with my wife and soulmate, during every weekend (almost all of them) that I thought I was going to quit, but didn't.
Bob
Time not smoked: 1 Year 1 Month 4 Days 10 Hours 16 Minutes 29 Seconds
Smokes not toked: 4805
Cash not spent: $1,201.28
Life, self-esteem, smell, taste, health, happiness saved: Priceless
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10 Feb 2003, 07:19 #3

I can smoke none or I can smoke all of them. I choose to smoke none because I haven't felt this great since as long as I can remember since I quit smoking. I can lift weights like there is no tommorrow and I feel like I can do ANYTHING without nicotine!
Valerie
1 Month, 1 Week, 1 Day of FAN-TAB-U-LOUS FREEDOM!
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10 Feb 2003, 08:02 #4

I chose none because I was at the end of my rope on how the deadly addiction of nicotene was controlling every aspect of my life- it was affecting my relationships with people and my enviroment. I also was conserned about scary health conserns popping up...like an inflamation under my tongue that only went away when I would quit. Well it's 7 months later and I can't believe I didn't do it sooner. I didn't think I could. And it really is livable without it. I lift weights 5 times a week (had quit doing that a couple years ago...they don't let you smoke at the gym). And mentally...it's a new me and I like and respect myself much more. It's 7 months and I KNOW I'll never take another puff!!!
T-JOHN
Getting easier and easier and better and better at: 7 Months 15 Hours 9 Minutes 52 Seconds. Cigarettes not smoked: 8625. Money saved: $1,509.42.
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10 Feb 2003, 08:18 #5

I can smoke none or I can smoke all of them. I choose to smoke none because:
  1. I want to live long enough to celebrate my niece and nephews graduating from high school....especially if I do not have children of my own
  2. I do not want suffer the ill health that would eventually be mine if I continued to smoke
  3. I do not want to be a slave to anyone or anything
  4. I want more time to ride my hog.........and then.........
Just some of the reasons.

Tubes

1 Week

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189 NOT smoked cigarettes

$50.64 Saved toward my Heritage Springer
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10 Feb 2003, 08:49 #6

I can smoke none or I can smoke none.I choose to smoke none because:



I want to live to see my five grandkids grow up:
I do'nt want to cough and be congested all the time:
I want to be able to sleep through the night and not wake myself up wheezing:
I want to be in controll of my life,instead of letting a cigarette controll me:
I want to be able to take a deep breath and not feel like my lungs will collaspe:
I want to save money to do other things with instead of letting it go up in smoke:
I want to live and know that I'm now doing what I can to fight off cancer and
other smoke related diseases:
I can say that I'm really proud to be a ex-smoker:

Winnie One month, one week, two days, 7 hours, 3 minutes and 6 seconds. 805 cigarettes not smoked, saving $128.94. Life saved: 2 days, 19 hours, 5 minutes.
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10 Feb 2003, 09:53 #7

I chose none because:

- I never ever want to go back to that dark period in my life. And that's really what it was. I'd never been more depressed, tired, pessimistic and hopeless before. I feel like a veil has been lifted and I did a complete turn around.
- There are just TOO many interesting things I want to see around the globe and too little time. Not only would smoking shorten my life but it would also put huge stressors on travel and worrying about feeding my addiction in a foreign country. Now I just don't have to worry.
- A combination of what everyone else has pretty much said already.

Jill
4 Months 1 Week
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10 Feb 2003, 10:02 #8

I can smoke none or I can smoke all of them. I choose to smoke none because:

Otherwise I would have to smoke all of them, and relinquish control of my comings and goings to Old Nicodemon. Being pulled out onto the street at work, 31 floors down, while under pressure to make a deadline. I couldn't work effectively when my nicotine level needed to be replenished so off I went. Then needing to work over-time to get everything else done that needed doing.

Not taking the train from Boston to New York City for fear of the withdrawal. Thinking I could jump out and grab a quick smoke at one of the Connecticut stations, and fearing the train would leave without me with my disabled husband still on board. Too risky, don't go to New York.

Yeah, let's not mistake what One really means. You have one, then another, and eventually your back to square one, a full-fledged smoker, and then it's Old Nic calling the shots again. This is our addiction and it's never going to leave us. That's the choice: All or None. I'm choosing to Never Take Another Puff!

Thanks for the parade, Bob! Good one!

yqs, Janet :)
One Year Two Months +
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10 Feb 2003, 10:23 #9

I can smoke none or I can smoke all of them. I choose to smoke none because...

I was just so tired of being controlled by a drug.
I was just so tired of buying cigarettes and lighting them and smoking them and putting them out and emptying the ashtrays of them.
I was just so tired of worrying about being careless and burning my house down.
I was just so tired of worrying about every chest pain.
I was just so tired of stinking.
I was just so tired of the endless and ever-increasing amounts of money spent on cigarettes.
I was just so tired of breaking promises to myself about quitting.
I was just so tired of feeling like a failure.
I was just so tired of engaging in an activity that I knew to be pointless, self-destructive, environmentally appaling and totally disgusting.
I was just so tired of obsessing about quitting.


The fantasy

The reality
Parker - Not tired at all of 8 months of freedom & healing. Thanks, OBob!
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10 Feb 2003, 10:29 #10

I choose none because:
1. The want/need to have control.
2. The health risks of smokeless tobacco
3. Smokeless Tobacco is a nasty habit that is repulsive to others.
4. No more nasty spit cups/bottles left in my vehicle or in the house.
5. The irritability that I demonstrate with my family.
6 Always thinking about my next dip(fix).
7.Letting my addiction be the most important thing in my life.
8. Who wants to kiss somebody who has had tobacco juice in their mouth.
9. It was a poor example to others.
10. It was not a proper reflection of my walk as a Christian.
11. More money for other things
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Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:29

10 Feb 2003, 11:19 #11

I choose to smoke none, because:


  • I was extremely tired of making excuses
  • I was weary from defending myself when I knew I was wrong
  • I was tired of telling people I was going outside (usually in a restaurant, after dinner) to make a phone call so I wouldn't bother them. Yeah, right.
  • I was loathing going outside in BELOW ZERO weather for a cigarette, but still I did it! (forget California, Bob!)
  • I felt such guilt and remorse when my children begged me, for years, to "please quit, Mom".
  • I was tired of nearly missing planes to get past security so I could run outside for a cigarette.
  • I was humiliated when my children gave me a baggie and made me go outside to pick up cigarette butts.
  • I was fearful for my life when I coughed non-stop every day and every night, for years.
  • I was terrified when I went to the Dr for a lump in my throat and he said, "It's caused by a combination of reflux and smoking. If you quit smoking it should go away". IT DID.
  • I was ashamed of myself when my daughters asked me not to wear their coats anywhere so they wouldn't come back smelling like gross smoke.
  • I have empowered myself to live a healthier life.
  • I have had at least 10 people tell me they have never seen me look younger or healthier!! WOW!
  • I am very happy and comfortable with myself and my progress.
  • I smell better-fresher.
  • I am getting to know myself better and liking myself more!
  • I have saved 150 not buying cigarettes, and probably twice that for peripheral goods, i.e. lighters, mints, gum, spray, breath fresheners and such.
  • Not only have I added days and hours to my life, I am not wasting the 2-3 hours I used to waste smoking.
  • I would lose my Freedom privileges; the very reason I am strong and embracing this Quit as none ever before.
  • I get a real high from saying "Non-smoking please", then I give a slight glance of displeasure towards the smoking section. I know the look well. I received them for years.
  • My children are ever so proud of me.


This is a list that never ends; I could go on and on my friends! - But now, it's someone else's turn!



As Dave ( Hillbilly) said last week, "It's easier than it looks".

And as simple as Never Taking Another Puff!



I'm never goinng to make it up till 11pm, but wanted to share this:

at 11 I will be 1 Month, 1 Week, 1 Day and 1000 cigarettes Not Smoked.



Feel like I am # 1!



Thanks Bob, this was a great Sunday "outting"!



Marram

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10 Feb 2003, 11:27 #12

Sorry about the above post. I spent an hour making a very thoughtful list, and then, in a flash, gone....

So I rewrote it in Word, so I could save, cut and pasted to hotmail, and it came out in greek - or some other foreign language yet to be idenified, so then I deleted it and re-wrote, but it still came out with all these strange o's and p's and < > ?

Sorry all, I know it is a hard read... Now, want to know something really scary? I run a whole Company!! (At least we have computer techs there).

Marram

More than a Month
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10 Feb 2003, 11:29 #13

I can smoke none or I can smoke all of them. I choose to smoke none because...

I wanted to see what I could do if I were not held back by anything.

So far pretty exciting, I have to say!!!

FREE for 1 Month 1 Day 6 Hours 26 Minutes 30 Seconds. That's 645 cigarettes NOT smoked and $145.21 saved.

Kate


PS Parker, I'm going to print out your list and carry it with me! Thank you!
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10 Feb 2003, 11:29 #14

After having smoked for 3/4 of my life I have chosen not to light up for nearly 3 years.

I can smoke none or I can smoke all of them. I choose to smoke none because I now know that believing that I will somehow escape the bad effects of smoking is a self-contrived lie. I have had to admit that I am not any better than anyone I have ever known that got very sick and died from smoking. I know that taking one puff will send me right back into denial. In quitting I hope to be able to take one long final last breath. And maybe I will have an extra day or two before I have to go. And maybe even a dance:)

Big hugs, Joy

~Two years, eight months, six days, 1 hour, 31 minutes and 20 seconds. 19621 cigarettes not smoked, saving $3,139.54. Life saved: 9 weeks, 5 days, 3 hours, 5 minutes~
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10 Feb 2003, 12:52 #15

...it's all or none... I choose none because...

1. I really don't want to kill myself with nicotine.

2. I am so sick and tired of being sick and tired.

3. Now I know I'm an addict and not just someone with really weak character - I can't use that as one of my millions of excuses any more.

4. I hate what smoking does to my appearance (my vanity-based reason).

5. I have been a vegetarian for more than 10 years. I don't drink any more. I don't do drugs. I study martial arts and yoga... Hello! Smoking DOES NOT FIT MY LIFESTYLE!!

6. I live with a bunch of dogs (and a cat) that I rescued from squalor and certain demise. And my smoking filled the house with deadly second-hand smoke... that simply was not fair to them.

7. It isn't fair to my husband either. He never smoked. Yeah, whatever. (Like we're supposed to understand each other right now...)

8. It is great to go to the museum/theatre/gallery/boutique/etc for hours without HAVING to step outside for a fix.

9. This is a big one - I don't cough when I laugh any more! (Oh yeah, that was attractive!)

10. I can use the money I save in just one year to fly to Holland and Ireland to visit my friends and family!

Lorna

6 days 45 minutes - WOW!!
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10 Feb 2003, 12:55 #16

I can smoke none or I can smoke all of them. I choose to smoke none because...
  • I don't want to waste all that time smoking alone in the garage while my daughter waited for my attention;
  • I'm afraid she might try smoking one day if I keep it up;
  • I don't want to become sick and/or die from a smoking-related illness that I could have avoided had I not smoked;
  • I love not being controlled by my nicotine addiction!
Lilycat

6 months, 1 week
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10 Feb 2003, 22:30 #17

Marram,
You made my day Thank You. LOL on your clarifying post.


I choose none.... to smoke because with one I would be smoking 2.5 packs by the end of the day. Wondering when will I QUIT again. Starting the whole cycle of addiction all over again and undoubtably dying from NICOTINE is not the route I want to choose. It is fatal to me after what I have educated myself with here at FREEDOM.
With none.... my breathing is better, my cough is gone, I don't stink, I feel much better, I do more things than I have ever done. I'm saving tons of money, the reasons can go on and on.
When I was smoking or using Nicotine I would have never though of all the benifits I could get from not using. It was always the bad so depressing eckkkkkk.
I'm Free


John 11 wks
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10 Feb 2003, 22:52 #18

All or none...I choose none because

1. I'm diabetic which makes me more susceptible to heart disease.
2. My father died of heart disease at age 53, and I would like to out-live him.
3. I married the love of my life this summer and want to have many, many, many
years with him.
4. I love being able to breathe. I'm a singer...breathing is definitely a plus!
5. I'm tired of trying to have a cigarette without anyone seeing me (it's no fun
being a closet smoker).
6. Have you checked the price of cigarettes lately?!? I've got better things to
waste money on!
7. I hate the smell.
8. I couldn't bear another winter of standing outside in sub-zero
temperatures (I live in MN) for the sole purpose of doing something that,
in the end, would kill me.

Great parade, Obob!

Ruth (13 fabulous months smoke-free)
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11 Feb 2003, 01:10 #19

I choose NONE for all of the above reasons Why because I can Cathy Golder
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11 Feb 2003, 02:54 #20

I chose none almost ten months ago because I was sick and tired of being sick and tired all the time. I don't ever want to go back there, so I'm continuing to choose none.
Carol
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11 Feb 2003, 03:19 #21

I choose none because I still remember how I felt smoking all of them. I keep my quitting list very close at hand. I haven't needed it lately. I don't want to wheeze, gag, or smell. It really is getting that easy to never take another puff.
Birky 11wks+
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11 Feb 2003, 05:59 #22

I can smoke all or I can smoke none.
I choose to smoke none because now I see that I was'nt fully living my life. An addiction like that won't let you. A still smokeing addict would'nt understand what I'm saying, but I know that you all do. Without nicotine I feel more alive, more aware and more confident,
just more here and living in the moment. Not from fix to fix to fix to fix....etc.

Gena (bronze) 5 months and 6 days free
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11 Feb 2003, 06:10 #23

I choose none because ...

... I have discovered a truly wonderful new world, full of joys that I never knew existed, and I never want to give that up again

... I have discovered a new me, different and better than I was before, and I never want to go back to being the old me.

I choose none because ...

... the choice is so obvious, so easy.

Marty

NOT A PUFF for two years, two months, one week, four days : 14439 cigarettes not smoked saving £4,692.73 : 7 weeks, 1 day added to my life
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11 Feb 2003, 06:18 #24

I know this is really long, but this list is part of the one that I originally wrote down on the day I quit. I think it applies to this parade.

The reasons why I quit are very simple: I'm selfish and very scared. I started thinking about all of the little things that we take for granted everyday and I just couldn't bear to contribute the absence of those things any longer. Think of all that you would miss by dying or by being so physically crippled that you couldn't enjoy anything. Sometimes I labor for breath now and think to myself, what's it going to be like in 20 years? I dearly hope that I haven't caused too much permanent damage to myself but I know what's done is done. All I can do is enjoy my life one breath at a time and remember that we only get to do this once so try to love every minute of it. Following are just some of the things that I tell myself I'm giving up if I keep smoking.

Late night walks with my wife and dogs (usually cussing at the dogs)
The hugs that I wish would go on forever
The lost games of kings and the foot rub that follows

The hysterical licking that I get every day when I walk in the door

Movie day

Curling up by the fire with my wife and drinking hot chocolate

Reading books in the bathtub until I look like a living prune

Laughing so hard that my stomach hurts the next day

Sharing a private joke with my wife in a group of people

Looking at any situation and knowing that my wife is probably thinking the same thing as me

People watching

Rubbing my cat until he claws the **** out of me

Chasing my wife like a madman around the house

Las Vegas

Mountains

Cold mornings snuggled up in bed with my wife

Calling in to work to stay at home with my wife

Window shopping

The feel of a dog sleeping next to you

Being able to run

Knowing that there is a slight chance of becoming buff one day

Butterfly kisses

Finger writing on my back

Head rubs

My wife's corny jokes

Vacations

Renaissance festivals

Magic tricks

Working with my wife out in the garage

Playing poker

Going to the theatre to see a good movie

Staying in hotel rooms with my wife

Hearing my wife giggle uncontrollably when she's really tired

Hearing a really good piece of gossip

Rolling in soft grass on a warm spring day

Being amazed by a squirrel running on my fence

Going to the zoo with the only woman that appreciates it as much as me

Getting new gadgets

As seen on TV stuff

Starbucks coffee

Ice cream and milk

Peanut butter cookies

My wife babying me when I'm sick

Afternoon naps on a cold day

Hearing my wife sing to our pets

The chance of winning the lottery

Lighting storms

The sound of thunder

Spending all day with my wife walking around and making fun of people

Devlin (120lbs german shepard) rolling on his back like a little puppy

Kuma (my dog) running laps

Home cooked meals

Room service

Swords and knives

Christmas morning

Birthday week

Dreaming

New cars and trucks

Hot tubs

Giggling

The chance of being on Modern Masters one day

Meeting an alien

Actually seeing bigfoot

Skiing

Cold wet dog noses waking you up

Seeing the slight grin on my wife's face when someone calls a cougar a cheetah at the zoo

Hearing a baby laugh

Getting excited over TV shows

Chinese rice

My wife

Being able to enjoy retirement

Cashews

Taking a really hot shower on a real cold morning

Tai Chi outfits

Falling asleep on the couch

Waking up at 5am and realizing that it's Sunday and not Monday

Daydreaming

Living in Oregon some day

Parrots

Playing monopoly for hours

And the list grows every day…
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11 Feb 2003, 06:31 #25

Great Parade OBob. I choose none simply because I no longer wish to be a slave to nicotine. Sheila
Two months, two weeks, four days, 21 hours, 33 minutes and 20 seconds. 1118 cigarettes not smoked, saving $195.75. Life saved: 3 days, 21 hours, 10 minutes.
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