I didn't want to create any confusion that we are starting to require members to post. We had an incident where a member joined last week, did a single introductory post which got a number of replies that went unacknowledged, then, a few days later put up a question about cravings that got plenty of answers and offer for support that also went unacknowledged for two days now.
While we don't require that any member posts on any kind of regular basis, if a member does post a question of concern and gets answers or help, that person should at least acknowledge that the question or concerned has been answered.
All longer-term members should still feel no pressure to have to post, yet their posts are always welcome. New members are not required to ever post either, yet know that if you are a newer member and have no intention to post that you may very well be taking away a membership slot from others who wish to actively participate at Freedom.
The only reason to apply for membership at Freedom is to be able to post. All non-members have full access to all of the materials that we have made available at Freedom and at www.whyquit.com
. If the only reason a person applies for membership is just to ask an occasional question it would be better to just email your questions to [url=mailto:email@example.com
Again, for our longer-term members:
There is one thing that makes our goal a little different than many Internet based sites. We don't want people to sacrifice time from other areas of their lives and getting hooked on the board. (See Crutches and Freedom - your journey to comfort - a highly focused forum) In the beginning few days this is common, where new members really do spend an inordinate amount of time reading and learning and trying to strengthen their resolve. This is during the time period when many people do find their lives centered around not smoking. Over time though, life should not need to be centered around not smoking, it should be centered around living your life. Being really successful means that you have developed the ability of being with family, friends, doing your job, and meeting your normal day to day demands without constantly thinking about smoking or about quitting. Over the long-term not smoking should still be looked at as a big deal and a major accomplishment but you shouldn't have to spend more than a few minutes on any given day reminding yourself of this fact. (see "I am not going to smoke today!" and Take it one day at a time. We don't want new members or people first looking at our site who are just considering quitting to think that quitting smoking is going to be a major time commitment or something that is going to consume the rest of their lives. Quitting smoking is going to buy you lots of time and allow you the ability to live your life to the fullest.
We know not everyone has time to stop by and write everyday. Some people don't have time to write every week or even every month. But do try to find the time to stop by and read every once in a while. Taking a few minutes to read can help to secure your quit. Securing your quit can help to buy you years and maybe even decades of extra time of a healthier and higher quality life. Make a point of stopping by every now and then to to read and strengthen your commitment and resolve to never take another puff!