Neither side is perfect!

Retraining the conscious mind

Neither side is perfect!

Joel
Joel

March 23rd, 2004, 1:46 am #1

There are times when you are an ex-smoker when you will find yourself thinking of how nice it would be to have a cigarette. There are times when you were a smoker when you would find yourself wanting to quit. It is likely that the longer you go without smoking there will be fewer frequency of these times and the duration of these thoughts will usually become shorter when they do occur.



The same concept doesn't normally hold true for the alternative side. The longer you smoke and the more you recognize about the dangers of smoking and the more restrictive the society becomes around you regarding smoking--the more frequently you would find yourself wishing that you would quit.



So again, neither side is perfect but the ex-smoking side gets better and better while the problems you face as a continuing smoker would get progressively worse over time. Not to mention that your health would be continually negatively impacted by the interim smoking and eventually smoking could rob you of your life. Neither side is perfect but the ex-smoking side is far preferable and you can keep that side as long as you simply stick to your commitment to never take another puff!



Joel


Edited October 1, 2012 to add in new video version of this string:


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Susanne
Susanne

March 23rd, 2004, 3:14 am #2

A-M-E-N !
I have been absolutely smoke free for Three years, eight months, five days, 14 hours, 10 minutes and 25 seconds.
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SmokefreeLeeTron
SmokefreeLeeTron

March 23rd, 2004, 12:52 pm #3

The non-smoking side smells better, tastes better, doesn't cough as much, has more friends, lives longer, and is far less expensive than the smoking side.

It may not be perfect but you can see it from there...
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DlunyGOLD
DlunyGOLD

March 23rd, 2004, 4:30 pm #4

Once again Joel comes up with something that is profound and simple at the same time!

Some of the posts I have been reading recently reminded me of Kim's saying, which has been quoted here many times--"I would rather suffer from withdrawal for a few days than suffer from cancer!" Never read her story? Here it is:
http://whyquit.com/whyquit/A_Kim.html

Thanks again to all who give so selfishly of themselves to this board. Always remember to never take another puff, one day at a time!

yqb, David Four months, two weeks, one day, 18 hours, 26 minutes and 28 seconds. 2461 cigarettes not smoked, saving $184.64. Life saved: 1 week, 1 day, 13 hours, 5 minutes.
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Golddabler1
Golddabler1

April 27th, 2004, 3:28 am #5

This side of the fence is definitely better and reminds of the qoute,i would rather be an ex smoker who occasionally thinks about smoking than an active addict who often thinks about quitting.
Rickdabler 1 year 1 month 2 weeks+ happily nicotine free.
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djibew617
djibew617

April 28th, 2004, 10:55 am #6

Absolutely, positively true. I just recently had a blood test for cholesterol. Mine has been particularly high in recent years. My LDL (bad one) has gone down 38 points from last year and my HDL (good one) has gone up 6 points from last year. I would rather be a quitter (as it relates to smoking) than a loser (as it relates to my health).

Take care,

D.J.

dj - Free and Healing for One Month, Thirty Days, 2 Hours and 49 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 3 Days and 3 Hours, by avoiding the use of 902 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $226.00.
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

February 18th, 2005, 8:02 pm #7

Thanks Joel for bringing this forward as many of us younger quitters like to think 'we're there' but we're not. This topic popped a strong visual just now. I remember oh so many times standing in my garage at my 'smokebench' when my wife would pop her head out the door, scowl at me and say "When are you gonna quit smoking those things?" My reply on a good day was "I wish I knew, I want to". My replies on not so good days are not printable in a family forum . I distinctly remember thinking 'I really want to quit but I just don't know how I'm gonna ever do it'! So when I found WhyQuit and Freedom From Tobacco Quit Smoking Now and discovered the secret key - disconnect the addiction and freedom can take hold - it was like you all pulled me aside and said 'Here, use the key and come thru the Freedom Door'. On January 10th I opened the door I'd been looking to find for a very long time and walked thru. Freedom From Tobacco - Quit Smoking Now let me peek through that door and see a land of new beauty almost beyond belief. The only logical choice was to run thru before my secret key vanished and the door again became hidden behind a protective cover of addictive rationalizations.
Neither side is perfect, but this side of the bars holds hope and life, the inside of the cell is fraught with despair and death. Let's all hope that many more tobacco addicts find the key and unlock their own 'hidden door', cause when they do this wonderful supportive group will no doubt help pull them thru and show then how to walk the path to FREEDOM.

JoeJFree - Free and Healing for One Month, Eight Days, 20 Hours and 43 Minutes, while regaining 5 Days and 9 Hours. I've not smoked 777 death sticks, and saved $126.51. NTAP!
I've saved 5 days, 9 hours and 32 minutes of my life. 
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

April 26th, 2005, 1:28 am #8

I noted a comment made today that "universal statements that everyone who's ever had a junkie mind can relate to once they've beat the addiction on some level."

We NEVER beat our addiction to nicotine. We learn to live with and manage our addiction to nicotine in the case of this forum. We carry it with us ALWAYS. Once free of the addictive substance it becomes or our constant choice to Never Take Another Puff, no matter what, that keeps us on the Free side of the bars of Nicotine Addiction Prison.

joejFree - Nicotine Free and Healing for Three Months, Fifteen Days, 3 Hours and 15 Minutes,
Reclaiming 9 Days and 3 Hours
2628 nicotine delivery devices not used - $521.36 retained earnings.
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

June 27th, 2005, 2:37 am #9

Here's the door, Never Take Another Puff,
Freedom from nicotine is yours for the taking.
JJF - nearly 6 months since being given the key to set myself free.
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

October 20th, 2005, 7:00 pm #10

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chel
chel

April 24th, 2006, 3:17 am #11

Thanks for this string not seen it before.My quit has been fairly painless Ive been able to do far more and enjoy myself However I must not get complacent I need to be grateful because the process of quitting has levelled off and Im noticing some things in my life that I dont like but I know smoking wont change a thing so NTAP!

I have been quit for 1 Month, 1 Week, 3 Days, 14 hours, 16 minutes and 36 seconds (41 days). I have saved £108.14 by not smoking 415 cigarettes. I have saved 1 Day, 10 hours and 35 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 13/03/2006 06:00
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mellya2
mellya2

March 8th, 2007, 4:34 am #12

Out of them all-- the mentor ship through the quit, the litany of predictable symptoms, the coaching through health benefits, the videos, the emotions-- this post/advice kernel is the very most helpful to me---- how true. Thank you--
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SmokefreeLeeTron
SmokefreeLeeTron

April 5th, 2007, 12:32 am #13

I would much rather be an ex-smoker who occasionaly thinks about smoking than be a smoker who constantly thinks about quitting,

Leetron (aka Beavis)

gold x 3
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lfrogger
lfrogger

June 20th, 2008, 1:46 am #14

Thanks for pulling this one up Star.
In reflecting over my quit,
JoeJFree is right on where he says "
Neither side is perfect, but this side of the bars holds hope and life, the inside of the cell is fraught with despair and death".

I sooooo prefer being on this side of the bars...on the remission side of my addiction.

My journey to freedom has been empowering and exhilarating and sure beats stagnating behind those bars, wallowing in my despair the way I did for so many years.

This side is may not be perfect but it is downright beautiful now that I can see!

Lou/Free and Living
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

November 27th, 2008, 10:12 pm #15

It's Worth The Effort

Don't Get Discouraged!


Patience
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FreedomNicotine
FreedomNicotine

November 8th, 2009, 2:08 pm #16

So again, neither side is perfect but the ex-smoking side gets better and better while the problems you face as a continuing smoker would get progressively worse over time. Not to mention that your health would be continually negatively impacted by the interim smoking and eventually smoking could rob you of your life. Neither side is perfect but the ex-smoking side is far preferable and you can keep that side as long as you simply stick to your commitment to never take another puff!
Joel
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October 1st, 2012, 3:03 pm #17

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