Negative support from others

Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

21 Jul 2006, 06:55 #41

Whatever the situation, keep focused that you are quitting for yourself and whether or not any specific person supports your effort you are behind it. We are behind you too. You will not find a single soul here who will tell you to go back to smoking. We all recognize the significance of the effort. You are fighting for your health and your life. To win that fight, no matter what, never take another puff!

Joel
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Neena393
Joined: 07 Jan 2009, 18:58

21 Jul 2006, 07:26 #42

This is why I so appreciate having a place to come when I'm struggling. I know that what I'm saying and feeling can be understood.
So often well meaning people (who have never struggled with addiction) say the wrong thing. My own loved ones have said things in the past that have made me give up. If they only knew how I cried and felt defeated. Of course I was headed for defeat anyway. I was trying the cut down method.

Now its different: If I run into any negative
I will come here for a bunch of positive. So Thank you!!!!
Neena393
I have been quit for 4 Days, 24 minutes and 55 seconds (4 days). I have saved $9.64 by not smoking 48 cigarettes. I have saved 4 hours of my life. My Quit Date: 7/16/2006 4:00 PM
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JoeJFree Gold
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

12 Aug 2006, 04:55 #43

Whatever the situation, keep focused that you are quitting for yourself and whether or not any specific person supports your effort you are behind it. We are behind you too. You will not find a single soul here who will tell you to go back to smoking. We all recognize the significance of the effort. You are fighting for your health and your life. To win that fight, no matter what, never take another puff!

Joel
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

15 Aug 2006, 00:50 #44

In case any of our members are in social circles where smoking is still the norm, this is a good string to prepare them on how to face pressures to smoke that may still exist.
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

15 Nov 2006, 10:38 #45

Dealing with people who try to undercut your quit dialup
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Date added 11/12/06
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tcouch0
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 01:33

21 Dec 2006, 04:34 #46

Negative comments from others are simply excuses for them to continue smoking.
A couple weeks ago I coughed up blood in my phlegm twice and it scared me so bad that after smoking for 23 years I quit cold turkey after numerous previously failed attempts. My mother's father (my grandfather) is dying of lung cancer right now. I told my mother I coughed up blood and quit smoking. She has been smoking for 45 years and she said I did need to quit more than her because she never coughed up blood in her phlegm before. I thought I would motivate her to quit also, but she just minimized her smoking habit.
Next week I go in for a chest x-ray. I fear lung cancer. I hope it is not too late, and that I quit in time. I also hope that my mother does not wait too long to quit... or it may be too late. I am too scared to ever take another puff.
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Jazzlady4
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:04

21 Dec 2006, 05:38 #47

I hope your testing goes well for you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I smoked for 43 years, and somehow thought nothing bad would ever happen to me. So far, I am still ok. If your Mom thinks she can't quit, let her know another old lady quit, and is loving being a ex-smoker.

Jazzlady - Free and Healing for Three Months, Twelve Days, 17 Hours and 46 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 7 Days and 4 Hours, by avoiding the use of 2075 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $367.77.
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tcouch0
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 01:33

21 Dec 2006, 06:26 #48

Thank you JazzLady, I appreciate the thoughts and prayers.
My mother could die from smoking, but I hope not. I hope my quitting will encourage her, but I have to be successful or it will backfire. She probably won't believe I can do it until at least one year goes by.
Oh, and I will let her know she would not be the only 40+ years smoker in the world to quit.
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

27 Mar 2008, 03:36 #49

Video Title Dial Up High Speed MP3 Audio Length Created
Telling others that you have quit smoking 2.53mb 7.58mb 4.07mb 08:57 10/17/06
Talking to others about not smoking 5.60mb 16.8mb 6.92mb 15:13 11/19/06
Dealing with people who try to undercut your quit 6.52mb 19.5mb 8.05mb 17:42 11/12/06
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Sal GOLD.ffn
Joined: 16 Jan 2003, 08:00

29 Aug 2008, 06:41 #50

From: Joel. Sent: 3/25/2001 8:28 AM
I just came across this thread and realized it was a good response to the post yesterday about comments and observations of others. Hope this helps people affected by these situations. Comments can make you feel bad, for the moment. But comments and actions of others can't hurt you the way you can hurt yourself. Others can temporarily sadden you or anger you, but they can't cause you to relapse. Only you letting down your guard can do that. Relapsing does more than make you feel sad or hurt. Relapsing can make you feel sick, and be sick, and if left to its ultimate conclusion, cigarettes will cripple you and eventually kill you. You are quitting for yourself and the victory and benefits are yours in spite of what anyone else feels. To keep feeling good, because you are keeping yourself well always remember to never take another puff!

Joel
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