My Cigarette, My Friend?

Joel
Joel

September 18th, 2000, 8:48 pm #1

Joel's Reinforcement Library


My Cigarette, My Friend


How do you feel about a friend who has to go everywhere with you? Not only does he tag along all the time, but since he is so offensive and vulgar, you become unwelcome when with him. He has a peculiar odor that sticks to you wherever you go. Others think both of you stink.

He controls you totally. When he says jump, you jump. Sometimes in the middle of a blizzard or storm, he wants you to come to the store and pick him up. You would give your spouse **** if he or she did that to you all the time, but you can't argue with your friend. Sometimes, when you are out at a movie or play he says he wants you to go stand in the lobby with him and miss important scenes. Since he calls all the shots in your life, you go.

Your friend doesn't like your choice of clothing either. Instead of politely telling you that you have lousy taste, he burns little holes in these items so you will want to throw them out. Sometimes, he tires of the furniture and gets rid of it too. Occasionally, he gets really nasty and decides the whole house must go.

He gets pretty expensive to support. Not only is his knack of property destruction costly, but you must pay to keep him with you. In fact, he will cost you thousands of dollars over your lifetime. And you can count on one thing, he will never pay you a penny in return.

Often at picnics you watch others playing vigorous activities and having lots of fun doing them. But your friend won't let you. He doesn't believe in physical activity. In his opinion, you are too old to have that kind of fun. So he kind of sits on your chest and makes it difficult for you to breathe. Now you don't want to go off and play with other people when you can't breathe, do you?

Your friend does not believe in being healthy. He is really repulsed by the thought of you living a long and productive life. So every chance he gets he makes you sick. He helps you catch colds and flu. Not just by running out in the middle of the lousy weather to pick him up at the store. He is more creative than that. He carries thousands of poisons with him which he constantly blows in your face. When you inhale some of them, they wipe out cilia in your lungs which would have helped you prevent these diseases.

But colds and flu are just his form of child's play. He especially likes diseases that slowly cripple you - like emphysema. He considers this disease great. Once he gets you to have this, you will give up all your other friends, family, career goals, activities - everything. You will just sit home and caress him, telling him what a great friend he is while you desperately gasp for air.

But eventually your friend tires of you. He decides he no longer wishes to have your company. Instead of letting you go your separate ways, he decides to kill you. He has a wonderful arsenal of weapons behind him. In fact, he has been plotting your death since the day you met him. He picked all the top killers in society and did everything in his power to ensure you would get one of them. He overworked your heart and lungs. He clogged up the arteries to your heart, brain, and every other part of your body. In case you were too strong to succumb to this, he constantly exposed you to cancer causing agents. He knew he would get you sooner or later.

Well, this is the story of your "friend," your cigarette. No real friend would do all this to you. Cigarettes are the worst possible enemies you ever had. They are expensive, addictive, socially unacceptable, and deadly. Consider all this and - NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!


© Joel Spitzer 1984, 2009
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Joel
Joel

September 18th, 2000, 8:52 pm #2

This has always been my personal favorite of all my letters. I thought I would bring it up for any Newbies who may have missed it who are still thinking of quitting smoking as the loss of a friend as opposed to ridding themself of the worst enemy they have ever had. Also, since Zep has gone through so much effort giving the letters a consistent look, this is one I would like to look its best when brought up in the future.

Thanks Zep for all the work you have put into this effort.

Joel
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kito40 Gold
kito40 Gold

July 22nd, 2002, 1:07 am #3

The line that really gets to me is " In fact, he has been plotting your death since the day you met him"
That is eerie!

Kim
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

August 8th, 2002, 10:51 am #4

Our Kim has paid a hefty price but
so have scores upon scores of other Freedom members!
Those **** cigarettes are NOT your friend !!!!
What kind of friend would do this?
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

August 19th, 2002, 4:05 am #5

Sean's Thought His Friend Was Smokeless Tobacco
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John (Gold)

August 30th, 2002, 10:20 pm #6

http://www.youtube-nocookie.com/v/SxpOU ... 0&border=1

Just one puff and within 10 seconds up to 50% of our brain's nicotinic receptors
become occupied by nicotine. While most walk away from relapse thinking they
have gotten away with smoking just once, they soon find their brain wanting for more!
Want to keep your healing alive?
Just one rule ... none today!
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

October 23rd, 2002, 8:34 am #7

Noni - 4 days before departing
and 6 months before her son's first birthday.
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John (Gold)

November 13th, 2002, 8:25 pm #8


Debbie Williams, 43, Deceased
For my beautiful sister, Debbie Williams, who was taken from us June 9, 2000 by lung cancer. Debbie was a life-long smoker until she passed away at the age of 43. She left behind 4 wonderful children (ages ranging from 7-25), 2 granddaughters and a family who misses her every single day. Debbie, not having you with me leaves an enormous void in my life that will never be filled. I am thankful for the time we had together and take comfort in knowing that you are at peace. I love and miss you!
Kelly - Sister
Kellywinnett at aol.com[/size]



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John (Gold)

November 28th, 2002, 10:34 am #9

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John (Gold)

December 16th, 2002, 7:33 am #10


Melinda Brockett, 39, Deceased
I will always remember our dear loving sister Melinda for her bravery. Not just in how she faced death once she knew it was over, but for her courage on the battlefield as well. She was our sister and she was a real soldier. A Schnook helicopter pilot, medic, Gulf War veteran, Officer in Army Reserves, and then a nurse, she made her death so easy on us. A twenty-year smoker battling lung cancer, she was only 39 when she passed. Lung surgery, painful chemo, radiation, watching her lose her long beautiful hair, Melinda went through **** and she was so brave. Then it spead to her brain and she lost her mobility. It was sad! Such a beautiful person yet so addicted to cigarettes, it just makes me furious that we make something in this country that kills people! I can't understand that at all. Melinda's son is now eighteen and he misses his mother desparately. We all miss her so much!
Sandy Michael - Sister
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John (Gold)

January 2nd, 2003, 8:39 am #11

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John (Gold)

January 27th, 2003, 9:56 am #12


Fred Goldman, 43, Deceased
We could never convince my big brother, Fred, to quit smoking. We badgered him constantly, complained it was killing him and making us sick. We never imagined it would, in fact, kill him at the age of 43, at the end of the most wrenching, sorrowful year of our lives. He moved back in with Mom for that last year, who fought his battles with the insurance companies and the pharmacies who could never seem to prescribe enough medication to kill his horrible pain. Fred never accepted this was the end, and could never stop smoking, to the end. A testimony to the chemical power of nicotine. Now I am in my forties, and older than my big brother when he died, in 1995. I want to rip cigarettes out of the mouths of every teen I see. I wish they could see my brother, wasted away in him prime, and learn. I wish they could see my mom, and envision how painful it must be to watch a son die slowly of a disease that could have been prevented.
Abby Brody - Sister
fbrodya at alfred.edu[/size]



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John (Gold)

March 4th, 2003, 12:54 pm #13

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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

June 2nd, 2003, 8:28 pm #14


My mom died 1,439 days ago
Why?
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John (Gold)

June 20th, 2003, 1:22 am #15

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John (Gold)

June 26th, 2003, 2:34 am #16

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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

July 8th, 2003, 7:46 am #18

Autism - 07/02
Asthma - 08/02
Stillbirth - 08/02
Clubfoot - 08/02
Ear Infections - 02/02
Premature birth - 02/02
Low-birthweight - 08/02
Ectopic pregnancy - 02/02
Respiratory infections - 08/02
Colic or excessive crying - 08/01
Pregnancy complications - 08/02
Abnormal lung development - 01/02
A higher rate of infant mortality - - 08/02
Sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) - 09/02
Oral clefts in the lip and/or palate - 01/02 02/00
Optic nerve hypoplasia and visual impairment - 06/02
Placental abruption and placenta previa - 10/01 11/96
Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) - 04/02 10/98
50% greater chance of mental retardation (I.Q. less than 70) - 04/96
Diminished future fertility (fewer eggs) of your unborn daughter - 04/99
An average of over $700 in extra neonatal costs per smoking mother - 04/02
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John (Gold)

July 14th, 2003, 9:09 am #19


Emphysema
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

July 22nd, 2003, 3:51 am #20

Circulatory Disease
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

July 30th, 2003, 8:43 pm #21

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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

August 10th, 2003, 7:58 pm #22

There are zero taste buds inside human lungs,
the place each of us sucked and briefly held smoke.
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

August 20th, 2003, 11:01 am #23

Nicotine Addiction 101
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John (Gold)

August 28th, 2003, 10:00 am #24



Right insula: source of crave anxieties
Who ever heard of craving a friend!
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John (Gold)

September 10th, 2003, 9:50 am #25

So I asked the Dr..................
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