Last Line of Defense (or Trump Card)

Subconscious use cue extinguishment
W1LSON
W1LSON

December 6th, 2003, 10:13 am #41

"it's a temporary investment"

And the rewards are beyond imagination, thanks Bob.

Wilson ~ 1 month, 26 days, 23 hours, 11 minutes and 49 seconds (57 days).
I've not smoked 2279 death sticks, and saved $203.28.
I've saved 7 day(s), 22 hour(s) of my life.
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Ima GoldDustWoman
Ima GoldDustWoman

January 22nd, 2004, 9:59 pm #42

I REALLY like this idea! A "Trump Card." Smashing! This is an oldie but goodie post ...

For some reason I perceive that things have become more difficult in the past few days. My resolve seems to be waning a bit.

It started with my 12 year old daughter saying "Mom, I think it's great that you have quit smoking but it has done nothing for your attitude." I was shocked and hurt I thought I was doing a tremendous job and that most of my "meanness" was being safely concealed within my own head. This left me feeling so sorry for myself that I instantly thought of running back to cigarettes. Even though I whole-heartedly quit for myself, my junkie mind told me that "I should just give this sham up this instant." After all, you quit for that "ingrate" and this is the thanks you get. Hrmph! I'll show her ... yadda-yadda-yadda ...

Then, I remembered an article or post that I read here about triggers and another one about people being insensitive to a recovering nicotine addict and saying things that they wouldn't say to a "cranky" chemo patient fighting for their survival. It was still a very difficult night, filled with those "smoking dreams" I have also read about here. It is two days later and I have managed to survive albeit, barely. I am still feeling a bit shaky but I realize that it will take time to feel better - just time NOT NICOTINE!

All of this is to say that, including this post about carrying a trump card (which I will create and print as soon as I finish my thoughts here) this site has been able to help me every step and at every stage of my quit so far. There are literally answers to every issue that you encounter along the way. And, "no matter what happens today; NO MATTER WHAT, I am not going to use nicotine" is always at the root of each message that you must embrace if you are going to be a successful quitter for "life."

KC
I have been free for 1 Week, 3 Days, 15 hours, 56 minutes and 40 seconds (10 days). I have saved $27.98 for new shoes by not smoking 159 cigarettes. I have saved 13 hours and 15 minutes of my life.
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Parker GOLD
Parker GOLD

February 2nd, 2004, 1:33 am #43

Debating with our junkie selves takes us in circles. Sometimes we need to just grit our teeth and get through the tough moments. Recognizing that the journey out of active addiction is not fun and games. It is hard, life-saving work that provides a huge pay-off.

No nicotine today. Not one puff. No matter what.

Parker - 19 months
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Jahunta
Jahunta

March 9th, 2004, 12:39 am #44

Hi Bob,

A Sunnyvale, California native writing from CT. I'm glad you've made the quit. I"m 3 weeks in, and am loving it. I know exactly what you're going through. When those big bad craves hit, that's when I chant to myself...Never..Take...Another... Puff. It's really a wonderful thing to make the right choices when faced with craves and having a better hold on this beast of an addiction. Keep it up Bob! Keep the quit!!

Juanita
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OBob Gold
OBob Gold

March 9th, 2004, 4:47 am #45

Thanks Juanita,

Actually, this post is a little dated, at over 2 years old.

The old-fashioned stubbornness that got me through this episode, coupled with a relentless willingness to confront each challenge with the truth about my addiction ultimately saw me through to the promised land, where it really is MUCH BETTER.

At 2 years and change, the challenges associated with quitting are a distant memory. Nowadays, as far as my quit goes, it's comfort, thankfulness that I did it, and a firm confidence... Confidence that comes from a solid understanding that my comfort is secure so long as I never take another puff... but lost if I do... so I never will. Simple as that.

Thanks again for the thoughts. I found that giving support here ended up being one of the most effective ways of supporting myself. If I could tell it to others with conviction, I couldn't disregard it myself.

YQB,

Bob (2 years free and clean)
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Angelicrosegonegreen1
Angelicrosegonegreen1

March 10th, 2004, 4:51 am #46

What an awesome post! Great example of mind over matter. You put it in a great perspective. Thanks

Kathleen - Free and Healing for Six Days, 16 Hours and 42 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 8 Hours, by avoiding the use of 100 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $44.21.
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Angelicrosegonegreen1
Angelicrosegonegreen1

March 10th, 2004, 4:54 am #47

-also, I do realize that this is very old. But that makes it almost better. I have read many of your posts but it helps to have you going through the same things us newbies are, and doing it so well.

Kathleen
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screechwinter
screechwinter

April 21st, 2004, 6:05 am #48

i am very appreciative of this thread. it is a great reminder that some days will be simply rotten, but they don't take away from the good days that i've had, and they can't destroy tomorrow either.
"the trump card" does work; i shouted "NO!" to myself when i was driving last week, as if i was telling the inner junkie to shut up 'cuz i wasn't giving into her. thanks for putting this into perspective bob.

ahnaka
One week, two days, 18 hours, 34 minutes and 14 seconds. 146 cigarettes not smoked, saving $38.48. Life saved: 12 hours, 10 minutes.
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smurfetteirl
smurfetteirl

April 21st, 2004, 6:11 am #49

thanks for bringing it up ahnaka,its a real good one (thanx BOB)
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Ouija7
Ouija7

April 24th, 2004, 3:09 am #50

TRUMP CARD:
I'm not going to smoke today.
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Hooked On Hammies
Hooked On Hammies

April 24th, 2004, 8:34 am #51

This is just the one I needed today. Been loving my quit, but feeling today like I needed a little bit of Freedom vibes.

And this one is perfect. Doesn't matter if it's 3 years old or 30. It's classic. The wisdom is Timeless.

And very simple. Sometimes when nothing else quiets the sulking beast, it's time to downshift into "I ain't gonna smoke TODAY" mode.

That's it.

Hammie
I have been quit for 3 Weeks, 3 Days, 17 hours, 39 minutes and 22 seconds (24 days). I have saved $74.20 by not smoking 494 cigarettes. I have saved 1 Day, 17 hours and 10 minutes of my life.
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jane kathryn
jane kathryn

April 24th, 2004, 8:48 am #52

Loved that phrase, "sulking beast" Hammie. That's it exactly. Mine has fangs and claws and a big sulky junkie snarl, and a bottomless pit for a heart. I don't have kids, but I feel like I have a grouchy teenager to deal with all the same. Luckily the trump card is mine, along with wallet, car keys, etc. A classic indeed.

Jane K

Jane - Free and Healing for One Month, Fourteen Days, 21 Hours and 51 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 2 Days and 8 Hours, by avoiding the use of 674 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $168.73.
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913Jinx
913Jinx

April 27th, 2004, 10:08 am #53

Dear Bob;
This was EXACTLY what I needed to hear at this exact moment. I am free from nicotine just 13 days as you were when you posted this message and I have been experiencing the exact same thing; that taste in the mouth, the hideous cravings, the schitzophrenic debate and I almost gave in, I thought I wanted to give in. But I persuaded myself to just read a thought on craves and as I was drinking a quart of H2O, I read your message and had to wonder in amazement and laugh too. I think I'll make it to 2 weeks tomorrow, thanks to your wise counsel. Congrats on 2 years.
Jinx
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janetd (GOLD)
janetd (GOLD)

April 27th, 2004, 10:49 am #54

Like a parent to an unreasonable child throwing a tantrum, "BECAUSE I SAID SO!". So, the junky sulked for the rest of the night, screaming, and stomping and generally annoying me, but had no power to touch my quit.

How I love this particular statement, Bob!

yqs, Janet :)
Two Years Five Months
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UKMags1
UKMags1

April 27th, 2004, 5:14 pm #55

I really love this old post of Bob's and each time I read it I have to remind myself of something. You see, I tend to think of myself as a newbie and Bob an oldbie and that is how it is. But just about the time that Bob wrote this I was in the process of losing a ten year quit. It's sad to think that just a few weeks before that I would have been the REALLY seasoned oldbie and Bob would have been the newbie. How stupid I was to lose that quit. Words cannot express how frustrated I am to find myself in the position of quitting again. It doesn't matter whether this quit has been easy or hard, I should not have let myself get to the stage where, after ten years......TEN YEARS .....for goodness sake... I took another puff. It's scary to think that it was so easy to lose ten years of freedom. Ten years without once thinking of smoking except to pity other smokers.

Sometimes I fear for this quit but I console myself with the knowledge that although that previous quit had lasted for ten years I genuinely did not know that I could never take another puff....I wasn't educated in the laws of addiction. This time there is no excuse.....I want this quit to last longer than ten years and if it doesn't I will only be able to blame myself...I know the rules now.

The really bad thing about that lost quit is that in all those recovery tables, 10 years is the point at which your lungs are beginning to resemble a non-smokers lungs....don't suppose they are ever fully recovered. But I lost that, and after another 2 and a bit years smoking I expect I'll have another ten years to wait if not longer.

The rules are clear and I know from all the reading I have done here that I am not alone in having lost a long term quit. Keep it simple. As John would say there is only one rule.....no nicotine today.



Mags



117 days clean and 1410 cigs ignored.

(Imagine what this quit counter would say if I hadn't thrown away my 10 year quit......I'd be up to 12.5 years now......that's 4562 days!!!)


Just Never Take Another Puff
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SammymnGOLD
SammymnGOLD

June 12th, 2004, 5:57 am #56

A bit of wisdom to tuck into your pocket for the weekend!
, Sarah (708 days of one day at a times)
Thanks O'Bob!
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July 30th, 2004, 7:20 am #57

Here's a good one to carry in your healing mind!
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Mocha
Mocha

August 17th, 2004, 4:33 am #58

One of my favorites...
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don t smoke
don t smoke

August 20th, 2004, 11:11 pm #59

THANK YOU, BOB!!!!

This is an awesome thread! I have been saying that "I ain't gonna smoke today" thing subconsiously to my junkie who is now working at a whisper and playing a bit with my emotions. You put words to what I am doing--acknowledging the smoking thoughts and saying ....I am NOT going to smoke, period.
I also am so inspired because you are gold, and somehow I thought that maybe those who are gold were born gold. And when I read your everyday advice, I forget that you had to go through these things too. You are an inspiration.

Maryanne--Free for 2 months and 12 days and working on 2 months and 13 days.
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malapela gold
malapela gold

August 21st, 2004, 11:16 am #60

Every time I come to this site I am amazed at what it can do for a seemingly hopeless situation. This thread has hit the mark. I went out tonight with three of my kids to a new restaurant in town - an old, converted firehouse. I don't know what it was but something hit me hard. I kept thinking "three minutes, three minutes, its only three minutes." The place was interesting, upbeat and fun. I guess that any joyful new experience was cause for a cigarette. There was a patio in view with some people on it but I couldn't see any smokers.

The urge seemed to last all the way home and has been hitting me in waves all night. I too decided that I'm just not going to smoke and I'm going to feel terrible. I hope it goes away tomorrow though.

John Three weeks, one day, 11 hours, 15 minutes and 41 seconds. 629 cigarettes not smoked, saving $94.37. Life saved: 2 days, 4 hours, 25 minutes.
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Parker GOLD
Parker GOLD

December 18th, 2004, 9:23 pm #61

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modojo7
modojo7

January 3rd, 2005, 10:28 am #62

Wow!!!
I'm just over 1 week into my quit.
Just been sent here via a link from another member after a cry for help on my part.
Can't believe I'm reading this, almost two years after it was first written, and it is so relevant for me today.
Thank you.
mary x
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gavula
gavula

January 6th, 2005, 7:06 am #63

Thank you thank you thank you. Just not today. I'm in a little bit of a panic- I almost feel like there's two people in my head- but the one who wins is the one who says "I'm not going to smoke today."

Thanks
Anna- breathing in angels
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tjrsmiler
tjrsmiler

January 30th, 2005, 6:22 pm #64

excellent.............. thanks bob

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BillW Gold.ffn
BillW Gold.ffn

February 11th, 2005, 6:02 am #65

to those who need to remember how strong they really are......
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