I want one...

I want one...

Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

07 May 2002, 04:08 #1

I want one-no I don't. One sounds great-no it doesn't. Oh just one-not just one. If you keep thinking in terms of "one" this kind of internal debate is non-relenting-it will slowly drive you nuts. So, don't carry on this debate. Don't think in terms of one. Think in terms of full-fledged smoking. The full quantity, the social stigma, the stench, the costs, the risks. I'm not advocating looking at them negatively. Just look at them how they were-really were at the end.

They were making you sick and tired enough of them that you voluntarily put yourself into withdrawal to break free from them. You did it. Now just keep them in perspective. If you used to smoke 20 a day, say to yourself when the urge hits that "I want 20 a day, every day, for the rest of my life, till it cripples, then kills me." As soon as you hear yourself say it in that perspective you will likely find yourself next saying, "What am I thinking? I don't want to smoke that way." That will be the end of that particular discussion.

Look at smoking in real terms and you will walk away from each urge with a sense of relief and accomplishement. Fantasize about them and you may walk away with a feeling of deprivation. You are not depriving yourself of anything, you are ridding yourself of a deadly addiction. See them for what they are and you will stay forever resolute to never take another puff!

Joel

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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

07 May 2002, 04:10 #2

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chichi728 (Silver)
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:14

11 May 2002, 02:03 #3

I'm on my way out but this is for you, Naymor. Hang in there, sweetie. Hold on tight to this quit... this is yours, not ours!! It doesn't just get better all the time...it gets great! I promise. As John says, Patience earns comfort -- it does. Never take another puff. I'll check back later. Chichi
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misledfairy
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:00

11 May 2002, 02:41 #4

Thanks chichi, I get the whole picture now.
Love and hugs
naymor xxxx
5 weeks 2 days 21 hours 37 mins..... and hanging on to it!!
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misha (Gold )
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:59

11 Jun 2002, 18:53 #5

I remember early in my quit, I would wake up angry and craving, I was insane. My daughter, noodle, called me the grizzly bear!

This particular morning, I was especially nasty. Noodle looked at me for a long time and asked me what was wrong. I told her that I was craving a cigarette and that it would pass in time. After a few minutes she asked me if I felt that way because I wanted a cigarette. I assured her that no, I didn't really want one, but I continued to stomp around the house. As I sat at the kitchen table, frowning through my first cup of coffee, noodle came up to me and dropped 5 packs of cigarettes in my lap and said, I have been hiding these cigarettes. She is 8 years old, mind you, but at that moment, she had given me the best gift! I looked at those cigarettes in my lap and realized that I didn't even want them! All I wanted, was to not feel what I was feeling at the time! I promptly destroyed those cigarettes and hugged my daughter. No more grizzly bear for me!
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Toast (GOLD )
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

27 Jun 2002, 06:26 #6

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Don't you want "Just One??"
Well, there's no such beast.
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

17 Jul 2002, 20:04 #7

The fantasy
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The reality
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

17 Oct 2002, 19:43 #8

For Kita:
Thoughts will happen. It is how you deal with them over time that will determine the frequency and intensity. When thoughts to occur focus on full-fledged smoking as opposed to fixating on a cigarette. The more natural this response becomes, the less frequent the thoughts will likely happen and the quicker they will pass. You will survive through them all as long as you always stay focused on remembering why you have chosen to commit to never take another puff!
Joel
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Chocky (Green)
Joined: 07 Jan 2009, 19:25

18 Oct 2002, 05:38 #9

Thats just what I needed to hear Joel!
Thanks for the reminder!
Chocky
1 week, 3 days, 24 mins.
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Parker GOLD
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:58

04 Dec 2002, 20:22 #10

ImageBringing this one up because it is one of my favorites. Visualizing that fistful of cigarettes -- as opposed to the fantasy of smoking only one -- put a quick end to many craves for me.
Parker - 5+ months
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