I want one...

I want one...

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07 May 2002, 04:08 #1

I want one-no I don't. One sounds great-no it doesn't. Oh just one-not just one. If you keep thinking in terms of "one" this kind of internal debate is non-relenting-it will slowly drive you nuts. So, don't carry on this debate. Don't think in terms of one. Think in terms of full-fledged smoking. The full quantity, the social stigma, the stench, the costs, the risks. I'm not advocating looking at them negatively. Just look at them how they were-really were at the end.

They were making you sick and tired enough of them that you voluntarily put yourself into withdrawal to break free from them. You did it. Now just keep them in perspective. If you used to smoke 20 a day, say to yourself when the urge hits that "I want 20 a day, every day, for the rest of my life, till it cripples, then kills me." As soon as you hear yourself say it in that perspective you will likely find yourself next saying, "What am I thinking? I don't want to smoke that way." That will be the end of that particular discussion.

Look at smoking in real terms and you will walk away from each urge with a sense of relief and accomplishement. Fantasize about them and you may walk away with a feeling of deprivation. You are not depriving yourself of anything, you are ridding yourself of a deadly addiction. See them for what they are and you will stay forever resolute to never take another puff!

Joel


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07 May 2002, 04:10 #2

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11 May 2002, 02:03 #3

I'm on my way out but this is for you, Naymor. Hang in there, sweetie. Hold on tight to this quit... this is yours, not ours!! It doesn't just get better all the time...it gets great! I promise. As John says, Patience earns comfort -- it does. Never take another puff. I'll check back later. Chichi
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11 May 2002, 02:41 #4

Thanks chichi, I get the whole picture now.
Love and hugs
naymor xxxx
5 weeks 2 days 21 hours 37 mins..... and hanging on to it!!
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11 Jun 2002, 18:53 #5

I remember early in my quit, I would wake up angry and craving, I was insane. My daughter, noodle, called me the grizzly bear!

This particular morning, I was especially nasty. Noodle looked at me for a long time and asked me what was wrong. I told her that I was craving a cigarette and that it would pass in time. After a few minutes she asked me if I felt that way because I wanted a cigarette. I assured her that no, I didn't really want one, but I continued to stomp around the house. As I sat at the kitchen table, frowning through my first cup of coffee, noodle came up to me and dropped 5 packs of cigarettes in my lap and said, I have been hiding these cigarettes. She is 8 years old, mind you, but at that moment, she had given me the best gift! I looked at those cigarettes in my lap and realized that I didn't even want them! All I wanted, was to not feel what I was feeling at the time! I promptly destroyed those cigarettes and hugged my daughter. No more grizzly bear for me!
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27 Jun 2002, 06:26 #6

Don't you want "Just One??"
Well, there's no such beast.
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17 Jul 2002, 20:04 #7

The fantasy
The reality
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17 Oct 2002, 19:43 #8

For Kita:
Thoughts will happen. It is how you deal with them over time that will determine the frequency and intensity. When thoughts to occur focus on full-fledged smoking as opposed to fixating on a cigarette. The more natural this response becomes, the less frequent the thoughts will likely happen and the quicker they will pass. You will survive through them all as long as you always stay focused on remembering why you have chosen to commit to never take another puff!
Joel
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18 Oct 2002, 05:38 #9

Thats just what I needed to hear Joel!
Thanks for the reminder!
Chocky
1 week, 3 days, 24 mins.
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04 Dec 2002, 20:22 #10

Bringing this one up because it is one of my favorites. Visualizing that fistful of cigarettes -- as opposed to the fantasy of smoking only one -- put a quick end to many craves for me.
Parker - 5+ months
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24 Mar 2003, 22:55 #11

I had a vivid dream last night that I had one unlit in my hand but not holding it like a smoker but with both hands finger and thumb at each end, I was asking myself would I want this one.I didn't have the desire and the first thing that came to mind was a metallic zinc sort of taste and that lead to the thought of thousands of chemicals and there was no desire and I woke up feeling I had been on the outside looking in and happy to be nicotine free.

Rickdabler 2 weeks 10hrs 55mins nicotine free.
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25 Mar 2003, 02:12 #12

Thanks Joel,
I really needed to see this thread today, having kind of a hard time today. Dealing with some stress for the first time since quitting and having to remind myself that cigarettes will add to the stress, not take it away. Seeing a handful of smokes is an eye opener, there is just no such thing as "1" smoke, or drag.....

Christine 9 days 13 hours.....
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04 May 2003, 11:27 #13

The fantasy
The reality
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22 May 2003, 07:34 #14

The One Puff Files
Fixating on a cigarette
Just one little puff?
"Maybe I am different?"
Have you noticed some of these "lost" long-term quits?
The Lucky One's Get Hooked! "I think I have decided to go back to smoking"
I Know I Will Quit Again
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15 Aug 2003, 02:49 #15

".....They were making you sick and tired enough of them that you voluntarily put yourself into withdrawal to break free from them. You did it. Now just keep them in perspective. If you used to smoke 20 a day, say to yourself when the urge hits that "I want 20 a day, every day, for the rest of my life, till it cripples, then kills me." As soon as you hear yourself say it in that perspective you will likely find yourself next saying, "What am I thinking? I don't want to smoke that way." That will be the end of that particular discussion......"
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02 Jan 2004, 12:08 #16

For anyone feeling like they miss "it." Cigarettes were not an "it," they were a "them." If you remember them all the way they were you will realize that your desire is still to never take another puff! Joel
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06 Jan 2004, 17:22 #17

The Fantasy
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10 Feb 2004, 20:49 #18

This one is great.. I was talking to someone just yesterday about the only time I think I would "just like one" is in a busy social setting. They said maybe someday I would get to the point that I could do that. My reply..NO if I smoke even one puff I will go right back to where I was. Thanks for this post it proved to me that I have learned something.
1 month 3 days 12 hours 15 min
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30 Mar 2004, 00:22 #19

Thank you.

Butterflies 2 months and a bit
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11 May 2004, 19:24 #20


"I want 20 a day, every day, for the rest of my life, till it cripples, then kills me."

Thank you Joel,
It sure does extinguish thoughts of just 1. I hope this always repeats itself to me everytime I think that way.
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26 Jun 2004, 01:42 #21

"I want 20 a day, every day, for the rest of my life, till it cripples, then kills me."
UGH! The reality, the truth in that statement, could literally make me sick. I've been here for a a little over 8 months, and once ina great while, I think I want the 'smokers lifestyle' again, whatever that was...the sickness of it....and I remember WHY I quit in the first place.
Then I come back here to read what my quit brothers & sisters have said regarding my addict thinking, because I know when I come in here I read & educate myself on my addict thoughts. I am NOT the only one having these feelings. I am NOT nuts, I am an addict and I just have to remember to NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF! One Day at A Time.
I am a NON-SMOKER! & and that, I can truely be Happy about, every aspect of knowing that about myself, makes me happy. The funny thing about trying to miss a cig is I don't feel an ounce of happiness in that....
Thank you whyquit.com & Freedom brother & sisters, keep it up. I pass along info to everyone I know about this site, & they look so interested, they write the site down, and even if they don't smoke, they say they're gonna pass along the info.
YQS, Carey- Eight months, one week, one day, 18 hours, 40 minutes and 17 seconds. 5055 cigarettes not smoked, saving $1,263.89. Life saved: 2 weeks, 3 days, 13 hours, 15 minutes.
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28 Aug 2004, 01:44 #22

The Fantasy
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28 Aug 2004, 01:53 #23

Wow, thanks Joel for the thread and Parker for bringing it to the top. This is exactly the message I need to read right about now!

My Junkie brain has been coming up with some brilliant arguements lately on different ways I could successfully have one (and just one) once in a while. (I could get into the specifics of my junkie's argument, but I don't think he deserves any screentime.)

I wouldn't have succumbed, anyway, but this message really helps add some firepower to my "No."

Thanks a bunch!

steve 18 days
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23 Nov 2004, 02:45 #24

Yeah. This is EXACTLY the message I needed right now.
How did you know?

Terry
I have not smoked for 3 days.
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18 Dec 2004, 21:30 #25

One?
The Fantasy
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