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|From: Parker - GOLD!||Sent: 3/7/2007 7:50 PM|
|This helped me so much in the beginning of my quit. I would think about having one and remember that one always, always, always led to more. One pack and then another and another and another. When you are an addict one is too many; a hundred is not enough. Don't fool yourself. You can't have just one.|
Try to be patient with the pace of recovery, Diane, as you've come far these past 30 days and invested much. In the first three days you detoxed your mind and body of all nicotine and reached peak withdrawal, you've greeted and extinguished the vast majority of your nicotine feeding cues (all but infrequent cues, seasonal or holiday related ones) and with each extinguished cue you've reclaimed yet another aspect of life. It's like putting a puzzle together.
Now you're into the final phase and dealing with those pesky conscious thoughts of wanting, that combine with years of smoking rationalizations and the slowly dwindling influence of those old dopamine aaah memories that belong to a true drug addict who at that moment was again starving off urges or even the onset of early withdrawal.
This likely being the longest and most gradual recovery phase of all, it's normal to want it to be over and done. It's a place we all once stood. At times it can feel like the rose bud has actually stopped opening, that with each passing day the distance between moments of challenge is not growing longer, the challenges shorter and generally a bit less intense. But just as the human eye cannot see the rose bud as it opens, it can at times be difficult to see the gradual beauty slowly unfolding before you. But we promise you, it's happening.
Diane, if you'll simply stay in the here and now, just one day at a time and then celebrate today's victory, before you know it those pesky thoughts of wanting will become the exception not the rule. This is your gift to you, Diane. Hold it close and protect it above all else.
Remember, you're not fighting a whole pack or even a whole cigarette but just that one powerful puff of nicotine that 8 to 10 seconds later would cause nicotine to occupy at least 40% of your brain's nicotinic type acetylcholine receptors, causing a dopamine explosion that, even through a dizzy mind and burning lungs, your mind's pay attention pathways will make nearly impossible (in the short term) to forget. It could all be over that fast, with both freedom and a solid month of the most intense healing your body has ever known flushed like a toilet.
Baby steps, just today. Yes you can, Diane! Congratulations on your first full month of freedom and healing. We're with you in spirit.
Breathe deep, hug hard, live long!
John (Gold x8)
The Law of Addiction
The administration of a drug to an addict will cause reestablishment of dependence upon the addictive substance at the old level of use or greater.
|"I want one" is the biggest lie of all. Haven't the lies lasted long enough? Isn't it time to allow truth to help free your mind from lingering smoking fixations? Why tease yourself with lies?|
|From: John (Gold)||Sent: 11/13/2007 1:24 PM|
Hello Connie and congratulations on your first full month of freedom and healing after 45 years of bondage. We're drug addicts, Connie, and at a minimum you're still facing coming to terms with both the small mountain of "aaah" memories you created during those four and a half decades, but more importantly all the rationalizations created to justify going after them.
I doubt this brings you much comfort but at one month into recovery nearly everyone here focused upon those still lingering memories too, and for most that was prior to posts such as this one mentioning them. Maybe there's something to "out of sight out of mind" but if I was a betting man I'd bet that right about now, with by far the vast majority of trigger extinguishing behind you, that your attention would begin focusing heavily upon this phase of recovery, that you'd be wading through them anyway, as it's the only path home.
Maybe I should have tied this in better with my post about the "Final Truth." Although the underlying dopamine explosion is there, the sensation associated with it cannot match existing replenishment memories, as here on day 33 of your recovery there is nothing functionally missing and nothing in need of replenishment. Your tank isn't low, there's no early withdrawal onset anxieties building because you've once again waited a bit too long, and that building anxiety isn't riddled with a growing sense of depression.
None of this means that this much loved (I'm sure) great-grand-mother can't soon restore the need to replenish, in fact, once that first puff is taken, full relapse is in motion and it's now all but guaranteed.
The 1990 Brandon study examined lapse and relapse in smokers who'd successfully completed a two week stop smoking program. Aside from finding that 88% who "tasted" a cigarette went on to experience full relapse, it also documented the primary emotion felt immediately following smoking nicotine. Consider that each who lapsed had already succeeded in fully navigating physical withdrawal. Consider that their brains had re-sensitized. Reflect on the fact that their mind's sense of nicotine normal no longer existed, that there was no chemical missing and nothing in need of replenishment, that the brain's sense of homeostasis had been restored. So what was their prime emotion following relapse?
The vast majority reported an immediate negative reaction. Among them, 13% felt depressed and hopeless, 33% experienced anxiety and tension, 16% were angry and irritated, and 12% felt boredom or fatigue, while only 3.6% reported what most nicotine addicts would probably have expected, that they felt relaxed.
It is good you're thinking all this through, Connie, not bad. As Joel reminds us, it's impossible to relapse by thinking, it's action that destroy.
Connie, those "aaah" memories don't belong to you but to an actively feeding drug addict whose chemical dependency was arrested 33 days ago. If you want "aaah" there's plenty of healthy ones to be had. Just grab hold of one of those grandchildren or great-grands of yours and give them a big big hug.
Millions of words here at Freedom but still just one rule ... no nicotine today!
Breathe deep, hug hard, live long Connie!
John (Gold x9)
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