"I think I have decided to go back to smoking"

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22 Aug 2002, 20:03 #11

Joel's Reinforcement Library

To Smoke or Not to Smoke[/size]


Many ex-smokers forget the problems they had while smoking and also the initial difficulty they encountered during the quitting process. Without remembering these two stages, the resolve to maintain smoking abstinence is often weakened.

There are two emotions shared by most people who currently smoke or have a past history of cigarette smoking. There is a side that wishes to smoke occasionally and a side that never wants to smoke again. The smoker is in a constant battle between these two factions. The ex-smoker only occasionally considers the luxury of taking one puff.

By forgetting the medical and psychological dangers associated with cigarette use, you may inadvertently strengthen the side which wishes to take one puff. This often results in more frequent urges of much greater intensity and duration. By remembering the real detrimental effects of smoking, your resolve remains strong. Keep a clear perspective of what it is like to be a smoker and an ex-smoker.

Never fixate on how nice one puff would be. You no longer have one puff as an option. Cigarette smoking is now an all or nothing proposition. Consider what smoking at your old level again will be like--the medical dangers, the social stigma, the staggering expenses. You are not depriving yourself of one good cigarette, rather you are doing yourself a great favor by no longer consuming one, two or even more packs per day. By coming to the clinic you were making a conscious choice not to smoke. It was a good choice. Stick with it. NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF! Joel
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21 Jul 2003, 02:00 #12

Thanks Joel.
Paula.
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21 Jul 2003, 04:30 #13

Thanks for this thread, Joel. I've been having a lot of urges lately, even dreaming! I didn't dream when I was early on - my daughter did. Reading this has helped put me back on track - sometimes that junkie brat inside needs to be put in her place.
This was just such perfect timing for me.

Madge
Four months, one week, three days, 3 hours, 30 minutes and 58 seconds. 3303 cigarettes not smoked, saving $701.80. Life saved: 1 week, 4 days, 11 hours, 15 minutes.
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17 Aug 2003, 04:33 #14

That is a great post. I am going to bookmark it and always read it when my junkie brain tells me that one puff or one smoke wont hurt me.
B_B
Clean and Breathing now for 13 days.
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30 Aug 2003, 06:30 #15

I was at a local cemetery today talking to the manager about promoting my next clinic to his employees. It is free for people who live in the suburb where the cemetery is located. I thought he may want to take the approach that as management he would rather have his employees as his workers rather than as his customers. Anyway, it made me think of this letter, because part of the discussion we were having was centered around people who make prepaid funeral arrangements.

Joel
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30 Aug 2003, 09:46 #16

Anyone in denial about what it means to continue smoking will find this one hard to read. When we need a jolt to put us back on track, this will work.
It seems that the avenues your mind travels down to enlighten us to the truth are endless . Thank you again, just doesn't say enough, but it comes from the bottom of my heart.

Sue
Five months, one day, 3 hours, 52 minutes and 41 seconds. 6166 cigarettes not smoked, saving $890.81. Life saved: 3 weeks, 9 hours, 50 minutes.
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30 Aug 2003, 09:55 #17

Here Sue, I thought you might appreciate this one too--it has a similar theme.
"I made a conscious decision to smoke"
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12 Feb 2004, 12:07 #18

I really enjoyed this one! I hadn't been reading as much after turning green (mainly because I suddenly got very busy, but also because it didn't feel as dire) and I'm really glad I happened upon this 'letter' of Joel's now. It has reminded me of a number of important points. One: to be careful of becoming lacksadasical .

Another:

How much I appreciate this truthful sense of 'humor'. The very blunt presentation of facts on this site REALLY WORKS for me (and obviously so many others too).

Maybe it seems inappropriate in some way, but to laugh about how very intense it is to be addicted has worked wonders for me. This is NOT (in any shape or form) to say that I am not serious about my quit (as I am) just that your sense of irony, Joel, has been very beneficial to me in my sometimes dark twists of thinking.

Thankx for the 'wit'.

I am grateful to be here.

ClarityGREENtree who is 5 weeks, 23 hours, 32 minutes, 58 seconds FREEEE!
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08 Mar 2004, 08:17 #19

For anyone who thinks it may be time to quit quitting.
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06 Apr 2004, 20:37 #20

Wow, that was great! I can really relate to sarcasm. I will memorize this one, and give it out when I am a STRONG non-smoker! Thanks.


Lynn - Free and Healing for Sixteen Days, 10 Hours and 36 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 2 Days and 13 Hours, by avoiding the use of 740 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $185.10.
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10 May 2004, 04:31 #21

I love this one Joel
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02 Sep 2004, 23:40 #22

Love it Joel. You always know just what to say. This is definitely a keeper.
Eva
I have been quit for 4 Weeks, 1 Day, 13 hours and 40 minutes (29 days). I have saved $116.79 by not smoking 591 cigarettes. My Quit Date: 8/3/2004
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18 Sep 2004, 01:42 #23

I saw where a member wrote the following comment:

"Following the incident--I actually considered throwing in the towel & running down to 7-11 for 20 death sticks." That statement clearly indicated that the person was clearly thinking about relapsing. That statement read as a conscious thought to smoke. I think this string is perfect for any person who is playing any such mind games with himself or herself. I am going to pop up a few other strings which deals with any one who is thinking that under the right or wrong conditions that he or she may consider throwing away his or her quit, along with his or her health and his or her life. The only way to keep your quit and its benefits intact is to stay totally committed under all circumstances to never take another puff!

Joel
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23 Dec 2004, 23:01 #24

This is a great one..thank you! And even though dying from cigarettes tends sometimes to be what people think will happen to someone else not them (afterall, "I" can be the exception to the statistics" so the junkie thinks) the money is in and of itself a wonderful, real-time, tangible, right now, benefit to fight off the real-time, right now, crave. In just a little over a week, I have saved about $68.00! That is a lot of money in 9 days.....I take a weekly "allowance" in cash that used to be for lunches and cigarettes. Last night, I was straightening out my wallet and "found" all this money! Whoo Hoo......
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20 Jan 2005, 11:08 #25

Thanks for pulling up this thread. *If* I were on the verge of relapse (and thank the gods that I'm not!), this would be enough to bring me back from the edge.

Amy
Free and Healing for Sixteen Days, 15 Hours and 59 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 1 Day and 17 Hours, by avoiding the use of 500 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $125.08.
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20 Feb 2005, 17:02 #26

Thank you so much, Joel. !
I've been feeling depressed today, thank God the thought of having a cigarette didn't cross my mine because if it did, I would of gone to 7-11 and gotten some. I'm glad I read your post now, because if this 'down mood' continued tomorrow, I definitely would have smoked.
The reason of my depression is that on Tuesday I'm going to see the Doctor and find out if my IPF (idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis) has gotten worst or remain the same, there is no cure for it and no, is not caused by smoking, but it sure didn't help when I didn't know that I had it and was smoking. I found out 6 months ago, and this is the first time the Doctor can make a comparison with a previous CT and all the other tests I went through.
We'll see what happens...
Ana
I have been quit for 43 days. Saved $355.04 by not smoking 1,972 cigarettes.
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21 Apr 2005, 15:09 #27

Joel,

Thanks so much...this letter is really what I needed to read tonight.

...And thank you, Tobi, for linking to it from my journal...

I'm printing 2 copies right now. One for the refidgerator, and one for my wallet.

-Bruce
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Nicotine free for 2 months, 11 days, 27 minutes and 55 seconds (72 days) = 1728 smokes
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16 Mar 2006, 11:50 #28

Great post! It hits the nail right on the head!
aunt valeria I have been quit for 2 Weeks, 6 Days, 2 hours, 20 minutes and 25 seconds (20 days). I have saved $55.26 by not smoking 401 cigarettes. I have saved 1 Day, 9 hours and 25 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 2/23/2006 7:30 PM
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12 May 2006, 01:07 #29

Wow!!! I've been having trouble in the evenings. I feel like something is missing and I want to smoke. Reading this letter REALLY put things in prespective!!!!

Kristin

I have been quit for 1 Week, 3 Days, 10 hours, 7 minutes and 38 seconds (10 days). I have saved $52.10 by not smoking 260 cigarettes. I have saved 21 hours and 40 minutes of my life.
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06 Jul 2006, 09:27 #30

Well I may have, but I've just changed my mind. I am not a nicotine junkie any longer, and nothing is going to get in the way. I may not have got in all right, but smoking ain't gonna change that. This has been too hard, and still is, to give up now.
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07 Dec 2006, 23:13 #31

For anyone fixating on "a cigarette." Smoking "a cigarette" or just taking a drag is tantamount to relapsing to an addiction to thousands of cigarettes a year, tens of thousands of cigarettes over a decade and hundreds of thousands of cigarettes over a shortened lifetime. It also translates into ruined health and a quality impaired life. It means smelling like a cigarette, and facing chronic withdrawals. Remember cigarettes for what they were and what they were going to do to you over time and you will never question your desire to never take another puff!
Joel
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18 Mar 2007, 00:51 #32

A great way of looking at things
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10 Sep 2007, 00:04 #33

I saw where a member wrote in two posts that she almost lost her quits. I am going to assume that this wording meant that she almost decided to smoke. This string and the post "I made a conscious decision to smoke" seem appropriate to bring up in lieu of this thought. They could have been written as "I almost made a conscious decision to smoke," or "I almost decided to go back to smoking." The same commentary in both strings would still apply.
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23 Jan 2008, 20:52 #34

Video and audio file that ties into this string:
Video Title
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MP3*
Length
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Who wants to go back to smoking?
3.22mb
07:05
09/28/06



* New format that should work for people who have been unable to access our audio/video files in the past.
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08 Feb 2008, 11:59 #35

Joel, 18 days for me!!!!!!!!!and I was just checking out the messages and saw this one stating I think I'm going to go back. I had to read it and then came to this video. I am just living with this one day at a time right now, but I am pretty convinced that with what I have learned and keep learning daily... this guy will never have that urge again. I was one of these sickos that WOULD go through ashtrays and garbage cans! Looking back ........ I can't believe it. Anyways thank you for every one of my 18 days. Its like your right here in my home with me if I need you :<)
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