"I'm mad that I can't smoke anymore!"

"I'm mad that I can't smoke anymore!"

Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

07 Aug 2001, 20:25 #1

"I'm mad that I can't smoke anymore! It is so unfair." This statement was angrily expressed by a clinic participant while introducing himself to the group at the third session of his smoking clinic. He had been totally off smoking for two full days, and was absolutely disgusted about it. I asked him why he was giving up cigarettes if he was so miserable about the prospect of quitting.

His reply was quite incredible. In front of more than 20 people he said, "I have peripheral vascular disease. I have had gangrene on one foot three times and already have lost a couple of toes. I am going to lose that leg in the near future. To tell you the truth, I hope they take it off soon. It hurts so much all of the time. I hope they just take it off and give me an artificial limb that won't hurt anymore. My other leg is also affected, as well as both of my arms.

Do you know why I have to quit? My family begged and pleaded for me to stop when I was first diagnosed, but they finally gave up. They now say, 'Keep on smoking, Dad, but be forewarned--once you lose your arms, we are not going to buy or light your cigarettes for you. You can lie and cheat now, but you won't have a chance of sneaking then.' I couldn't believe they were telling me that. I immediately enrolled in the clinic. It is so unfair, but what choice do I have? I hate that I have to quit."

"Do you realize what you are saying?", I replied. You are mad that you can't smoke. But what is it that really is making you mad? The fact that you are going to lose a leg from smoking? No, you have accepted that quite well. In fact, you are looking forward to getting rid of the one quickly because it hurts so much. You are not even upset about losing the other leg, even though it would mean you would probably never walk again. Are you mad that you will lose your arms? No, that is okay with you, too. Sure, with no legs or arms you would be totally dependent on others, a complete cripple. But that still is not the basis of your anger. What are you mad about? You are mad at how unfair your children are because they are not going to let you smoke once you lose limbs." Without hesitation he replied, "Yeah, how could they do that to me?"

Some of the clinic participants looked on in disbelief at the exchange that just occurred. Some of them thought he was crazy. Others exhibited a sense of shame, for, even though their own conditions may not have been so graphic, they recognized his attitude in their own thinking and they were not very proud of that realization.

Two days later, the participant with peripheral vascular disease who had been so traumatized by the thought of quitting smoking was expressing great relief in being free from cigarettes. Once he beat the initial grip of addiction, he recognized just how irrational he was and the true destructive nature of his cigarettes. He was already feeling some physical improvements in circulation, and, in fact, had starting forming a thin layer of skin underneath a scab that he thought would never improve.

He was still exhibiting anxiety about not smoking, but now from a totally different perspective. He feared smoking and prayed that he would never again get caught in the grip of nicotine dependence. A dependence that he now recognized once controlled his thoughts and behavior to the point of his being willing to give up his limbs, independence, physical abilities, and even his dignity. He was completely justified in maintaining these fears. If given the opportunity, cigarettes would once again regain such control. But now, all he needed to do to insure that cigarettes would never again exert such a grip was to NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!

Added following video version of this string on October 2, 2012

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pammers
Joined: 07 Jan 2009, 18:56

08 Aug 2001, 00:32 #2

All I can say,is WOW! The power of nicotine is downright scary.

Pam-13D,10h,43m,14s smokefree,336 cancersticks not smoked.
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zoo
Joined: 07 Jan 2009, 18:58

08 Aug 2001, 01:11 #3

It is so true. The addictions is powerful. It tries to trick you into thinking you want to smoke.


Never another Puff
,zoo
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

23 Aug 2001, 00:56 #4

I thought some of our angrier people might identify with this one.

Aim your anger at where it should be aimed--cigarettes! They were controlling you, costing you thousands of dollars per year, making you smell like an ashtray, crippling you and were ultimately going to kill you. Are you mad that you can't smoke? You would likely be madder if you relapsed and had to "try" to quit again or just having to smoke until cigarettes accomplished their ultimate goal--your premature demise. Take whatever anger you feel and aim it at the source--you are breaking away from an addiction. Aim the anger at the source and your constant resolve will remain to never take another puff!

Joel
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Joanne Gold
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:58

19 Oct 2001, 21:16 #5

Quitting smoking is one of the most important health decisions we will ever make!

Don't be mad, be glad! Image
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

01 Jan 2002, 18:21 #6

For anyone who may feel deprived of smoking or mad that he or she can't smoke anymore his or her's first New Years.
Also refer to Circulation thread for detailed description of above disease and other related circulatory conditions.
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Cathie (Green)
Joined: 07 Jan 2009, 18:57

11 Apr 2002, 21:15 #7

This story had triggered a similar story of a man I met in Hospital in Germany. He was a wonderful man in his mid 40's with a beautiful family. He had 3 children who loved him dearly.

Anyhow, he had the same disease as was mentioned above. When I met him he had lost his right leg and his left foot. His hospitalization was a result of his left arm turning gangrene. I spent the majority of a year with this gentleman in hospital. I got to know him and his family well! After approx. 4 months of knowing him he had lost his left arm and the disease was working on his right. He had his family alter his wheel Chair so that a piece of metal would be suspended such that a lighter could be attached for him to use his stump to light cigarettes. His entire family smoked as well and all refused to realize that this disease was taking their father from them. On their visits to see him they would light his cigarettes not realizing that he would not live much longer.

Due to unforseen complications or so the family thought, (the doctor's know it was inevitable), he developed an infection that spread throughout his entire body. He died on the operating table when they attempted to amputate the rest of his left leg and his right arm. He was a dear friend to me and I will miss him. I have not thought of this for many years. Possibly because I chose not to remember as I was still smoking up until 10 days ago. Most people fear lung cancer but we need to keep reminding ourselves that that is not the only disease we could have developed should we have continued to smoke.

The doctor's had told him that if he had stopped smoking they might have been able to control the infection and prolonged his life. He chose the cigarettes over seeing his family grow up! That is the power that nicotine has over us--Always remember that.

His family quit smoking shortly after his funeral.

Cathie
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

11 Apr 2002, 21:38 #8

Hello Cathie:
We have another current member who had personal family experience with Buerger's Disease. Both her grandfather and his identical twin brother lost limbs and then their lives with the disease. In her particular case, there were also lots of respiratory problems, specifically emphysema and many of her past and current family lost their lives at quite young ages. Even now, when I talked to her the other day, most of her family are still smokers, even after witnessing such total devastation over the decades. I am sure she will come in later and add some of her personal insights.
Your point of just worrying about lung cancer is important. We actually lose more people to cardiovascular diseases from smoking than we lose from lung cancer from smoking. I am going to put up a new string (I might have had it up before but I can't seem to find it) titled "If they ever cure lung cancer I am going back to smoking." It talks about this very issue. Also below is a link to a more detailed explanation of the cardiovascular risks.

Joel
Smoking and Circulation
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Joanne Gold
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:58

21 May 2002, 01:51 #9

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Joanne Gold
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:58

25 Jun 2002, 11:46 #10

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