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As shown in this eye opening piece, "fear" can serve as a motivating factor causing those dependent upon nicotine to seek help in breaking its chemical bond upon them, but it's a long long way from true "desire." A desire to heal and be healthy and a fear of failing health may sound similar but when it comes to serving as the mind's basic or sole core motivation, one is invited while the other can often feel coerced.
In relying upon fear as a motivational foundation, the tools needed to overcome fear are courage and strength, two factors of very little value to successful quitting where dreams and desire are key. In fact courage and strength are factors that can allow the recovering addict to feel they can amend, rewrite or somehow put themselves above the law of addiction. "I'm stronger than that, I'm brave enough to try, I can handle one puff!"We see fear at work in pregnancy where the new mom-to-be feels forced to quit out of fear of harming the unborn life inside. Feeling deprived for so many months, once the baby is born and the risk of harm removed, new mothers often quickly relapse within minutes, hours, or days of giving birth. She had probably tried quitting before using her own personal core motivations or at least dreamed of doing so. Instead of seizing the opportunity to live-out her own long held dreams, she put the interests of her unborn child first and in their mind and once she felt the baby was safe, her motivation evaporated.We each have plenty of honest core motivations of our own including freedom from chemical bondage, our basic health, healing a badly damaged body, pride, confidence and self-esteem, and a 50/50 chance of seeing roughly 5,000 extra sunrises. Coercion, fear, money, and the desires of doctors, friends, or loved ones can serve as the initial motivations that get us searching for answers and even serve as minor factors that make nicotine relapse uninviting but they are not the inner core personal motivations most likely to serve as solid foundations for engaging the remainder of life without experiencing chemical relapse.
Regardless of what brought us here, to be reading and learning, there will always only be one rule, no nicotine today - Never Take Another Puff!
|From: Joel.||Sent: 8/22/2001 11:56 AM|
| I thought some of our angrier people might identify with this one. |
Aim your anger at where it should be aimed--cigarettes! They were controlling you, costing you thousands of dollars per year, making you smell like an ashtray, crippling you and were ultimately going to kill you. Are you mad that you can't smoke? You would likely be madder if you relapsed and had to "try" to quit again or just having to smoke until cigarettes accomplished their ultimate goal--your premature demise. Take whatever anger you feel and aim it at the source--you are breaking away from an addiction. Aim the anger at the source and your constant resolve will remain to never take another puff!